FabSwingers.com forum: When you don’t cum

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I’ve been being too honest… if a man from a meet asks me how it was, I’ll tell him if I didn’t cum. It doesn’t mean it was bad…is this a no go? Do I need to stop telling them?!

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Be honest.

If I fail then I like to know where so I can improve myself either for that person or the next.

Lying helps nobody (unless they're abusive)

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

If he was any decent bloke he would KNOW if you came?

Or is that just me?

I like to know, and actually I prefer to wait until it’s mutual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I’ve been being too honest… if a man from a meet asks me how it was, I’ll tell him if I didn’t cum. It doesn’t mean it was bad…is this a no go? Do I need to stop telling them?! "

Surely he can tell if you did or didn't?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I’ve been being too honest… if a man from a meet asks me how it was, I’ll tell him if I didn’t cum. It doesn’t mean it was bad…is this a no go? Do I need to stop telling them?!

Surely he can tell if you did or didn't?"

I don’t know?! I think the men who have made me cum can tell (how it feels / plus I’ll tell them during haha) but first time with someone new…? No idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I’ve been being too honest… if a man from a meet asks me how it was, I’ll tell him if I didn’t cum. It doesn’t mean it was bad…is this a no go? Do I need to stop telling them?!

Surely he can tell if you did or didn't?

I don’t know?! I think the men who have made me cum can tell (how it feels / plus I’ll tell them during haha) but first time with someone new…? No idea. "

I think they can tell lol

They're probably asking how you found the meet because they know you didn't orgasm and are worried you'll think they're rubbish at sex because of it

They must be able to tell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So then supplementary question - men, can you tell?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I’ve been being too honest… if a man from a meet asks me how it was, I’ll tell him if I didn’t cum. It doesn’t mean it was bad…is this a no go? Do I need to stop telling them?! "

I'm always honest, if you lie then they will just continue doing what they're doing and the unfulfilling sex will your own doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I’ve been being too honest… if a man from a meet asks me how it was, I’ll tell him if I didn’t cum. It doesn’t mean it was bad…is this a no go? Do I need to stop telling them?!

I'm always honest, if you lie then they will just continue doing what they're doing and the unfulfilling sex will your own doing"

You make an excellent point.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"I think I’ve been being too honest… if a man from a meet asks me how it was, I’ll tell him if I didn’t cum. It doesn’t mean it was bad…is this a no go? Do I need to stop telling them?! "

You can still have a good time without cumming. Lots of fun to be had!

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

I take it these meets must be quick bangs ? As most men know when a woman has cum , faked it or not interested whilst your at it.

Do you encourage them to help you cum by touching yourself or giving them verbal instructions or are you just lying there while they thrust in and out til they cum ?

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I usually tell people beforehand that I rarely cum on a meet, that way if it does happen it’s a bonus!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I take it these meets must be quick bangs ? As most men know when a woman has cum , faked it or not interested whilst your at it.

Do you encourage them to help you cum by touching yourself or giving them verbal instructions or are you just lying there while they thrust in and out til they cum ?

Ohhhh I see. It’s my fault….

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

"I take it these meets must be quick bangs ? As most men know when a woman has cum , faked it or not interested whilst your at it.

Do you encourage them to help you cum by touching yourself or giving them verbal instructions or are you just lying there while they thrust in and out til they cum ?

Ohhhh I see. It’s my fault…. "

Not what I am saying I’m asking what happens ?

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Whilst I agree that not all ladies can cum every time (and they do usually say it doesn’t necessarily mean it hasn’t been enjoyable!), I think it would take a pretty dim or selfish bloke to not realise that she hasn’t.

Communication is key!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not what I am saying I’m asking what happens ? "

I can assure you I am very much involved in the process. I will give instructions, encouragement and take the lead. However, I’m not running a training course…!

Maybe you should watch my videos to know I’m just not lying back and doing nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take it these meets must be quick bangs ? As most men know when a woman has cum , faked it or not interested whilst your at it.

Do you encourage them to help you cum by touching yourself or giving them verbal instructions or are you just lying there while they thrust in and out til they cum ?

Wow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Whilst I agree that not all ladies can cum every time (and they do usually say it doesn’t necessarily mean it hasn’t been enjoyable!), I think it would take a pretty dim or selfish bloke to not realise that she hasn’t.

Communication is key!"

Totally. I did say it doesn’t mean it was bad! I’ve seen men multiple times even if they didn’t make me cum because it was hot.

But most men can.

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

I tell them before that I don’t usually orgasm unless I’m doing it myself and that doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying it it’s never been an issue

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

"I tell them before that I don’t usually orgasm unless I’m doing it myself and that doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying it it’s never been an issue "

Exactly.

Communication.

The worst thing anyone can do is fake it. It tells the other person that they did it correctly.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

"I take it these meets must be quick bangs ? As most men know when a woman has cum , faked it or not interested whilst your at it.

Do you encourage them to help you cum by touching yourself or giving them verbal instructions or are you just lying there while they thrust in and out til they cum ?

Wow"

Maybe I worded it wrong , I was trying to establish the kind of meet and what happens if she doesn’t and why she doesn’t . I wasn’t saying the op did any of the above i was asking if she did.

Any meet where the woman hasn’t cum a man will realistically know.

She says she tells them after , why not tell them during or tell them what works for you .

Can’t understand why you would then tell them after the meet was over.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

"So then supplementary question - men, can you tell? "

I can’t speak for all of us

But personally, yes I can tell….

(It’s always good to hear indefatigable affirmations though

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"I think I’ve been being too honest… if a man from a meet asks me how it was, I’ll tell him if I didn’t cum. It doesn’t mean it was bad…is this a no go? Do I need to stop telling them?!

I'm always honest, if you lie then they will just continue doing what they're doing and the unfulfilling sex will your own doing

You make an excellent point. "

If it was me I would rather you tell me so can get better if there was a next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well after ive just read this entire thread i just cum...does that count???

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Not what I am saying I’m asking what happens ?

I can assure you I am very much involved in the process. I will give instructions, encouragement and take the lead. However, I’m not running a training course…!

Maybe you should watch my videos to know I’m just not lying back and doing nothing.

Can’t see them they are friends only

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I take it these meets must be quick bangs ? As most men know when a woman has cum , faked it or not interested whilst your at it.

Do you encourage them to help you cum by touching yourself or giving them verbal instructions or are you just lying there while they thrust in and out til they cum ?

Wow

Maybe I worded it wrong , I was trying to establish the kind of meet and what happens if she doesn’t and why she doesn’t . I wasn’t saying the op did any of the above i was asking if she did.

Any meet where the woman hasn’t cum a man will realistically know.

She says she tells them after , why not tell them during or tell them what works for you .

Can’t understand why you would then tell them after the meet was over. "

I tell them after if they ask… they’re asking for feedback so I’ll usually say “I really liked when you did X, and Y felt amazing, but I didn’t cum.”

I don’t just say “I didn’t cum” then shove them out the door. Hahah.

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

"So then supplementary question - men, can you tell? "

Yes we can. Faking moans and groans is great for the inexperienced youth, but attentive guys know by how your foof behaves, how parts of a woman may flush, by her breathing, among others.

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

"So then supplementary question - men, can you tell? "

I was initially going to reply yes, of course we can tell. But actually that's a bit of a cop-out. Ladies cum in different ways, I'm not really talking vaginally vs clit, I mean their physical response to orgasm.

Let's start with the easy ones. They're not orgasming, then their vagina contracts strongly, maybe half a dozen times, often accompanied by verbal confirmation, hip jerking and eyes closed. There's no doubt, the lady is having an orgasm.

But I've known other ladies who are not quite so obvious. One it was more like a plateau, her excitement gradually got more intense and sometimes it was difficult to tell when exactly her orgasm started or stopped, honestly I think she could orgasm for about 10 minutes, but it was never the 20 second peak that other ladies experience. Interestingly she gained a bright red orgasm flush on her neck and chest.

Yet another lady admitted that she found it difficult to orgasm. Actually I had a few enjoyable sessions with her before she had an actual full orgasm. She made quite a lot of noise and squirmed delightfully, but didn't quite peak. Eventually she did and after that it wasn't difficult for her to cum, but for her again it was like a gradual build then a smallish peak. She came riding me once, I felt her contract on my cock, she was definitely cumming, but it wasn't as obvious as most.

So, I'll say yes, but with a caveat that sometimes it's blindingly obvious, other times it's more subtle.

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By *TMA that man againMan
over a year ago

worester

"So then supplementary question - men, can you tell? "

Yes

And ladies...nothing worse than faking it...you will only miss out if the guy then stops...

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By *andaloriansCouple
over a year ago

Malvern

Honesty is key! If they aint tending to your needs too, they aint doing it right!

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