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By *esi_maverick OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

When you browse profile whether it be couples or singles and you see that they’re of athletic or slim build do you feel they may be out of your depth when your an average build or slightly curvy

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No. I don't know what other people like

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Hi op. Not really. I’ve punched well above my weight on here many times.

I’m a fat old fart these days though - but I still seem to do ok. Obviously there are people out there who don’t find me attractive and don’t want to meet me though - it doesn’t really phase me to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you browse profile whether it be couples or singles and you see that they’re of athletic or slim build do you feel they may be out of your depth when your an average build or slightly curvy "

Sometimes, yeh! I also look at their veris and their photos - and compare! Only natural! The only thing is some of us, don’t have only one type! Do you find different people attractive for different reasons? Fabs taught me that you never know!! Send the message if you might be what they’re looking for! Have fun!

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By *esi_maverick OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

May be I should explain it a bit better

When you see the photos on their profiles and they look absolutely stunning where you could bounce a coin of their abs you feel dayum I wish I was athletic slim etc

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

No I don't. I also don't need to post threads to get validated.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"May be I should explain it a bit better

When you see the photos on their profiles and they look absolutely stunning where you could bounce a coin of their abs you feel dayum I wish I was athletic slim etc"

Nope because each experience is different

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By *esi_maverick OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

Yeah but the person whom you find attractive may only be looking for gym fit

I get this is a preference I guess you have to be confident about your own body

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"May be I should explain it a bit better

When you see the photos on their profiles and they look absolutely stunning where you could bounce a coin of their abs you feel dayum I wish I was athletic slim etc"

I can appreciate a young, taught body for sure but I don't wish I was like it. I do envy neat feet though, mine are small and chubby

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"When you browse profile whether it be couples or singles and you see that they’re of athletic or slim build do you feel they may be out of your depth when your an average build or slightly curvy "

Honest answer "all the time" .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"May be I should explain it a bit better

When you see the photos on their profiles and they look absolutely stunning where you could bounce a coin of their abs you feel dayum I wish I was athletic slim etc"

You look quite slim in your avatar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no im quiet happy to know the people that want to will message me and the ones that dont wont and thats cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at a lot of young fit guys and don't even bother to wink, let alone message

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By *outhwalesbbwWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend,

I do struggle to understand,why a gym fit guy,would be interested in a bigger woman.

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By *esi_maverick OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"May be I should explain it a bit better

When you see the photos on their profiles and they look absolutely stunning where you could bounce a coin of their abs you feel dayum I wish I was athletic slim etc

You look quite slim in your avatar "

Thank you for thinking I look slim I like to think I’m of slim build but I like to class my self as average

Wouldn’t want to scare anyone when I take my top off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive often wondered if some women have thought this about me, cos ive always thought im not exactly that high up on the "league table", despite being told im handsome, gorgeous etc. etc.

If a woman told me i was too good for her id be baffled and think she was joking

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I do struggle to understand,why a gym fit guy,would be interested in a bigger woman.

"

I think most guys only think about the pussy and not the human its connected to. Jo

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By *esi_maverick OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"I do struggle to understand,why a gym fit guy,would be interested in a bigger woman.

I think most guys only think about the pussy and not the human its connected to. Jo"

You may be right here we do however there should be some form of connection and attraction

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"May be I should explain it a bit better

When you see the photos on their profiles and they look absolutely stunning where you could bounce a coin of their abs you feel dayum I wish I was athletic slim etc

You look quite slim in your avatar

Thank you for thinking I look slim I like to think I’m of slim build but I like to class my self as average

Wouldn’t want to scare anyone when I take my top off "

No harm in a little self depreciation but never think other people are better than you just because of how they look

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By *esi_maverick OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

I’d like to think I’m handsome good looking some folk may beg to differ I guess but I’d never take it as an insult everyone has types and preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do struggle to understand,why a gym fit guy,would be interested in a bigger woman.

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We all have our preferences, i dont have a preference for a womans body but i like a bigger/curvy woman. Like many other guys i love the curves, the aesthetics of a curvy woman, feeling the curves in my hands, and curvy women give great cuddles

Its the same as women liking gym fit guys, the feel of their abs and muscles, the aesthetics of a well toned muscular body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you browse profile whether it be couples or singles and you see that they’re of athletic or slim build do you feel they may be out of your depth when your an average build or slightly curvy "
no one should feel out of their league we are all different and have different things to bring to the table. We are all unique. so in that way we are all equal

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Not sure if I find your post condescending or body shaming. I’ve met all sorts of body types and varying ages. The people I’ve met don’t judge, they have great personalities and are lovely people inside and out.

This isn’t about confidence in your own body or being ‘gym fit’, this is you making assumptions of what other people look for in a profile.

I was at a club recently when two people I know played together and the age gap was 28 years. They’d never have done so based on their profiles and ages. Don’t judge a book by its cover.

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By *esi_maverick OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Not sure if I find your post condescending or body shaming. I’ve met all sorts of body types and varying ages. The people I’ve met don’t judge, they have great personalities and are lovely people inside and out.

This isn’t about confidence in your own body or being ‘gym fit’, this is you making assumptions of what other people look for in a profile.

I was at a club recently when two people I know played together and the age gap was 28 years. They’d never have done so based on their profiles and ages. Don’t judge a book by its cover. "

This post is not got anything to do with body shaming apologies if it comes across to you that way

I was just seeking opinions and experiences to identify whether people whom don’t feel comfortable with in themselves to connect with folks whom are more attractive that the person in question

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Not out of my league, I wouldn't put it like that. In the main I think good on em, looking that way is clearly important to them and they'll probably want to match up with likeminded people in the same way I do and therefore not approach. I'm not approaching as I see them as out of my league but definitely see it as an unlikely match up. No body envy here, if I wanted that look I'd be a gym rat but I love food more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't. I also don't need to post threads to get validated."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if I find your post condescending or body shaming. I’ve met all sorts of body types and varying ages. The people I’ve met don’t judge, they have great personalities and are lovely people inside and out.

This isn’t about confidence in your own body or being ‘gym fit’, this is you making assumptions of what other people look for in a profile.

I was at a club recently when two people I know played together and the age gap was 28 years. They’d never have done so based on their profiles and ages. Don’t judge a book by its cover.

This post is not got anything to do with body shaming apologies if it comes across to you that way

I was just seeking opinions and experiences to identify whether people whom don’t feel comfortable with in themselves to connect with folks whom are more attractive that the person in question "

Attraction is subjective. Thanks… here all week…

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By *inkyKittyWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Well, if they specifically state on their profile any attributes they don’t like, that I have, I ignore.

If not, then fair game

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Yeah but the person whom you find attractive may only be looking for gym fit

I get this is a preference I guess you have to be confident about your own body "

Then obviously if it's only the fitness their is a option if a person chooses to regain their own as well so it doesn't become an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have worried about this and when we hear about sending photos to a club night to be accepted etc.

I think G is bloody gorgeous and as a couple I'd say we aren't ugly but when we read gym fit and athletic people wanted we don't feel we can message. X

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By *intybadgerWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire


"When you browse profile whether it be couples or singles and you see that they’re of athletic or slim build do you feel they may be out of your depth when your an average build or slightly curvy "

Hell yeah, all the time!

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

I think everyone is out of my league on here but as they said God loves a trier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can put me off those words gym fit

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If someone were looking for "gym fit" and stated it on their profile then I would pass them by and not give it another thought. I don't being in the whole "punching above" malarkey x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i wouldnt worry about it. you are what you are simples,

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Attraction is very subjective. In my opinion no one is out of anyone else's league, we just have different preferences.

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Honestly yes but I have been proven wrong more times than not my inbox says I’m wrong.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I like to think 'no1 is out of anyone's league' it's just:

1) You might have different preferences

2) Different circumstances (eg become rich & famous then all of a sudden people u thought where out of yor league are now chasing you)

3) Thinking like that only inflates the "out of your league person's ego"

We all sexy in our different ways, go for it

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