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Do you do something to make someone happy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been asked to do something I’m not happy with. How do I say no without looking like a prude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just say no I'm not happy doing that. And just explain hiw it makes you feel.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I’ve been asked to do something I’m not happy with. How do I say no without looking like a prude? "

Oh c'on what is it xx

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Depend what it is before others can share the opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You put yourself first, don’t ever do anything to please someone else you aren’t comfortable with. If someone calls you a prude for saying no to something then it tells you everything you need to know to walk away…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been asked to do something I’m not happy with. How do I say no without looking like a prude?

Oh c'on what is it xx"

Group sex

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Just tell them that you aren't feeling it... Would you want someone to do something, just because you wanted it and they didn't?

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By *urvy123babeWoman
over a year ago

cambridge

No is a complete sentence.

No need to explain yourself

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By *appytaffWoman
over a year ago

blackwood

You should never ever ever have to explain yourself, a no is always a no x

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

This is one of the reasons my wife and I have an ENM relationship, if either of us want to try something that the other has no interest in we can find someone to try it with and no one feels pressured or guilt ridden if they say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm concerned that the reason you don't want to just say no is because you think you'll look like a prude. Seriously? You need to grow up. Harsh but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep always say no if you are uncomfortable or don't like doing something. if they can't acept it, then it's their issue.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I wouldn't care what anyone called me. If I don't want to do something, I won't and I certainly wouldn't do it just to make someone happy, especially anything sexual x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s with 3 guys one is my bf but feeling blah about it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You just say no.

Why on earth would refusing to be with three guys make you look like a prude

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How about he does something to make you happy and doesn't ask again

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It’s with 3 guys one is my bf but feeling blah about it "

If you aren't 100% comfortable and happy with the idea then say no. Says a lot about your BF if he calls you a prude etc....I'd be showing the disrespectful sod the door x

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By *relanddirectMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"It’s with 3 guys one is my bf but feeling blah about it "

Oh wow, surely there has to be discussion about respect? Only ever do something you’re entirely happy to do, and it’s okay it’s nice to occasionally plays others but Definitely not like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s with 3 guys one is my bf but feeling blah about it "

No, if you don't want to do it, don't do it.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

It is all about consent if you don’t consent it’s a no and no explanation is needed.!

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

It’s a simple no I’m not happy doing that if he don’t like it let him fuck the other guys

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Just say your not happy with it ...I'm surprised he has not realised. Coercing people to do things reluctantly is not a good approach for a couple ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It’s a simple no I’m not happy doing that if he don’t like it let him fuck the other guys "

that made me laugh.

To be fair she hasn't said he's pressured her or he won't like her saying no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dunno if he wants to actually do it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Dunno if he wants to actually do it "

Erm, have you talked about this?

Who suggested it?

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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago

truro

If you are on this site you are not a prude. Also it would be possible for him to find someone who would do what he wants. If my partner said she was not happy doing something I ask then I would not enjoy doing it knowing she was uncomfortable with it. Just tell him no and explain your not happy with it.

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By *m NormalMan
over a year ago

Telford

I always ask first if my partner is happy to do what I ask, its the polite thing to do. If she says no I accept usually without question.

It's the same in reverse

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Dunno if he wants to actually do it "

In your opening post you said "you've been asked to do something"

I'm confused now....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dunno if he wants to actually do it

In your opening post you said "you've been asked to do something"

I'm confused now.... "

He asked me to do it but now I’m not sure he meant it

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"I’ve been asked to do something I’m not happy with. How do I say no without looking like a prude? "

If you don't want to to it. Don't do it.

If this is part of some sub play then... well you're on your own with this.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Dunno if he wants to actually do it

In your opening post you said "you've been asked to do something"

I'm confused now....

He asked me to do it but now I’m not sure he meant it "

Talk to him. Say you don't want to do it. If you want to discuss bit further ask if he's changed his mind. If he wants to discuss bit further he'll ask questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been asked to do something I’m not happy with. How do I say no without looking like a prude? "

Just say no.

If they call you a prude they are a controlling pos.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Dunno if he wants to actually do it

In your opening post you said "you've been asked to do something"

I'm confused now....

He asked me to do it but now I’m not sure he meant it "

Then the only answer is to sit him down and ask him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you dont let him know now that you dont want to then your relationship has no future not in swinging anyway this scene with couples is built on trust and openness ... just say no ... open and honest

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