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By *ssexhampton OP   Man
over a year ago

Rayleigh

Can anyone explain, if a man has anal sex it's seen as a "gay" act? If 2 men have anal sex I would accept that they are probably gay but if a woman takes a man with a strap on I do not see that as a "gay" act. Just to be clear this is an observation of the attitude in the outside world and not on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it’s because the attraction to gender doesn’t have to include their bits and pieces?

2 men having sex is different to a man and a woman regardless of how your doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being gay is an attrachtion as such not a sexual act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think we are in a day and age where alot of people dont care for labels ... if you enjoy you enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of straight men like anal play, including pegging. It feels good for anatomical reasons that are the same for all men as well as being an interesting power dynamic for some people.

It has nothing to do with sexual orientation

I dont know about anyone else, but the phrase "gay act" makes me a tad unconfortable. It sounds like a line you cross or a crime you commit. Like: if you comit this act then you stop being straight and become gay. That doesnt feel acurate at all! Lots of people experiment before figuring out what they enjoy sexually and how they want to describe their orientation.

It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....)

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Personally I've never really got that either. Thats like saying oral for a girl is gay even if a guy does it? Just cos girls do it too.

I think its mostly from other men though OP. They see it as less manly somehow and therefore 'gay. I wholeheartedly disagree

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Great band name

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

Why get hung up on labels, if you enjoy it just keep doing it!!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Great band name "

In session tonight along with pulled apart by horse's.

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By *illanelleWoman
over a year ago

Ryde, Isle of Wight


"Great band name "

I've got all their albums

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Can anyone explain, if a man has anal sex it's seen as a "gay" act? If 2 men have anal sex I would accept that they are probably gay but if a woman takes a man with a strap on I do not see that as a "gay" act. Just to be clear this is an observation of the attitude in the outside world and not on Fab."

A man being pegged by a woman is not a "gay act"

If it were, two lesbians using a strap-on would become a straight couple.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"Lots of straight men like anal play, including pegging. It feels good for anatomical reasons that are the same for all men as well as being an interesting power dynamic for some people.

It has nothing to do with sexual orientation

I dont know about anyone else, but the phrase "gay act" makes me a tad unconfortable. It sounds like a line you cross or a crime you commit. Like: if you comit this act then you stop being straight and become gay. That doesnt feel acurate at all! Lots of people experiment before figuring out what they enjoy sexually and how they want to describe their orientation.

It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....) "

Thank you.

Brilliantly put.

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By *uriouslad1Man
over a year ago

ruddington

Absolutely spot on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn I thought this was gonna be about butthole riddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who really cares what the act is considered... If an individual enjoys something then who are we to put them in a box

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

Pretty sure you can only be guy if you do it with another gay. It's nobody else's business anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....) "

Biromantic - on first reading I thought that was something to do with a pen! Biro mantic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of straight men like anal play, including pegging. It feels good for anatomical reasons that are the same for all men as well as being an interesting power dynamic for some people.

It has nothing to do with sexual orientation

I dont know about anyone else, but the phrase "gay act" makes me a tad unconfortable. It sounds like a line you cross or a crime you commit. Like: if you comit this act then you stop being straight and become gay. That doesnt feel acurate at all! Lots of people experiment before figuring out what they enjoy sexually and how they want to describe their orientation.

It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....) "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....)

Biromantic - on first reading I thought that was something to do with a pen! Biro mantic. "

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe


"Great band name

I've got all their albums"

They're even better live

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