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I am only 10 mintues away....

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By *heAddams OP   Couple
over a year ago

corbridge

We (or I guess they are mainly directed at Jill) often get messages along the lines of

"I am only 10 minutes away from you"

"I live just round the corner"

And many other variations on the same theme.

What is it that makes men think that the fact they are close makes them more attractive?

When I have asked them to explain, I just get abuse.

I am genuinely interested in trying to understand their mindset?

Hey ho.

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By *ess JinksWoman
over a year ago

West coast

I actively don't want people that are too local. Plus I usually need more than 10 minutes of prep time.

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By *tockport_slutWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

Had loads of these messages, another frustration of mine along with people who don't read profiles

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I usually respond with

"Make sure you lock your doors, it's a rough neighbourhood'

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I’m miles away from you sorry couldn’t resist

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By *heAddams OP   Couple
over a year ago

corbridge


"I’m miles away from you sorry couldn’t resist"

lol - thanks for the implied offer anyway!

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"I’m miles away from you sorry couldn’t resist

lol - thanks for the implied offer anyway! "

No it’s another common one that gets used as if I/ us blokes stand any chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get plenty of these type of messages as we live abroad and people on holiday use the whos near function.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live in the coast of North Devon so I get a lot of message from guys that say they are only "10 minutes" or "just down the road", where they in Wales so probably about 4 hours away and 170 miles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We (or I guess they are mainly directed at Jill) often get messages along the lines of

"I am only 10 minutes away from you"

"I live just round the corner"

And many other variations on the same theme.

What is it that makes men think that the fact they are close makes them more attractive?

When I have asked them to explain, I just get abuse.

I am genuinely interested in trying to understand their mindset?

Hey ho. "

Rest assured, I am not 10-mins... from (you's) lol.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I won't let you down" I think it means

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...


"I live in the coast of North Devon so I get a lot of message from guys that say they are only "10 minutes" or "just down the road", where they in Wales so probably about 4 hours away and 170 miles.

"

But it's just a bit of water... What's the issue?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


""I won't let you down" I think it means"

Not sure, we read it as 'i need to empty my sack' and as your a couple on here will be doing you a favour..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I live in the coast of North Devon so I get a lot of message from guys that say they are only "10 minutes" or "just down the road", where they in Wales so probably about 4 hours away and 170 miles.

But it's just a bit of water... What's the issue? "

By the time they have swam the Severn estuary they will not have much energy left for a good selection. Lol xx

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By *athers123Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Some thing's happen very spontaneously so it's basically an offer of the possibility of a spontaneous meet. Not everyone operated in the same way as you OP where you probably like things more organized.

It's sort of like fishing really, cast a lot of nets and catch some fish.

There's a real intolerance in fab from people being approached in ways they don't approve of. We're all strangers to each other until we aren't so it's hard to tailor a different approach to every individual we've never met. The strange thing to me is people using Fab to open up a line of communication into them and then disapproving of what arrives in it.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Some thing's happen very spontaneously so it's basically an offer of the possibility of a spontaneous meet. Not everyone operated in the same way as you OP where you probably like things more organized.

It's sort of like fishing really, cast a lot of nets and catch some fish.

There's a real intolerance in fab from people being approached in ways they don't approve of. We're all strangers to each other until we aren't so it's hard to tailor a different approach to every individual we've never met. The strange thing to me is people using Fab to open up a line of communication into them and then disapproving of what arrives in it."

Granted a lot of what you say is true and for many spontaneity hits the spot but when something is writ large on a profile and blatantly ignored it only serves to indicate a lack of respect for the recipient..

Some don't, probably never have or never will tailor any sort of approach to others and that works both ways across all dynamics of course..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We (or I guess they are mainly directed at Jill) often get messages along the lines of

"I am only 10 minutes away from you"

"I live just round the corner"

And many other variations on the same theme.

What is it that makes men think that the fact they are close makes them more attractive?

When I have asked them to explain, I just get abuse.

I am genuinely interested in trying to understand their mindset?

Hey ho. "

I usually say hold on, let me just move further away then

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By *x cplCouple
over a year ago

North of Oxford

Its these sort of messages why we only meet at clubs now..even though so many guys don't read profiles..almost makes us want to go to no public pics .

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I would only send a message if they were actively looking for a meet, with a TV, I was dressed, out and about and 10 minutes away.

So far, that’s never happened as generally if I’m dressed I’m out at a club or social. Obviously I do look on the way home, but yet to be tempted

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land


"We (or I guess they are mainly directed at Jill) often get messages along the lines of

"I am only 10 minutes away from you"

"I live just round the corner"

And many other variations on the same theme.

What is it that makes men think that the fact they are close makes them more attractive?

When I have asked them to explain, I just get abuse.

I am genuinely interested in trying to understand their mindset?

Hey ho. "

I'm 140 miles away do I must be fucking ugly!

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By *athers123Man
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Some thing's happen very spontaneously so it's basically an offer of the possibility of a spontaneous meet. Not everyone operated in the same way as you OP where you probably like things more organized.

It's sort of like fishing really, cast a lot of nets and catch some fish.

There's a real intolerance in fab from people being approached in ways they don't approve of. We're all strangers to each other until we aren't so it's hard to tailor a different approach to every individual we've never met. The strange thing to me is people using Fab to open up a line of communication into them and then disapproving of what arrives in it.

Granted a lot of what you say is true and for many spontaneity hits the spot but when something is writ large on a profile and blatantly ignored it only serves to indicate a lack of respect for the recipient..

Some don't, probably never have or never will tailor any sort of approach to others and that works both ways across all dynamics of course.."

Yeah that's true too. As you mention, these people give themselves away very quickly and get the responses they deserve. Maybe some will learn through these responses and all we see is the ones that don't unfortunately.

Guess we should all applaud a well considered approach in future.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its not a out them being more attractive. Its because they want a warm wet hole and assume that everyone else wants the same thing, hence being close/local is a good thing.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Some thing's happen very spontaneously so it's basically an offer of the possibility of a spontaneous meet. Not everyone operated in the same way as you OP where you probably like things more organized.

It's sort of like fishing really, cast a lot of nets and catch some fish.

There's a real intolerance in fab from people being approached in ways they don't approve of. We're all strangers to each other until we aren't so it's hard to tailor a different approach to every individual we've never met. The strange thing to me is people using Fab to open up a line of communication into them and then disapproving of what arrives in it.

Granted a lot of what you say is true and for many spontaneity hits the spot but when something is writ large on a profile and blatantly ignored it only serves to indicate a lack of respect for the recipient..

Some don't, probably never have or never will tailor any sort of approach to others and that works both ways across all dynamics of course..

Yeah that's true too. As you mention, these people give themselves away very quickly and get the responses they deserve. Maybe some will learn through these responses and all we see is the ones that don't unfortunately.

Guess we should all applaud a well considered approach in future."

Agree yes, it sort of makes you cynical after a while but certainly the latter point works..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Try living in a holiday destination with a couple of nearby caravan parks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try living in a holiday destination with a couple of nearby caravan parks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She has to bring a friend because I have plenty of bottles and expect cake. I'll reimburse for cake material obviously

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