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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I feel like when myself and Athena are playing with another couple or even a single lady, I struggle to get hard…

Not really sure why, maybe it’s nerves, maybe pressure or maybe I’m just not really into being one of multiple people? Maybe I enjoy watching and hearing people more than participating?

Oorr, maybe, I get turned on by Athena because I know her inside and out, she knows me inside and out?

It’s a bit annoying because I feel like I’m letting down the balance a bit with couples and when it’s single ladies I don’t want to make them feel weird about it?

Have any of you gentlemen in a couple had this happen to you? If so what did you do?

Should I have Athena fluff me beforehand ?

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

I can say it has happened to me in a similar way i seem to be fine with mmf but ffm it has been a bit not so mucb fun but alls well in the end pretty much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens a lot more than people admit to, so please dont feel awkward about it. If it helps, let people know before playing that you struggle with this.

Remember that there is so much that you can offer besides your cock, such as your lips, tongue, ass, fingers, as well as your words, facial expressions etc. This is expecially true if the other people you play with are bi, as in that situation there are a lot of play options so your penis is really not that important. Sometimes, it can help to take a step back and watch for a while.

You can choose to keep your underwear on, and let people know that your genetalia is out of bounds until you take them off. This gives you the control and removes pressure. People will also focus on playing with you in other ways.

It can also help to spend lots of time cuddling/kissing before play and between various sexual activities. Again, this can reduce the amount of pressure you feel.

Finally, its ok for you to have some play where you are playing solely with your partner. The other two could play together in the same space, or they could watch you and either decribe what you are doing (in a sexy way obvs) or give you instructions.

Happy exploring!

Fay x

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

I’ve experienced this on a few occasions. Ultimately there’s nothing you can do about it so the best thing to do is just focus on giving the lady you’re with an enjoyable time by other means.......

It’s always happened to me when we are with other couples, who we know well, and the ladies have always been fine about it.

No idea why it happens but I try not to worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This happens a lot more than people admit to, so please dont feel awkward about it. If it helps, let people know before playing that you struggle with this.

Remember that there is so much that you can offer besides your cock, such as your lips, tongue, ass, fingers, as well as your words, facial expressions etc. This is expecially true if the other people you play with are bi, as in that situation there are a lot of play options so your penis is really not that important. Sometimes, it can help to take a step back and watch for a while.

You can choose to keep your underwear on, and let people know that your genetalia is out of bounds until you take them off. This gives you the control and removes pressure. People will also focus on playing with you in other ways.

It can also help to spend lots of time cuddling/kissing before play and between various sexual activities. Again, this can reduce the amount of pressure you feel.

Finally, its ok for you to have some play where you are playing solely with your partner. The other two could play together in the same space, or they could watch you and either decribe what you are doing (in a sexy way obvs) or give you instructions.

Happy exploring!

Fay x

"

Thank you very much for your help, I will definitely make great use of that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve experienced this on a few occasions. Ultimately there’s nothing you can do about it so the best thing to do is just focus on giving the lady you’re with an enjoyable time by other means.......

It’s always happened to me when we are with other couples, who we know well, and the ladies have always been fine about it.

No idea why it happens but I try not to worry about it."

Yeah, it may just be a case of needing to get used to there being more people around or maybe even needing more time and meets with those people to feel more comfortable around them! Thank you for your help!

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