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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport

Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant "

The majority do not read profiles - fact.

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant

The majority do not read profiles - fact."

Yup

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I totally agree with this post. The amount of guys that offer to "pound my pussy" when it clearly states on my profile I only like anal sex is ridiculous.

I usually just block.

The same guys send the same messages over and over. Never reading profiles. Asking what I'm into. It says all on my profile x

Mrs N

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"I totally agree with this post. The amount of guys that offer to "pound my pussy" when it clearly states on my profile I only like anal sex is ridiculous.

I usually just block.

The same guys send the same messages over and over. Never reading profiles. Asking what I'm into. It says all on my profile x

Mrs N"

My favourite at the moment is the guys that intell no to and then they try again a week or so later

Like they think I've forgotten about them and my preferences

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?"

My preference, my rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because as someone so eloquently said to me yesterday: “we’RE aLl hErE bECaUsE we’RE hOrnY”

So no point in taking time to put your preferences and a bit of information on what you’d like from the site, because the reality is you should just be grateful that you’re being offered a shag I think

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"Because as someone so eloquently said to me yesterday: “we’RE aLl hErE bECaUsE we’RE hOrnY”

So no point in taking time to put your preferences and a bit of information on what you’d like from the site, because the reality is you should just be grateful that you’re being offered a shag I think "

Haha

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant "

I had exactly the same when I was looking specifically for a bi guy (I find them more fun, too). Only when I got really blunt in my replies, saying that I at least expect them to be fine with sucking cock/being sucked while I watch (or sth similar), some men realised I meant business.

Also, whenever I say I'm going to Greenhouse sauna (predominantly gay sauna), I'd have loads of "straight" men in my inbox wanting to meet me there.

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By *w5kerriTV/TS
over a year ago

SIN BIN CITY

The bloke who's 100% certain that he'll change the sexual preferences that you've internally deliberated over and honed over your ENTIRE FKN LIFE after an encounter with him and his winky
"I totally agree with this post. The amount of guys that offer to "pound my pussy" when it clearly states on my profile I only like anal sex is ridiculous.

I usually just block.

The same guys send the same messages over and over. Never reading profiles. Asking what I'm into. It says all on my profile x

Mrs N

My favourite at the moment is the guys that intell no to and then they try again a week or so later

Like they think I've forgotten about them and my preferences "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I take comfort in the fact that if I've filled in my profile, I've given them the tools they need to succeed.

The fact that they don't, isn't my problem. Bye!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear that its frustrating to write a description when it feels like no one reads it. But the good news is, the people who dont read it wont see it, so you can write it for the people who do read it! I cant tell you how annoying it is when I read a profile description that says "no one reads so Im not writing"... Literally the only people who see that are the ones who read profiles!

It wont stop people who dont read profiles messaging you, but it will encourage people who do read profiles to message you if they think you are a good match. I dont message anyone (at all, ever) on the basis of their photos. I dont even look at the photos until after I have read their profile and feel interested, and most people dont say enough for me to be interested.

A different perspective!

Fay x

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant

I had exactly the same when I was looking specifically for a bi guy (I find them more fun, too). Only when I got really blunt in my replies, saying that I at least expect them to be fine with sucking cock/being sucked while I watch (or sth similar), some men realised I meant business.

Also, whenever I say I'm going to Greenhouse sauna (predominantly gay sauna), I'd have loads of "straight" men in my inbox wanting to meet me there. "

Yes had that too regarding meets, me and a bi male mate

Usually something like:

Guy:Would to join you

Me:ok but you need to play with a bi male

Guy Eeeeew no that's gross... Just meet me I'm more then enough for you

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant

I had exactly the same when I was looking specifically for a bi guy (I find them more fun, too). Only when I got really blunt in my replies, saying that I at least expect them to be fine with sucking cock/being sucked while I watch (or sth similar), some men realised I meant business.

Also, whenever I say I'm going to Greenhouse sauna (predominantly gay sauna), I'd have loads of "straight" men in my inbox wanting to meet me there.

Yes had that too regarding meets, me and a bi male mate

Usually something like:

Guy:Would to join you

Me:ok but you need to play with a bi male

Guy Eeeeew no that's gross... Just meet me I'm more then enough for you

"

Lol. I then usually tell them I'm greedy and one man is not enough

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant

I had exactly the same when I was looking specifically for a bi guy (I find them more fun, too). Only when I got really blunt in my replies, saying that I at least expect them to be fine with sucking cock/being sucked while I watch (or sth similar), some men realised I meant business.

Also, whenever I say I'm going to Greenhouse sauna (predominantly gay sauna), I'd have loads of "straight" men in my inbox wanting to meet me there.

Yes had that too regarding meets, me and a bi male mate

Usually something like:

Guy:Would to join you

Me:ok but you need to play with a bi male

Guy Eeeeew no that's gross... Just meet me I'm more then enough for you

Lol. I then usually tell them I'm greedy and one man is not enough "

Haha I might use that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules "

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it.....

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By *urious_Couple20Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

I think it's a shame that people don't read profiles but it also shows their intentions.

I LOVE reading profiles... even if they're not people I intend to message. But that's because I find people interesting and love learning about people. But as many have said on here... it seems some feel that they're offering a great service in dropping a message and letting you know that you're lucky enough to be on their "want to fuck" list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a shame that people don't read profiles but it also shows their intentions.

I LOVE reading profiles... even if they're not people I intend to message. But that's because I find people interesting and love learning about people. But as many have said on here... it seems some feel that they're offering a great service in dropping a message and letting you know that you're lucky enough to be on their "want to fuck" list "

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it..... "

Good point, totally missed that

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"I think it's a shame that people don't read profiles but it also shows their intentions.

I LOVE reading profiles... even if they're not people I intend to message. But that's because I find people interesting and love learning about people. But as many have said on here... it seems some feel that they're offering a great service in dropping a message and letting you know that you're lucky enough to be on their "want to fuck" list "

Glad it's not just me that does read them too

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant

I had exactly the same when I was looking specifically for a bi guy (I find them more fun, too). Only when I got really blunt in my replies, saying that I at least expect them to be fine with sucking cock/being sucked while I watch (or sth similar), some men realised I meant business.

Also, whenever I say I'm going to Greenhouse sauna (predominantly gay sauna), I'd have loads of "straight" men in my inbox wanting to meet me there.

Yes had that too regarding meets, me and a bi male mate

Usually something like:

Guy:Would to join you

Me:ok but you need to play with a bi male

Guy Eeeeew no that's gross... Just meet me I'm more then enough for you

"

Good to know the way I play is gross. Sorry, we're not compatible.

Bye!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’ve done my best to write my profile and it’s fairly short. Everything is there.

The ball is now in their court - they’re wasting their time, not mine as I will delete the message if I find out they haven’t read my profile.

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By *eediousMan
over a year ago

Smallville

Ok some of us actually read profiles.

I find that when I start to read someone’s profile and I get to the point where they become delusional or self-importance starts to creep into the wording, I stop reading and I move on. That clearly tells me they aren’t going to be fun anyway.

A lot of women take themselves way too seriously on here. Sometimes, I wonder if they want to have fun at all.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

I do like a good profile, which to my mind gives a little insight into the person/couple and clearly indicates must haves / red lines.

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By *ero_for_funMan
over a year ago

cardiff


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant "

Probably already been covered but if they dont want to read, thats on them and they wont get the response theyre looking for. Frankly its a waste of everyones time not to. 2 minutes of reading saves a lot of effort later.

Also OP, you make me want to pop back home to Hyde for a visit at some point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

woah you meen that there are words on peoples profiles not just foof pics and bums and a send message regardless button

I am in shock

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"I hear that its frustrating to write a description when it feels like no one reads it. But the good news is, the people who dont read it wont see it, so you can write it for the people who do read it! I cant tell you how annoying it is when I read a profile description that says "no one reads so Im not writing"... Literally the only people who see that are the ones who read profiles!

It wont stop people who dont read profiles messaging you, but it will encourage people who do read profiles to message you if they think you are a good match. I dont message anyone (at all, ever) on the basis of their photos. I dont even look at the photos until after I have read their profile and feel interested, and most people dont say enough for me to be interested.

A different perspective!

Fay x"

Agree completely.

It's frustrating when people don't read a profile. It's the most effective filter.

But the frustration would never influence me to put anything less than me in my text. If I did, the responses would only be worse and I would have a hand in that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awesome thread.

I also think pineapple should be on pizza.

(Fairly sure it's about this. I haven't actually read the thread tho).

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules "

That’s the correct answer and hope they stick to it

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it..... "

I did read that and I was wondering why they where more fun so there is no need to be arsey

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it.....

I did read that and I was wondering why they where more fun so there is no need to be arsey"

Was there really any need in asking me in a private message too

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it.....

I did read that and I was wondering why they where more fun so there is no need to be arsey

Was there really any need in asking me in a private message too "

If you read the private message properly you would of understood it was a joking question aimed at folk who don’t read them so sorry for trying to lighten the mood

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"[Removed by poster at 24/06/22 12:08:46]"

If that’s the way you feel

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport

Just had this nice response

"I havent got bi sexual because i dont want people knowing fuckall but whats that to you with your stinking attitude you need a good dick you"

Such a charming man, makes me so wet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can all state our preferences and choose what to share.

But it is a shame that guys are a lot more comfortable sharing a desire for pussy, but often tend to choose not to share if they have a desire for cock.

That's not a judgement on the ppl choosing to not disclose. I totally get it. Been there. But that societal backdrop is still there.

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By *eediousMan
over a year ago

Smallville


"Just had this nice response

"I havent got bi sexual because i dont want people knowing fuckall but whats that to you with your stinking attitude you need a good dick you"

Such a charming man, makes me so wet "

Yeah, a charming man who doesn’t give two fucks about punctuation. Or maybe he is saving them for a rainy day

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By *onaldandjacquelineCouple
over a year ago

wirral

We agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling, it says on my profile that I like a man to take control in the bedroom, but most of my message are the exact opposite to what I am looking for.

I do have a couples profile and it says we only meet up with bi men but still get messages from straight guys. X

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By *otandhorny43Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Completely agree with the post, the amount of straight single guys we get messages from is verging on the ridiculous... and the amount that say they’re “bicurious but don’t put it on their profile” is even more ridiculous

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Agree Op, same problem I have on my profile who is like to meet and definitely no straight guys. So 50% of my messages are from straight blokes.

They’re either wanting to ‘experiment’ am I some sort of laboratory animal ? or they’re hiding it from wife or women on here.

I’m only interested in people who are used to being around TV’s, it makes it more fun for us all and a lot less embarrassing after we finish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can usually tell right away when I open a message if the guy has read my profile , if they haven't I just delete/block.We write profiles for a reason which is to filter/indicate the interaction you're looking for .. its frustrating when you can tell point blank they haven't. In my profile I have if you send me an introductory message with your dick pic I will block you ....lo and behold flooded with hi here's my dick messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree Op, same problem I have on my profile who is like to meet and definitely no straight guys. So 50% of my messages are from straight blokes.

They’re either wanting to ‘experiment’ am I some sort of laboratory animal ? or they’re hiding it from wife or women on here.

I’m only interested in people who are used to being around TV’s, it makes it more fun for us all and a lot less embarrassing after we finish. "
I can relate ...on the experiment bit...I get tons of message that start hi I've never been with a black lady before it's the ultimate turn off for me

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We get our fair share of vouyers. Title heading say's, "No just watchers reqiired".

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By *ouseofhoneyCouple
over a year ago

North West

It's crazy how many singles actually miss out by not literally taking 2mins to read a profile...

Especially when it starts with 'I read your profile and it sounds intriguing' then just chat utter shit

I think most must just send out the same generic message to 100 accounts a night in case they strike gold with one

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it.....

I did read that and I was wondering why they where more fun so there is no need to be arsey"

Let me reply to why bi men are more fun. In my experience, bi men are much more relaxed, not just about their own sexuality but about many other things in life. And they don't get threatened when there is another man around, they might even play with them. It's very hot to watch then!

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I just use it as a good filter op and delete messages when they've clearly not read my profile.

Or they've read it and think it won't apply to them ie I know I'm a bit too far/young /I smoke etc .

They're wasting their own time.

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By *intsizedpocketrocketsCouple
over a year ago

Stafford


"I hear that its frustrating to write a description when it feels like no one reads it. But the good news is, the people who dont read it wont see it, so you can write it for the people who do read it! I cant tell you how annoying it is when I read a profile description that says "no one reads so Im not writing"... Literally the only people who see that are the ones who read profiles!

It wont stop people who dont read profiles messaging you, but it will encourage people who do read profiles to message you if they think you are a good match. I dont message anyone (at all, ever) on the basis of their photos. I dont even look at the photos until after I have read their profile and feel interested, and most people dont say enough for me to be interested.

A different perspective!

Fay x"

A different perspective but the one that we share too! Got to say it works for us!

Ax

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"I totally agree with this post. The amount of guys that offer to "pound my pussy" when it clearly states on my profile I only like anal sex is ridiculous.

I usually just block.

The same guys send the same messages over and over. Never reading profiles. Asking what I'm into. It says all on my profile x

Mrs N

My favourite at the moment is the guys that intell no to and then they try again a week or so later

Like they think I've forgotten about them and my preferences "

Totally agree with this.

Happens so often

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it.....

I did read that and I was wondering why they where more fun so there is no need to be arsey

Let me reply to why bi men are more fun. In my experience, bi men are much more relaxed, not just about their own sexuality but about many other things in life. And they don't get threatened when there is another man around, they might even play with them. It's very hot to watch then! "

No problem yes I won’t wank or suck another bloke off while with a women I agree with that but we still can be fun

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it.....

I did read that and I was wondering why they where more fun so there is no need to be arsey

Let me reply to why bi men are more fun. In my experience, bi men are much more relaxed, not just about their own sexuality but about many other things in life. And they don't get threatened when there is another man around, they might even play with them. It's very hot to watch then!

No problem yes I won’t wank or suck another bloke off while with a women I agree with that but we still can be fun"

You are missing the point. Neither myself nor the OP are saying straight guys are not fun. However, our PREFERENCE is bi guys as we are finding them more fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing more annoying than people not reading a profile…. Or is there, the things I hate are the one word messages that are often in text speak.

I know people live in an instant world now but a bit of effort and manners goes a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mfs who don’t read my profile get an instant block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant "

I am in exactly the same boat, I get hundreds of messages everyday from guys with straight on their profile, when I tell them I am only interested in guys that are bi, they suddenly change their sexuality and claim they are bi along with some poor excuse as to why their profile says straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't read the profile but I assume its Christmas cumming early. Where do I sign up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Silly question but why is it you only go for bi guys?

My preference, my rules

and you said in your first reply, 'they are more fun' isn't that the answer, perhaps he didnt read it.....

I did read that and I was wondering why they where more fun so there is no need to be arsey

Let me reply to why bi men are more fun. In my experience, bi men are much more relaxed, not just about their own sexuality but about many other things in life. And they don't get threatened when there is another man around, they might even play with them. It's very hot to watch then!

No problem yes I won’t wank or suck another bloke off while with a women I agree with that but we still can be fun

You are missing the point. Neither myself nor the OP are saying straight guys are not fun. However, our PREFERENCE is bi guys as we are finding them more fun. "
#notallbi #notallstraight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think mines probably to long to bother getting to the bottom of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't claim to be a master Fab user, but I do like reading profiles. I never know what to message if I don't, I prefer to get an idea of what they're looking from from their profile first. Also, reading them often involves reading women talking about horny they are, and I'm never not going to want to do that

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

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"Honestly I'm wondering why I filled mine out. My preference is bi guys (they are more fun )

Yet the amount of straight guys that message saying they have read me profile ridiculous

And don't get me started on the I'm bi but I don't put it on my profile types

Sorry for the morning rant

The majority do not read profiles - fact."

Yep.

Lots of rude pricks on here.

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport

Honestly the amount of guys that don't read my profile in the last is unreal. A number of them resorted to abuse afterwards too

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By *orthmanMan
over a year ago

Kendal


"Honestly the amount of guys that don't read my profile in the last is unreal. A number of them resorted to abuse afterwards too

"

I religiously read profiles and use them for part of their intended purpose, which is so as not to contact those for whom there are obvious differences between criteria.

Thus I would never approach the OP, because I am a 100% not bi.

I will however sometimes message people in cases where I am outside, but not too far outside, their age preferences, if they have not set an age block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be frustrating, we've had stated on our profile that we are currently not looking and will update profile when we are.

The amount of messages claiming to have read our profile and they believe they are what we are looking for. (shrugs).

Then when we were looking, we described exactly what we were looking for, the kind of guy, the scenario we hoped to achieve etc.

Then there's the messages of ....... What are you looking for.

I sometimes reply something like ......... Profile expresses what we're looking for, please feel free to read and if you believe we match, get back to us.

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport

Another good one I've just seen

"But I have a fab guys account"

So

Not like I can look is it

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By *hicDragon08Man
over a year ago

Woodbridge

I mean i can unserstand that the relentlessness can be exhausting but surely this is flattering right?

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"I mean i can unserstand that the relentlessness can be exhausting but surely this is flattering right? "

Having endless men who can't be bothered reading my profile message me ain't flattering

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"It can be frustrating, we've had stated on our profile that we are currently not looking and will update profile when we are.

The amount of messages claiming to have read our profile and they believe they are what we are looking for. (shrugs).

Then when we were looking, we described exactly what we were looking for, the kind of guy, the scenario we hoped to achieve etc.

Then there's the messages of ....... What are you looking for.

I sometimes reply something like ......... Profile expresses what we're looking for, please feel free to read and if you believe we match, get back to us.

"

Yep I this pretty much 95% of time

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to take loads of time writing concise profiles to try and get my wants/likes/dislikes across without being too preachy.

After getting nowhere/it getting ignored I penned the waffle you see now and somehow it's worked better.

It doesn't get read when you want it to be and when you give up people read it. Go figure

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By *ornycouplepzCouple
over a year ago

here and there

Even if thay do read the profile, a lot seem to think thay can change your mind,we have so many that contact us even though it says I don't play with men .thay start with the it's OK I like to watch then shortly after thay think I'm going to let them touch me

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

If you only want bi guys, I'm assuming you don't want to play with guys solo (else what's the difference?)

So why not block single guys?

It would be better if they read your profile, but unfortunately many don't so you just have to do what you can.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"I used to take loads of time writing concise profiles to try and get my wants/likes/dislikes across without being too preachy.

After getting nowhere/it getting ignored I penned the waffle you see now and somehow it's worked better.

It doesn't get read when you want it to be and when you give up people read it. Go figure "

I think they do get read by many people tbh, but when they see they don't match they don't message.

That means you are only contacted by those that haven't bothered (and those that match obviously) so it skews our perception of what is going on.

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom


"I hear that its frustrating to write a description when it feels like no one reads it. But the good news is, the people who dont read it wont see it, so you can write it for the people who do read it! I cant tell you how annoying it is when I read a profile description that says "no one reads so Im not writing"... Literally the only people who see that are the ones who read profiles!

It wont stop people who dont read profiles messaging you, but it will encourage people who do read profiles to message you if they think you are a good match. I dont message anyone (at all, ever) on the basis of their photos. I dont even look at the photos until after I have read their profile and feel interested, and most people dont say enough for me to be interested.

A different perspective!

Fay x"

Your bio is excellent, informative, insightful and specific. Gives me everything I would want to know and all the decision barriers I need to not contact you. In a lovely tone too..

Some of us do read them, so it’s worth spending time on it, even if it cuts down the amount of blocks and deletes by a tiny fraction, I suppose it’s time back for you.

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By *0lden0ldieMan
over a year ago

Stewartby

I can understand the frustration.

I always read profiles and respect the wishes.

I often wonder if these idiots have an Impact on us genuine guys being taken seriously.

Sadly there is no filter for dickheads.

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"Even if thay do read the profile, a lot seem to think thay can change your mind,we have so many that contact us even though it says I don't play with men .thay start with the it's OK I like to watch then shortly after thay think I'm going to let them touch me "

This 1000000000000 times

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By *tockport_slut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Stockport


"If you only want bi guys, I'm assuming you don't want to play with guys solo (else what's the difference?)

So why not block single guys?

It would be better if they read your profile, but unfortunately many don't so you just have to do what you can. "

Then you assume wrongly.

Plenty of single guys on here have bi profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you only want bi guys, I'm assuming you don't want to play with guys solo (else what's the difference?)

So why not block single guys?

It would be better if they read your profile, but unfortunately many don't so you just have to do what you can.

Then you assume wrongly.

Plenty of single guys on here have bi profiles "

Block single guys, then use the search function and spary and pray tit pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most lads that read profiles get ignored anyway. So they just send messages to as many as possible to get any response back. You've got to think, you get 100s of replies and men are lucky if they get one.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

*guy who comes in peace*

I get your frustrations ladies but we aren't all the same

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place


"I can understand the frustration.

I always read profiles and respect the wishes.

I often wonder if these idiots have an Impact on us genuine guys being taken seriously.

Sadly there is no filter for dickheads. "

My guess is yes mate sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally sat at the top of my bio “don’t attach photos or videos unless requested”.

99% of the opening messages that I receive have photos and videos attached.

What is so difficult?

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"If you only want bi guys, I'm assuming you don't want to play with guys solo (else what's the difference?)

So why not block single guys?

It would be better if they read your profile, but unfortunately many don't so you just have to do what you can.

Then you assume wrongly.

Plenty of single guys on here have bi profiles "

What I mean is, how is a women playing with a single guy any different whether he is straight or bi?

I assume it only matters if there are multiple guys?

But yeah, I guess as a single women, if you only play with groups of men you probably would want contact from single men that you either pair up or they bring along another man.

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By *antastic BeastMan
over a year ago

WINCHESTER

They simply don't have time to read the profiles... It takes all their time and effort (definitely meant ironically) doing copy pasta to everyone within a five mile radius and bitching on every social media platform cos wimminz only want toned guys with a 16 inch penis

Bunch of whiney fucking douche canoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I literally sat at the top of my bio “don’t attach photos or videos unless requested”.

99% of the opening messages that I receive have photos and videos attached.

What is so difficult?"

Spray and pray technique. Not something I do on fab but I have a done when job searching

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By *assiieneilxMan
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme


"I’ve done my best to write my profile and it’s fairly short. Everything is there.

The ball is now in their court - they’re wasting their time, not mine as I will delete the message if I find out they haven’t read my profile."

Ironically we cannot read your profile as it is hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Barely any guys read profiles…mine is one line long stating I don’t meet lol and I’ve still got 100s of messages asking to meet

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Put "Bi guys only" between the "for" and "fun" in your heading. That should solve it.

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By *akes coupleCouple
over a year ago

Ambleside

We block everyone who messages without reading and respecting our preferences, saves time in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because as someone so eloquently said to me yesterday: “we’RE aLl hErE bECaUsE we’RE hOrnY”

So no point in taking time to put your preferences and a bit of information on what you’d like from the site, because the reality is you should just be grateful that you’re being offered a shag I think "

My profile is short enough to be easy to read. Yet I still get messages and winks from men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have all the appropriate filters on so if I open a message from someone who quite clearly hasn't read the profile its an instant block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think once they see the pretty pictures, the blood rushes elsewhere. It's frustrating. Most of my inbox is men saying or doing what my profile says is a no no

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Barely any guys read profiles…mine is one line long stating I don’t meet lol and I’ve still got 100s of messages asking to meet "

Guys do! It's only the ones that don't that message you.

Think of the 100s that read it, respect what you say and 'don't' message you (like me).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear that its frustrating to write a description when it feels like no one reads it. But the good news is, the people who dont read it wont see it, so you can write it for the people who do read it! I cant tell you how annoying it is when I read a profile description that says "no one reads so Im not writing"... Literally the only people who see that are the ones who read profiles!

It wont stop people who dont read profiles messaging you, but it will encourage people who do read profiles to message you if they think you are a good match. I dont message anyone (at all, ever) on the basis of their photos. I dont even look at the photos until after I have read their profile and feel interested, and most people dont say enough for me to be interested.

A different perspective!

Fay x

Your bio is excellent, informative, insightful and specific. Gives me everything I would want to know and all the decision barriers I need to not contact you. In a lovely tone too..

Some of us do read them, so it’s worth spending time on it, even if it cuts down the amount of blocks and deletes by a tiny fraction, I suppose it’s time back for you. "

Aww, thanks for the lovely comments, and for reading my profile with gentle curiousity. I wish more people had the same attitude!

Fay x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *uzySuzyCouple
over a year ago

Lytham St Annes

The guys seem to perv on the pics

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By *ornycouplepzCouple
over a year ago

here and there

I know it futile but we put word at the bottom of our profile and ask for that to be in the message ,at least we can tell witch ones have read the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My solo profile states very clearly that I use it for the forums and FF interaction only.

I still get lots of messages from couples asking to meet.

I’ve given up replying now.

Viv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read profiles. Hence the reason I’ve only messaged about three women on fab.

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