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By *ammymac OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Can any ladies help me understand my wife please. Last night, not for the first time, while bringing my wife to orgasm I told her to imagine another guy in the room naked and masturbating while watching us and does she want me to suck him to orgasm, “yes” she says and she has multiple orgasms at the thought while I describe what is happening in our fantasy. She loves this senario and while I have used it in the past this time after she had finished I told her I would like to play out our fantasy for real and invite a guy and I or we could masturbate him and I could give him oral sex. She flatly refused and said she would not be present but if I wanted to I could meet a guy alone. Hi have a bi side, which knows about, but doesn’t know I meet guys occasionally for mutual sexual fun.

I’m looking to understand why she loves the fantasy but doesn’t want the reality but tells me I can meet men privately for sex.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not have a guy waiting outside. Get her horny and run through the scenario again. When she says yes tell her there’s a guy outside and you’ll call him in. She can then say yes or no but by the sounds of it more than likely it’s a yes.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Because not everyone wants to turn a fantasy into reality.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Because not everyone wants to turn a fantasy into reality."

Exactly this

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Because not everyone wants to turn a fantasy into reality."

Yep another for this answer.

Some prefer fantasy's go stay as that .

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

I’m looking to understand why she loves the fantasy but doesn’t want the reality.

Thanks "

Have you tried asking her?

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"

I’m looking to understand why she loves the fantasy but doesn’t want the reality.

Thanks

Have you tried asking her? "

Stop being sensible

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

I’m looking to understand why she loves the fantasy but doesn’t want the reality.

Thanks

Have you tried asking her?

Stop being sensible "

I think the moment has passed. Wibble.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"

I’m looking to understand why she loves the fantasy but doesn’t want the reality.

Thanks

Have you tried asking her? "

Preposterous!

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By *e Platypuss de ErotiqueMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Because not everyone wants to turn a fantasy into reality."

Same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not have a guy waiting outside. Get her horny and run through the scenario again. When she says yes tell her there’s a guy outside and you’ll call him in. She can then say yes or no but by the sounds of it more than likely it’s a yes. "

This could lead to big regrets.

These things have to be discussed and agreed when not in the heat of the moment.

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By *mma and ChrisCouple
over a year ago

Hounslow

I think many women - and men - prefer sone things to stay as a fantasy. Reality can often be totally different.

Keep it as a fantasy for you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can only assume.

My guess is that she'd like to keep fantasy as exactly that, and she feels she can't give you what you want, so happy for you to explore your bi side without her.

But that's only me taking a guess from what you've expressed here.

The only correct answer is that from your wife.

Talk it all through with her.

All of it, your desire for her to enjoy another Man and your desire to do the same.

Talk, talk, talk.

We can only guess, your wife has the answers.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

At some point, after plenty of communicate, you don't have to understand it - but accept it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Can any ladies help me understand my wife please. Last night, not for the first time, while bringing my wife to orgasm I told her to imagine another guy in the room naked and masturbating while watching us and does she want me to suck him to orgasm, “yes” she says and she has multiple orgasms at the thought while I describe what is happening in our fantasy. She loves this senario and while I have used it in the past this time after she had finished I told her I would like to play out our fantasy for real and invite a guy and I or we could masturbate him and I could give him oral sex. She flatly refused and said she would not be present but if I wanted to I could meet a guy alone. Hi have a bi side, which knows about, but doesn’t know I meet guys occasionally for mutual sexual fun.

I’m looking to understand why she loves the fantasy but doesn’t want the reality but tells me I can meet men privately for sex.

Thanks "

Speak to your wife and ask her why she feels this way but I think the answer will be that fantasy and reality are different and she has no wish to make the fantasy reality. Please do not go with the suggestion of having a guy waiting outside.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

The porn I watch whilst getting myself off is my ultimate fantasy, but I don't think I'd ever have the nerve to do it in real life. Fantasy is just that, reality is very different.

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Because its a fantasy and thats where it ends..

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By *ood You KindlyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Some fantasies are purely a means of getting off in the moment. They are fun to imagine but it doesn’t mean you’d enjoy it for real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From experience,fantasies are rarely as good in reality. And,once made real,the fantasy is no longer as good. It’s a similar principle to that where a woman usually looks better in lingerie than naked. Leave a little to the imagination as the mind is the best aphrodisiac there is.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

Hammy you are insinuating your wife is being illogical. But you've made a leap in your logic yourself : This is YOUR desire, not hers! She shares in the fantasy side of it, and that is wonderful for the both of you. She accepts you meeting with others to pursue your desire. She has allowed you some sexual autonomy, the least you can do is afford her the same.

Maybe another question to ask your wife would be if she does have any of her own fantasies that she would like materialised, rather than why she doesn't want to materialise yours

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove


"The porn I watch whilst getting myself off is my ultimate fantasy, but I don't think I'd ever have the nerve to do it in real life. Fantasy is just that, reality is very different. "

...and now I'm sooo curious about what this is

The ***ultimate*** fantasy!

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"The porn I watch whilst getting myself off is my ultimate fantasy, but I don't think I'd ever have the nerve to do it in real life. Fantasy is just that, reality is very different.

...and now I'm sooo curious about what this is

The ***ultimate*** fantasy!"

Extreme nudist ironing?

Skydive masturbating?

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"The porn I watch whilst getting myself off is my ultimate fantasy, but I don't think I'd ever have the nerve to do it in real life. Fantasy is just that, reality is very different.

...and now I'm sooo curious about what this is

The ***ultimate*** fantasy!"

Nothing shocking, just being fucked by a room full of lots of guys and have every hole dripping with cum.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Because not everyone wants to turn a fantasy into reality."

Exactly this, sometimes things are better left as fantasy.

Mrs

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Why not have a guy waiting outside. Get her horny and run through the scenario again. When she says yes tell her there’s a guy outside and you’ll call him in. "

This is an appalling idea!

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"Why not have a guy waiting outside. Get her horny and run through the scenario again. When she says yes tell her there’s a guy outside and you’ll call him in.

This is an appalling idea!

"

I agree. Could totally backfire. Fantasy is not reality!

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By *tinerant scribeMan
over a year ago

County Durham


"Why not have a guy waiting outside. Get her horny and run through the scenario again. When she says yes tell her there’s a guy outside and you’ll call him in. She can then say yes or no but by the sounds of it more than likely it’s a yes. "

That's not really consensual unless it is happening at a club.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"Why not have a guy waiting outside. Get her horny and run through the scenario again. When she says yes tell her there’s a guy outside and you’ll call him in. She can then say yes or no but by the sounds of it more than likely it’s a yes.

That's not really consensual unless it is happening at a club."

Exactly. The Op has already said she flatly refused when asked, so why put her in a position of possibly going along with it, when she really isn't comfortable? He would get a jab in the balls from me, with stilettos on.

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Because not everyone wants to turn a fantasy into reality.

Exactly this"

Vampire movies are kinda popular, how many girls really want to be bitten on the neck and turned into one?

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By *ammymac OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"

I’m looking to understand why she loves the fantasy but doesn’t want the reality.

Thanks

Have you tried asking her? "

Indeed yes, because the thought when I’m bringing her to orgasm make it more intensive, pleasurable and multiple. Once done she just wants to leave it as fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I’m looking to understand why she loves the fantasy but doesn’t want the reality.

Thanks

Have you tried asking her?

Indeed yes, because the thought when I’m bringing her to orgasm make it more intensive, pleasurable and multiple. Once done she just wants to leave it as fantasy. "

That's her reason then, sometimes Mrs A likes me making up a naughty story as we're getting intimate, but she doesn't always want to carry it out.

Sometimes we have to accept what we may not understand.

You can talk about it, at a time you're not both sexually excited, express your thoughts without being pushy.

If it's no after that, it's a no.

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

OP, shouldn't it be about what you Both want, not just what you want?

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Once done she just wants to leave it as fantasy. "

Have you considered respecting her wishes?

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By *iceHungWakefieldMan
over a year ago

there is a clue somewhere

You would have more chance of pissing on the moon that answer that question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have already said were you are meeting guys alone before she said you could...so you have already cheated on her. Maybe she is already feeling insecure.

As others have said, it's a fantasy just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would have more chance of pissing on the moon that answer that question. "

He's had the answer.

The fantasy is exciting, but not the thought of it being reality.

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By *iceHungWakefieldMan
over a year ago

there is a clue somewhere

not the answer he wants to hear so its invalid.

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