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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

nope, if people are determined to get theor kicks by creating fake profiles and get off on naughty chat etc then they will pay to do it if they have no other choice

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

No I don't think it'd eradicate the 'idiots'. You'd be surprised how much some people will pay to be time-wasters and general prats.

A £50 price tag would put a lot of genuine people off though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why tax the genuine singles because of the timewasters. There's plenty of couples and single fems that mess us around and get away with it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Idiots have money to spend too.

I don't see why the majority have to penalised for the minority.

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

yerh thats true , as i well know

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Idiots have money to spend too.

I don't see why the majority have to penalised for the minority."

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree with some of the comments about money but I know of a few people on here who have 2or 3 profiles !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid idea and because of that I'm out

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

People are allowed more than one profile.

If they are using it to get round blocks/ devilment or to just be an out and out paint in the arse then you can report them and let Admin do their stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee"

Very good idea

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"I agree with some of the comments about money but I know of a few people on here who have 2or 3 profiles !!"

i see this as a very thinly disguised attempt to reduce the completion

you have been here 6mths and got a very long list of veries so you cant have had that much bother with meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£50 wont scare off idiots - go on pay sites and you have the same and those cost more then £50 a year. Why ruin it for the few who are real? To the multiple profiles some have different tastes and do not to show that in 1 profile; some have couples and single profiles does that make them all time wasters? Think not... Time waster are after a bit easy to spot "Do not read profiles, ask for pictures, can not accommodate, have been on the site for over a year and never ever been to a social or had a meet..." list goes on just use "brain" and 90% of time waster are caught out... Angel

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"People are allowed more than one profile.

If they are using it to get round blocks/ devilment or to just be an out and out paint in the arse then you can report them and let Admin do their stuff "

I did yesterday. Unfortunately that doesn't seem to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would a £50 fee for single men reduce the time wasters?

I've only had my time wasted by couples and single women lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

another site i was a member of charged £69 a year and it was full of timewasters, couples were you only see the man wanking etc etc.

didnt change a thing. timewasters are on all sites you just have to put up with it or quit.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I wonder if single guys who want to thin out the competition a bit with these suggestions realise that it will also cut down on the very people they want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if single guys who want to thin out the competition a bit with these suggestions realise that it will also cut down on the very people they want to meet."

correct. not everyone can afford it

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"People are allowed more than one profile.

If they are using it to get round blocks/ devilment or to just be an out and out paint in the arse then you can report them and let Admin do their stuff

I did yesterday. Unfortunately that doesn't seem to work "

I suppose that depends on wether they are doing anything that is against rules plus and obviously I am not privy and you won't be able to say.

Either way, I am sure Admin will have checked out the report and decided if any action was needed

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

£1 a week isn't going to deter those whose intentions aren't of the best.

Worse, it may instill a false sense of security.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When will people realise that being a single man on this site doesnt mean you are a second class citizen & thus should be treated differently! As even well verified couples waste others times & treat some with zero respect.....just block the idiots & name & shame in your status update....they will not last long then!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"just block the idiots & name & shame in your status update....they will not last long then!"

Neither will your status once Admin see it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with some of the comments about money but I know of a few people on here who have 2or 3 profiles !!

i see this as a very thinly disguised attempt to reduce the completion

you have been here 6mths and got a very long list of veries so you cant have had that much bother with meets "

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Hi

I'm a genuine single lad.

I'd happily pay Fab Swingers a £50 membership fee but to be honest I'm not having much luck on here and am not sure it would be good value for money at the moment.

Don't get me wrong, it's a great site and I appreciate that it'll take time for me to earn the trust of other members before I get to meet them (videos would be good though)

I've tried other expensive sites such as AFF but it had so many fakes and scammers that I had to cancel my membership

Perhaps there should be a genuine name and shame list when members are found to be fake or time wasters etc...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I agree with the couple who say iv only been on here 6 months but still get tarredwith the same brush as the idiots on here !!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

You can only be classed an idiot if you are acting like one.

Most people know there will be idiots about, but they also know not everyone is

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Yes I agree with the couple who say iv only been on here 6 months but still get tarredwith the same brush as the idiots on here !!"

If you've had meets and are reliable, who cares whether some people think you're fake. You know you aren't, and would you really want to meet people who think you are?

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By *exyasMan
over a year ago

glasgow

this is always going to be a issue ..... might slim it down but itl never be gone with

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Does Amin want it slimmed down?

More members = more eyeballs.

More eyeballs = more chance of people buying stuff from the authorised advertisers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee"

Nope I'm an idiot and pay £50 a year for membership on another site

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

That should, of course, say Admin. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee

Nope I'm an idiot and pay £50 a year for membership on another site "

Maybe that's why I'm an idiot ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When will people realise that being a single man on this site doesnt mean you are a second class citizen & thus should be treated differently! As even well verified couples waste others times & treat some with zero respect.....just block the idiots & name & shame in your status update....they will not last long then!"

Very well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I've only had my time wasted by couples and single women lol"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are allowed more than one profile.

If they are using it to get round blocks/ devilment or to just be an out and out paint in the arse then you can report them and let Admin do their stuff

I did yesterday. Unfortunately that doesn't seem to work "

I reported abusive multiple profile, admin dealt with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been a member of a few pay sits over the years and I have to say I have found fab the best for meeting so far, I joined about 5 years ago now and to be honest very rarely have I use another site since as I have no need I get all the meets off here for free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When will people realise that being a single man on this site doesnt mean you are a second class citizen & thus should be treated differently! As even well verified couples waste others times & treat some with zero respect.....just block the idiots & name & shame in your status update....they will not last long then!"

if you name and shame on your status update admin may warning you about it if it gets reports.

and chances are the person/s your complaining about will have friends who will report you also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Idiots come in all forms: single males and females and couples alike. As it was mentioned earlier, punishing the majority for the wrongs of the few is unfair.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

why do you regard your self as tarred with the same brush ???

is it due to your messages being deleted or just not replied too ?

if it is then you have to realise this is due to the vast no. of single guys on here , they are not second class members but they out number the cpls and single fems by such an amount that they do appear to be that way to some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why tax the genuine singles because of the timewasters. There's plenty of couples and single fems that mess us around and get away with it."
we've been messed around only by single females which has put us off meeting from here I think we will be sticking to the clubs from now on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

problem is some genuine guys couldn,

t afford it ,and would spoil if for the real peeps.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"problem is some genuine guys couldn,

t afford it ,and would spoil if for the real peeps."

Couldn't afford £1 a week? I doubt it.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I'd go for a £50 joining fee... if it was £100 for couples!

I get the sentiment behind the idea but its the wrong way to sort the problem of fake profiles. And the simple way of getting around your idea is to register as a couple!

I am one of many genuine single men who find it difficult enough to make connections without more hoops to jump through. We are victims of the fake profiles as well...

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Yes I agree with the couple who say iv only been on here 6 months but still get tarredwith the same brush as the idiots on here !!"

I don't understand this.

To be tarred with any brush you must give people some reason for the tarring.

Personally I find it quite refreshing and flattering when people I chat with and/or meet tell me how much they like the fact that I'm not one of those idiots.

I'll not give any tips out here as idiots can read too, but for anyone with half an once of intelligence it's not difficult to work out how to avoid being tarred with any brushes.

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By *33dfulthingsMan
over a year ago

london

Payed for sites have the same problem with single guys, woman and couples who join pretending to be genuine so I wouldn't recommend ruining this site and suggesting fees.

As it is you can opt for additional site benefits for those who want them and willing to pay.

So far I have found this site more genuine than others so the site managers have got something right.

Good people come to those who wait and like in the real world you have to find the right ones!

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"I'd go for a £50 joining fee... if it was £100 for couples!

"

Don't forget the NUS and OAP discounts, and family membership *cough*

Wolf

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By *33dfulthingsMan
over a year ago

london


"I'd go for a £50 joining fee... if it was £100 for couples!

Don't forget the NUS and OAP discounts, and family membership *cough*

Wolf

"
ha ha, I would love to meet the family membership people, that could be real fun and a huge orgy. And maybe if gran ma and da were involved they would get extra discount.

Saying that I've seen films with family's like that in them and are usually quite disturbing so maybe I will give family invites a miss

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"

Saying that I've seen films with family's like that in them "

What... the waltons?

I just know that if you start charging big money there'll be groups of people asking for discount eligibilities. I don't think charging will make the site any better than it is, nor will it make the clientele better than it is. I think the current arrangements to get extra functionality out of the site for a small consideration is probably the best way of doing it. People fuck for free, so the networking should be free too - that's my opinion.

Wolf

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Saying that I've seen films with family's like that in them

What... the waltons?

I just know that if you start charging big money there'll be groups of people asking for discount eligibilities. I don't think charging will make the site any better than it is, nor will it make the clientele better than it is. I think the current arrangements to get extra functionality out of the site for a small consideration is probably the best way of doing it. People fuck for free, so the networking should be free too - that's my opinion.

Wolf

"

You're right.

Make access free but but make the available 'goodies' sufficiently attractive to justify continued participation.

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By *33dfulthingsMan
over a year ago

london

The site managers/hosts are or use to be swingers so I am sure the thought and effort has gone into making their site beneficial to most.

I am also sure that the revenue gained from having this site up and running and from most of what I can see successful is enough. To bring in extra charges will seem to be greedy and no doubt loose a lot of site users.

And yes wolf the waltons

Saying that most are probably dead so not much of a family orgy there

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

There's always the possibility that a 50 quid charge for single guys would just mean more instances of arriving to meet a couple, to find that the fem "couldn't make it because blah blah blah"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Charging a fee for single guys would not change a thing. You can't change someones personality.

The main thing I take issue with on charging a fcee to single guys would be the 'entitlement' issue.

I have already seen the words '£50 wouldn't necessarily offer value for money'. What extra services do people expect. I just feel that with the introduction of a fee some men would have the mindset that they are entitled to meets/sex. There are already men on here that beliewe just because a woman is on here and showing sexy pictures of herself, that she should be up for sex with whoever asks. Why else do we have so many 'I can't get a meet, what do I have to do' type threads.

Bringing in a charge would see an increase in those kind of expectations and a sense of entitlement and would lead to further abuse to women when they don't get what they expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From experience the majority of single guys on this site are time wasters...

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

A lot of negativity towards us single guys... believe me there are many many fakes on here and from my point of view most of them are profiles of single women with more than a few couples as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u`d get rid of a large percentage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"£50 wont scare off idiots - go on pay sites and you have the same and those cost more then £50 a year. Why ruin it for the few who are real? To the multiple profiles some have different tastes and do not to show that in 1 profile; some have couples and single profiles does that make them all time wasters? Think not... Time waster are after a bit easy to spot "Do not read profiles, ask for pictures, can not accommodate, have been on the site for over a year and never ever been to a social or had a meet..." list goes on just use "brain" and 90% of time waster are caught out... Angel "

Heartily agree. They are easy to spot and charging for the site will put everyone off, and won't work anyway. You just have to modify your arsehole filter a bit.

Fakes usually have all the criteria the poster above mentioned. Plus they usually go quiet when you start mentioning definite times/dates to meet.

You're never going to narrow the field for yourself in this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i dont agree - but it would only be once that someone with false profile gets caught out and site can ban them and thier IP address to stop them re registering with new names....well in thats what FAB can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people don't have static ip addresses anymore, so no that wouldn't work.

And who decides on the criteria of a timewaster?

And would the person banned get refund on their £50.

And who would wish the administrative nightmare on the people who run the site?

Its fine as it is, you just need to lower your expectations of the amount of.meets you're likely to get. Improve the way you choose who you'd like to meet by only mailing ones who match you, and be on the lookout for the telltale signs of a fake.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

High single guy fees don't discourage the numpties who go to clubs.

And this is from a fan of the single guys!

In fact, the outright idiots seem to believe that because they have paid a high fee they are entitled. That the ladies shouldn't be saying no thanks or just chatting with friends - after all, don't we realize they need to get their money's worth!!!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

no it wouldnt stop all the idiots and timewasters .firstly ive been on paid sites and still get them as people have said . secondly its not only single guys who waste time and act like prats and are rude ,its across all catigories .

what stops these people is using the tools the site gives you (filters and blocking) .also and most importantly using your own commom sense and judgement.

as for comment that was posted about singles guys being tarred with the same brush .... utter rubbish !!! as a female looking for single guys i can assure you that its because of the guys who act like idiots ect that make the decent guys stand out even more and shine like a beacon on here ! plenty of single guys get meets and have no issues talking to people ,so ask why then that is ?? its just a convient excuse to blame others behaviour for your own lack of sucess .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee"

Are you bloody mental why should majority suffer because of minority sadly idiots exist but so do real genuine folk

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee"
So why limit the fee to just guys are you saying only guys are timewasters and idiots ?...because if you are your very much mistaken

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee"
So why limit the fee to just guys are you saying only guys are timewasters and idiots ?...because if you are your very much mistaken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can we charge the smellies twice that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I pay the site supporter fee every month I'm currently spending £60 a year already.

A membership fee would make little difference to who joins and who doesn't. As I've often said before - personally I feel compulsorily photo verification would be the best alternative if any - at least the sex and single/couple status would in some way be verified - but you'd still get those that don't interact in the positive way the majority do.

The present nature of the site works fine if you adopt a sensible and common sense approach to your comminication and meet planning. If anyone is regularly struggling with so called 'time wasters' - it's more than likely an indication that your methods and approach aren't right, rather than a site problem!

Good luck and enjoy, one and all!

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"can we charge the smellies twice that"

no because that would severely impact their soap budget

Wolf

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By *hobos46Man
over a year ago

Royston

I'm a member of another site which would be quite expensive if I didn't get free membership for modding the forum.

I'm also here twice, once as a single male, and another as a couple with a FB.

The other place is awash with scammers and time-wasters, I just raised it with admin yet again, so no, this idea won't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one thing that does annoy me a bit on this site isn't timewasters, it's the constant slagging off of single men! I think some people need to improve the way they go about hooking up with others if they're so beset by these problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think a fee would stop time wasters. plenty of people have money to spend on wasting other peoples time. what would we do when £50 a year doesn't work? make it £50 a month?

secondly i have a real life girlfriend on here as a single woman. she has been harassed by a couple where the wife backed out after agreeing to meet but the hub wanted to meet on her on his own & wouldn't take no thanks for an answer and today she has just been let down by a very genuine sounding lady with a sick child. so its not just single guys who have to cancel .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Charge single guys £50 and all the 'timewasters' (please define!!!) will start posing as single fems and couples to get round it.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Why should it only be the single guys???

Besides, plenty genuine people on here simply cant afford that much!

No...dont agree at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The one thing that does annoy me a bit on this site isn't timewasters, it's the constant slagging off of single men! I think some people need to improve the way they go about hooking up with others if they're so beset by these problems."

To me post's like the OP's are basically just another way of saying they aren;t succedding and if the numbers were restricted then they might do better..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"£50 wont scare off idiots - go on pay sites and you have the same and those cost more then £50 a year. Why ruin it for the few who are real? To the multiple profiles some have different tastes and do not to show that in 1 profile; some have couples and single profiles does that make them all time wasters? Think not... Time waster are after a bit easy to spot "Do not read profiles, ask for pictures, can not accommodate, have been on the site for over a year and never ever been to a social or had a meet..." list goes on just use "brain" and 90% of time waster are caught out... Angel

Heartily agree. They are easy to spot and charging for the site will put everyone off, and won't work anyway. You just have to modify your arsehole filter a bit.

Fakes usually have all the criteria the poster above mentioned. Plus they usually go quiet when you start mentioning definite times/dates to meet.

You're never going to narrow the field for yourself in this way."

Jodie's hit it on the head as usual. Tighten your arsehole filter (NO sniggering at the back!!!)

That means both the REAL filters available on the site AND some of your own. Amazes me how many people taken whatever anyone tells them in a chat room as being the truth!

Pork

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee"

No would make no different at all....

We are on another pay site that's monthly fee is pretty expensive and it still has 'pretend couples' and 'timewasters' on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charging a fee for single guys would not change a thing. You can't change someones personality.

The main thing I take issue with on charging a fcee to single guys would be the 'entitlement' issue.

I have already seen the words '£50 wouldn't necessarily offer value for money'. What extra services do people expect. I just feel that with the introduction of a fee some men would have the mindset that they are entitled to meets/sex. There are already men on here that beliewe just because a woman is on here and showing sexy pictures of herself, that she should be up for sex with whoever asks. Why else do we have so many 'I can't get a meet, what do I have to do' type threads.

Bringing in a charge would see an increase in those kind of expectations and a sense of entitlement and would lead to further abuse to women when they don't get what they expect. "

Totally agree with all of the above

But totally disagree with other posters saying that single men are the 'lowest of the low' etc

You get idiots on here the same as in life. Theses can be single men, single women or couples, the one thing they have in common is they get less meets than the people who are not idiots. The people actually going out, having meets etc rarely go on line to complain about it so on the forums it is nearly all complaints

As long as filters are in place, people read profiles and delete and block idiots then nothing needs to change - apart from the attitude and behaviour of some of these 'idiots'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a genuine guy and I come here for fun and to join in the banter. Why would I pay an extra £50 and how does paying that prove I'm genuine?

I don't see the logic. All it will do is get rid of those who can't afford to pay it and potentially lose the opportunity for a genuine couple/female to miss out on some fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no way of putting off time wasters and idiots ..they will always get around any ideas to stop them .cos they have to much time to waste !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Charging a fee for single guys would not change a thing. You can't change someones personality.

The main thing I take issue with on charging a fcee to single guys would be the 'entitlement' issue.

I have already seen the words '£50 wouldn't necessarily offer value for money'. What extra services do people expect. I just feel that with the introduction of a fee some men would have the mindset that they are entitled to meets/sex. There are already men on here that beliewe just because a woman is on here and showing sexy pictures of herself, that she should be up for sex with whoever asks. Why else do we have so many 'I can't get a meet, what do I have to do' type threads.

Bringing in a charge would see an increase in those kind of expectations and a sense of entitlement and would lead to further abuse to women when they don't get what they expect.

Totally agree with all of the above

But totally disagree with other posters saying that single men are the 'lowest of the low' etc

You get idiots on here the same as in life. Theses can be single men, single women or couples, the one thing they have in common is they get less meets than the people who are not idiots. The people actually going out, having meets etc rarely go on line to complain about it so on the forums it is nearly all complaints

As long as filters are in place, people read profiles and delete and block idiots then nothing needs to change - apart from the attitude and behaviour of some of these 'idiots'"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It won't solve the problem and there are plenty of genuine single guys that just don't have £50 to spend on a yearly membership. Likewise trolls and timewasters are still likely to pay to continue doing what they do as people have said.

I'd rather put my £50 into stuff like fuel to travel to someone to save them the effort. Drink to provide for the evening. Money to take someone out for a meal or the cinema etc. I'd rather actually spend my money on a person.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee"

so to be genuine it will cost £50?

why stop there, why not go for £100

disposable income is no gtee of being genuine!

besides by law you'd have to charge everyone the same...

it won't be long before the clubs have to fall in line and the only reason they haven't done so far is because every one is to scared to complain to the local authorities/trading standards..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

admin dont do anything i have reprted someone and i got no reply and they are still on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ohno not another thread about single guys YAWN

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee

So why limit the fee to just guys are you saying only guys are timewasters and idiots ?...because if you are your very much mistaken "

I don't see anywhere that the OP says the fee is for single guys only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee

So why limit the fee to just guys are you saying only guys are timewasters and idiots ?...because if you are your very much mistaken

I don't see anywhere that the OP says the fee is for single guys only."

Think its the thread title.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee

So why limit the fee to just guys are you saying only guys are timewasters and idiots ?...because if you are your very much mistaken

I don't see anywhere that the OP says the fee is for single guys only.

Think its the thread title."

Ooops, so it is. Well in that case he has a bit of a cheek!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see i don't believe this "all tarred with the same brush" pish..... that is too easy an excuse...

what I do believe is that you have the oppotunity to stand out for the right reasons, and to stand out for the wrong ones..... in the end that is up to you, but the "arse" gene is strong... and in the end if you are an arse... you'll be found out.....

an arse in an arse regardless.. and in a way I like the site exactly as it is now, because you tend to be able to figure out who was born with the "arse" gene rather quickly....

i do think the 50 pound suggestion is a cynical way of "shedding some men/competition".... (i pay my silver membership every 60 days.... 30 quid a year... my decision no one elses!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a lot of rich idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From experience the majority of single guys on this site are time wasters..."

With respect, your profile states you only meet single men...ergo, your experiences with time-wasters will relate to single men.

I meet with women and couples, my experiences are that couples waste more of my time than single women.

If you insist on making sweeping statements why not use a more accurate one: cretins waste peoples time irregardless of their relationship status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think to state "the majority of single guys on this site are time wasters" is either a poor choice of or words or ridiculous sweeping statement.

The only way to prove it is if you actually know each single guy...or know someone who does.

Even then, you run into the issue of what constitutes a time waster? A couple last week created a thread saying, in their opinion, that not receiving a reply to their messages constituted time wasting. Does that count?

As I said earlier, everyone at some stages meets a time waster in some way, shape or form. It's not gender specific, it is down to that person/couple not having basic good manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From experience the majority of single guys on this site are time wasters..."

You have nine male verifications in six months, so you must have been messed around and set-up meets, dozens and dozens of times to come to that conclusion.

You must have some experience then!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I strongly disagree.

I'm a genuine guy and have had enough hassle with time wasters and pretenders on here.

The last thing I'd want is to pay £50 for the privilege of being messed about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee"

FIFTY QUID! Are you mad?

I begrudge paying the £5 for the silver membership each month!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As this site is a virtually free site do you think a £50 memership fee will eradicate all the idiots and timewasters as I know from meets and chatting on this site we all come across !! Even the pretend couples and single ladys and the scared shitless single guys what do you think xx lee

FIFTY QUID! Are you mad?

I begrudge paying the £5 for the silver membership each month!"

So would I, silver membership lasts for two months!

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

why just charge single men?

I've had single women most as time wasters.

I have met some wonderful men on here and now have a joint account with one.

i also find that couples are the rudest of people on here.

charging single men isn't fair nor a good idea in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"admin dont do anything i have reprted someone and i got no reply and they are still on here "

You won't get a reply, Admin don't have time to reply to everyone that sends them a message.

Just because someone is still here, does not mean they have not been punished as not turning up for a meet would not really get them banned from the site. They could either get:-

a) their profile stripped

b) a ban from sending messages for 24 or 48 hrs

c) a ban from the forums for 24 or 48 hrs

The problem with banning someone from a site is that they could just come back under a different name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Echoes " KinkyKytten " post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has been said before why just charge the single men?

We have been messed about by couples too.

We have come from a paying site on which we had about 5 meets the rest were just there to chat.....

On here we are doing ok

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"admin dont do anything i have reprted someone and i got no reply and they are still on here

You won't get a reply, Admin don't have time to reply to everyone that sends them a message.

Just because someone is still here, does not mean they have not been punished as not turning up for a meet would not really get them banned from the site. They could either get:-

a) their profile stripped

b) a ban from sending messages for 24 or 48 hrs

c) a ban from the forums for 24 or 48 hrs

The problem with banning someone from a site is that they could just come back under a different name"

Thats not quite right, people only get forum bans for something they have done on the forums and I have never known anyone to get blocked from sending messages unless they are disabled altogether. Getting a rofile stripped is because something on it is against rules.

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

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Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to expensive at £50. I think its ok as it is

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By *tickyfingers.24Man
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

Does op propose that once paid the joining fee a single guy then alsopays the monthly fee to become a gold or silver member? As it is now, if you subscribe to gold you pay the best part of £50/ annum , and £30 silver!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid idea and because of that I'm out "
...lol but I agree that there are a lot of genuine single males out there, like me, who are 100% genuine and it just wouldn't be fair and would definitely deter membership. This site works because you owners aren't being too greedy and making swinging affordable to all. Good work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make sure everyone is 100% verified

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