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Is it rude to assume???

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

Our jubilee get together bought up some weird and wonderful conversation between friends. After the usual vanilla stuff we were posing scenarios and asking what each would do. To throw a spanner in the works I asked this question. I knew it would spice things up and reveal how different people view things. So I thought I’d ask the ladies and gents on here!

A night out leads you back home with someone you’ve met that evening. You’re in bed having a good time when a man is about to orgasm… does he assume where he should cum or is it something that’s agreed on before that point?

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Surely you would be using protection with a stranger? So in the condom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

clearly not all think the same so i would guess that if a woman did not want cum in a certain place then she would say but even then i dont think its best to assume with anything

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If the recipient hasn't already expressed a preference, I'd be very surprised, and would probably be giving a warning of imminence. In the absence of any feedback, I would continue as is.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Surely you would be using protection with a stranger? So in the condom."

One might be asked to withdraw, lose the condom and come in her mouth.

...at three seconds notice

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’d be using a condom but I have been asked if they can come over me and if so where.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Suggest those that are quoting the naming of another profile stop and think for a sec....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our jubilee get together bought up some weird and wonderful conversation between friends. After the usual vanilla stuff we were posing scenarios and asking what each would do. To throw a spanner in the works I asked this question. I knew it would spice things up and reveal how different people view things. So I thought I’d ask the ladies and gents on here!

A night out leads you back home with someone you’ve met that evening. You’re in bed having a good time when a man is about to orgasm… does he assume where he should cum or is it something that’s agreed on before that point?"

In my experience assumptions are generally wrong

Missy x

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Suggest those that are quoting the naming of another profile stop and think for a sec...."

Why?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


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Why? "

Because they're literally repeating the offence...

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


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Why?

Because they're literally repeating the offence..."

Ok repeating the name you mean. I understand now.

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

Some great responses. Such a shame the focus of the question was lost in the distraction of the name drop.

Thank you to the contributors

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

They normally just cum inside, no prior conversation... followed by a text 2 days later to ask if I'm on the pill haha. If they've wanted to cum elsewhere they've always asked but have found it rare they do.

And yeah I mainly do bareback, unless they want to do otherwise which has only been once, even with one night stands, it feels better, get tested regularly, no fucks given.

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

It's an interesting dilemma ans great question that you raise.

As others have rightly said, the vast majority of the vanilla world don't bother with condoms or even try to discuss protection in the heat of the moment.

It's only the swing scene where some insist on covered play for anything, others only for penetration, some for bare play with an outside finish.....

And then there's the creampie lovers.

But it's a great point to raise if only to gauge the response.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


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As others have rightly said, the vast majority of the vanilla world don't bother with condoms or even try to discuss protection in the heat of the moment.

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I don't agree. For one night stands I think most people use condoms.

I would expect someone to come inside me if we hadn't discussed anything previously

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven


"It's an interesting dilemma ans great question that you raise.

As others have rightly said, the vast majority of the vanilla world don't bother with condoms or even try to discuss protection in the heat of the moment.

It's only the swing scene where some insist on covered play for anything, others only for penetration, some for bare play with an outside finish.....

And then there's the creampie lovers.

But it's a great point to raise if only to gauge the response."

It really is interesting to see so many different responses. I think you’ve included most options in your post, yet the part that resonated with me is the ‘heat of the moment’ that comes into play. An unexpected meeting with someone on a random night out is prepared for differently.

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven


"They normally just cum inside, no prior conversation... followed by a text 2 days later to ask if I'm on the pill haha. If they've wanted to cum elsewhere they've always asked but have found it rare they do.

And yeah I mainly do bareback, unless they want to do otherwise which has only been once, even with one night stands, it feels better, get tested regularly, no fucks given."

Your preference. Thanks for sharing

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