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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

What are your expectations when arranging a meeting with a single woman? Help a curious newbie out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite conversation

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We have no exptations.

A drink and a chat, see if things develop, if we get on and are comfortable with each other.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"We have no exptations.

A drink and a chat, see if things develop, if we get on and are comfortable with each other. "
expectations, I can't spell.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"What are your expectations when arranging a meeting with a single woman? Help a curious newbie out."

Our only expectation is that everything is consensual. We'd always start off socially and only go further if everybody want that.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wherever


"We have no exptations.

A drink and a chat, see if things develop, if we get on and are comfortable with each other. "

That sounds very reasonable.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland


"What are your expectations when arranging a meeting with a single woman? Help a curious newbie out."

Never had the opportunity so far but we would meet somewhere they decide for a social so they can feel comfortable and then see how it went

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By *r and Mrs Sweet CheeksCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

A social first just to see if we all click after that it’s a case of see where it leads too

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By *plofsinnersCouple
over a year ago

Haddington

For some reason the single bi fem is quite allusion here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been on & off the swinging scene for around 3 years and have met quite a variety of people but never yet come across a genuine single female seriously looking to hook up with a mfcouple. Do they really exist on Fab???

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Op you are in control full stop.

Do what feels right for you.

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By *r and Mrs KittyCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Ask for social Frist .then go with the flow . She be as nervous as you . Hopefully everything will fall into place Good luck X

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By *igSlinkyCouple
over a year ago

pontardulais

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By *igSlinkyCouple
over a year ago

pontardulais

Always social first with a lady to make her feel safe and to make sure we all get on. Then always go at ladies pace if things develop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven’t yet had the opportunity to meet a single woman, but our expectations would be to chat for a bit, then if we seemed to hit it off, meet somewhere public for a social to see if we clicked face to face and take it from there. If things were to go further, we would want to agree on ground rules, and keep things consensual, easy going and fun. That’s how it would pan out in our heads, anyway!

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wherever


"We've been on & off the swinging scene for around 3 years and have met quite a variety of people but never yet come across a genuine single female seriously looking to hook up with a mfcouple. Do they really exist on Fab??? "

Oh hello there they do exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try and take the time to get to know the lady a little. Have a social and see if we all on same page , you can usually tell because the laughing , naughty chat and flirting starts to flow.

Make sure you mention any boundries anyone may have.

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For some reason the single bi fem is quite allusion here"

An 'elusive illusion' even.

If anyone comes across a lesser spotted Single bi female am sure we'd all like to hear from you.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We have enjoyed a number of threesomes, L is very bi.

We subscribe to the thought that the build up should be immense fun, the sexual fun is expansive and exploring and a great embracing down time.

Threesomes are only hard if you make them through expectation.

Just have fun!

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Haven’t been lucky enough to have a meet with a single lady. We have tried but pretty much given up.

But we never had any expectations, always approached a lady with her safety in mind and to build up a friendship with the hope that we could all share a enjoyable experience together and that we all get what we wanted out if any meet.

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By *plofsinnersCouple
over a year ago

Haddington

Still to find a single female. They say there are some there but we have only found st8 ones or guys that pretend

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

No expectations really unless something has been discussed prior. Whatever happens happens. Maybe nothing, maybe more.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall


"We have no exptations.

A drink and a chat, see if things develop, if we get on and are comfortable with each other. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a lone fem I'd say the ball is in your court, not the other way around. If a couple approaches you and you're interested? Set out your stall in what you're offering, and don't settle for less

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wherever


"As a lone fem I'd say the ball is in your court, not the other way around. If a couple approaches you and you're interested? Set out your stall in what you're offering, and don't settle for less "

Great advice, thank you

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

As a cuckold couple then it’s very important that the hotwife is desired otherwise it’s pointless !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a cuckold couple then it’s very important that the hotwife is desired otherwise it’s pointless !"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have no exptations.

A drink and a chat, see if things develop, if we get on and are comfortable with each other. "
same with us on this

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By *iquid GoldCouple
over a year ago

gloucestershire

Pretty much what everyone else has said. We like to chat first and build up a connection and hopefully we are all at ease for the social meet.

A few drinks, great conversation, laughter and absolutely no expectations.

Then we can all decide if we want to move onto the naughty meet.

For us, we all have to be relaxed and totally happy with the situation.

However, as has previously been said, the female who wants to join a couple is very hard to come by!

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Pretty much what everyone else has said. We like to chat first and build up a connection and hopefully we are all at ease for the social meet.

A few drinks, great conversation, laughter and absolutely no expectations.

Then we can all decide if we want to move onto the naughty meet.

For us, we all have to be relaxed and totally happy with the situation.

However, as has previously been said, the female who wants to join a couple is very hard to come by! "

But they exist!

I am currently exploring this option but asking about expectations because every time I am approached by a couple there’s usually the male part and I rarely hear from female.

Some great responses on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty much what everyone else has said. We like to chat first and build up a connection and hopefully we are all at ease for the social meet.

A few drinks, great conversation, laughter and absolutely no expectations.

Then we can all decide if we want to move onto the naughty meet.

For us, we all have to be relaxed and totally happy with the situation.

However, as has previously been said, the female who wants to join a couple is very hard to come by! "

Everything here. So we’ll articulated we can’t add anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can vouch they do exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are your expectations when arranging a meeting with a single woman? Help a curious newbie out."

Be nice to find that single woman.

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By *iquid GoldCouple
over a year ago

gloucestershire


"Pretty much what everyone else has said. We like to chat first and build up a connection and hopefully we are all at ease for the social meet.

A few drinks, great conversation, laughter and absolutely no expectations.

Then we can all decide if we want to move onto the naughty meet.

For us, we all have to be relaxed and totally happy with the situation.

However, as has previously been said, the female who wants to join a couple is very hard to come by!

But they exist!

I am currently exploring this option but asking about expectations because every time I am approached by a couple there’s usually the male part and I rarely hear from female.

Some great responses on this thread."

It’s clear that couples get a bad name, unfortunately, due to the fake profiles and men posing as couples etc.. it makes it really hard for the rest of us.

In our case, I (Mrs) deal with all the “Fabmin” replying to all messages then show hubby in the evening. He openly admits that I can articulate far better than he can! Then if we get on well messaging on here and we are all happy swapping numbers it’s 3 way messaging only. That way we are all involved and nothing can be misconstrued.

We like to think the female feels happier that way as she can see we are a genuine couple. It’s just getting to that stage that’s the difficulty!

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

A few drinks, laughing and smiling.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We have been lucky enough to have a couple of threesomes on here though when you look at the amount of time we have been on here thats not a huge ratio.

We don't really have any expectations apart from honesty and openess.

We like a social aspect so we can all get to know each other a little and we like our lady friends to be Bi or open to exploring all aspects of being Bi as I am Bi.

Apart from that we are open to what she desires too and very much enjoy trying to forfill everyone's fantasies and desires.

D x

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By *ascivious-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

We have met some lovely single ladies over the years.

An important thing to remember when a single lady is meeting a couple (actual couple, not a fwb couple), is that she is joining a very close relationship where things are very familiar and comfortable, so she's likely to be nervous and anxious about the whole experience.

We're a couple where Mr does a lot of the fab "admin", however when it's clear someone is serious about chatting, I usually suggest we take it to an app where all three can chat. Always happy for the ladies to chat on the phone too if it puts their mind at ease.

Having a relaxed drink with no expectation to play is key as this where you really find out if there's an attraction! Xx

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wherever


"We have met some lovely single ladies over the years.

An important thing to remember when a single lady is meeting a couple (actual couple, not a fwb couple), is that she is joining a very close relationship where things are very familiar and comfortable, so she's likely to be nervous and anxious about the whole experience.

We're a couple where Mr does a lot of the fab "admin", however when it's clear someone is serious about chatting, I usually suggest we take it to an app where all three can chat. Always happy for the ladies to chat on the phone too if it puts their mind at ease.

Having a relaxed drink with no expectation to play is key as this where you really find out if there's an attraction! Xx "

That’s very helpful comment, thank you so much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following this thread ...I've only found one couple that I can say I'd be comfortable being filthy with..the social was good ...and yup was nervous as hell. What I can say is a turn off is when couple start listing off their expectations or gives you a long lists of the things you can't do ..like one couple that messaged me began to list off the things I could and couldn't do with the Mr and how the Mrs only allows this or that ... to each his own but I'd be too nervous to be comfortable trying to remember what not ...and to be clear it wasn't just one or two things. For couples I like the direct approach hi we are interested this is what we are proposing if you are ok with us. I usually note my availability which is limited so I always have to weigh my meets carefully. Advise I'd give to other females looking for couples ...if it doesn't feel right from the messaging alone it doesn't make sense going any further. And be weary of those that just want to chat nasty and go on about what will happen during the meet ..usually males getting off.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No expectations when we meet, we always social 1st see how we all get along, then anything else depends on what's agreed by all of is. Just a general go with the flow.

Mrs

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Following this thread ...I've only found one couple that I can say I'd be comfortable being filthy with..the social was good ...and yup was nervous as hell. What I can say is a turn off is when couple start listing off their expectations or gives you a long lists of the things you can't do ..like one couple that messaged me began to list off the things I could and couldn't do with the Mr and how the Mrs only allows this or that ... to each his own but I'd be too nervous to be comfortable trying to remember what not ...and to be clear it wasn't just one or two things. For couples I like the direct approach hi we are interested this is what we are proposing if you are ok with us. I usually note my availability which is limited so I always have to weigh my meets carefully. Advise I'd give to other females looking for couples ...if it doesn't feel right from the messaging alone it doesn't make sense going any further. And be weary of those that just want to chat nasty and go on about what will happen during the meet ..usually males getting off."

That’s very helpful, thank you for sharing your perspective. I’ve had similar experiences with varies couples messaging and the list of some expectations was … interesting, to say the least, hence this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following this thread ...I've only found one couple that I can say I'd be comfortable being filthy with..the social was good ...and yup was nervous as hell. What I can say is a turn off is when couple start listing off their expectations or gives you a long lists of the things you can't do ..like one couple that messaged me began to list off the things I could and couldn't do with the Mr and how the Mrs only allows this or that ... to each his own but I'd be too nervous to be comfortable trying to remember what not ...and to be clear it wasn't just one or two things. For couples I like the direct approach hi we are interested this is what we are proposing if you are ok with us. I usually note my availability which is limited so I always have to weigh my meets carefully. Advise I'd give to other females looking for couples ...if it doesn't feel right from the messaging alone it doesn't make sense going any further. And be weary of those that just want to chat nasty and go on about what will happen during the meet ..usually males getting off.

That’s very helpful, thank you for sharing your perspective. I’ve had similar experiences with varies couples messaging and the list of some expectations was … interesting, to say the least, hence this post."
the expectations listing is such a turn off ..makes it feel like a job interview

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Following this thread ...I've only found one couple that I can say I'd be comfortable being filthy with..the social was good ...and yup was nervous as hell. What I can say is a turn off is when couple start listing off their expectations or gives you a long lists of the things you can't do ..like one couple that messaged me began to list off the things I could and couldn't do with the Mr and how the Mrs only allows this or that ... to each his own but I'd be too nervous to be comfortable trying to remember what not ...and to be clear it wasn't just one or two things. For couples I like the direct approach hi we are interested this is what we are proposing if you are ok with us. I usually note my availability which is limited so I always have to weigh my meets carefully. Advise I'd give to other females looking for couples ...if it doesn't feel right from the messaging alone it doesn't make sense going any further. And be weary of those that just want to chat nasty and go on about what will happen during the meet ..usually males getting off.

That’s very helpful, thank you for sharing your perspective. I’ve had similar experiences with varies couples messaging and the list of some expectations was … interesting, to say the least, hence this post. the expectations listing is such a turn off ..makes it feel like a job interview "

Agreed. It would never even enter our heads to behave that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a single female at a public social, group thing.

We got it off very well and after the social we kept in touch, spoke about the 3 of us getting together for an evening.

We all shared in the discussion of what could happen, we all set our ground rules, discussed boundaries etc.

When we did finally meet for more it was a fantastic afternoon that continued into the early hours of the following morning.

As long as there's communication with everyone equally there shouldn't be any problems.

G&C

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wherever


"We met a single female at a public social, group thing.

We got it off very well and after the social we kept in touch, spoke about the 3 of us getting together for an evening.

We all shared in the discussion of what could happen, we all set our ground rules, discussed boundaries etc.

When we did finally meet for more it was a fantastic afternoon that continued into the early hours of the following morning.

As long as there's communication with everyone equally there shouldn't be any problems.

G&C"

Thank you for sharing your experience, that’s great to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met a single female at a public social, group thing.

We got it off very well and after the social we kept in touch, spoke about the 3 of us getting together for an evening.

We all shared in the discussion of what could happen, we all set our ground rules, discussed boundaries etc.

When we did finally meet for more it was a fantastic afternoon that continued into the early hours of the following morning.

As long as there's communication with everyone equally there shouldn't be any problems.

G&C

Thank you for sharing your experience, that’s great to hear "

You're welcome, bringing anyone into have some extra fun is all about communication, we made sure it was an equal thing, everyone has feelings and we wanted to have a good experience, not just for us but also for the single who joined

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