FabSwingers.com forum: Bareback advice

By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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I hope I'm not kicking a hornets nest and I know the whole bareback topic has been done extensively on here...

I always use condoms except with my husband, who knows all I do and does not see anyone else.

I have a long term playmate who would like us to stop using condoms and also does not see anyone else.

I trust both these relationships and men to be honest and to tell me if anything changes.

Would I be putting them in danger or myself to go bareback with both, after my latest tests results are through?

Thanks for any advice x

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Surly if the three of you never see anyone else there is no issue. As long as you all trust each other to be telling the truth...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it Hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what does your hubby say and how long have you known him.but as long as you trust him and are sure its what you want then all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its your life and up to you . x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be honest if i could find a long tearm meet who i trusted not to go bare with everyone they met i go bare with them, i think condoms are a real passion killer and i find they limit my fun as men get fed up with me keep taking them on and off between shagging and going back to oral plus i find men tend to loose their hard on if you do it to much so i tend to just keep to shagging once its on but i find that a bit boring as i like lots of variety so a play mate that done need condoms so i can just keep swapping and changing al will would be great

Thing is im not sure that id ever trust anyone that much that i would beleive that they really would only go bare with me and noone else

i mean its not likely is it

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

You're shagging the pm????

sorry could.t resist haha

I guess if you are certain that you friend won't see anyone else and all involved get tested to ensure they are not currently carrying anything then the risks are minimised. You can never say they are taken away for certain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it was me i would want both to go for test and be tested regularly as would i be tested regularly i think that is just sensible x good luck x

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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Hubby is fine with it, I do see others but always use condones, I've been seeing the pm about 4 months weekly, and he knows all I do but doesn't swing....and I do trust him! Him trusting me is even more important as he knows I do play!

I hope that's all q's answered

Thanks for all advice x

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

As long as you, your husband and your friend use condoms with other people, there's no reason the 3 of you shouldn't bareback with one another. Not using condoms is much more intimate and erotic, but you do have to trust all concerned. Have fun!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Not sure I could tryst anyone that much in your situation...

But you know better than anyone the men you are talking about...

Only you can decide....

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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Thanks for your help all x

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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Thanks for your help all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everyone knows and understands the situation and is happy with it, and will undergo regular testing as you continuing to swing is putting the other two at some (minimised) risked then I see no issues. I use condoms with all my meets but I do have a regular FB/Partner that I do play bare with...we both use condoms with anyone else we play with and are regularly tested and so far there have been no issues for either of us after 18mths of playing this way. We both know there is a risk because we both do have sex with others, but it's something we decided between us and we're happy with x

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

My thought is..do you have kids? If yes then could you kiss them and hug them knowing you were safe to do so, do you trust your fb that much? Is it really worth the risk for a feel of skin in ya pussy which you get from your hubby anyway? Can anyone be trusted these days just because your fb says hes only doing you is he really?

Good luck with your choice as once you have made it you have to live with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My thought is..do you have kids? If yes then could you kiss them and hug them knowing you were safe to do so, do you trust your fb that much? Is it really worth the risk for a feel of skin in ya pussy which you get from your hubby anyway? Can anyone be trusted these days just because your fb says hes only doing you is he really?

Good luck with your choice as once you have made it you have to live with it

Sensible advice there people. My thoughts exactly . Cover up , no exceptions that's my thought on it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with your choice as once you have made it you have to live with it

I'm sorry have to check. What does having kids have to do with it.

Op. I say go for it. I have a regular play meet that I've played bare with for sometime. It works for us.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Good luck with your choice as once you have made it you have to live with it

I'm sorry have to check. What does having kids have to do with it.

Op. I say go for it. I have a regular play meet that I've played bare with for sometime. It works for us. "

Well i have a child, that i feel safe kissing hugging, cooking for etc knowing that i can look him in the eye as a aids, syphilis,clap,gonorrhea and all other std's free mother, who thinks more of herself than to go bareback for a quick fumble, thats my thoughts on having kids and thinking more of them then of fucking like a mother should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can kiss my kids knowing I'm safe too. I don't play bare for a quick fumble normally. But to be honest I don't think it makes me a bad mother because I will no occasion

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MMMM our thoughts are if its not your long term partener its condoms all the way, as much as pain as they are you just never really know. But each to there own x

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By *onderlust76Woman
over a year ago

St helens

"Surly if the three of you never see anyone else there is no issue. As long as you all trust each other to be telling the truth... "
I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts are this.......Is your F.B just a F.B or has something more developed between you.

No doubt you love your hubby and at the moment you only have B.B sex between the two of you.

Surely keeping B.B exclusively between you and the man you love means its the one thing you keep for each other as a loving couple.

Why would you want to give that 'gift' to someone who was just a F.B, unless a deeper relationship has developed?

Please don't think I'm having a go at you because I'm not at all, it was just my thoughts on the subject.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Surely the glass should be half full, not half empty. All you can ever go on with anyone regardless of who they are is their word. If you still disbelieve what someone says then best not to bother as the whole swinging thing is supposedly built on honesty and openness, not fear uncertainty and doubt.

Wolf

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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Good luck with your choice as once you have made it you have to live with it

I'm sorry have to check. What does having kids have to do with it.

Op. I say go for it. I have a regular play meet that I've played bare with for sometime. It works for us.

Jeez, could you get any more depressing?

By the way, I hope you make sure that cock you suck on has a condom on, as you're more likely to pass something to your kids orally if it doesn't. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My master would love to give me a gift of cum from other guys. It made for amazing sex between us.

I can understand why some see it as couple oonly but for me I have felt no attachment to the other men I've gone bare with

I love it when I have a regular that I can go bare with.

If your all wanting it then go for it

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Good luck with your choice as once you have made it you have to live with it

I'm sorry have to check. What does having kids have to do with it.

Op. I say go for it. I have a regular play meet that I've played bare with for sometime. It works for us.

Jeez, could you get any more depressing?

By the way, I hope you make sure that cock you suck on has a condom on, as you're more likely to pass something to your kids orally if it doesn't. Just saying."

flavoured condoms are the way forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are rare then. As I have never met anyone that uses condoms for oral.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh can I please point out though that using condoms does not make you clean or safe. Just safer.

There is still a risk.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

"You are rare then. As I have never met anyone that uses condoms for oral.

Cali"

Can give you names of members on here that will confirm that i use condoms for oral..like said just because i want to have fun i dont want to put my life at risk or my childs life its just no worth it and yes it might be depressing what i post but really is fucking ungloved worth your life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with your choice as once you have made it you have to live with it

I'm sorry have to check. What does having kids have to do with it.

Op. I say go for it. I have a regular play meet that I've played bare with for sometime. It works for us.

I can understand to some extent what you are saying as I am very much pro-safesex but a condom does not guarantee you are STD free unfortunately, it just reduces the risk. The only completely safe sex is no sex.

I know that makes me slightly hypocritical playing bare with my fb, but we are close and have discussed it...it isn't something we have just decided to do, as is the case of the OP from the sounds of it. I use condoms with every other man I play with and I trust my FB uses condoms with every other woman he meets - otherwise I'd never consider playing bare with him. We have played together too and this has enhanced my level of trust with him as I have seen how he is about condoms when horny and playing as well as when it's just a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a risk I'm prepared to take and the actual chances of catching something serious from oral are pretty low. I've sucked and swallowed more than my fair share of cum. Nearly 60 this month already yet never caught anything

However I'm aware of the risks and get checked often. Doesn't stop me catching but for me without the cum sex is pointless act.

Cali

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"It's a risk I'm prepared to take and the actual chances of catching something serious from oral are pretty low. I've sucked and swallowed more than my fair share of cum. Nearly 60 this month already yet never caught anything

Cali"

I do hope you clean your teeth after all that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do hope you clean your teeth after all that!

Lol I just spat my tea out.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Some people will tell you what you want to hear to get what they want.

Maybe it is one of these times, who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people will tell you what you want to hear to get what they want.

Maybe it is one of these times, who knows."

That's true. I had a guy asking to be my regular and go bare. He also asked two other ladies I knew. So it's down to trust.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However I'm aware of the risks and get checked often. Doesn't stop me catching but for me without the cum sex is pointless act.

Cali"

The phone number for the Guinness book of records will follow shortly.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%"

I agree, but there has to be a point where we take responsibility for our own actions, not rely exclusively on others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%"

Have to disagree with that...I do trust mine completely, he probably knows me better than a lot of my friends! He is a friend as well as a fb. I do trust him when he says he uses condoms with other women just as he trusts me, and I would trust him with other things beyond sex and swinging...in fact I have with a few things. I do agree that some will try to take advantage but not all will

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%

Sounds like you've got one like mine. I've been seeing him for 6 years. If I can't trust him by now then it's a sad day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%

Sounds like you've got one like mine. I've been seeing him for 6 years. If I can't trust him by now then it's a sad day."

Not known him for quite as long, but despite a few rows I can't seem to get rid so who knows! I do have a few other 'regular' playmates, but I wouldn't trust them like I trust my fb. I know how that may sound, but it's the way it is

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%"

For the two posts that commented on this maybe I will rephrase.

For US we don't trust any stranger who we have NSA sex with and look after my own sexual health.

What you do is up to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's almost leading onto poly relationships with some. If I had two or even three partners. Then I would go bare.

Cali

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%

For the two posts that commented on this maybe I will rephrase.

For US we don't trust any stranger who we have NSA sex with and look after my own sexual health.

What you do is up to you

Oh definitely. But to me a long term friend with benefits is not the same as a stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%

For the two posts that commented on this maybe I will rephrase.

For US we don't trust any stranger who we have NSA sex with and look after my own sexual health.

What you do is up to you

Oh definitely. But to me a long term friend with benefits is not the same as a stranger."

Agreed...with it all!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"No matter how much you think you know a FB you can't trust them 100%

For the two posts that commented on this maybe I will rephrase.

For US we don't trust any stranger who we have NSA sex with and look after my own sexual health.

What you do is up to you

Oh definitely. But to me a long term friend with benefits is not the same as a stranger."

We have a man who we have seen since 2007....he isn't a total stranger now, but we still don't trust him to go BB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope I'm not kicking a hornets nest "

Hornets nest kicked me thinks :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CONDOMS EVERYTIME no matter whatever the situation . Surely you dont need to be a rocket scientist to work that one out........ Noooooooo way would I go in without :D

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

I know a couple...

she says I never go bare-back and I would never go with anyone who does or has gone bare-back.

her husband is known to have begged to bare-back with other females and in some cases he's got what he wanted.

Some people will tell you what ever they think you want to hear to get what they want.

There is a hell of a lot more to practicing safe-sex than JUST using a condom, while it my reduce risk, how much it reduces risk is very debatable.

The fact of being a swinger is NOT practicing safe sex.

You play YOUR way, the way that makes YOU feel most comfortable and confident. If you really want to practice safe-sex then give up swinging

otherwise you assess the risk, accept the risks and go damn well enjoy yourself before you get run over by a buss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did, because we were good friends, but it has since come up that, that he wants bi mmmmmm time to call an end and have tests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting how a session of sex could dramatically change a life. Consider it ALONE....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with your choice as once you have made it you have to live with it

This is a bit of a barn pot answer is it not?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're only as safe as the integrity of the person you're with.

Condoms are not 100% but if the person you're with sleeps with a lot of people in a short period then there is a chance of catching something.

If a person tells you that they have slept with someone and wish to wait a few weeks before another meet with you then that is the integrity you can begin to trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My thoughts are this.......Is your F.B just a F.B or has something more developed between you.

No doubt you love your hubby and at the moment you only have B.B sex between the two of you.

Surely keeping B.B exclusively between you and the man you love means its the one thing you keep for each other as a loving couple.

Why would you want to give that 'gift' to someone who was just a F.B, unless a deeper relationship has developed?

Please don't think I'm having a go at you because I'm not at all, it was just my thoughts on the subject.

XX"

I agree with this.

I would never expect a single guy I was playing with to be exclusive to me, as I am part of a couple.

Why would I want bareback sex with a guy, even if I had met him regularly. I trust the OH with that and not a stranger whom in swinging with.

But you will do exqctly as you like and I feel you have ready made the decision so hope all are happy

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