FabSwingers.com forum: Dom advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive never labelled myself as a Dom, but I know my sexual preference lies in that area, I was just wondering as it may sound weird but how do you define a dom? I mean I enjoy being in charge and assertive but was wondering where is the line on being a Dom or not? A bit puzzling I know but help very much welcomed x

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will mean different things to different people, but I'd say that if you get a kick from actively controlling a sexual encounter you're probably more dom than not. For us, it very much depends on the situation and who we're playing with. We can both switch between dom and sub, so we wouldn't label ourselves as either.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest to me being dominant is more about how you come across as to actual acts. To many guys these days think being bossy or rude equals being dominant.

I think you just kinda know.. To me a dominant guy would never submit to another..

Cali

By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Theres so much to be said for Doms.

Some guys use it as an excuse to be ouright abusive to a woman.

Others think its just being in control of a woman in any given situation.

You may think that you just like to take the lead in bed.

Others chat along as if they are the greatest a woman has ever known but are actually quite poor allround.

There are psychological doms who control everything - essentially making up for their own shortcomings.

Others talk a lot but do very little past vanilla sex.

Id think a Dom was a facilitator to a submissive who likes nothing more than to push boundaries. They must have the awareness to know when they are doing more harm than good.

Its the same question for subs though. Many women believe themselves to be submissive simply because they like a guy to take the lead/use them.

Some think the sub HAS TO do everything a dominant wants.

Others think they are nothing without a dom character beside them.

Others think a dom will somehow show them how they can be more womanly.

Its all perspective and participation... who you meet and how you go about things. What is dom to one is very weak to anothers and vice versa