FabSwingers.com forum: Is it difficult for guys to meet?

By *ick1111 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Spalding

Hi all, I maybe new to this site, but not to this scene. I was just looking for some feedback on how easy or difficult it is for us guys to get meets through this site?.....Thanks all.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Through the site alone, yes it can be challenging because men vastly outnumber women and couples plus a lot of them get 100’s of messages a day and don’t have time to reply to them all.

Going to clubs, parties and organised socials are where you’ll find meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say it is, I send a few messages, never crude(not really my nature) and rarely get a reply.

If she wishes it to turn rude then happy to follow her lead.

Seems polite and respectful rarely works.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

A Bi Guy shouldn’t have too many problems but it will be with other guys. However there are some women and couples who specifically state on their profiles no bisexual men. So you can lower your chances with some on the site.

It’s not easy for anyone to be honest, too much choice or not enough, in the end if you don’t fancy that person it won’t really matter.

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By *nnasHammerCouple
over a year ago

The Upside Down

Best way forward would be to attend the social events. Easier to meet people that way.

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

As another older bi guy who doesn't go to clubs, I'd say just be patient and very targeted in who you approach. It took me a year to get my first meet but then it just took off.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"As another older bi guy who doesn't go to clubs, I'd say just be patient and very targeted in who you approach. It took me a year to get my first meet but then it just took off. "

Yes exactly this. Takes time to build a noticeable profile and build your connections. Apparently going to clubs and socials is a good way to meet new people. Clubs are not my thing however so I have just had to be patient but very active on here. Took me two years to get anywhere now I’m turning down offers. Fab has been fantastic for me

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Through the site alone, yes it can be challenging because men vastly outnumber women and couples plus a lot of them get 100’s of messages a day and don’t have time to reply to them all.

Going to clubs, parties and organised socials are where you’ll find meets "

This is your best chance guys!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I’d say it is, I send a few messages, never crude(not really my nature) and rarely get a reply.

If she wishes it to turn rude then happy to follow her lead.

Seems polite and respectful rarely works. "

You've only been on 3 weeks.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Through the site alone, yes it can be challenging because men vastly outnumber women and couples plus a lot of them get 100’s of messages a day and don’t have time to reply to them all.

Going to clubs, parties and organised socials are where you’ll find meets

This is your best chance guys!"

Never been to a club ever! So no it isn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not hard at all.

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By *ouseofhoneyCouple
over a year ago

North West

The biggest issue we have is we get a shit load of messages from single guys and over 90% haven't read the profile at all and just address everything to the female as if its a single profile...

Some of them might even fit the bill but because their initial message is like that then I doubt they would be the sort of person we would want to spend time with so they just go straight in the bin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So much easier for single guys at clubs I think… I wouldn’t go to a club on a night single guys aren’t allowed… but I also wouldn’t go out of our way to go and “meet” a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s different for every guy I’d imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been on and off fab for years, i suppose you have to be patient. I always start by contacting people close by within 2 miles or so, get a fwb who is local and go to clubs together or bring people into ya circle if ya have kinks. Alot of single guys dont like the idea of going alone to clubs or socials. Giving out all my trade secrets now

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Hi all, I maybe new to this site, but not to this scene. I was just looking for some feedback on how easy or difficult it is for us guys to get meets through this site?.....Thanks all."

Bad for most guys and not much better for us couples !!. A lot here who can talk the talk but nothing else.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

No it’s not difficult for genuine guys to have meets ..

It’s the same in the real world though ..

Be nice, be patient and don’t act a dick always talking sex ..

Build friendships..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, eSy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have your on and off moments club can be good but can be price been a single guy at same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you have your on and off moments club can be good but can be price been a single guy at same time"
also club on your own is can be lot to take in been guy been dressed down talking women as well

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By *otandhardcouple2Couple
over a year ago

stockton

"The biggest issue we have is we get a shit load of messages from single guys and over 90% haven't read the profile at all and just address everything to the female as if its a single profile...

Some of them might even fit the bill but because their initial message is like that then I doubt they would be the sort of person we would want to spend time with so they just go straight in the bin.

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this is how it is for us too,

If guys could only read the profile and actually do match what we,re looking they then mess it up with their first message by directing the message to me only ( mrs), guys you really don.t help yourselves if you discount/ignore the male half of a couple, imagine if you did that in person at a meet.. you wouldn.t get very far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men 100 to every one woman sometimes depending on what area alot more = alot of men getting nowhere and the odds are a little better in clubs but most ho home with nothing

preference/attraction is the same on fab and other site's as is in clubs or dogging ..

i think the guys who get most success are the guys who get swinging as in how it work and why ...the sex on a plate guys get zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d say it is, I send a few messages, never crude(not really my nature) and rarely get a reply.

If she wishes it to turn rude then happy to follow her lead.

Seems polite and respectful rarely works. "

You don't have a profile picture so most of your messages will be deleted without being read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, I maybe new to this site, but not to this scene. I was just looking for some feedback on how easy or difficult it is for us guys to get meets through this site?.....Thanks all."

It's difficult for everyone, not just single guys. As a couple, you would think it would be easy, but it's not. It's finding what you are looking for that's difficult, it's easy if you don't have standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re bi, hung and young you’ve got a fighting chance.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

yes op it will be hard and slow on here ... clubs are prob best bet and socials ... though some guys seem to have no issues with swatting women or guys away for meets online ...

but for most mortals yes its a grind

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By *ick1111 OP Man
over a year ago

Near Spalding

Thanks for your reply, I totally understand what you’re saying and I always address both the male and the female. Maybe I’m being too polite and courteous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a Female friend on here and she gets 100s of messages a day .

Cant keep up and it stresses her out .

When she does pick whom she wants to meet they don't show up .

NOT once but twice in the same day .

AS the first guy let her down .

Thing is she traveled too meet .

So Single men here don't help themselves .

I can see why couples and females Avoid.

I go to clubs and small parties where i know people will be there .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you’re bi, hung and young you’ve got a fighting chance. "

Not really .

If your into couples and like your female partner playing MMF its just as hard . lol

AS for MM fun i would say its easier .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you’re bi, hung and young you’ve got a fighting chance. "

This is bullshit on both counts, I'm neither and so just fine

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By *ungryghostMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

This sites a joke it’s mainly men simple as that don’t waste your time or money!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Single men looking to meet single women? Yep - it's hard, but then it's just as hard on Tinder or any other online site so no difference at all.

Single men looking to meet couples? Those that understand the dynamics, engage with both, are respectful and actually put effort into their profiles, photos and messages? A lot easier than many make out.

Single men looking to meet other single men? It's a doddle.

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By *r genuine oneMan
over a year ago

walsall

Its definatley got a lot harder on here, think there are lots of newbies just dipping there toes...oh and covid hasn't helped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it extremely difficult tbh

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