FabSwingers.com forum: And it all came to an end

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So recently after a sincere conversation between my wife and I she admitted that sleeping with other people has never been what she wanted.

We’ve enjoyed a year of semi cuckold situation, she been able to enjoy young hung bulls whilst I watch and sometimes film (no humiliation)

She admits she’s had a great time and doesn’t regret doing anything BUT Shes only been doing it for me and yes she’s been able to live out some fantasies but non camp are to the sex I give her- She’s not be wanting it the same way I do.

Which has made me call the whole thing off - which she is happy and relieved about.

Im feeling a heap of different emotions, Guilt more than anything, which she’s told me not too as she made the choice to do it and she had a good time….. But she loves me and only wants me “I get more than I’d ever need at home with you”

Which is amazing and I feel so lucky to have her………..

BUT fuck me am I disappointed, I’m so attracted to her etc but I’m struggling with the excitement when it comes to sex day to day sex is nowhere near as intense and satisfying compared to what it was before when I was watching her, or we would relive, talk about the things we had done etc etc. which again makes me feel guilty because she is LOVING sex and I more often than not feel kinda …… meh.

Has anyone else felt this? Has this happened to you? Am I being a fucking dick here!!???

Barring the whole “talk to each other” craic, has anyone got any advice?

We have spoken and it’s no longer happening and I wouldn’t force her to do something she doesn’t want to do.

Thanks in advance

Verr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll start by saying I have no advice. But it sounds like you have had a great open conversation. It was her choice, dont beat yourself up, theres no need. I get what shes saying completely, I also completely understand what you are saying. Nobody is right, nobody is wrong. It is what it is. It's how you move forward that counts. Keep loving and respecting each other, all the best whatever happens next xx

Mrs

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

All I can say is you have to respect how she feels about do not pressure her trying to change her mind.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"All I can say is you have to respect how she feels about do not pressure her trying to change her mind. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100000000% your right

Think this post is just a bit of a vent tbh because I couldnt guilt her or pressure her.

Cheers for the response x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

WOULDNT ***** not couldn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel for you buddy it must be hard. I bet its kinda like one of Dr Whos companions returning to normal life after traveling through space and time across the universe there is going to be an significant adjustment period. Especially for the person who doesn't want to give it all up.

Once the gene is out the bottle can you put it back in? Honest answer is I don't know I've not been in that position. We did stop play through covid and 2 pregnancies but we always planned to return and are so our situation is not comparable.

At least you got some videos to look back on.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"100000000% your right

Think this post is just a bit of a vent tbh because I couldnt guilt her or pressure her.

Cheers for the response x"

So glad this op didnt go the way i thought it would. So glad it was a positive experience for you both. Even more pleased she told you she didnt want it to continue instead of going along with it to keep you happy which many would of and would of ended badly. Same time its perfectly ok to be bit disappointed, not in her but in it being over. Much better to moan and rant here at us than let it build.

One thing though, couple's profile, does she log on and use forums? Is she gonna see this thread?

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Years ago before i joined Fabs , i met a couple in another site . We had meetings where we woust to rent a house in Safron Walden more precisely Litle Walden ,for the weekend and the house was always a two days almost no stop party , with other couples and singles join in . We woust to go to the pub The Crow Inn and ( i think i will keep with me the all details of these great memories of those long weekends to my self

As same situation as OP this couple as come at one end of ending meetings with K jump out from the swinging scene . I remember the time my friend K talk with me about, she mentioned that M reaction was not the best, he was surprised, he thought he may have have done somethinf wrong! There was no wrong done from both sides , he was enjoying and she just come to a point where she recognised she loved every meeting and all experiences both had together but she was no more looking fowards to continue.

M couldn't understand why his wife come to an end and didn't make her life really easy

K is one of my best friends she is like a confident to me , we can talk about anything without afraid knowing we always will support each other. Both they have a beautiful family but unfortunately M couldn't stay away from swinging scene and both live separated lifes since! K never asked M to give up , she just didn't wanted to do it anymore because she was happy in just having sex with M .

Me and K we still great friends and we talk quite frequently through a social media site and she always say she have no regreat in anything she have done with M because she always say she had a great time , the only thing it hurts her is that M have finished their long marriage because he didn't wanted K to stop.

I hope OP can understand his partner side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I hear you, no she won’t be on here again xx

"100000000% your right

Think this post is just a bit of a vent tbh because I couldnt guilt her or pressure her.

Cheers for the response x

One thing though, couple's profile, does she log on and use forums? Is she gonna see this thread? "

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

Going to say yes chat to her, not about convincing her to carry on but maybe explore fantasies between yourselves. We been together 19 years, explored many things but still find new things to try and explore. Just this weekend we tried using ropes, (see last picture) and lo and behold a new thing that's sexy to us both.

Some of our best sex is talking to each other and having fun just between us.

What trying to say is explore but within bounderies of yourselves as a couple xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We occasionally go through patches where we both don't want anyone else and feel satisfied with what we've got. she says I fulfill everything she needs and she certainly fulfills everything I need, we enjoy the social side of the swinging though and still go out to clubs etc to be around like minded people, then we play with others and we're swingers again

We do feel ups and downs in our sex life but when we swing it's always ups we never get the downs.

I suppose it's like medication in a way "I feel better I don't need these tablets any more" but the tablets are what's making you feel better.

We've been on and off fab for about 5 years and been together 16 years, for us this is a bit of spice to our sex life but if she didn't want to swing anymore I'd give it up tomorrow, she's the most important to me.

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