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By *cottish-sin69 OP   Man
over a year ago

scotland

Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????"

Guys need to sell themselves more. Though if the profile is asking for effort and making none just skip it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pussy

That's all they need.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????"

Women don’t need to make an effort though

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By *cottish-sin69 OP   Man
over a year ago

scotland


"Women don’t need to make an effort though"

I dont agree with that tbh the ammount of woman who say they dont need to make an effort make it harder for anyone who want to msg them, with nothing in thier bio how are you supposed to know if they like things, what their into or even convisation starters, i find it quite hard in that aspect how are you supposed to make an engaging convo starter (which they want as well) with no info

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Then do to their profiles what they do to the type of lack lustre profile they complain about; vote with your feet and don't bother with them.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think most people if honest would like to put little effort in but get lots of offers (although flooded inboxes have their own problems). But the dynamics on here are the dynamics. The nature of supply and demand plus other dynamics related to the norms of our society are no secret. From a single guy prospective it can be frustrating and seem unfair. But what's the point of being butt hurt about it? You ain't going to change it or the underpinning societal reasons for the disparities over night. All you can do is to decide to be in the game or not play the game. That's up to you. But if you in, be the best you can, including a good profile.

And also factor not everyone is using this site with the main intention of loads of hook up's. We don't have a big write up because we don't really use this site to hook up (our hunting ground is clubs). We are more here for the forums, perving, what's going on in the scene and staying up to date with freinds. So naturally not much need for us to write up loads because we're not looking to pull loads online.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes it probably is double standards but that's fab it's here a lot. It is the way fab has been since I've been on here and I'm sure it will be the same when I decide to leave.BUT it is just as easy to ignore profiles that don't appeal to you or have something on it that you don't like .I don't understand the need to get all up in a heap about what others do on here.

If it's not directly about you or affecting you then it's easier to just move on and ignore and concentrate on others who are on the same path as you. Then getting annoyed over what you cannot change.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I don't class it as making an effort simply as being clear (at least in my head) about what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with above.

It’s very easy to just scroll past them.

I wouldn’t worry too much about what others do…

There are plenty of profiles that do have everything you need to know in their bio - I’ve probably seen more of those than ones with nothing…

Just concentrate on the ones that appeal to you…

If a profile doesn’t have much then start a conversation and find out, if they like you they’ll reply…

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Mine is scant and to be honest I’m not bothered if a guys is to if I fancy you then I’ll chat to you and that’s how I’ll find out the stuff I’d like to know about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest i think it has nothing to do with whats on your profile woman seem to go for the perfect body's, its sex after all not a dating site for relationship I've been on here for a year now and nothing from single woman and I'm a great funny person to be a round but just dont have that body

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"To be honest i think it has nothing to do with whats on your profile woman seem to go for the perfect body's, its sex after all not a dating site for relationship I've been on here for a year now and nothing from single woman and I'm a great funny person to be a round but just dont have that body "

It really isn't all about the body either.

Yes, I wish men would make more of an effort with their profiles, I get fed up of asking the same questions to see if we're looking for the same thing. Problem is, a lot struggle to communicate what they want, that's no help either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s Fab for you, the girls needn’t go to any great lengths in their bios, boys are slammed if not enough detail is put in. Supply and demand is the issue, until the boy v girl ratio is levelled, it will continue to be the case. Not a complaint, merely an observation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????"

I somewhat agree with your general statement, however I learned very quickly that it’s Women that actually make this world go around. Much like in the natural world it’s the Male that should make the effort when trying to attract a mate. Lol

All jokes aside I think those profiles that don’t make the effort whether M/F/MF should just be left to their own devices, and try to go for those who do have better profiles that list some of your qualities.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

So many blank ladies profiles refusing to respond to blank profiles or if you don't send a face pic with a first message,others state they want a proper conversation but think three word replies to your grand effort constitutes a coversation, just two examples of double standards.

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun


"So many blank ladies profiles refusing to respond to blank profiles or if you don't send a face pic with a first message,others state they want a proper conversation but think three word replies to your grand effort constitutes a conversation, just two examples of double standards."

It's based on arrogance (not natural)of 100 to 1, if they were in a club they would enjoy the attention.

We men would be the same if it was reversed.

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Pussy

That's all they need."

Indeed, it is that is all we need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest i think it has nothing to do with whats on your profile woman seem to go for the perfect body's, its sex after all not a dating site for relationship I've been on here for a year now and nothing from single woman and I'm a great funny person to be a round but just dont have that body "

I'm sorry to say this to you sir but you have 2 photos neither of which displays said body very well - from what I can see it's not rocky horror show and the boat race is good so unsure where you are going there.

I would say that your first line is grammatical suicide though

In a market place where those that actually want to put the effort into clicking and collecting being in th minority a considerable sifting effort is required especially if you are at the bottom end of the market.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????"

If you don't like how others run their profiles, refuse to meet them.

They'll soon learn...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????"

Sometimes, I read their profile and see what they "expect" from other people, and only reply if they have fullfilled their own requirements

But most of the time, I dont answer because of something else - generic/lazy first message, little info on profile, nothing in common, sarcastic comments about the length of my profile as if they expect me to reward them for having read it... (yesh, I didnt force you to read it all...)

Sadly, its easy for us to not notice that our profiles are bad. I re-did my profile after I realised that I was telling people "Your profile doesnt tell me much about who you are or whether we would get on/have a similar approach to casual sex", and re-read mine and it was no better than theirs.

Cross-dressers and single fems do seem to be the worst for empty profiles and bad first messages. The reason single guys annoy me more is because there are just so many that I get sick of it. With CDs and fems, I just delete and move on, with single guys, the messages appear as quickly as I can delete them.

(Wanna point out that Ive never had a bad first message from a trans person... I dont like it that fab bundles trans with TV/CD!)

Fay x

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland


"To be honest i think it has nothing to do with whats on your profile woman seem to go for the perfect body's, its sex after all not a dating site for relationship I've been on here for a year now and nothing from single woman and I'm a great funny person to be a round but just dont have that body "

It's really not, I've met 9 men off here and not one of them had what some would consider the perfect chiselled body.

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

I don't mind what people have on their profile but with about 700 men in the inbox if there's nowt in your profile that interests me I'm just going to move straight onto the next one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of the market is full of apples a seller that rocks up with oranges doesn’t have to say a word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems pretty easy… skip past the profiles that don’t appeal to you.

I doubt that the ‘women who have 5-7 words on their profile’ have used those few words to insist that others have a complete profile.

More likely that some people demand more information up front to be interested, and some have little, and the OP has over-generalised both to support a complaint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get attention with just a dot on my profile and it says I'm gay.

Blame the men who message/ wink/ friend invite every woman profile on site!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That when you have tits, you have most the control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????"

While so many men see any hole is a goal it won't change... not all but a lot of men on here are desperate to fuck anything with a pulse.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Pussy

That's all they need."

Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????"

As someone who definitely does not have 5-7 words in their bio, I cannot comprehend any such thought process

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lady could have a blank profile with no photos, and she would STILL get bombarded with messages from chancers or 'copy and paste' mass messages telling her how beautiful and sexy she is!

I do find it ironic the a ladies profile, 4 words demanding a face pic from potential meets in the first message.

It's down to the power of numbers I think (100 guys for every single woman)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

The answer op is in the day you realised that the majority of females can go out on any given night and get laid and the vast majority of guys just can't. It's the power of da pussy my friend, dem iz da rulez.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I get attention with just a dot on my profile and it says I'm gay.

Blame the men who message/ wink/ friend invite every woman profile on site!!"

Loving the age range as well

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Guys message with there cock in hand, no thought process, reflective of the profile in general

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By *cottish-sin69 OP   Man
over a year ago

scotland


"Guys message with there cock in hand, no thought process, reflective of the profile in general "

I understand, that is beyond a joke and i cant even think why they would think that would work unless they where crist hensworth or so celeb, but personally ive never done that even when the bio asked i would decline till we have talked for a wee bit at least, i put in effort on my bio and i try my hardest with sending a msg tailored to the best of my abilitys to there bios but its difficult, even when you try you cant cause of the persons own bio being close to nothing, this leave us guys who try in a bad spot as the msg become lack lustered through no fault of our own and we get ignored cause of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pussy

That's all they need."

Noooooo waaaaaay.

They are seeking very golden personalities.

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun


"Guys message with there cock in hand, no thought process, reflective of the profile in general

I understand, that is beyond a joke and i cant even think why they would think that would work unless they where crist hensworth or so celeb, but personally ive never done that even when the bio asked i would decline till we have talked for a wee bit at least, i put in effort on my bio and i try my hardest with sending a msg tailored to the best of my abilitys to there bios but its difficult, even when you try you cant cause of the persons own bio being close to nothing, this leave us guys who try in a bad spot as the msg become lack lustered through no fault of our own and we get ignored cause of it "

I have noticed a distinct change over the last couple of years to no manners in the sense that a well-written mail would get a response even to say no thanks, not anymore, sure women will say they get too many, but my guess is they don't read them just flit through the profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys message with there cock in hand, no thought process, reflective of the profile in general

I understand, that is beyond a joke and i cant even think why they would think that would work unless they where crist hensworth or so celeb, but personally ive never done that even when the bio asked i would decline till we have talked for a wee bit at least, i put in effort on my bio and i try my hardest with sending a msg tailored to the best of my abilitys to there bios but its difficult, even when you try you cant cause of the persons own bio being close to nothing, this leave us guys who try in a bad spot as the msg become lack lustered through no fault of our own and we get ignored cause of it

I have noticed a distinct change over the last couple of years to no manners in the sense that a well-written mail would get a response even to say no thanks, not anymore, sure women will say they get too many, but my guess is they don't read them just flit through the profile pic."
its a fast food society now. People aint got time. They want,they need,they use. And onto the next.

These trends will have deep affects on people and minds in years to come.

The stage is set. And being played out.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????

If you don't like how others run their profiles, refuse to meet them.

They'll soon learn..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys message with there cock in hand, no thought process, reflective of the profile in general

I understand, that is beyond a joke and i cant even think why they would think that would work unless they where crist hensworth or so celeb, but personally ive never done that even when the bio asked i would decline till we have talked for a wee bit at least, i put in effort on my bio and i try my hardest with sending a msg tailored to the best of my abilitys to there bios but its difficult, even when you try you cant cause of the persons own bio being close to nothing, this leave us guys who try in a bad spot as the msg become lack lustered through no fault of our own and we get ignored cause of it

I have noticed a distinct change over the last couple of years to no manners in the sense that a well-written mail would get a response even to say no thanks, not anymore, sure women will say they get too many, but my guess is they don't read them just flit through the profile pic."

Correct my friend

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By *ak4uMan
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????"

In all honesty the women of fab don't really need to try very hard.....

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By *osephSamuel90Man
over a year ago

Warfield

It is just supply and demand unfortunately. It's the same with tinder and other dating apps. Saw an article about a woman who put a completely blank profile on tinder but still got about 50 matches in one day and messages saying how beautiful she was, even though there was no picture

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"It is just supply and demand unfortunately. It's the same with tinder and other dating apps. Saw an article about a woman who put a completely blank profile on tinder but still got about 50 matches in one day and messages saying how beautiful she was, even though there was no picture"

I get this all the time. No face pictures but messages telling me I’m beautiful

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By *osephSamuel90Man
over a year ago

Warfield


"It is just supply and demand unfortunately. It's the same with tinder and other dating apps. Saw an article about a woman who put a completely blank profile on tinder but still got about 50 matches in one day and messages saying how beautiful she was, even though there was no picture

I get this all the time. No face pictures but messages telling me I’m beautiful "

That is mental. Not saying this about you, as you said you don't have a face pic, but do you think that the constant messages saying you're beautiful from men who might not really mean it and just want to shag anything with a pulse, does inflate some women's egos a bit and give them unrealistic standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is just supply and demand unfortunately. It's the same with tinder and other dating apps. Saw an article about a woman who put a completely blank profile on tinder but still got about 50 matches in one day and messages saying how beautiful she was, even though there was no picture

I get this all the time. No face pictures but messages telling me I’m beautiful

That is mental. Not saying this about you, as you said you don't have a face pic, but do you think that the constant messages saying you're beautiful from men who might not really mean it and just want to shag anything with a pulse, does inflate some women's egos a bit and give them unrealistic standards? "

Look at it another way. Do all these messages actually make it near impossible to discern genuine from not, leading to decision inertia?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

There's good and bad from all groups

I've seen awful couples, single fem & single guy profiles

If you don't like how a profile reads or you think it's lazy move on or block if you feel it's necessary

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By *ildrocketCouple
over a year ago

North Warwickshire


"Hi all im just curious on what peoples opinion on what im about to ask.

Many profil couples, single fem and tv/ts ( mainly single fems though) have a criticism about single guys having lack luster bios which i can understand from a certain point but they temselves only have like 5-7 words in their own, id say zero effort compared to the guys lack lustered attempted at trying to sell who he is .

What do you guys think of this puzzling thought process others have ????

Women don’t need to make an effort though"

That's a shocking comment and really surprises me.

How can women say men should make more of an effort with their messages / profile when women not making an effort gives nothing to talk about..

Nice tits isn't gonna cut it

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By *ildrocketCouple
over a year ago

North Warwickshire


"Guys message with there cock in hand, no thought process, reflective of the profile in general

I understand, that is beyond a joke and i cant even think why they would think that would work unless they where crist hensworth or so celeb, but personally ive never done that even when the bio asked i would decline till we have talked for a wee bit at least, i put in effort on my bio and i try my hardest with sending a msg tailored to the best of my abilitys to there bios but its difficult, even when you try you cant cause of the persons own bio being close to nothing, this leave us guys who try in a bad spot as the msg become lack lustered through no fault of our own and we get ignored cause of it

I have noticed a distinct change over the last couple of years to no manners in the sense that a well-written mail would get a response even to say no thanks, not anymore, sure women will say they get too many, but my guess is they don't read them just flit through the profile pic."

What he said... That is so true

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"It is just supply and demand unfortunately. It's the same with tinder and other dating apps. Saw an article about a woman who put a completely blank profile on tinder but still got about 50 matches in one day and messages saying how beautiful she was, even though there was no picture

I get this all the time. No face pictures but messages telling me I’m beautiful

That is mental. Not saying this about you, as you said you don't have a face pic, but do you think that the constant messages saying you're beautiful from men who might not really mean it and just want to shag anything with a pulse, does inflate some women's egos a bit and give them unrealistic standards? "

No, it really doesn't. It's just annoying.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think it just reflects the fact that men have to do a lot more than couples and single women to get interest. It's just how it is. If you don't like a profile just move on. Nobody is saying you have to do what is asked of you in a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people think that long profiles = good?

I've read war and peace bios that go on and on about everything and nothing.

I much prefer shorter bios if they're witty. Quality, not quantity

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why do people think that long profiles = good?

I've read war and peace bios that go on and on about everything and nothing.

I much prefer shorter bios if they're witty. Quality, not quantity "

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I think it's the no profile at all that most people have an issue with!

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