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"Totally get it. But feel uncomfortable with some of the language used." Do you discuss beforehand what's accepable? | |||
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"I hate being fetishized ...huge turn off for me. " Huge turn on for me especially in this fantasy playground which is outside of the vanilla, I absolutely love seeing where it leads to. Some pleasant surprises have arisen whilst being here, race play being one of them. I'm definitely not the 'over sensitive' type to 'block' out others with differing views to myself, swinging afterall is for so many of those involved very much an acceptable, diverse and liberated part of our community, fetishisation as uncomfortable as it is for some does undeniably have it's place here. | |||
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"We did find that the contrasting skin tones (Rosie is very pale) made for some amazing photographs " Agreed - sounds sooo sexy! | |||
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"why call it Interracial race play ?? dont make sense to me ....it just hot guys and me having fun dont understand why race is mentioned i dont fuck a guy because of his race i fuck a guy because to me hes hot ..end of" this. I don't understand the interracial race play myself. Surely it's just interracial sex. Surely. Also you claim it as a realm of fantasy for role play and not accepted like BDSM.... What are you suggesting here. That mixed race couples aren't acceptable and are seen the same as a fetish??? Have you thought the wording of your post through. It has racist connotations and suggests that interracial relationships are down to a fetish or a fantasy. Where do you live where these opinions are normal | |||
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"why call it Interracial race play ?? dont make sense to me ....it just hot guys and me having fun dont understand why race is mentioned i dont fuck a guy because of his race i fuck a guy because to me hes hot ..end of this. I don't understand the interracial race play myself. Surely it's just interracial sex. Surely. Also you claim it as a realm of fantasy for role play and not accepted like BDSM.... What are you suggesting here. That mixed race couples aren't acceptable and are seen the same as a fetish??? Have you thought the wording of your post through. It has racist connotations and suggests that interracial relationships are down to a fetish or a fantasy. Where do you live where these opinions are normal " You've missed the point entirely. Interracial sex is interracial sex but when you bring in derogatory remarks about each others skin colour during sex the term is known as 'race play' a known kink, this is what the post is about. Hope that clarifies it for you and the other poster you tagged. For further understanding google it or for an indepth first hand read there's a known fetish communinity site with thousands of people expressing their love for this bdsm sub catergory. | |||
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"why call it Interracial race play ?? dont make sense to me ....it just hot guys and me having fun dont understand why race is mentioned i dont fuck a guy because of his race i fuck a guy because to me hes hot ..end of this. I don't understand the interracial race play myself. Surely it's just interracial sex. Surely. Also you claim it as a realm of fantasy for role play and not accepted like BDSM.... What are you suggesting here. That mixed race couples aren't acceptable and are seen the same as a fetish??? Have you thought the wording of your post through. It has racist connotations and suggests that interracial relationships are down to a fetish or a fantasy. Where do you live where these opinions are normal You've missed the point entirely. Interracial sex is interracial sex but when you bring in derogatory remarks about each others skin colour during sex the term is known as 'race play' a known kink, this is what the post is about. Hope that clarifies it for you and the other poster you tagged. For further understanding google it or for an indepth first hand read there's a known fetish communinity site with thousands of people expressing their love for this bdsm sub catergory." On that note. I can only apologise and stand corrected. Although personally I wouldn't feel comfortable taking part in it. I have absolutely no problem in what 2 consenting people do regardless. Which I feel is kinda contradictory on my part as I have absolutely no problem being vocal and calling my wife a slut,whore ect. I think it's the race thing that has me tagging it as something it's not. | |||
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"Who else is into this? I love interracial sex and if someone wants to go there I'm right there with them. For the record this is something I accept in the realm of 'fantasy sex' and role play only and not everyday life in the same way bdsm is accepted for example. So, any others into this?" I love it deeply myself but know it isn’t for everyone. This is one area of kink that I go straight to the extreme of race play and avoid the “softer stuff” (such as “bbc” which some do find offensive but which I term “vanilla”). It isn’t a deal breaker if a couple isn’t into it but I love when some have enough trust in me to “go there and stay there”. A particular joy is knowing the videos I have made of race play but can’t post as would definitely get me banned from Fabs. | |||
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"Mad the amount of people missing the point of the post here, it's about race play not interracial sex itself, christ! " People love to miss the point. | |||
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"Mad the amount of people missing the point of the post here, it's about race play not interracial sex itself, christ! As for me I've been asked to partake before and while I do understand the appeal and respect people that are into it, I'm simply not comfortable using that type of language. " This Mrs | |||
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"Who else is into this? I love interracial sex and if someone wants to go there I'm right there with them. For the record this is something I accept in the realm of 'fantasy sex' and role play only and not everyday life in the same way bdsm is accepted for example. So, any others into this?" I’m going to have this a very VERY hard no for me… each to their own but I believe this kind of role play just continues the perpetuation of negative racial stereotypes. | |||
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"Who else is into this? I love interracial sex and if someone wants to go there I'm right there with them. For the record this is something I accept in the realm of 'fantasy sex' and role play only and not everyday life in the same way bdsm is accepted for example. So, any others into this? I’m going to have this a very VERY hard no for me… each to their own but I believe this kind of role play just continues the perpetuation of negative racial stereotypes. " Yep massive no for me too. Like one of my only hard limits | |||
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""Race play" Is a massive turn off for me. Having grown up in an openly racist society and spent my entire life advocating and fighting against racisim I find this kind of roleplay to be abhorrent and antithetical to everything I stand for!" Abhorrent? It seems that you’re making the assumption that it has to be negative, rather than just two people appreciating one another’s differences | |||
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""Race play" Is a massive turn off for me. Having grown up in an openly racist society and spent my entire life advocating and fighting against racisim I find this kind of roleplay to be abhorrent and antithetical to everything I stand for! Abhorrent? It seems that you’re making the assumption that it has to be negative, rather than just two people appreciating one another’s differences " Interracial sex and race play are two very different things. Many people are uncomfortable with the use of slurs and derogatory language myself included. Mrs | |||
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"Who else is into this? I love interracial sex and if someone wants to go there I'm right there with them. For the record this is something I accept in the realm of 'fantasy sex' and role play only and not everyday life in the same way bdsm is accepted for example. So, any others into this? I’m going to have this a very VERY hard no for me… each to their own but I believe this kind of role play just continues the perpetuation of negative racial stereotypes. " It’s this for us!! we once met a black fem/white male couple and he spent the whole playtime referencing my colour and commenting on watching two black women perform for him and cliched crap about our appearance. Ben actually told him to tone it down in the end but it killed my vibe completely. I’m not here to let people get their stereotyped views off their chest in the guise of fantasy. | |||
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"We did find that the contrasting skin tones (Rosie is very pale) made for some amazing photographs " We're liking the idea of the 2 colours, like you've stated the contrast is somewhat erotic | |||
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"Like interacial sex but hate race play, no need for it as its offensive" Absolutely..on both counts. | |||
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"I Like interacial sex but I hate race play, no need for it in my opinion as its offensive again in my opinion" FTFY | |||
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"Not for me. I don't have any fetish regarding race and/or power dynamics around it. It's just something that kills the vibe for me and makes me uncomfortable. However it's interesting to read the veiws on this. I totally understand why some are uncomfortable and/or offended. However kink and fetish often crosses a boundary that is fine within minds and private bedrooms but not in the everyday world. Sometimes a large part of the appeal of a kink is its taboo. I have known of people within the sexual context get excited by being called racial slurs with reference to their own race. It's not for us to Judge or be the kink or language police as long it's consenting and safe. Naturally people should be safe to talk about their kinks in this environment. So yes I get why some are uncomfortable or even upset. There's definitely kinks out there that I dont understand the appeal and make me uneasy (as open minded as I am). However I think people need to understand context and the difference between sexaul fantasy/role play and every day life practice. Because for many what they explore in the sexaul domain very often very different to their beliefs, practices and nature in the everyday world. Mr" | |||
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"Blocked by a couple because we have played with different race.they openly told us. Can't believe that someone is so judging today no ones business who we play with its our choice. Disgusting that people like this still exist " Crazy how even in the swingers world there is a race issue. I bet the female partner would love to try a BBC but the male half won't allow it | |||
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"Blocked by a couple because we have played with different race.they openly told us. Can't believe that someone is so judging today no ones business who we play with its our choice. Disgusting that people like this still exist They said we like you like guys but you have played with a black guy so it's a no from them as they don't agree with it. We find this completely disgusting behaviour Crazy how even in the swingers world there is a race issue. I bet the female partner would love to try a BBC but the male half won't allow it" | |||
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"Blocked by a couple because we have played with different race.they openly told us. Can't believe that someone is so judging today no ones business who we play with its our choice. Disgusting that people like this still exist " These issue have always existed and will always exist unfortunately | |||
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"Blocked by a couple because we have played with different race.they openly told us. Can't believe that someone is so judging today no ones business who we play with its our choice. Disgusting that people like this still exist It's just so wrong and pissed us off majorly that people are nasty These issue have always existed and will always exist unfortunately " | |||
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"Blocked by a couple because we have played with different race.they openly told us. Can't believe that someone is so judging today no ones business who we play with its our choice. Disgusting that people like this still exist " Ignore them and laugh. Ignorant people really have nothing to add that's worth listening to, they just spurt out utter jibberish due to their limitations on anything. Usually the type that blame others for their own misgivings and shortfalls in life. Anyhow, hope you enjoyed the D, video suggests so. Naughty names too? | |||
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"Like interacial sex but hate race play, no need for it as its offensive" And certain demographics will call us snowflakes for being offended | |||
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"One of my favs tbh" Heh, yes you are fully embracing it from a glance of your profile But then anyone who is interested already knows what you are about so it's win win? Am I wrong | |||
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"A dangerous thread, this is. 🤔" Dangerous....if it starts getting specific! | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. " Surely not the MOST disturbing this is niche but also quite common I’ve seen much worse on here | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. Surely not the MOST disturbing this is niche but also quite common I’ve seen much worse on here " My experiences are my own. I've seen everything in this place including human toilets and this is still by far the most disturbing to me. | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. Surely not the MOST disturbing this is niche but also quite common I’ve seen much worse on here My experiences are my own. I've seen everything in this place including human toilets and this is still by far the most disturbing to me. " Fair enough everyone has their limits I guess | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though " Playing between races isn't the same as race play. | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. " So it’s not disturbing when a woman wants to be called a slut and a whore because she enjoys verbal put downs as part of feeling sexually degraded, but if a person of colour wants the same with regard to their own race then it’s somehow disturbing for you? | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. So it’s not disturbing when a woman wants to be called a slut and a whore because she enjoys verbal put downs as part of feeling sexually degraded, but if a person of colour wants the same with regard to their own race then it’s somehow disturbing for you? " As a learned person of colour, yes. Incredibly so. | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though " Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. " Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour. | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour." That’s very true, and is another reason why it’s not for me. As a white woman I’ll never have to experience the levels of prejudice bame folks have to live with and I respect everyone’s right to fly their kink flag proudly. It’s just not for me x | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour." Let's not do this. It's embarrassing and completely kills what was otherwise a thoughtful and varied discussion. The whole point of the thread is discussion between different races. Why are you trying to exclude her comments based on that factor? | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. So it’s not disturbing when a woman wants to be called a slut and a whore because she enjoys verbal put downs as part of feeling sexually degraded, but if a person of colour wants the same with regard to their own race then it’s somehow disturbing for you? As a learned person of colour, yes. Incredibly so. " LOL Just because it doesn’t float your boat, this doesn’t automatically mean that others who enjoy it are less than you. | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour." | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. So it’s not disturbing when a woman wants to be called a slut and a whore because she enjoys verbal put downs as part of feeling sexually degraded, but if a person of colour wants the same with regard to their own race then it’s somehow disturbing for you? As a learned person of colour, yes. Incredibly so. LOL Just because it doesn’t float your boat, this doesn’t automatically mean that others who enjoy it are less than you." At no point did I say they were. Again, I said I find it disturbing. | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour. Let's not do this. It's embarrassing and completely kills what was otherwise a thoughtful and varied discussion. The whole point of the thread is discussion between different races. Why are you trying to exclude her comments based on that factor? " It’s strange that you don’t see your own hypocrisy. You’re the one trying to shut down debate because apparently you’re somehow more of a “Learned person of colour” than another person of colour who happens to enjoy race play. | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. So it’s not disturbing when a woman wants to be called a slut and a whore because she enjoys verbal put downs as part of feeling sexually degraded, but if a person of colour wants the same with regard to their own race then it’s somehow disturbing for you? As a learned person of colour, yes. Incredibly so. LOL Just because it doesn’t float your boat, this doesn’t automatically mean that others who enjoy it are less than you." This comment was meant for EvaRose | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour. Let's not do this. It's embarrassing and completely kills what was otherwise a thoughtful and varied discussion. The whole point of the thread is discussion between different races. Why are you trying to exclude her comments based on that factor? It’s strange that you don’t see your own hypocrisy. You’re the one trying to shut down debate because apparently you’re somehow more of a “Learned person of colour” than another person of colour who happens to enjoy race play. " I'm voicing my own opinion as others are voicing theirs. There's no hypocrisy. You are aggressively doing.... What? This is an open forum. A question was posed and I answered. If you want to be treated poorly or in fact worshiped by any other race because of your race, I wish you all the best with that. But I'll repeat again that I find it disturbing and so do others. You don't have to agree. | |||
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"I genuinely think this is the most disturbing thread I've come across here in years. So it’s not disturbing when a woman wants to be called a slut and a whore because she enjoys verbal put downs as part of feeling sexually degraded, but if a person of colour wants the same with regard to their own race then it’s somehow disturbing for you? As a learned person of colour, yes. Incredibly so. LOL Just because it doesn’t float your boat, this doesn’t automatically mean that others who enjoy it are less than you. This comment was meant for EvaRose" Never once have I implied otherwise . That you took that from my comments is a reflection of you not me. | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour. Let's not do this. It's embarrassing and completely kills what was otherwise a thoughtful and varied discussion. The whole point of the thread is discussion between different races. Why are you trying to exclude her comments based on that factor? It’s strange that you don’t see your own hypocrisy. You’re the one trying to shut down debate because apparently you’re somehow more of a “Learned person of colour” than another person of colour who happens to enjoy race play. I'm voicing my own opinion as others are voicing theirs. There's no hypocrisy. You are aggressively doing.... What? This is an open forum. A question was posed and I answered. If you want to be treated poorly or in fact worshiped by any other race because of your race, I wish you all the best with that. But I'll repeat again that I find it disturbing and so do others. You don't have to agree. " Why did you feel the need to describe yourself as "learned"? Other than introducing an element of superiority what did you hope to achieve by it? | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour. Let's not do this. It's embarrassing and completely kills what was otherwise a thoughtful and varied discussion. The whole point of the thread is discussion between different races. Why are you trying to exclude her comments based on that factor? It’s strange that you don’t see your own hypocrisy. You’re the one trying to shut down debate because apparently you’re somehow more of a “Learned person of colour” than another person of colour who happens to enjoy race play. I'm voicing my own opinion as others are voicing theirs. There's no hypocrisy. You are aggressively doing.... What? This is an open forum. A question was posed and I answered. If you want to be treated poorly or in fact worshiped by any other race because of your race, I wish you all the best with that. But I'll repeat again that I find it disturbing and so do others. You don't have to agree. Why did you feel the need to describe yourself as "learned"? Other than introducing an element of superiority what did you hope to achieve by it?" In no definition of the word does "learned" equal "superior". It's incredibly important that people of colour know and understand the psychology of where race play sits especially when using sites like this where (as this thread has shown) there's are many who are willing to verbally and physically degrade you based on race. Pointing out that I've taken the time to understand how others might view my skin colour and fetishise it shouldn't upset you as much as it appears to have done. | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour. Let's not do this. It's embarrassing and completely kills what was otherwise a thoughtful and varied discussion. The whole point of the thread is discussion between different races. Why are you trying to exclude her comments based on that factor? It’s strange that you don’t see your own hypocrisy. You’re the one trying to shut down debate because apparently you’re somehow more of a “Learned person of colour” than another person of colour who happens to enjoy race play. I'm voicing my own opinion as others are voicing theirs. There's no hypocrisy. You are aggressively doing.... What? This is an open forum. A question was posed and I answered. If you want to be treated poorly or in fact worshiped by any other race because of your race, I wish you all the best with that. But I'll repeat again that I find it disturbing and so do others. You don't have to agree. Why did you feel the need to describe yourself as "learned"? Other than introducing an element of superiority what did you hope to achieve by it? In no definition of the word does "learned" equal "superior". It's incredibly important that people of colour know and understand the psychology of where race play sits especially when using sites like this where (as this thread has shown) there's are many who are willing to verbally and physically degrade you based on race. Pointing out that I've taken the time to understand how others might view my skin colour and fetishise it shouldn't upset you as much as it appears to have done. " Sorry, not upset in the slightest. Simply trying to understand why you thought it necessary. You do realise that verbal and physical degrading based on race works both ways and is an activity both parties willingly take part in for their mutual enjoyment. | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour. Let's not do this. It's embarrassing and completely kills what was otherwise a thoughtful and varied discussion. The whole point of the thread is discussion between different races. Why are you trying to exclude her comments based on that factor? It’s strange that you don’t see your own hypocrisy. You’re the one trying to shut down debate because apparently you’re somehow more of a “Learned person of colour” than another person of colour who happens to enjoy race play. I'm voicing my own opinion as others are voicing theirs. There's no hypocrisy. You are aggressively doing.... What? This is an open forum. A question was posed and I answered. If you want to be treated poorly or in fact worshiped by any other race because of your race, I wish you all the best with that. But I'll repeat again that I find it disturbing and so do others. You don't have to agree. Why did you feel the need to describe yourself as "learned"? Other than introducing an element of superiority what did you hope to achieve by it? In no definition of the word does "learned" equal "superior". It's incredibly important that people of colour know and understand the psychology of where race play sits especially when using sites like this where (as this thread has shown) there's are many who are willing to verbally and physically degrade you based on race. Pointing out that I've taken the time to understand how others might view my skin colour and fetishise it shouldn't upset you as much as it appears to have done. Sorry, not upset in the slightest. Simply trying to understand why you thought it necessary. You do realise that verbal and physical degrading based on race works both ways and is an activity both parties willingly take part in for their mutual enjoyment." Yes and I personally find it disturbing. | |||
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"Who else is into this? I love interracial sex and if someone wants to go there I'm right there with them. For the record this is something I accept in the realm of 'fantasy sex' and role play only and not everyday life in the same way bdsm is accepted for example. So, any others into this?" Look what you started | |||
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"So people do golden showers and that’s fine but within limits ( boundaries set my consenting parties ) race play is not .. we all have our fetishes and sometimes inter race play is exotic … language considerations need to be set though Playing with people of different races is not the same thing as race play. I’ve been in the kink community for a very long time and I try really hard not to judge, but race play is something I’ll never understand and would never want to be involved in. Thank you for recognising your own white privilege. You’re right, you cannot understand it because you’re not a person of colour. Let's not do this. It's embarrassing and completely kills what was otherwise a thoughtful and varied discussion. The whole point of the thread is discussion between different races. Why are you trying to exclude her comments based on that factor? It’s strange that you don’t see your own hypocrisy. You’re the one trying to shut down debate because apparently you’re somehow more of a “Learned person of colour” than another person of colour who happens to enjoy race play. I'm voicing my own opinion as others are voicing theirs. There's no hypocrisy. You are aggressively doing.... What? This is an open forum. A question was posed and I answered. If you want to be treated poorly or in fact worshiped by any other race because of your race, I wish you all the best with that. But I'll repeat again that I find it disturbing and so do others. You don't have to agree. " Well said. | |||
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"In a world where what was previously dark and deviant is now co-opted as being part of a lifestyle, the part about Kinks/Fetishes/ Alternative Play (KFAP) being taboo, gets lost by the porn sexy and righteous groups. Even the main KFAP site is flooded with pouting naked women appealing to socially acceptable desires. It's quite normal not to like, other people's activities, no-one is asking that. Society should be such that consenting adults acting safely can get on with what they want in the privacy of their homes without being judged. The Taliban Christians find swinging abhorrent and would morally judge people. Therefore personal abhorrence is not the judging critetia but consent, safety and the parties being adult should be the judging critetia." | |||
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"Who else is into this? I love interracial sex and if someone wants to go there I'm right there with them. For the record this is something I accept in the realm of 'fantasy sex' and role play only and not everyday life in the same way bdsm is accepted for example. So, any others into this?" Absolutely adore it! Like bi play I don’t require it from all partners but those into it have a very special place in me. It isn’t for everyone and I can understand those of whatever ethnicity who are offended by it but like swinging itself if it isn’t for you then that is fine, it if it is that is acceptable too. In my experience this is one of those areas of the Lifestyle that more people indulge in than would be generally considered possible. Remember consenting adults behind closed doors. | |||
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"It’s a big yes for us! Love the contrasts in skin tones and breaking down barriers " This | |||
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