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By *oinJamesandJessica OP Couple
over a year ago

Stanley area

Hi, this is our first post, a question for those who have genuine experience only please.

We are new here and just bouncing ideas, wondering about loads of practicalities and just generally learning.

We would soon like to meet with another couple or female and wondered your thoughts about whether to meet at a club or people's homes.

What's your experience of either or both.

We are in North-eaat England btw.

Thanks

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We meet at clubs and have a whole night of varied fun. Imagine going to a house and you don't like the couple or they're nothing like their pics? Arrange to meet in a club, and if you don't click with a meet or they don't turn up you can still have a good night.

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By *rMs.NeekCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

We've met in a pub for a drink and then gone back to ours with them if it's gone well socially

Arguably easier to meet in a club, though. Especially for a first meeting, as then there other options if it doesn't pan out as expected

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By *orny DeucesCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

"We meet at clubs and have a whole night of varied fun. Imagine going to a house and you don't like the couple or they're nothing like their pics? Arrange to meet in a club, and if you don't click with a meet or they don't turn up you can still have a good night."

Agreed, if things don't flow or there is no click with someone/others, you can be polite and move on. Safety aspect too. And the odd, oh "shes" not available it's just me bollocks doesnt happen either

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We meet socially only the first time then if we a get on go to their house. Very occasionally we host

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

We always have a social meet first and then take it from there if everyone is happy to meet again. Sometimes we’ve been to the house of other couples, other times we’ve met in hotels and shared the costs.

Never been to a club but guess it comes down to individual preferences....

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By *otwifeHusbandCouple
over a year ago

Dorset

We in past meet for socials first and played at hotels which is a little pricy after a while.

But we have meet in all places to suit both. Inc a club. It all depends what works for you both, so try not rule any place out.

You will have a great time.

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By *otwifeHusbandCouple
over a year ago

Dorset

It may be worth looking at veri for a local party host and try a party to see if you find a couple you like. This way there is no pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't been to a club yet because we have enjoyed privately meeting couples in a bar for a chat to see if there is a connection.

The reason we went for a private meet over a club is because we then chat, and select the other couple the same as they select us pre meet so the ice has been broken and the attraction is definitely there xx

It's one of those each to their own sort of questions we'd say.

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By *otwifeHusbandCouple
over a year ago

Dorset

"We haven't been to a club yet because we have enjoyed privately meeting couples in a bar for a chat to see if there is a connection.

It's one of those each to their own sort of questions we'd say."

I Guess you think it's not easy to chat at a club. I agree some not if in full party mode lol, Recommend Kestrels then, Large bar and seating/chat area. Pool, Hot tubs, etc etc

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Clubs always work best for us. But we've don't really arrange to meet people we don't know at clubs. We are kind of swingers of opportunity. Not really into the pressure, obligation and prior communication regarding premeditated meets. Much more like to turn up and see who with click with. Naturally then sometimes this turns into longer term freindships and future arrangements. Although at least at a club meet both parties have an opportunity to split and explore other avenues if the chemistry is not right in person. At a house meet your kind of stuck and if it's not a match an awkward and wasted evening. Experience tells us even if you talk alot and like someones profile, you never really know till you meet in person. I'd at least recommend a coffee meet in person before a house meet. Also a lot of single ladies would not feel comfortable at a house meet with people they're never met in person.

So 100% chose a club to meet over a house meet. Plus if you pick your club and night right you normally find something that works well in our experience.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"We haven't been to a club yet because we have enjoyed privately meeting couples in a bar for a chat to see if there is a connection.

It's one of those each to their own sort of questions we'd say.

I Guess you think it's not easy to chat at a club. I agree some not if in full party mode lol, Recommend Kestrels then, Large bar and seating/chat area. Pool, Hot tubs, etc etc

Another good point. Clubs are all very different and you have to find the atmosphere and vibe that your comfortable in.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We agree too. We've never been disappointed with a club visit. I soon found I enjoyed playing with two, three or more guys at a time, and that was easy to arrange. Plus it's safe and as anonymous as you want it to be.

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By *witchedUpCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

We always have a social in a public place or meet at a club, keeps it safe and less awkward if you don’t hit it off.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

You have one of the best clubs on your door step, full of genuine people all looking for fun in one way or another, and also a very good social side with like minded people

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Hi, this is our first post, a question for those who have genuine experience only please.

We are new here and just bouncing ideas, wondering about loads of practicalities and just generally learning.

We would soon like to meet with another couple or female and wondered your thoughts about whether to meet at a club or people's homes.

What's your experience of either or both.

We are in North-eaat England btw.

Thanks"

We meet in club f in Stanley (not far from yourselves) and outside of them, be it at a home, hotel or private party.

Experiance wise all are fun but offer something differnt. It just depends what you are looking for.

If we do homes or hotels then it's a smaller meet, 3 sum or 4 sum usually and there's a lot of build up, flirting and more often than not, a good laugh as well. They're much more social and we've made some great freinds this way. Ypu get to go at your own pace with these sorts of evenings.

For private partys well, just a bigger social affair so to speak but eventually it all kicks off and it's fun. Obviously this is a lot less intimidating (for newbies) if you lnow the people attending the party.

Clubs are a different beast all together. Now I can only comment on club f but clubs are a tough one. We usually go with freinds and have a great time. The club looks after you and the crowd have always respected boundries. No mean no situation and if anyone pushes their luck, they are kicked out. Youve got all sorts of facilities to utilise its a safe no judgement environment. There's public and private rooms and just a good environment in general. The downside with clubs however is that there no guarantees. You could go up and it's quiet or there's no one you click with on the night. You may be minding your own business and some random person who you are not intrested in may ask to join out of nowhere. You might find it off putting to have some random guy jacking off watching you and your partner. In our experiance a no thank you was the end of it as thats club rules. Its just something you have to accept in clubs. Everyone goes for fun but everyone's idea of fun is a bit different. But all in all clubs are as good as any other way to start. Thing with clubs is that a lot of people find them daunting till they try them. Afterwards they wonder what they where worried about.

Since you are in Chester le Street I would honestly suggest trying Club F at least once since its what

10 min drive away? Saturday nights are Couples and single ladies focused so that's your best time to go. Now I know it will be packed out next weekend and the weekend after due to organsised events but this weekend might be a good night for a first visit. As its a quieter mid pay may month night (or should be) its not to busy to be overwhelemung and the staff can take time out to give ypu a tour and exaun club rules. We will be going with freinds and we are always respectfully happy to talk to new people as well but nothing says ypu have to talk to us or anyone else there. Ypu csn just people watch if that's your thing.

Personally I think clubs are a good place to start rather than playing pong pong messaging on here. Not to fault fab but it has its time wasters and wanna bes. At least at a club or social.event ypu know its real.people who are not there to mess about.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've not been to a club as yet, but I prefer hotel meets, drinks at the bar then back to the room, I feel it's safer, can leave when we want there's no pressure and a chance to chill beforehand. We have met at a ladies house and it didn't go too well, uninvited guest at the end, it has put me off house meets. I'd meet at a club though.

Mrs

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"We've not been to a club as yet, but I prefer hotel meets, drinks at the bar then back to the room, I feel it's safer, can leave when we want there's no pressure and a chance to chill beforehand. We have met at a ladies house and it didn't go too well, uninvited guest at the end, it has put me off house meets. I'd meet at a club though.

Mrs "

You get the hotel thing with a good club to be honest. Can only talk about the club we go to but you start the night in a bar area (clothes on) and move to a private or public room for play if you want. There's no pressure on anyone. Should be the same for most clubs (have heard that is the case for any close enough to us) but every club is different. You should check out what ypur local ones have to offer and give it a try. It's well worth trying at least once. If ypure in Leeds Quesr or Pandoras are just like that we are told. Or ypu can go further afield to club f (our local) and its exactly like that lll.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You can meet wherever you feel more comfortable…

At a club there’s no pressure if you don’t fancy them as there may be others you do.

For home or hotel, you can meet for a social first and then see if the attraction is there, whether you meet on the day beforehand or seperate days.

We’ve done hotel and clubs…we wouldn’t meet at home. Actually we met one single female at my home but wouldn’t meet a couple there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've always met other mfcouples on via at either thier home or ours. Always at least a phone call first to make sure we're all on the same wavelength. Had at about 10 or 12 successful plays over the past roughly 5 years

(only once almost got caught out with a guy who kept saying his gf would arrive shortly with various reasons, we escaped that swiftly)..

Never been sure about clubs as not sure what sort of people would be there?

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"Hi, this is our first post, a question for those who have genuine experience only please.

We are new here and just bouncing ideas, wondering about loads of practicalities and just generally learning.

We would soon like to meet with another couple or female and wondered your thoughts about whether to meet at a club or people's homes.

What's your experience of either or both.

We are in North-eaat England btw.

Thanks"

Our preference is for clubs, it just seems a better environment, that said hotels can be fun!

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Never been sure about clubs as not sure what sort of people would be there?"

Always amused by this notion. Clubs aren’t populated by people with two heads. Mostly the same cross section as here. Except in the flesh and actively looking for meets then and there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love meeting couples but I'm always nervous with a hotel. I panic thinking the worst as it would be easier for something to happen with a room being so close.

But clubs and public socials with intention of going back to someone's place is always a win. Social allows a no pressure situation for everyone.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

I (Mrs) have been the unicorn for a number of couples.

It's always been at a club as I find it safer and can get to know them before deciding if we are compatible before we go off together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been sure about clubs as not sure what sort of people would be there?

Always amused by this notion. Clubs aren’t populated by people with two heads. Mostly the same cross section as here. Except in the flesh and actively looking for meets then and there! "

Fair point.

Totally understand what you mean, it's just for us that feeling of being a bit unsure how to deal with a situation with people we don't know. Have read that some can be a bit full on & tricky to say No to..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont meet couples or women from fab and the only reason is couples are easy to find in clubs face to face as for bi or gay women they are found in surprise surprise gay bars / clubs /nights again face to face and much more open about playing they simply dont care im married so easy for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and its not a given that there will be a couple in a club that suits you it can be very hit and miss we find the clubs furthest away ie midlands upwards far superior in volume and choice down here they tend to get a little stale

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Never been sure about clubs as not sure what sort of people would be there?

Always amused by this notion. Clubs aren’t populated by people with two heads. Mostly the same cross section as here. Except in the flesh and actively looking for meets then and there!

Fair point.

They should have a good no means no policy. And if you’re meeting people you’ve chatted with, you shoulda had the consent conversation before agreeing to anything! Plus anyone doing this ethically would understand it’s ok to change your mind before and during!

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