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By *hoir OP   Couple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P"

See this quite often with guys asking for phone chat too. Anything goes or no limits. I can’t help wonder if that’s just people having no healthy boundaries or is it (maybe) code for something else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P"

Turn up with a cane and the biggest strap on you can find, than you'll find out if it means anything lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When someone says anything goes to me I instantly think that they have had a very vanilla sex life, and have no idea what anything goes means. It's a big turn off for delight.

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've met people who their train of thought is "anything goes" They were not naive nor stupid

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley


"Turn up with a cane and the biggest strap on you can find, than you'll find out if it means anything lol "

Totally, I had a woman tell me she wanted me to break a cane across her ass, we didn’t even get to what I would consider medium strength strokes before she decided she couldn’t take it.

Some people have a lot of fantasies but seriously underestimate the reality of them.

Others simply have no idea what they’re looking for

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P

Turn up with a cane and the biggest strap on you can find, than you'll find out if it means anything lol "

I often feel tempted to reply saying I am sharpening my axe

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By *hoir OP   Couple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I've met people who their train of thought is "anything goes" They were not naive nor stupid "

This would not make me nervous if I knew I was speaking to someone experienced, however rarely have we found that to be the case. Often its people saying "it's my dream to be..." Or "I've watched all the pron so anything goes"

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I often feel tempted to reply saying I am sharpening my axe "

Oooo I'm going to steal that, thank you

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I am sure you can gauge how serious they are by sending them a few well chosen Google queries and see if they come back?

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

requesting them to arrive at the pub for a social nakid with an unpeeled bananna up there arse usualy deals with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit like saying that you want to push your boundaries. Ok but in which way are we talking about?

Pegging

BDSM

Watersports

Knismolagnia

Sounding

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By *hoir OP   Couple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P

Turn up with a cane and the biggest strap on you can find, than you'll find out if it means anything lol

I often feel tempted to reply saying I am sharpening my axe "

Once in a BDSM group someone said "anything goes" they got rather pounced on. By far the best reply though was a lady asking the lad if he was ok with being strung up by his ankles, stark bollock naked, whipped with a bushel of stinging nettles, giant vibrating buttplug in his virgin arse whilst it was all filmed to be posted on social media for all his friends, family and work collegues to see. Sad to say he didn't get the hint...

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I've met people who their train of thought is "anything goes" They were not naive nor stupid

This would not make me nervous if I knew I was speaking to someone experienced, however rarely have we found that to be the case. Often its people saying "it's my dream to be..." Or "I've watched all the pron so anything goes"

P"

I'm more selective in who I meet. Anything goes mixed with a sadistic nature is very special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P"

Makes me think they are desperate for sex and want to keep all their options open. More chance of getting their dick wet if they say anything goes.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P

Makes me think they are desperate for sex and want to keep all their options open. More chance of getting their dick wet if they say anything goes. "

That's exactly how I view it too. They won't commit to what they like and dislike because they want me to say what I'm looking for, which will magically align precisely with what they really want.

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P

Turn up with a cane and the biggest strap on you can find, than you'll find out if it means anything lol

I often feel tempted to reply saying I am sharpening my axe "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P

Makes me think they are desperate for sex and want to keep all their options open. More chance of getting their dick wet if they say anything goes.

That's exactly how I view it too. They won't commit to what they like and dislike because they want me to say what I'm looking for, which will magically align precisely with what they really want."

Yep. That's why I never say what I'm looking for. They'd just say they want that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"requesting them to arrive at the pub for a social nakid with an unpeeled bananna up there arse usualy deals with them "

Lmao that’s brilliant

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

There was a time when a glimpse of stocking was something shocking…

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"requesting them to arrive at the pub for a social nakid with an unpeeled bananna up there arse usualy deals with them "

Yep, I’ve a girlfriend who tries this one with judt two differences: They’re only naked from the waist down but the banana has to be completely peeled with a satsuma unpeeled dangling on a string from their dick! m

She uses it all the time: it works a treat apparently! Except for the one guy who did this but the police were called and took him away to a psychiatric unit!

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By *hoir OP   Couple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Why do people say this? We have had multiple messages from different people (mostly men but the occasional couple) saying they want to be our play toy and we can do "anything" to them.

Now coming from a more kinky background, that expression is a big red flag for us. It usually means said person has no idea what they want, has no boundaries and has a potentially dangerous mindset. With that in mind it's a massive turn off for us.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it really mean "anything"? Or am I taking it too literally?

P

Makes me think they are desperate for sex and want to keep all their options open. More chance of getting their dick wet if they say anything goes.

That's exactly how I view it too. They won't commit to what they like and dislike because they want me to say what I'm looking for, which will magically align precisely with what they really want.

Yep. That's why I never say what I'm looking for. They'd just say they want that too. "

Call me naive but this didn't occur to me. I actually thought they just had low self esteem so no boundaries. I don't know which angle is more pitiable.

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