FabSwingers.com forum: Courtesy

By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

Does anyone know what this is?!

If, after agreeing a meet, you decide not to go through with it for any reason, it is courteous to let them know. In my experience, increasingly I just get ghosted.

Is it just me? I feel totally worthless and disillusioned.

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

playa del ingles

"Does anyone know what this is?!

If, after agreeing a meet, you decide not to go through with it for any reason, it is courteous to let them know. In my experience, increasingly I just get ghosted.

Is it just me? I feel totally worthless and disillusioned. "

apparently it's common, same as sense - most of the time neither applies....

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

not just you and your not worthless..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite simply because half the people on here are married,their partner doesn’t know they’re on here, they get off on wanking about the idea but shit themselves if the chance of a meet arises. Nothing to do with you.

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By *appytaffWoman
over a year ago

blackwood

Not to mention the can I see a pic thing where you show them then they just block without even having the courtesy to say sorry not for me.

It’s not like we all become stalkers when they say sorry not for me lol - hardly makes for a friendly community in my view

Time is short these days so I’m now being very choosy about who I message back - harsh though that sounds

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It happens to a lot of people.it must cause frustration and make you feel disillusioned but it in no way makes you worthless. They're random strangers from the net.

How are you deciding who to meet?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

If it keeps happening to you it's maybe time to rethink how you go about things

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Someone did this to us and then about a week later they posted a status complaining that someone had done it to them!

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

I don’t meet any old people. I spend some time getting to know them. Bottom line is I think I’m too nice for this scene!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Simply put " some talk the talk but cant walk the walk" keyboard warriers who build you up and then shit their pants when you say yes to a meet. This site was not lile that years ago when it first started. I had loads of meets as a single man on here wirh cpls and singles. Guess times have changed for guys carrying through promises of meeting on here. You are not the only one. We had several cpls shit out on meeting up when we said yes to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we only meet at clubs now. But even that can go wrong. Have invited a guy into a room before. He can’t perform. Makes my partner feel unattractive but then he tells you it’s because he’s married and feels guilty and forgot to mention that bit

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

I can assure you it’s not me. I just have values that it seems people don’t have

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

playa del ingles

"I can assure you it’s not me. I just have values that it seems people don’t have"

never lower your own standards to meet someone elses

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"This is why we only meet at clubs now. But even that can go wrong. Have invited a guy into a room before. He can’t perform. Makes my partner feel unattractive but then he tells you it’s because he’s married and feels guilty and forgot to mention that bit"

I live in the back of beyond. No clubs for miles around and I wouldn’t go to one on my own anyway

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"I can assure you it’s not me. I just have values that it seems people don’t have

never lower your own standards to meet someone elses"

I definitely won’t. Thanks

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"Someone did this to us and then about a week later they posted a status complaining that someone had done it to them! "

Well that definitely isn’t me!! And I have testimonials to prove it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just you. I stopped meeting outside of clubs because I was so sick of being let down. Now i can't be bothered with clubs either cos im fed up of being stood up

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

No ones too nice for this scene.

You’ve obviously just not come across the decent ones yet

but you will.

Definitely agree about the clubs and organised socials. Great way of meeting genuine people and always worth the effort.

Or a good place to start is men verified by club meets. More often than not the clubs lot are great and genuine

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Surely you would let the person know ASAP x

That's happened to me I've had to cancel but always communicated properly.

I've also had somebody just stop talking after a meet was arranged and yes it's just rude!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly happens to me all the time aswell…build up for days/ weeks and then they disappear. Becoming too common on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t even cancel if monthlies arrived. Just explain it will have to be social and flirting only

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's not just you op,

Seems to be more and more common lately,so many threads on it .

It's just bloody rude ,if you change your mind fair dos,just tell that person and not waste their time and make them feel shit .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you do sex chat/ send more pics while chatting before the meet?

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"Do you do sex chat/ send more pics while chatting before the meet? "

Yes. I don’t do instant meets. I am very choosy

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"It's not just you op,

Seems to be more and more common lately,so many threads on it .

It's just bloody rude ,if you change your mind fair dos,just tell that person and not waste their time and make them feel shit ."

Absolutely right x

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"Sadly happens to me all the time aswell…build up for days/ weeks and then they disappear. Becoming too common on here.

And guys say it’s just women - well it definitely is both ways…

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By *appytaffWoman
over a year ago

blackwood

"I don’t meet any old people. I spend some time getting to know them. Bottom line is I think I’m too nice for this scene!

Me too lol

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"Surely you would let the person know ASAP x

That's happened to me I've had to cancel but always communicated properly.

I've also had somebody just stop talking after a meet was arranged and yes it's just rude!! "

If you just know, it’s better than being ghosted, so you can get on with other stuff

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

It happened to me with several couples, never with a woman.

I am convinced that those were fake couples, just the husband fantasizing with getting her wife involved.

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"Wouldn’t even cancel if monthlies arrived. Just explain it will have to be social and flirting only"

Fair play!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Never happened to me after well over a decade of being a Fab member, suppose I've been very lucky.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"Quite simply because half the people on here are married,their partner doesn’t know they’re on here, they get off on wanking about the idea but shit themselves if the chance of a meet arises. Nothing to do with you."

Snap happened to me twice this week x

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Been ghosted recently after meeting a young woman. If she doesn’t want to meet again just say , I’m not gonna cry at my age

. But to ghost is just fucking disrespectful in my view

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Someone did this to us and then about a week later they posted a status complaining that someone had done it to them!

Well that definitely isn’t me!! And I have testimonials to prove it"

? I didn't mean to imply it was you.

It was a) pre-covid, b) in the midlands and most importantly c) a guy!

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"Someone did this to us and then about a week later they posted a status complaining that someone had done it to them!

Well that definitely isn’t me!! And I have testimonials to prove it

? I didn't mean to imply it was you.

It was a) pre-covid, b) in the midlands and most importantly c) a guy!

Unbelievable!!

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

"Been ghosted recently after meeting a young woman. If she doesn’t want to meet again just say , I’m not gonna cry at my age

. But to ghost is just fucking disrespectful in my view "

Exactly!!

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By *issbehaving13 OP Woman
over a year ago

East Devon

Snap happened to me twice this week x"

Oh FFS!! x

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

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By *remiumbondMan
over a year ago

Walsall

Agree totally…. I chatted with people & offered advice and then nothing???? Not a thank you kiss my ass or even the decent thing to do which is say thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you do sex chat/ send more pics while chatting before the meet?

Yes. I don’t do instant meets. I am very choosy"

They got what they wanted and had a wank.

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