FabSwingers.com forum: Hang ups

By *alt Vinegar OP Couple
over a year ago

Nowhere

Hi people. I’m looking for advice. I’m the male in a couple whom are interested in this lifestyle. The trouble is, I have some real hang ups about my own body image. I’ve never been slim, always been larger bodied, and I’ve always hated myself for it. As well as and oversized body, I think I have a thin undersided member. She says it’s fine and there’s nothing wrong with it, but I don’t wanna be in a situation where we’ve finally arranged a meet and I’m either a disappointment or worse still laughed at.

Does anyone have any genuine advice, I don’t wanna let my partner down if this is going to be our new hobby.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Nothing wrong with it from what I can see in your pictures. I was the same when I first started but you soon realise that personality is a more important trait to many and not what’s in your trousers.

Hopefully you can overcome the issue and start having fun. Good luck sir

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By *alt Vinegar OP Couple
over a year ago

Nowhere

Thank you Russel Sprout

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"Thank you Russel Sprout"

No problem. If you click reply +quote you won’t need to name everyone you reply to on the forums.

Good luck and all the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a lot of hang ups about myself, but I am slowly learning that different people like different things, and that it isn't a one size fits all kind of world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all have confidence issues one way or another … I’m sure no one would ever laugh at you I don’t think anyone would be that disrespectful if I’m honest

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

If you go to a club (you don't have to play), you'll see that all shapes and sizes go and you have nothing to worry about. At many clubs you don't have to strip off when you get in. If you go a few times you're confidence should grow and you can have some great times.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

My advice would be to not lead with your insecurities when you're interacting with people

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By *ewbieCouple87Couple
over a year ago

bradford

Im a skinny lad and i often feel as if ill be ridiculed or looked at differently than lads with a bigger build.. my point is all of us have hang ups. No matter your size, gender or race

it is all in your head though and if you act confident (not cocky), your confidence shines through your insecurities

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

We all have something we dont like about ourselves its normal. I became a naturist and all those fears disapeared. Nobody judges you enjoy your playtime.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

The way to remove that fear of disappointment is to show what you consider to be your worst bits on your profile. (That's why I show my belly and man boobs.)

However, if your partner fancies you, it is at least conceivable that some other people will too, isn't it? After all, we all like different things.

And, the truth is, most people who contact and/or meet you will be more interested in your partner anyway. That is the experience of quite a few couples on here.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Hi people. I’m looking for advice. I’m the male in a couple whom are interested in this lifestyle. The trouble is, I have some real hang ups about my own body image. I’ve never been slim, always been larger bodied, and I’ve always hated myself for it. As well as and oversized body, I think I have a thin undersided member. She says it’s fine and there’s nothing wrong with it, but I don’t wanna be in a situation where we’ve finally arranged a meet and I’m either a disappointment or worse still laughed at.

Does anyone have any genuine advice, I don’t wanna let my partner down if this is going to be our new hobby."

We are always our own worst critics

. Try not to beat yourself up about, be happy with who you are and you'll do fine on here

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