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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So.. a guy comes in chat on cam wanking,asks which one is on,reply just the male. He leaves the room. Comes back later. Same question. Both here. Watch me cum?. No ta. We are genuine swingers that prefer real meets. Leaves the room. He’s only been on the site 4 days so we message offering advice along the lines of… swinging is about playing the long game. Get to know people,sell your personality etc. Response… my battery is low. Back in chat 2 mins later. Watch me cum. Another couple say… we don’t watch wank cams. Blocked by us as is only after a quick thrill and no idea of swinging. Are we being unfair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. He just wants a couple (or female)to watch him wank. Who are you to tell him otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to be something that just needs to be put up with. Happens alot (maybe cos it's a free site?)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes. He just wants a couple (or female)to watch him wank. Who are you to tell him otherwise "
fair point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get your point totally, but in my view you are perhaps being a bit unfair. The fact is he will find a couple who will agree and who will watch him cum…… if it’s not your ‘thing’ then politely refuse and if he persists then you can be blunt, but I think advice should be limited to helping others find what they want, rather than risking being judgemental about what they want. Now you’ve started me off…… I also find it mildly offensive when people put on their profile ‘ and please no cock pics’ which is fine and should be respected, but they can’t help following it with something like ‘…..when will guys learn that cock pic are not going to turn anyone on, big no no..’

Trust me there are plenty on here who love a cock pic…plenty…rant over.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You were right to block him if what he wanted didn't suit what ye are looking for and if he paid no need to you telling him that.

However you were not right to tell him what he should do or look for on here in my opinion .People are on here for their own reasons and look for different things,just because it is not what ye want or look for doesn't make it wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get your point totally, but in my view you are perhaps being a bit unfair. The fact is he will find a couple who will agree and who will watch him cum…… if it’s not your ‘thing’ then politely refuse and if he persists then you can be blunt, but I think advice should be limited to helping others find what they want, rather than risking being judgemental about what they want. Now you’ve started me off…… I also find it mildly offensive when people put on their profile ‘ and please no cock pics’ which is fine and should be respected, but they can’t help following it with something like ‘…..when will guys learn that cock pic are not going to turn anyone on, big no no..’

Trust me there are plenty on here who love a cock pic…plenty…rant over."
also fair point. The whole purpose of the thread is to discuss. To us,it’s a swingers site(the clue is in the name) but I guess times have changed and we haven’t moved with them. But appreciate the feedback

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Why do you use the chat rooms?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do you use the chat rooms?"
to chat to friends and make new acquaintances. We don’t use directing rooms

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Why do you use the chat rooms?to chat to friends and make new acquaintances. We don’t use directing rooms"

I thought most of them would contain men wanking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do you use the chat rooms?to chat to friends and make new acquaintances. We don’t use directing rooms

I thought most of them would contain men wanking "
thats the whole point of directing rooms and non-directing rooms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have absolutely no idea how the cam/chat rooms work but just like anything we all have our kinks etc nothing wrong with blocking who ever you want to it’s your choice just like it’s his choice what he wants to do, that’s just my opinion though

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"So.. a guy comes in chat on cam wanking,asks which one is on,reply just the male. He leaves the room. Comes back later. Same question. Both here. Watch me cum?. No ta. We are genuine swingers that prefer real meets. Leaves the room. He’s only been on the site 4 days so we message offering advice along the lines of… swinging is about playing the long game. Get to know people,sell your personality etc. Response… my battery is low. Back in chat 2 mins later. Watch me cum. Another couple say… we don’t watch wank cams. Blocked by us as is only after a quick thrill and no idea of swinging. Are we being unfair?"
. You are on this site on your terms.If you feel it’s a block then it’s a block.However you are entitled to change your mind and it’s easy enough to unblock if you feel you have been hasty.

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By *layisbetterwithLaughterMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"So.. a guy comes in chat on cam wanking,asks which one is on,reply just the male. He leaves the room. Comes back later. Same question. Both here. Watch me cum?. No ta. We are genuine swingers that prefer real meets. Leaves the room. He’s only been on the site 4 days so we message offering advice along the lines of… swinging is about playing the long game. Get to know people,sell your personality etc. Response… my battery is low. Back in chat 2 mins later. Watch me cum. Another couple say… we don’t watch wank cams. Blocked by us as is only after a quick thrill and no idea of swinging. Are we being unfair?"

Absolutely not on the basis, that he keeps returning and asking the same question. If it is a one off then imo you would be being a tad harsh. But give the repetition and clearly not listening to the answer, then a block is reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"swinging is about playing the long game. Get to know people,sell your personality etc. "

sorry but thats a bit of swinging not the whole scene there are 1,000s of swingers who never have socials and who never go to clubs far more than those who do ..you dont see it on the forum as again its such a tiny tiny part of the scene ... swinging is basically having sex with other's weather your a couple or single others you like swinging is not all socials or the long game that a choice of some who swing..

if you go to a club and play thats no different than having a spontaneous meet at home ... there are no rules nobody owns the scene so you can give advice all day long if that not how they do it then they aint going to listen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"swinging is about playing the long game. Get to know people,sell your personality etc.

sorry but thats a bit of swinging not the whole scene there are 1,000s of swingers who never have socials and who never go to clubs far more than those who do ..you dont see it on the forum as again its such a tiny tiny part of the scene ... swinging is basically having sex with other's weather your a couple or single others you like swinging is not all socials or the long game that a choice of some who swing..

if you go to a club and play thats no different than having a spontaneous meet at home ... there are no rules nobody owns the scene so you can give advice all day long if that not how they do it then they aint going to listen "
as previously stated,all feedback welcomed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think that ultimately it's up to you. Everyone on here is looking for different things.

But you are entitled to block whomever you like without having to justify your reasons to anyone else. It just comes down to your own compass.

To get anywhere on here as a single guy you do need to develop a bit of a thick skin anyway, and that's fine in my opinion.

And for what it's worth I think you are justified if you'd already politely declined his offer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally, I think that ultimately it's up to you. Everyone on here is looking for different things.

But you are entitled to block whomever you like without having to justify your reasons to anyone else. It just comes down to your own compass.

To get anywhere on here as a single guy you do need to develop a bit of a thick skin anyway, and that's fine in my opinion.

And for what it's worth I think you are justified if you'd already politely declined his offer."
thankyou

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London


"So.. a guy comes in chat on cam wanking,asks which one is on,reply just the male. He leaves the room. Comes back later. Same question. Both here. Watch me cum?. No ta. We are genuine swingers that prefer real meets. Leaves the room. He’s only been on the site 4 days so we message offering advice along the lines of… swinging is about playing the long game. Get to know people,sell your personality etc. Response… my battery is low. Back in chat 2 mins later. Watch me cum. Another couple say… we don’t watch wank cams. Blocked by us as is only after a quick thrill and no idea of swinging. Are we being unfair?"

Sorry about that, I’d had a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But id also add that op you have to do what you want as its your way its what you and your hubs agree with ... we stay well clear of men on cams/chat rooms we stay well clear of any sex chat or porn scripted individuals ...sex chat is for the meet or dirty talk .... deffo not here to help guys wank but saying that there are plenty who a happy to do that too ... we do as we want to suit us if someone can fit into what we want then its fun around everybody have there own way

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Only to yourself should have blocked him first time

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

'Watch me cum?

What the fuck for? What for? Does something happen? I'm a bit lost on the intention. I don't watch window cleaners clean windows.

Fuck, I am a bit nieve on this one.

Tributes, ok.

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