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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do some women think that all of us single men are desperate???

I rarely send messages out first, I’ve been here long enough now & I’ve only recently got over the depression of seeing unread messages in my sent box for months at time.

However if I do ever send a message first I always send a few faces pics, always. It’s Fab 101 but some Women & Couples think they can send you one line messages and then demand a face pic.

Again, I’ve been here long enough to know that this is your domain & you have the run of things, but some of us men like to play the game too and have some interaction and conversation.

Any other men experience this too?

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough

So we wouldn’t ever ask for a face pic if we weren’t willing to send one ourselves. But getting that bit out the way early Is preferable to be honest. No point in getting caught up in loads of conversation if neither one of us finds the other attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate to say this,but I have no idea what you ate trying to say sounds like you’ve tangled some points together

Please elaborate

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

You'll get people from all groups males, females, couples that have an air of entitlement

Ignore and move on, if they are like that in a message imagine what they'd be like in real life, don't bow to their demands it just encourages poor behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have a simple rule if you message us you do the face pic first if we message you then we send ours ..

and we do it early as its a complete waste of time if theres no sexual attraction as we are here to meet not chit chat for no reason ...

if the site is causing you depression then maybe a break is needed until you feel better..

nothing is a given on this scene your either what other people want or not its all pretty blunt really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll get people from all groups males, females, couples that have an air of entitlement

Ignore and move on, if they are like that in a message imagine what they'd be like in real life, don't bow to their demands it just encourages poor behaviour "

no one should bow to anyones demand but also no one should change what others are looking for ..you either fit or you dont nothing wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

got to add your profile looks good you look great i dont think your going to have too much of a problem on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some women think that all of us single men are desperate???

I rarely send messages out first, I’ve been here long enough now & I’ve only recently got over the depression of seeing unread messages in my sent box for months at time.

However if I do ever send a message first I always send a few faces pics, always. It’s Fab 101 but some Women & Couples think they can send you one line messages and then demand a face pic.

Again, I’ve been here long enough to know that this is your domain & you have the run of things, but some of us men like to play the game too and have some interaction and conversation.

Any other men experience this too?"

Just like all me aren't desperate not all women or couples will send you one line messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we have a simple rule if you message us you do the face pic first if we message you then we send ours ..

and we do it early as its a complete waste of time if theres no sexual attraction as we are here to meet not chit chat for no reason ...

if the site is causing you depression then maybe a break is needed until you feel better..

nothing is a given on this scene your either what other people want or not its all pretty blunt really"

That’s also my simple rule too. I send a picture in my first message. I’m fully aware I may not be everyone’s cup of tea and I’m fine with that but I think it just helps people make up there minds without having to wonder who they’re speaking to.

Just reading back over that part and due to me having actually suffered from depression I shouldn’t have but that but was only a joke. I use Fab for fun and escape from my busy life.

Also wanted to just say I rarely make negative post like this and use the Forums to chat and have fun with like minded people.

However I was literally speaking with a couple earlier today. They winked, I winked back (as you do) they messaged “Hi how are you”.

Now straight away that’s the first red flag, but totally fine at the same time if you get what I mean. I respond “fine thanks and how are you guys”

They then continue to follow up with one word answers followed question’s like “what would you do” & “how bi are you” which I was almost speechless as I’ve never been asked those two questions before. I continued to give the benefit of the doubt but the straw that broke the camels back was when they asked me for a face pic.

Don’t know why but that sent me over the edge and I came right back into the Forum to vent, having read how bad us single men are over the years today was the day I’d add my two cents in the matter.

I’m fine now not spoken to them since. Jheeze Louise

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough


"we have a simple rule if you message us you do the face pic first if we message you then we send ours ..

and we do it early as its a complete waste of time if theres no sexual attraction as we are here to meet not chit chat for no reason ...

if the site is causing you depression then maybe a break is needed until you feel better..

nothing is a given on this scene your either what other people want or not its all pretty blunt really

That’s also my simple rule too. I send a picture in my first message. I’m fully aware I may not be everyone’s cup of tea and I’m fine with that but I think it just helps people make up there minds without having to wonder who they’re speaking to.

Just reading back over that part and due to me having actually suffered from depression I shouldn’t have but that but was only a joke. I use Fab for fun and escape from my busy life.

Also wanted to just say I rarely make negative post like this and use the Forums to chat and have fun with like minded people.

However I was literally speaking with a couple earlier today. They winked, I winked back (as you do) they messaged “Hi how are you”.

Now straight away that’s the first red flag, but totally fine at the same time if you get what I mean. I respond “fine thanks and how are you guys”

They then continue to follow up with one word answers followed question’s like “what would you do” & “how bi are you” which I was almost speechless as I’ve never been asked those two questions before. I continued to give the benefit of the doubt but the straw that broke the camels back was when they asked me for a face pic.

Don’t know why but that sent me over the edge and I came right back into the Forum to vent, having read how bad us single men are over the years today was the day I’d add my two cents in the matter.

I’m fine now not spoken to them since. Jheeze Louise"

So, can I ask, what kind of conversation are you after? I don’t get why there opening message was a red flag, asking how you are? Yeah sure, some people don’t like that question for what ever reason. But a red flag? You’d both winked so shown interest, so asking how you are surely isn’t that odd?

everyone’s different on this site. Some like to go straight in with upfront questions, to see if you’re compatible, others like to flirt a little and be able to have conversations about anything and everything. There’s no template that categorises people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some women think that all of us single men are desperate???

I rarely send messages out first, I’ve been here long enough now & I’ve only recently got over the depression of seeing unread messages in my sent box for months at time.

However if I do ever send a message first I always send a few faces pics, always. It’s Fab 101 but some Women & Couples think they can send you one line messages and then demand a face pic.

Again, I’ve been here long enough to know that this is your domain & you have the run of things, but some of us men like to play the game too and have some interaction and conversation.

Any other men experience this too?

Just like all me aren't desperate not all women or couples will send you one line messages"

I hear you Projectslut, Touché

Then reads the one line response over again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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So, can I ask, what kind of conversation are you after? I don’t get why there opening message was a red flag, asking how you are? Yeah sure, some people don’t like that question for what ever reason. But a red flag? You’d both winked so shown interest, so asking how you are surely isn’t that odd? "

Of course you can ask… I said it was a red flag based on past experience with those type of messages & I feel justified for my initial reaction or red flag.

I guess I based it from how I tend to try and start a conversation and although I felt it was a red flag I answered and gave them the benefit is the doubt and the one liners didn’t stop in fact it got worse. “How Bi are you”

It wasn’t the so much of the how are you and don’t know if you will get this, but I felt the arrogance through the phone, lol that’s the best way I can describe it.

Anyway not all Women & Couple's are the same

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough


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So, can I ask, what kind of conversation are you after? I don’t get why there opening message was a red flag, asking how you are? Yeah sure, some people don’t like that question for what ever reason. But a red flag? You’d both winked so shown interest, so asking how you are surely isn’t that odd?

Of course you can ask… I said it was a red flag based on past experience with those type of messages & I feel justified for my initial reaction or red flag.

I guess I based it from how I tend to try and start a conversation and although I felt it was a red flag I answered and gave them the benefit is the doubt and the one liners didn’t stop in fact it got worse. “How Bi are you”

It wasn’t the so much of the how are you and don’t know if you will get this, but I felt the arrogance through the phone, lol that’s the best way I can describe it.

Anyway not all Women & Couple's are the same "

That’s cool, sometimes you do just get a ‘feeling’ of how somethings going to go from the initial message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That’s cool, sometimes you do just get a ‘feeling’ of how somethings going to go from the initial message. "

They had a good profile too decent write up and a few nice pics. I bet it just the Husband speaking.

Wife will probably kick his arse later…

“what have I told you about messaging without me present”

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough


"That’s cool, sometimes you do just get a ‘feeling’ of how somethings going to go from the initial message.

They had a good profile too decent write up and a few nice pics. I bet it just the Husband speaking.

Wife will probably kick his arse later…

“what have I told you about messaging without me present” "

I have to have that conversation with my husband sometimes when he gets a bit ‘wink’ happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Us men love having a good wink

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough


"

Us men love having a good wink"

Oh I realised

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Not sure it's all one-way traffic you seem a little of the the hork.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Looking at your pics and profile op you will not struggle for meets on here. Just stay positive ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly because as an overall this site has many more single men than women or couples, so of course the guys will need to come across in a certain way to get attention.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

The only thing that would put us off is the 420 in your hand in one of your pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure it's all one-way traffic you seem a little of the the hork."

Not quite sure what that means or if it was a typo, or even if it was for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your pics and profile op you will not struggle for meets on here. Just stay positive ok "

Thanks guys and yes I’ll stay positive as per usual, just abit of a rant but it’s all good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only thing that would put us off is the 420 in your hand in one of your pics. "

I totally get that and it’s not for everyone. I’d never use 420 before/during a meet if the other person didn’t smoke or like it.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Not sure it's all one-way traffic you seem a little of the the hork.

Not quite sure what that means or if it was a typo, or even if it was for me "

Yes a typo ( Hook ) my suggestion is you attract the crazy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure it's all one-way traffic you seem a little of the the hork.

Not quite sure what that means or if it was a typo, or even if it was for me

Yes a typo ( Hook ) my suggestion is you attract the crazy."

What about my profiles makes you think I’m off the hook and what does that mean if you don’t mind abit of clarification?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Not sure it's all one-way traffic you seem a little of the the hork.

Not quite sure what that means or if it was a typo, or even if it was for me

Yes a typo ( Hook ) my suggestion is you attract the crazy.

What about my profiles makes you think I’m off the hook and what does that mean if you don’t mind abit of clarification? "

Drugs way to long and boring.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure it's all one-way traffic you seem a little of the the hork.

Not quite sure what that means or if it was a typo, or even if it was for me

Yes a typo ( Hook ) my suggestion is you attract the crazy.

What about my profiles makes you think I’m off the hook and what does that mean if you don’t mind abit of clarification?

Drugs way to long and boring. "

That’s a fair enough opinion from your perspective. As it’s been flagged and as a respectable smoker I’ve actually replace that pic now to something abit more appropriate and less illegal shall we say.

Keeping the profile long and boring I’m afraid as it see it as a way of keeping the time wasters at bay. Those that are interested find it informative open and honest and most of all I like it.

Thanks guys

Happy Fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't think 420 would mix well with getting horny & rampant.? Doesn't have the opposite effect & make u chill out..?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Didn't think 420 would mix well with getting horny & rampant.? Doesn't have the opposite effect & make u chill out..? "

Unfortunately there still seems to be a lot of misconceptions surrounding Cannabis. Much like alcohol it has different affects on different people, and there’s different strains for different affects.

You’ll be surprised at how uplifting and almost energetic some strains can make you. Not to mention the health benefits, maybe not so much smoking it but Cannabis has been described as a miracle plant in some circles both scientifically and medically.

I understand it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but would much prefer being stoned than d*unk or sniffed up, but that’s just my personal preference. Also I’m a respectful smoker and wouldn’t meet anyone who didn’t like it smelling of smoke or under the affects, unless they didn’t mind of course

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s legal status doesn’t help with my argument which I understand. Hopefully they will one day make it legal to consume it in the UK like they done in many parts all over the world.

It causes a lot less harm than alcohol does which is a legal drug that we all enjoy from time to time

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Every message I send I delete, I don't know whether they've been read or not, replies are nice, non-replies I'm none the wiser. Out of sight out of mind approach works just fine for me and like you op I'm neither desperate and know my worth, very much view any meet as two way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If somebody messages us, they should be prepared to send a face pic when asked. No point in wasting everyone’s time if there’s no immediate attraction generally

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Didn't think 420 would mix well with getting horny & rampant.? Doesn't have the opposite effect & make u chill out..?

Unfortunately there still seems to be a lot of misconceptions surrounding Cannabis. Much like alcohol it has different affects on different people, and there’s different strains for different affects.

You’ll be surprised at how uplifting and almost energetic some strains can make you. Not to mention the health benefits, maybe not so much smoking it but Cannabis has been described as a miracle plant in some circles both scientifically and medically.

I understand it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but would much prefer being stoned than d*unk or sniffed up, but that’s just my personal preference. Also I’m a respectful smoker and wouldn’t meet anyone who didn’t like it smelling of smoke or under the affects, unless they didn’t mind of course "

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