FabSwingers.com forum: confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many men were really confident and positive when they joined FAB but now realise its been completely destroyed?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

maybe your expectations were totally unrealistic and reality has hit.... if that is the case, you are not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need to come on here with an open mind,have a look around,bed yourself in because I think if you join here thinking I'm gonna be having sex 24/7 and all the ladies want sex with anyone because of the nature of the site then guys will be disapponted,then that might relate to there confidence of thinking "oh why ain't I getting a meet etc"

But that's just my _iew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you need to come on here with an open mind,have a look around,bed yourself in because I think if you join here thinking I'm gonna be having sex 24/7 and all the ladies want sex with anyone because of the nature of the site then guys will be disapponted,then that might relate to there confidence of thinking "oh why ain't I getting a meet etc"

But that's just my _iew "

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It's not a precise science either - there's a whole load of reasons for not getting met which are just far too nebulous to contemplate and just end up impacting negatively if you let them.

So don't let them, and concentrate on the current contacts rather than all the others that have gone by the wayside.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the opposite actually. Had some great fun and am now with a wondeful lady who is as kinky as me lol. Be patient my friend and stay positive.

Owl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fab is everything I expected and more. In fact being on fab has greatly increased my sexual confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many men were really confident and positive when they joined FAB but now realise its been completely destroyed?"

Absolutely destroyed mate. Just not what women and cpls are looking for on here. Reality hits and it hurts lol

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By *edonism44Man
over a year ago

oldham

"How many men were really confident and positive when they joined FAB but now realise its been completely destroyed?

Absolutely destroyed mate. Just not what women and cpls are looking for on here. Reality hits and it hurts lol"

We are in a majority here, as males, and although I have had meets, it's very difficult to stand out from the crowd.

I really do beleive you should look at this site as a social site, and expect nothing else ..... If you get offers great .

Your best way I think, is to go to clubs and actually meet peolpe.

This is no different to a dating site, if you don't look appealing in writing your stuffed, but in a club you have the chance of face to face chat and socialising its by far and away the best way..... Not unlike meeting somebody in a pub or club in vanilla life .....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

never put all your sexual experiences in the swinging basket, it should be an add on. If people aren't having luck on here, get out at the weekend and pull out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't think I would go as far as saying it hurts lol

I have stopped messaging though. My site support ran out six days ago and there is no point in renewing that..

Had some nice chats but lead no where and at the end of the day its not Facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be almost celibate if I relied on this site for fun, as a previous poster stated, its just an add on - stick to the 'real world' in the main

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

think with some folk they see this as 'dial a shag'..

whether that be through other people recommending the site or their own perception / assumptions..

when reality hits that may well be a kick in the nether's for some..

we have had some guys who wont take no for an answer and keep asking why not etc, which smacks of insecurity or desperation..

tempting as it is to let them have a few truths when they go on, we usually end up blocking them..

part of this aspect is that we will not and can not be compatible to all, no thank you goes with the territory..

accept it and move on..

hey ho and enjoy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I would go as far as saying it hurts lol

I have stopped messaging though. My site support ran out six days ago and there is no point in renewing that..

Had some nice chats but lead no where and at the end of the day its not Facebook

same here, ran out today, not renewing, no point.

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By *edonism44Man
over a year ago

oldham

"I would be almost celibate if I relied on this site for fun, as a previous poster stated, its just an add on - stick to the 'real world' in the main

EXACTLY just treat this place as a site that's social, gives advice, nice peolpe, and lovely pics .... If you get interest great.... You don't go on match or pof expecting a definate relationship , and you shouldn't expect sex on here... It's a bonus .. Get to a club xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many men were really confident and positive when they joined FAB but now realise its been completely destroyed?"

I still have confidence and positivity.

What has come with it is a greater understanding of what swinging is about, a greater appreciation of what makes people tick sexually and, more importantly, I am in contact with some great people, some of whom I can now class as friends.

I guess 'success' to some means different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest. Nothing is better than someone fabbing your pic or sending a message saying "like your profile".Take the positives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not in the slightest. Nothing is better than someone fabbing your pic or sending a message saying "like your profile".Take the positives

You do realise that if the OP hasn't been receiving 'like your profile' messages or having his pics fabbed, you have just made the situation even worse for him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"think with some folk they see this as 'dial a shag'.. "

Some might but I don't, and definitely not desperate

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