FabSwingers.com forum: Chat up in a bar

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have had a small number of meets now, and have decided we would like our experiences to be a little more natural.

The lady would sit by herself in a bar and wait to be chatted up by someone she found attractive. If everything went well and the guy is a gent then she could end up at his house for the night. This is something we are seriously considering, so guys must be able to accommodate. Also must be respectful and not pushy otherwise it won't happen.

She is attracted to athletic guys and dark skinned guys.

Does anyone else adopt this approach for finding others and does it work well?

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By *ouseofhoneyCouple
over a year ago

North West

It's a fantasy we have as well... exactly like that, not played it out though yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been lucky enough to do this once it's great

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Slightly off topic, but maybe more likely to end well. We are thinking of going to a Club as two singles and seeing how well we do - my money is on Beth cleaning up! At least in these circumstances we know we are playing with people with similar interests- pick ups in bars could be very different.

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I’ve hear from a friend that better hotel bars are a good place to do this during the business week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slightly off topic, but maybe more likely to end well. We are thinking of going to a Club as two singles and seeing how well we do - my money is on Beth cleaning up! At least in these circumstances we know we are playing with people with similar interests- pick ups in bars could be very different."

remind me to be at that club when you do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done this a few times before x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had a small number of meets now, and have decided we would like our experiences to be a little more natural.

She is attracted to athletic guys and dark skinned guys.

Does anyone else adopt this approach for finding others and does it work well?"

Would you want to arrange this ( Finding the guy first and discussing it) or you want to leave it for chance and luck ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s best to be organised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure all eyes would be on her. She looks fabulous

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

So would you arrange for the guy to be at the bar at the same time?

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By *rNaughtyMrsNaughtierCouple
over a year ago

NorthEast

This happened to us on a vanilla night out and WOW what a night it turned out to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were out on a Sunday night and it all came together omg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a fairly warm day, she had a short dress on, which was probably to short

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We would probably do this on a vanilla night out. We think it would work by being up front with the guy during the initial banter.

Of course, it would be ideal to arrange it with someone from fab, but the quality of messages that we receive (or lack of) doesn't fill us with much hope of adopting that route

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone in Hitchin or North Herts area I can do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would probably do this on a vanilla night out. We think it would work by being up front with the guy during the initial banter.

Of course, it would be ideal to arrange it with someone from fab, but the quality of messages that we receive (or lack of) doesn't fill us with much hope of adopting that route "

Message me please, maybe we can discuss it further if you wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never done this but have thought about it, maybe it's something I will do in the future

Mrs

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"I’ve hear from a friend that better hotel bars are a good place to do this during the business week

They are

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

My first meet was something similar.

I chatted up a very sexy woman in a hotel bar. We were joined by the husband and then headed to their room for some fun.

Unknown to the wife, the husband and I had arranged it before hand. Fortunately, wife didn't turn me down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds fun

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My first meet was something similar.

I chatted up a very sexy woman in a hotel bar. We were joined by the husband and then headed to their room for some fun.

Unknown to the wife, the husband and I had arranged it before hand. Fortunately, wife didn't turn me down."

did she ever know it was a set up?

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

I think so. I think hubby told her later.

We tried to meet again but real life got in the way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think so. I think hubby told her later.

We tried to meet again but real life got in the way.

She was ok with it? I think Iust be old fashioned or something

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Ha ha Freudian slip there *must

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

This is a fantasy of ours to just turn up in a decent business hotel and see who is about and outrageously flirt with someone we find appropriate, whether that be a single guy or lady and be ready to get a room.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve a hotwife friend. She once had an argument with her fella while round town. She stormed off and got herself a drink in a bar. She did get chatted up. Nothing happened that night but she kept his number and they met another time with her fellas approval.

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"I think so. I think hubby told her later.

We tried to meet again but real life got in the way.

She was ok with it? I think Iust be old fashioned or something

She was ok with it. We had such a good time that afternoon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had a small number of meets now, and have decided we would like our experiences to be a little more natural.

She is attracted to athletic guys and dark skinned guys.

Does anyone else adopt this approach for finding others and does it work well?"

This is definitely hot and something I would be interested in

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Wouldnt never done it and doesnt work on here either so waste of time in a bar

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

"Wouldnt know never done it and doesnt work on here either so waste of time in a bar"

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

It's how we've had some of our most successful swinging experiences, We've had years of Jane getting chatted up this way, and its led to some great times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a fantasy we have as well... exactly like that, not played it out though yet!"

Hope you get to do it soon though

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I stay in Hotels in Central London and do often wonder I'd there are any ladies or couples in the hotel bar open to some fun.

I've chatted to plenty but no fun has happened....yet.

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By *ocopops1962Man
over a year ago

Glasgow / Lindon

"It's how we've had some of our most successful swinging experiences, We've had years of Jane getting chatted up this way, and its led to some great times."

What if the guy was married , would you go ahead ?

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By *rs spicyCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield near centre

We do this often. We go to a small nightclub and hubby leaves me on my own for a while. I've often pulled by the time he gets back!

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By *tirlingshire matureMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Hotel bars work for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done this and yes it definitely does work

Loved it

Will be doing it again also

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Sounds fun x we’re off to Benidorm soon let’s see if we can make it happen there lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this and can confirm hotel bars are great for it

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"Wouldnt never done it and doesnt work on here either so waste of time in a bar"

How do you know if you've never tried?

The male/female ration in a bar has to be better than on here for a start.

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

"I love this and can confirm hotel bars are great for it"

Yes. It’s a great way to pick up an extra for a threesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t remember ever being chatted up at all in any scenario, the chance would be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely love chatting and meeting women out and about, not just in bars.. anywhere. I prefer it a lot more than meeting them online.. seems to work much better than me

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By *ane dickCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Something we would like to try

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Yes I like the sound of that scenario. A few years ago there use to be singles discos / evenings at some of our local bars. You had to get a ticket. Never went but thought about it recently and they seem to have vanished. Maybe Covid killed them off. Anyone know?

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

This sounds like fun..... We’ve talked about this but never had the opportunity yet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a similar fantasy to this, hotel bar where Mrs has a few drinks and teases/flirts with a guy (would be organised beforehand ) while hubby watches on from across the room. We would then head on up to our room to be joined by the hubby shortly after for us to all enjoy some mmf fun

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"We have a similar fantasy to this, hotel bar where Mrs has a few drinks and teases/flirts with a guy (would be organised beforehand ) while hubby watches on from across the room. We would then head on up to our room to be joined by the hubby shortly after for us to all enjoy some mmf fun

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I did this with a couple before and it was a fantastic night. Hopefully you get to experience it soon.

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

"I’ve hear from a friend that better hotel bars are a good place to do this during the business week

Yes! If you see a gent on their own eating or at the bar in a hotel during the week, chances are they are looking for nsa fun. Trust me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve hear from a friend that better hotel bars are a good place to do this during the business week

Hotel bars are great for this scenario

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

Bang up for this with you guys.

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By *psidedown PineapplesCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

We’ve thought about this. Mrs would chat up a guy in the hotel bar and see if they fancy joining us in the room

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"We’ve thought about this. Mrs would chat up a guy in the hotel bar and see if they fancy joining us in the room

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Ever in London for a night out?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Have you ever considered just going out on the pull? Me and My have corrupted vanilla couples and singles on nights out before. And when we go out alone we both like to get our flirt on? Can't get more natural than that and no prior arrangement needed.

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