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Why do some women want a intimate connection?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people use the site for all different kinds of reasons.

Some will find they have better sex, when they build a connection/friendship with someone and some don’t want that.

There’s no right or wrong to it just what suits you.

For some people they might need a level of trust and understanding before going further with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

Some men do care, yes. They want a connection.

You do you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can be sexually intimate without any clinginess or drama i hate clingy or men who want more than whats on offer insant turn off for me but i dont want wam bam thank you mam either ... my love is for my husband and my husband only anyone else is simply a play toys or play friend and to be sexually intimate is perfectly normal..

a sex site ? well yes your right it is a sex site but its a sex site within a swinging framework if sex on a plate is what you want then this is very much the wrong site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was

Some men do care, yes. They want a connection.

You do you OP "
well said

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't worry about how other people do this just do what's right for you and the people you meet. Don't forget that there's a real person behind every profile and they deserve to be recognised as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because it’s a swinging site doesn’t mean every woman wants fucked off every man, I wouldn’t have sex with anyone on a first meet, I’d need at least a social meet to see if we are compatible first…. One thing you will learn about this site is everyone is here for their own reasons and gains and to get them gains you need to respect others ….

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Just because it’s a swinging site doesn’t mean every woman wants fucked off every man, I wouldn’t have sex with anyone on a first meet, I’d need at least a social meet to see if we are compatible first…. One thing you will learn about this site is everyone is here for their own reasons and gains and to get them gains you need to respect others …."

Or pretend to

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By *ylvieMWoman
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Because most woman like being respected as people? Strange i know.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Exactly the type of thread posted by a bitter guy who hasn't pulled on here yet and cant understand why. Standard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Exactly the type of thread posted by a bitter guy who hasn't pulled on here yet and cant understand why. Standard."

Lmao yh really gonna pull with no profile pic. I'm not single thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will only play with a couple if there's a connection there, maybe fussy but that's us.

Quality over quantity and if we can't click with a couple in conversation we won't feel comfortable in the bedroom it's as simple as that.

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
over a year ago

accrington

For Tracey its all about gaining some trust and a connection with a guy and a social meet is a must. We have found most guys are perfectly happy with this and respect what she wants and find it relaxes them too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone's different I guess no point of even asking questions no wrong or right answer really is there

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Exactly the type of thread posted by a bitter guy who hasn't pulled on here yet and cant understand why. Standard.

Lmao yh really gonna pull with no profile pic. I'm not single thanks"

So you keep saying

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We like their to be a connection we find sex a lot more enjoyable with a couple that we have formed a connection with..

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By *ittyndCouple
over a year ago

Oldham/Birmingham

Yes I do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I’m demisexual! And I’m also not just a hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

Personally I (F, Mrs) don’t view Fab as just a ‘sex site’, I see it as somewhere for my partner and I to make connections with like-minded people in the scene. Sometimes that will end up with sex, sometimes nothing, sometimes friendship. Others come on here for NSA sex, and that’s entirely up to them…each to their own as far as I’m concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends make better lovers. Much prefer to build up a rapport with a couple when meeting. A social can induce sexual tension which then escalates into the bedroom. Had some truly amazing meets and keep in touch which is incredible

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By *otjustacuntWoman
over a year ago

basildon


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

To me swinging is 70% social 30% sex. This isn’t a sex site.

Regarding people saying they want an intimate connection, it’s usually code for - I like a guy with a bit of a personality, not on an ego trip and thinking they deserve a fuck for just sending a message.

Most of us like a bit of banter and a laugh to connect with someone before we jump into bed with them. If someone isn’t willing to do that then I very much doubt they’ll put much effort into the other 30%.

But I wouldn’t worry about all that, I imagine you’re not at risk of forming a connection with anyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "
you obviously don’t know the first thing about swinging then

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Everyone is here for their own reasons and desires. Some find a quick wham bam and being left feeling like they just been used for a sex a turn on. While others find sex more of a turn on knowing more about the person they are with... Exploring and discovering what button gets the biggest reaction. The flirting and teasing and build up can also be the thing that gives them what they need before sleeping with someone. There are no rules to say what or how you should be. You do what's best for you not the other way round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is here for their own reasons and desires. Some find a quick wham bam and being left feeling like they just been used for a sex a turn on. While others find sex more of a turn on knowing more about the person they are with... Exploring and discovering what button gets the biggest reaction. The flirting and teasing and build up can also be the thing that gives them what they need before sleeping with someone. There are no rules to say what or how you should be. You do what's best for you not the other way round. "
but it should be noted that when the OP calls it a sex site, it’s a swingers site. There is a huge difference and understanding that difference is a big step towards succeeding or failing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was

To me swinging is 70% social 30% sex. This isn’t a sex site.

Regarding people saying they want an intimate connection, it’s usually code for - I like a guy with a bit of a personality, not on an ego trip and thinking they deserve a fuck for just sending a message.

Most of us like a bit of banter and a laugh to connect with someone before we jump into bed with them. If someone isn’t willing to do that then I very much doubt they’ll put much effort into the other 30%.

But I wouldn’t worry about all that, I imagine you’re not at risk of forming a connection with anyone on here. "

No I understand that it would obviously make the person more comfortable if you have a laugh and joke on a social I get that .there's also couples who say they don't like kissing on meets nothing wrong with that everyone has preference. Don't need to attack the person who's asking lol

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest


"Everyone is here for their own reasons and desires. Some find a quick wham bam and being left feeling like they just been used for a sex a turn on. While others find sex more of a turn on knowing more about the person they are with... Exploring and discovering what button gets the biggest reaction. The flirting and teasing and build up can also be the thing that gives them what they need before sleeping with someone. There are no rules to say what or how you should be. You do what's best for you not the other way round. but it should be noted that when the OP calls it a sex site, it’s a swingers site. There is a huge difference and understanding that difference is a big step towards succeeding or failing "

Yeah I totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry about how other people do this just do what's right for you and the people you meet. Don't forget that there's a real person behind every profile and they deserve to be recognised as such

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Very eloquently put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is here for their own reasons and desires. Some find a quick wham bam and being left feeling like they just been used for a sex a turn on. While others find sex more of a turn on knowing more about the person they are with... Exploring and discovering what button gets the biggest reaction. The flirting and teasing and build up can also be the thing that gives them what they need before sleeping with someone. There are no rules to say what or how you should be. You do what's best for you not the other way round. but it should be noted that when the OP calls it a sex site, it’s a swingers site. There is a huge difference and understanding that difference is a big step towards succeeding or failing "

Absolutely this ^

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"Because most woman like being respected as people? Strange i know. "

Some women actually want to be seen and treated as a person rather than a cum receptacle! The sheer liberty, I know!

OP- Some men think that being on here will guarantee them sticking it into any hole. But the reality is that some (if not most) women aren’t looking to have their holes filled at the very moment they are online. Sorry to disappoint. will try to do better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because most woman like being respected as people? Strange i know.

Some women actually want to be seen and treated as a person rather than a cum receptacle! The sheer liberty, I know!

OP- Some men think that being on here will guarantee them sticking it into any hole. But the reality is that some (if not most) women aren’t looking to have their holes filled at the very moment they are online. Sorry to disappoint. will try to do better! "

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

Oh you poor sweet summer child.

Swinging is a lifestyle and people join it for the friendships and connections. Only a small amount do it purely for sex

This is not a sex site.

C

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because most woman like being respected as people? Strange i know.

Some women actually want to be seen and treated as a person rather than a cum receptacle! The sheer liberty, I know!

OP- Some men think that being on here will guarantee them sticking it into any hole. But the reality is that some (if not most) women aren’t looking to have their holes filled at the very moment they are online. Sorry to disappoint. will try to do better! "

Lool I totally agree with you.

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By *edheartWoman
over a year ago

Sandbach, Cheshire

Well said, couldn't agree more xx

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have sex with people I like. I'm here for mutual pleasure not to be used by someone for what they want only. I'm not a plaything for someone else's pleasure if it's not mutual it won't happen.

And it's easy to see the ones on here who don't understand mutual pleasure within a few threads or messages .Each to their own but I'm not interested in meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have sex with people I like. I'm here for mutual pleasure not to be used by someone for what they want only. I'm not a plaything for someone else's pleasure if it's not mutual it won't happen.

And it's easy to see the ones on here who don't understand mutual pleasure within a few threads or messages .Each to their own but I'm not interested in meeting them. "

Fair comment

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Sex is better with someone you have a connection with. Without, it scratches an itch but still feels like something's missing. More often than not I find it's the blokes that want to get to know me a bit before we meet up. Go to an escort if it's sex with no connection at all you're looking for.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Exactly the type of thread posted by a bitter guy who hasn't pulled on here yet and cant understand why. Standard.

Lmao yh really gonna pull with no profile pic. I'm not single thanks"

Said by guys who don't want to admit they can't so pretend they don't need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP has said exactly said what's wrong with this site. Men thinking women just drop their knickers for any cock, because they are on a swinging site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP has said exactly said what's wrong with this site. Men thinking women just drop their knickers for any cock, because they are on a swinging site! "

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

You were right OP....it's not a sex site.

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By *ortherner81Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

Apart from the fact I think you’ve totally missed the point …

Remember everyone has different needs and different expectations from this site. Some may like “no connection, f**k as many as possible” whereas other prefer at least something.

For me, zero connection means you might as well just pay for it. But that’s a personal view and I don’t force that on others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's wrong with wanting a connection??? Without it sex is pretty empty

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

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Is that what you're telling your wife about the swinging lifestyle? No wonder she's reluctant, assuming she exists.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Because feeling a connection with someone is the precursor to wanting to do absolutely anything else with them.

There's places you can go for a soulless fuck job but you'll probably have to pay for it.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

Throwing grenades again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because feeling a connection with someone is the precursor to wanting to do absolutely anything else with them.

There's places you can go for a soulless fuck job but you'll probably have to pay for it."

Absolutely this - the attitude which ultimately led to my wife and I deleting our couples profile a while back. Trust and a deep understanding of the other person’s drivers and psychology take more than a couple of messages to build.

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By *4DY-FWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Haven’t had sex with anyone from Fabs since before the very first lockdown. I know what I need to be able to enjoy myself.

I’d rather use toys for a quick knicker drop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This threads about on par with asking why people want to eat sandwiches, with their desired filling, horizontal or diagonal cuts, crusts on or off.

It's just bread right, calories, what's the point in the effort, get it in ya, screw slicing the bread eat it whole, bite off the butter, chew the tomatoes after. Why do you have to be particular, why do you have to be fussy?

Because that's their choice. End. Of.

Do you really not know the answer to these questions via internal reasoning, or are you feigning ignorance for conversation?

Seriously I'm wondering if you run around pubs critiquing people's drinks? Why are you drinking that? You're here to get shit faced, down that bottle of vodka now, I thought this was NSA binge drinking? Why do you need a connection with your drink?

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

There has to be a connection, it isn't dial a shag. Why would we want to play with a man or woman with the personality of a boulder?

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Sex without an intimate connection is no more gratifying than maturation, so you may as well just rub one out and save yourself the bother.

Even in a one night stand I'm getting intimate with my partner or partners, trying to read their body, get into their head and give and take as much pleasure as possible! The endorphins that your body releases when sharing intimacy with someone is what makes the difference.

I'd much rather kiss a woman intimately than fuck one with no intimacy!

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was

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Is that what you're telling your wife about the swinging lifestyle? No wonder she's reluctant, assuming she exists."

Well said..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because sex with randoms is often boring and dull.

Because as a women it is often more dangerous to meet total strangers for sex.

Because as a women sometimes I wanna have people I can develop a sexual connection with.

If thats not your bag, then it's not your bag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site. "

Repeating myself, sorry....

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

A connection for better sex is not the same as "strings"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site. "

Says a women holding a cup saying "I love cock" lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This threads about on par with asking why people want to eat sandwiches, with their desired filling, horizontal or diagonal cuts, crusts on or off.

It's just bread right, calories, what's the point in the effort, get it in ya, screw slicing the bread eat it whole, bite off the butter, chew the tomatoes after. Why do you have to be particular, why do you have to be fussy?

Because that's their choice. End. Of.

Do you really not know the answer to these questions via internal reasoning, or are you feigning ignorance for conversation?

Seriously I'm wondering if you run around pubs critiquing people's drinks? Why are you drinking that? You're here to get shit faced, down that bottle of vodka now, I thought this was NSA binge drinking? Why do you need a connection with your drink?"

Lmao that did make me laugh haha

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site.

Says a women holding a cup saying "I love cock" lmao"

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You do realise that doesn't mean she loves all cocks don't you?

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By *ouple 71Couple
over a year ago

Stonehaven


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was

To me swinging is 70% social 30% sex. This isn’t a sex site.

Regarding people saying they want an intimate connection, it’s usually code for - I like a guy with a bit of a personality, not on an ego trip and thinking they deserve a fuck for just sending a message.

Most of us like a bit of banter and a laugh to connect with someone before we jump into bed with them. If someone isn’t willing to do that then I very much doubt they’ll put much effort into the other 30%.

But I wouldn’t worry about all that, I imagine you’re not at risk of forming a connection with anyone on here. "
. Could not agree more !

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site. "

Well said - it is not a sex site to me either.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Fab can be everything to everybody. Personally if I like someone I like to see them again. That’s just how I am.

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By *ust ask in privateMan
over a year ago

teesside

Totally agree has to be a sexual connection, just makes everything better. Whatever floats your boat I suppose, that's what makes this site fun, everyone looking for their own thing!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site.

Says a women holding a cup saying "I love cock" lmao

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You do realise that doesn't mean she loves all cocks don't you?"

Exactly - preferable a cock with a decent guy attached to it. The kind of guy who likes conversation, getting to know the person a bit.. having something (anything really!!!) in common.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Fab can be everything to everybody. Personally if I like someone I like to see them again. That’s just how I am. "

Why do you live so far away??

Exactly what I mean!

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By *ob.42Man
over a year ago

Near Yarmouth

Stranger sex has it's attraction, but I find having some sort of connection makes for a much better experience. There's still no strings but when two (or more) people have a better understanding of each others needs, the level of enjoyment goes through the roof.

Sometimes that connection can happen intuitively and sometimes it takes a few meets or chats to get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

No it’s not a sex site.

Women aren’t just a free hole for you to fuck - wanting a connection doesn’t mean we want to bloody marry you, just to be able to hold a decent conversation and actually get to know something about the person, get a feel for them.

God forbid we say no to fancy a fuck messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site.

Says a women holding a cup saying "I love cock" lmao

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You do realise that doesn't mean she loves all cocks don't you?"

It’s kinda pathetic that this actually needs to be said! I mean I love cake, that doesn’t mean I consume every cake in sight

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

I don't need a connection, I use it as a sex site. - fem.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site.

Says a women holding a cup saying "I love cock" lmao

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You do realise that doesn't mean she loves all cocks don't you?

It’s kinda pathetic that this actually needs to be said! I mean I love cake, that doesn’t mean I consume every cake in sight "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't need a connection, I use it as a sex site. - fem. "

Thank you finally someone

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site.

Says a women holding a cup saying "I love cock" lmao

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You do realise that doesn't mean she loves all cocks don't you?

Exactly - preferable a cock with a decent guy attached to it. The kind of guy who likes conversation, getting to know the person a bit.. having something (anything really!!!) in common. "

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The OP would so love it to be him, but sadly he's tied to the Bates Motel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site.

Says a women holding a cup saying "I love cock" lmao"

Well I do! It doesn't mean I want yours.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

You use fab in a way that suits you op & let others use it how they like.

Different people want different things ,it's not a one size suits all.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Ps some men want a connection too & some couples !

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By *r TemptationMan
over a year ago

York

As a guy I like to make a connection too.

Of course it does not always happen but I have met and stayed friends with some lovely people over the years.

Very sadly lost a good friend yesterday though!

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By *ity_BoyMan
over a year ago

London

Casual sex and intimacy aren't mutually exclusive.

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

Most men just need an opportunity to have sex whereas most women need a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was

No it’s not a sex site.

Women aren’t just a free hole for you to fuck - wanting a connection doesn’t mean we want to bloody marry you, just to be able to hold a decent conversation and actually get to know something about the person, get a feel for them.

God forbid we say no to fancy a fuck messages "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This type of post annoys me. This isn't a 'sex' site, it's a swinging site. For some they enjoy anonymous encounters, others enjoy encounters with those where it is less mechanical.

As a single woman, I can get sex by going to a pub, club whatever. Here I want people who understand the dynamic, that I can build a connection with and who understand the dynamic. Much more than just a sex site.

Says a women holding a cup saying "I love cock" lmao

Well I do! It doesn't mean I want yours. "

That's a shame hun buns

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By *ouple 71Couple
over a year ago

Stonehaven


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was

To me swinging is 70% social 30% sex. This isn’t a sex site.

Regarding people saying they want an intimate connection, it’s usually code for - I like a guy with a bit of a personality, not on an ego trip and thinking they deserve a fuck for just sending a message.

Most of us like a bit of banter and a laugh to connect with someone before we jump into bed with them. If someone isn’t willing to do that then I very much doubt they’ll put much effort into the other 30%.

But I wouldn’t worry about all that, I imagine you’re not at risk of forming a connection with anyone on here. "
. Love this. 100 percent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just browsing...mind your business."

If only you took your own advice OP

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Intimate connections are not strings!

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

This isn’t a sex site it’s a swingers site and sex plays it’s part but there’s so much more to it.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was

To me swinging is 70% social 30% sex. This isn’t a sex site.

Regarding people saying they want an intimate connection, it’s usually code for - I like a guy with a bit of a personality, not on an ego trip and thinking they deserve a fuck for just sending a message.

Most of us like a bit of banter and a laugh to connect with someone before we jump into bed with them. If someone isn’t willing to do that then I very much doubt they’ll put much effort into the other 30%.

But I wouldn’t worry about all that, I imagine you’re not at risk of forming a connection with anyone on here. . Love this. 100 percent. "

This 100%

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Intimate connections are not strings! "

Depends what you define as intimate. A one on one meet staying over at a hotel is intimate but not dosent mean you're gonna start dating. Some.people like kissing but others think it's too intimate.

That last ones an odd one like. You'll suck my dick and let me screw you but draw the line at a kiss? Each to their own of course...

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire


"Most men just need an opportunity to have sex whereas most women need a reason."

That's a really wonderful way of putting it. I'll have to remember that line.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"This isn’t a sex site it’s a swingers site and sex plays it’s part but there’s so much more to it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't let myself relax and I wouldn't feel safe with a stranger.

I'd want a connection to know that it would be something I'd actually enjoy. If there was no connection, it would just be a meaningless shit fuck I'd probably regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

If you want to go out and shag a Tortoise or Rabbit - fill yer boots!

Some of us have standards and for us their has to be a connection.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Intimate connections are not strings!

Depends what you define as intimate. A one on one meet staying over at a hotel is intimate but not dosent mean you're gonna start dating. Some.people like kissing but others think it's too intimate.

That last ones an odd one like. You'll suck my dick and let me screw you but draw the line at a kiss? Each to their own of course... "

What I meant was, I like to have a deep connection, where possible, with the men I meet... But I definitely do not want a boyfriend, or any kind of commitment

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted


"Why do so many care about making a intimate connection on here for sex ? This is a sex site no? Why do you want to get involved like that . People make comments like your using this person just for there cock. Rent a cock blah blah so what . You think men care about fucking women with NSA ? I thought that's what swinging was "

Some do and some don't. Ditto with men and couples. Sometimes we want to get close and become friends with people and sometimes we just want to meet, fuck and never see them again. And yes some men to care and want a little more even if NSA.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Intimate connections are not strings!

Depends what you define as intimate. A one on one meet staying over at a hotel is intimate but not dosent mean you're gonna start dating. Some.people like kissing but others think it's too intimate.

That last ones an odd one like. You'll suck my dick and let me screw you but draw the line at a kiss? Each to their own of course...

What I meant was, I like to have a deep connection, where possible, with the men I meet... But I definitely do not want a boyfriend, or any kind of commitment "

Got ya. Yeah we favour the social.side of things, repeat meets and people we are freindly with. Dosent mean we are dating them but it's certainly more intimate than a random shag with a complete stranger if ypu catch my drift.

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