FabSwingers.com forum: Newbie's thinking of 3sum with 2 males need advice.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi there this is going to sound so silly and I dont know if anyone else experienced it at the start.

We are thinking about a 3sum with another guy but i (mrs) am terrified of how it would start. I know it sounds silly but that makes me nervous any tips or idea's greatly appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi there this is going to sound so silly and I dont know if anyone else experienced it at the start.

We are thinking about a 3sum with another guy but i (mrs) am terrified of how it would start. I know it sounds silly but that makes me nervous any tips or idea's greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Hi just make sure you get on with the other guy and that he know what you will do and will not do...then just go with the flow and once the fun has started you will and should feel relaxed x

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

Just go with the flow it will be very natural and you will enjoy every minute

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

Just go with the flow it will be very natural and you will enjoy every minute

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By *aulus1969ukMan
over a year ago

Skelmersdale

Get to know the person you intend to share with first and see if you feel comfortable. If you are still nervous and unsure then maybe it is not the right time for you just yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You start it. Kiss and begin with your hubby, then whilst he's sat enjoying your oral, pat for the guest to sit beside him and the rest will take care of itself. So long as you have control and feel comfy there's no other advice to give!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

find a guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This might be as equally as silly as it sounds but maybe find a couple 1st , your profile says you bi curious , so if you played with a couple it might be more comfortable for all, you can start with a soft swap and see how it goes , then maybe Mr takes a step back and you just play with the couple and then try a different variety of 3somes , them when it comes to meeting that ever elusive single male , it will feel a lot more relaxed

Oh and do your homework on the male or it may go pear shaped, check his verifications , ha he met couplea before ?

Did they say he was comfortable in that situation ?

And set some ground rules before the meet .

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This might be as equally as silly as it sounds but maybe find a couple 1st , your profile says you bi curious , so if you played with a couple it might be more comfortable for all, you can start with a soft swap and see how it goes , then maybe Mr takes a step back and you just play with the couple and then try a different variety of 3somes , them when it comes to meeting that ever elusive single male , it will feel a lot more relaxed

Oh and do your homework on the male or it may go pear shaped, check his verifications , ha he met couplea before ?

Did they say he was comfortable in that situation ?

And set some ground rules before the meet .

Good luck

I was nervous with first mmf meet I did, what worked for me, was exchanging loads texts with guy that was meeting myself (and partner at the time), then met guy socially for a drink, then on play night, the three of us had a couple drinks, chat, relaxed, set out rules, then I got two guys to sit next to each other, and kissed each in turn, things progressed naturally from their. Had a great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi there this is going to sound so silly and I dont know if anyone else experienced it at the start.

We are thinking about a 3sum with another guy but i (mrs) am terrified of how it would start. I know it sounds silly but that makes me nervous any tips or idea's greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Every single guy has to have a first meet but in your case I would advise you pick someone who has verifications.. that person will no doubt understand your situation and you feeling apprehensive before the meet so I would hope make you feel more comfortable and at ease when you do meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sort of just happens naturally. Relax and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the advice above is bang on. Do your homework, relax and don't get too worked up about it. Once it all starts to happen you'll wonder what you were worried about, and you'll have a FABulous time!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"All the advice above is bang on. Do your homework, relax and don't get too worked up about it. Once it all starts to happen you'll wonder what you were worried about, and you'll have a FABulous time!

Ahh there you are....this game of where's randy is too easy!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

good luck have fun no means no and oh yes means ......

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Hi there this is going to sound so silly and I dont know if anyone else experienced it at the start.

We are thinking about a 3sum with another guy but i (mrs) am terrified of how it would start. I know it sounds silly but that makes me nervous any tips or idea's greatly appreciated.

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Think as long as you choose someone that you both feel comfortable with and whose company you can enjoy, it will just happen.

A rub of the leg or starting with your partner always works well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh there you are....this game of where's randy is too easy!

They seek him here, they seek him there, those FABsters seek him everywhere, but truth be told, he's easy to find, just look for a cheeky little behind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you will love it we have had loads of threesomes with guys off here and not one bad one yet just relax and enjoy but know your limits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi there this is going to sound so silly and I dont know if anyone else experienced it at the start.

We are thinking about a 3sum with another guy but i (mrs) am terrified of how it would start. I know it sounds silly but that makes me nervous any tips or idea's greatly appreciated.

Thanks

All the advice so far is cool , but we are gonna interject here with summat a bit different !

You are a solid couple , so the extra guy is for your and his bit of fun - so , getting on well etc is totally irrelevant ! It's not a mate you want is it ? Too much chat , getting to know each other etc may well ruin it for you both - as long as the guy is respectful , good looking and horny thats all that matters

Remember it will be so much more fun for you all if he feels like it's for him too - too many no no 's will make it difficult so you ' getting off ' with him , perhaps a look or a sign then moving in for the clinch will do it - and the rest will be great - good luck and happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alcohol

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By *hris n AnnaCouple
over a year ago

edinburghish

Hi we recently had our first and i was very nervous (mrs ) we met for a drink first which did help just discuss what its you want relax you will have a ball . I did and cant wait to do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've done it a few times. We only go for easy-going, discrete, non-pushy guys.Can easily discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy who's been lucky enough to be included in many a couples similar arrangements - i'd say the easiest way to start is find a guy that's done it before - thus reducing the risk of a third inexperienced person being in on the event!!

Guess after being on site for over a year you guys should be able to spot one or two that take your fancy!

Good luck and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone, I actually feel alot more relaxed about it now and a lot more happier and definitely horny.

I think I might just start browsing. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best way is to spend a night at a club. Go there with no expectation of sex and just browse the selection infront of you . If you see someone you like invite to a jacuzzi or hot tub and have a chat you can then let your hands wander discreetly from there and move on elsewhere when ur ready too.

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By *riendly_Mancs_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Please allow us to put a whole new twist on things. We are in exactly the same boat and we have decided on Jayne being blindfolded. We both love the idea and also there's no awkward first meet etc. That suits us better.

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

We have all been newbie first timers, my advice is dont do what i did - i picked a couple with the most beautiful wife, and straight away felt out of my depth.

But we all live and learn, the next couple i invited round we had spoken on the phone and i felt asthough i already knew them, when they arrived and drinks were poured, conversation flowed easily.

After what seemed ages, and exchanging flirty looks, i joined them on the sofa and as her hubby freed her boobs, we both suckled eagerly.

It wasnt long before she was releasing our cocks, and as he got up to finger her pussy, she took me in her mouth - after that its a blur of 4 hrs of sex.

A couple of dozen meets later, its all alot easier and less stressful, we all know we are going to fuck, so take youre time, enjoy chatting, listen to them and take it all onboard.

Most all, treat every woman asthough she's precious, and never take the couple for granted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My (H) first experience of swinging was mmf and we chose someone who already had experience with it, i was nervous as hell but Phil was really good and everything was discussed first all the do's and dont's, they then both started kissing me and it went from there, i loved it and we had a fun afternoon, i went with the flow and having two experienced swingers taking care of me was a lot easier as they both knew what they wanted and had a good idea of what i enjoy, i guess as long as your all comfortable it will come naturally and you'll all hopefully have a fantastic time

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