FabSwingers.com forum: "my wife lost interest in sex"

By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

Seems to be a common phrase I see and hear in forums and chat rooms as well as meets, I would like to know other peoples _iews about this as I think you should look at yourself first, maybe it's YOU who isn't doing it right or has become stale and predictable, no wonder she has gone off it if you don't pay her any compliments or attention any more!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side I've heard alot of women say "oh he doesn't wanna touch me anymore and get no attention".

Myb it's her fault for not trying

2 sides to every story

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"On the flip side I've heard alot of women say "oh he doesn't wanna touch me anymore and get no attention".

Myb it's her fault for not trying

2 sides to every story "

Yes, I agree with you, there are always 2 sides to every story, however it just seems to be a common phrase, I hardly ever hear a woman say, "my husband has gone of sex",

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Seems to be a common phrase I see and hear in forums and chat rooms as well as meets, I would like to know other peoples _iews about this as I think you should look at yourself first, maybe it's YOU who isn't doing it right or has become stale and predictable, no wonder she has gone off it if you don't pay her any compliments or attention any more!!!!!

sometimes they are on here looking for tips to go back and bring their partner's sexual appetite alive again..

they should be commended for their selflessness.

my sarcasm applies to both sexes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful "
and some wifes lose intrest for medical reasons and the other halfs leave that bit out becuase its personal men can have the same problems

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful "

But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful and some wifes lose intrest for medical reasons and the other halfs leave that bit out becuase its personal men can have the same problems"

Yes I know, good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sit down and talk, ythats what me and missus did, now we have profiles on here,lol and loving it!!!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful

But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

Or she doesn't like sex anyway.

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"sit down and talk, ythats what me and missus did, now we have profiles on here,lol and loving it!!!!

That's perfect advice for anyone who feels they are stuck in a rut, xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sit down and talk, ythats what me and missus did, now we have profiles on here,lol and loving it!!!!

Tried that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful

But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

Not really could be anything,doesnt mean the guy can't satify her,could be a medical reason,or anything, it's true they should always sit down and talk about it as it's too easy just to give up and look elsewhere

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful

But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

Or she doesn't like sex anyway."

hahaha, yeah ok then rugby hun, I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't yet, either way, somebody is not doing something right and i would advise people to talk to each other about it and re-discover their lust and love for each other, xxx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Or it could be that the woman just doesn't fancy the guy any more. After 11 years with my ex we were just boring each other so it was time to split.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful

But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

Or she doesn't like sex anyway.

I have met that woman

She really doesn't like sex with any man and is not bi so doesn't want sex with women either.

There are some of them about

We have to be honest here, there are some women who don't like it and once they have babies they stop,,,,I think they should be more honest from the start.

There are then women who's OH is hopeless at sex, but they both have mouths so I don't think that is always just the mans fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She just don't like it . If a woman comes anywhere near me though when we are out, then I get it when we get home. Kinda like a reminder that I belong to her. We don't go out much though

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"Or it could be that the woman just doesn't fancy the guy any more. After 11 years with my ex we were just boring each other so it was time to split."

Yes, and that is the most sensible approach as long as you have tried to talk it through, however I find it quite sad that so many people just go through their lives accepting it as the norm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe she thinks he is only nice to her when he wants sex, then as soon as he has had it, he goes back to ignoring her.

or he takes too long and she would prefer it to be quicker?

maybe he only wants sex when he wants it and not when she wants it too?

no matter how many times she has told him or encouraged him to do things a bit differently, he still does it exactly the same every single time.

maybe she thinks he prefers other much younger women and he is thinking about them when he shags her?

of course, it could be the same the other way round as well, why men dont want to have sex with their partners.

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"maybe she thinks he is only nice to her when he wants sex, then as soon as he has had it, he goes back to ignoring her.

or he takes too long and she would prefer it to be quicker?

maybe he only wants sex when he wants it and not when she wants it too?

no matter how many times she has told him or encouraged him to do things a bit differently, he still does it exactly the same every single time.

maybe she thinks he prefers other much younger women and he is thinking about them when he shags her?

of course, it could be the same the other way round as well, why men dont want to have sex with their partners."

Guys, some of you really need to read this again and again, xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything else is absolutely fine thank you Claire raynors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my last relationship (prior to swinging) my ex got to a point where he wouldn't touch me. I thought I was ugly, fat and quite honestly repulsive because the times I tried to initiate sex it was either a wham bam thank you mam or he couldn't get it up. I felt utterly useless. Talk about a confidence killer.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"Seems to be a common phrase I see and hear in forums and chat rooms as well as meets, I would like to know other peoples _iews about this ....."

They've already put one person off... that's quite enough.

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"Seems to be a common phrase I see and hear in forums and chat rooms as well as meets, I would like to know other peoples _iews about this .....

They've already put one person off... that's quite enough."

hahaha, darling I only have to mention Jimmy Choo to you and you'd be panting for more, lol, hugz, xxxx

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful "

So true.

My ex manipulated me with regard to sex and used it against me by withholding it for weeks, if not longer and it just became a power struggle.

I'd never stopped complementing her or paying her attention.

After four years with her, I was still in the 'honeymoon period' and fancied and lusted after her, just as much I'd done when I first met her.

Bitch. Lol

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

so very sorry to hear that, are you still together hun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful

So true.

My ex manipulated me with regard to sex and used it against me by withholding it for weeks, if not longer and it just became a power struggle.

I'd never stopped complementing her or paying her attention.

After four years with her, I was still in the 'honeymoon period' and fancied and lusted after her, just as much I'd done when I first met her.

Bitch. Lol

EXACTLY THE SAME HERE . Exactly as you have posted above. At least I'm not on my own

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

not necesarily ... i have heard of instances when one party has maybe put on weight or something else changed in their physical appearance and they no longer feel confident enough being naked and therefore avoid intimacy

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

I agree, however the answer still has to be proper communication don't you think??? or am I just too naive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife didn't exactly go of sex, but after the children were born and she went back to work it just became less frequent.

Now the children are older and she is used to her job it is probably better than before.

To be honest I sometimes struggle to keep up with her demands.

During the lean period I would just have to do it myself. No harm done, I knew it would get back to normal I just had to be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is the answer, but don't forget a women is always right

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By *uby In Stockings OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"Communication is the answer, but don't forget a women is always right

absolfeckinglutely darling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women decide they only want sex with other women but still want the benefits of staying married to the father of their kids, the guy who brings in the money. The guy who provides emotional support when she needs it, but who she isn't physically attracted to because he isn't a woman... Although that didn't stop her using the offer of sex to get her own way before she decided she was 'bisexual' (although how someone can claim to he bisexual if they only want sex with a woman escapes me)

I'm just glad I don't know any women like that

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"On the flip side I've heard alot of women say "oh he doesn't wanna touch me anymore and get no attention".

Myb it's her fault for not trying

2 sides to every story

Yes, I agree with you, there are always 2 sides to every story, however it just seems to be a common phrase, I hardly ever hear a woman say, "my husband has gone of sex",

Hand goes up waggles...HERE ! Tho I imagine it is years of meds and he doesnt fancy me anymore. Would really stick in his throat to ever say you look nice or anything. he'd prolly choke.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Some women decide they only want sex with other women but still want the benefits of staying married to the father of their kids, the guy who brings in the money. The guy who provides emotional support when she needs it, but who she isn't physically attracted to because he isn't a woman... Although that didn't stop her using the offer of sex to get her own way before she decided she was 'bisexual' (although how someone can claim to he bisexual if they only want sex with a woman escapes me)

I'm just glad I don't know any women like that

Lots of women about who dont want / wont have sex with their partner but still expect all bills to be paid car kept running roof over head whilst giving nothing in return.. They rule the money and the husbands time so no chance of ever getting out to have fun.

Hey ho ..doesnt work like that in my house hold

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

I agree, however the answer still has to be proper communication don't you think??? or am I just too naive?"

it would seem the obvious solution from the outside looking in but sadly the lady in questions confidence had diminished that much that she avoided talking about it .. wudnt have any intimacy and this just seemed to fuel the problem .. her husband thought she had someone else or had stopped loving him .. a truly awful situation that just seemed to spiral

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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But surely if your wife is not asking you for sex any more then there is something that is not satisfying her fully???

I agree, however the answer still has to be proper communication don't you think??? or am I just too naive?"

She told me it was the best sex she'd ever had.... but whenever I tried to instigate it, she'd come out with all the usual excuses and mindgames. I even laid off and tried the 'romantic route' - meal out, emphasis on 'us' rather than the physical.

That didn't work either.

I was climbing the walls with sexual frustration in the end. It messed me up big time.

Really put me off having a relationship tbh.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful

So true.

My ex manipulated me with regard to sex and used it against me by withholding it for weeks, if not longer and it just became a power struggle.

I'd never stopped complementing her or paying her attention.

After four years with her, I was still in the 'honeymoon period' and fancied and lusted after her, just as much I'd done when I first met her.

Bitch. Lol

EXACTLY THE SAME HERE . Exactly as you have posted above. At least I'm not on my own

Aye. You're not mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at loads of MF profiles and I'm so envious. My wife tries hard but really isn't interested. About once or twice a week I'm reminded about how different we really are sexually. Ive even seen the doctor to try and lower my sex drive without success. I can't leave her for my wife as I have a daughter who I love so much. I know it's my problem and I have to live with it but at least I know I'm not alone in this.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Yeah, yeah - it's all our fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some wives really do. They use sex as a weapon and if it does happen you are made to feel that you should be grateful "

Then what is making them so unhappy in the relationship they feel the need to do this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sit down and talk, ythats what me and missus did, now we have profiles on here,lol and loving it!!!!

That's perfect advice for anyone who feels they are stuck in a rut, xxx

Tried that yes he's gone off sex grrrr won't entertain swinging, his every sexual need is met, I now fulfil mine on here behind his back sadly no other way, unless I want to be left sad, frustrated, feeling unwanted however not unloved weird eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sit down and talk, ythats what me and missus did, now we have profiles on here,lol and loving it!!!!

That's perfect advice for anyone who feels they are stuck in a rut, xxx

maybe u need to find out why u feel unwanted?? all anyone is saying is u need to work on the things that are causing the problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look at loads of MF profiles and I'm so envious. My wife tries hard but really isn't interested. About once or twice a week I'm reminded about how different we really are sexually. Ive even seen the doctor to try and lower my sex drive without success. I can't leave her for my wife as I have a daughter who I love so much. I know it's my problem and I have to live with it but at least I know I'm not alone in this."

so ur sex drive is more important than ur daughter?? imagine th eimpact on her life if all this comes out!!

yet u try to make out she is so important to you.. clearly not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sit down and talk, ythats what me and missus did, now we have profiles on here,lol and loving it!!!!

That's perfect advice for anyone who feels they are stuck in a rut, xxx

maybe u need to find out why u feel unwanted?? all anyone is saying is u need to work on the things that are causing the problems"

Have tried to talk he loves me he enjoys sex when he wants it just doesn't want it often grrrr

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Not always. I always showered my ex with compliments and romantic gestures but her stressful job took it's toll on her sex drive (which was never strong to be honest).

I also had a girlfriend up until recently and our sex life was regular and amazing right up to our last day together... but she had issues she just couldn't deal with and so that one died out as well.

It's really not always that simple, nor is it always the blokes fault for not being creative, fun and/or romantic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sit down and talk, ythats what me and missus did, now we have profiles on here,lol and loving it!!!!

That's perfect advice for anyone who feels they are stuck in a rut, xxx

maybe u need to find out why u feel unwanted?? all anyone is saying is u need to work on the things that are causing the problems

Have tried to talk he loves me he enjoys sex when he wants it just doesn't want it often grrrr "

i was saying u need to look at ur issues of why this makes u feel unwanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always. I always showered my ex with compliments and romantic gestures but her stressful job took it's toll on her sex drive (which was never strong to be honest).

It's really not always that simple, nor is it always the blokes fault for not being creative, fun and/or romantic. "

it happens, and u didnt pursue the realtionship any further.. which is good!

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