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By *aptainhornpipe OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

I recently learned that I have adhd m, this was a condition I believed only affected children. Most of what I read suggested that as children mature this stops being a problem.

Actually this isn’t the case and many people carry this condition into adulthood.

I never would have been diagnosed when I was a child as this just wasnt a concept that existed. Kids were just good or bad bright or thick.

Learning that it’s something that can affect adults too suddenly made a lot of things that have happened in my life make more sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope the diagnosis helps you to sort things out. I think I am a sufferer too and would like to chat to you but you have blocked the likes of me. Drop me a message if you would like to talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recently learned that I have adhd m, this was a condition I believed only affected children. Most of what I read suggested that as children mature this stops being a problem.

Actually this isn’t the case and many people carry this condition into adulthood.

I never would have been diagnosed when I was a child as this just wasnt a concept that existed. Kids were just good or bad bright or thick.

Learning that it’s something that can affect adults too suddenly made a lot of things that have happened in my life make more sense. "

I was diagnosed as a child, I think in adulthood it’s certainly changed or I learnt to live with it.

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By *aptainhornpipe OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

How has it changed

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

I was diagnosed in my 30s with a raft of traits that they now just bundle up and call ASD, individually I have

ADHD, OCD, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia and High functioning Aspergers.

For the most part nothing has changed, the diagnosis just helps me understand certain things about myself. I did opt to go on medication for the ADHD and for me it has made a huge difference but it doesn’t work for everyone. P

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"I was diagnosed in my 30s with a raft of traits that they now just bundle up and call ASD, individually I have

ADHD, OCD, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia and High functioning Aspergers.

For the most part nothing has changed, the diagnosis just helps me understand certain things about myself. I did opt to go on medication for the ADHD and for me it has made a huge difference but it doesn’t work for everyone. P"

They don't bundle all those into ASD. All that has happened is that they have dropped Asperger's from ICD and DSM as Hans Asperger was a Nazi eugenicist.

Functional labels - such as high/low functioning is a different discussion as to why they are harmful and why a lot of medical professionals no longer use them.

While ADHD, dyslexia and dyspraxia are forms of Neurodivergence they are seperate from ASD (although often co-existing).

As for ADHD, it was believed (much like ASD) it was only a condition that affected children, specifically males and that you 'grow out of it'

All that actually happens is that as you get older you form your own coping skills and strategies, some of which are helpful, some (like masking) are actually harmful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realised last year I have expressed most symptoms of ADHD my entire life, and am currently undergoing the process of diagnosis. Things have made a huge amount more sense since realising and improved massively by embracing it. Hope it all works out for you OP xx

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By *aptainhornpipe OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

Yeah I have received no formal diagnosis but as my son has dyspraxia I was doing some reading about that and connected conditions. It was when the penny dropped it was an oh right! Moment when things started to make sense.

I’m from an era that these sorts of things were never discussed, mainly cos of the stigma of people thinking I’m thick. I just found ways of getting round things. I will admit that certain aspects of it are very frustrating, especially when I need to get something done and can’t focus my mind on a task in hand.

I have heard that it’s difficult to get a diagnosis, and that it depends on your GP being sympathetic to the condition.

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

Mine was a private diagnosis as part of something else I was going through. The NHS will rarely diagnose after school age, it sometimes happens but it is very rare.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Yeah I have received no formal diagnosis but as my son has dyspraxia I was doing some reading about that and connected conditions. It was when the penny dropped it was an oh right! Moment when things started to make sense.

I’m from an era that these sorts of things were never discussed, mainly cos of the stigma of people thinking I’m thick. I just found ways of getting round things. I will admit that certain aspects of it are very frustrating, especially when I need to get something done and can’t focus my mind on a task in hand.

I have heard that it’s difficult to get a diagnosis, and that it depends on your GP being sympathetic to the condition. "

It can be hard but it can be worth it.

No matter what some people say, as human beings we thrive with boundaries and labels, it helps us understand ourselves and our interactions with the world around us.

I was diagnosed with dyslexia in my 20s at uni and had a private ASD diagnosis in my 30s... I get what you're saying about our generation, when i got my dyslexia diagnosis my youngest sister was still at school and a mutual teacher told me I couldn't be dyslexic cause he'd have known. (facepalm)

As I'm looking at going into education again (yet another post grad - I must be mental) I want an NHS diagnosis of ASD and hopefully ADHD which will be hard to get being a 40 something woman but will make uni easier.

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By *ecretssquirrelCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Hi OP, I've worked with ADHD and Autism for most of my career and I genuinely hope your diagnosis helps you find the right support because as you say, things can start to make sense and you can find ways to help yourself manage situations that youve previously perhaps struggled with.

It can be a path for some really good healing opportunities and could also may lead you to help others with late diagnosis.

Neurodiversity is so interesting to me and the fact that there are so many different scales and spectrums for individuals is really fascinating. If you can learn to channel your energy/strengths, I can assure you that you can make this a positive experience going forward.

Kay

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Mine was a private diagnosis as part of something else I was going through. The NHS will rarely diagnose after school age, it sometimes happens but it is very rare. "

It was rare, thankfully it's become a lot more common recently, i know of 5 people all 45+ with recent diagnosis.

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By *aptainhornpipe OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

I only realised I was dyslexic when I started a work funded uni course, they tested me and sure enough I was deeply dyslexic. I’d just thought I was a bit thick all these years.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"I only realised I was dyslexic when I started a work funded uni course, they tested me and sure enough I was deeply dyslexic. I’d just thought I was a bit thick all these years. "

Strange isn't it. I had a great career, decided to go to uni to discover I had a writing age of a 7 year old, but my verbal reasoning skills had always got me out of having to write anything down!

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By *aptainhornpipe OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester


"I only realised I was dyslexic when I started a work funded uni course, they tested me and sure enough I was deeply dyslexic. I’d just thought I was a bit thick all these years.

Strange isn't it. I had a great career, decided to go to uni to discover I had a writing age of a 7 year old, but my verbal reasoning skills had always got me out of having to write anything down!"

I am fine at writing, as long as it’s on a computer where I can check my grammar and spelling.

If I had to hand write anything may as well forget it, makes no sense can’t read it and everything misspelled.

I’m also fairly good orally

Organisation and time management that’s where I struggle, also short term memory executive reasoning and focusing on what I should be.

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By *aptainhornpipe OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

I believe it’s more common amongst women than was originally thought. It used to be considered a boys affliction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snap ?? with dyslexia at uni and the ADHD as an adult.

Plenty of struggles but still managed a master's with the right software for spelling, grammar and organizational help.

I have coached loads of adults, usually, salespeople with ADHD, and eventually, all the similarities were getting so eerily close to my life that I got tested myself.

I am researching as much as I can. There's a lot of dodgy advice out there.

The book ADHD 2.0 is pretty good. With updated research and more focus on the strengths, we have than the weaknesses.

Also the YouTube channel how to ADHD has a lot of support from all different angles.

You might find there's plenty of us on here it's apparently a common trate to be more promiscuous and pleasure-seeking which can be to do with the way we handle impulsivity but also the fact we're always on the go makes us more willing to try new things. We also need more dopamine to feel fulfilled so tend to want an edge on top of standard fun to hit the spot.

Best of luck ?? usually getting diagnosed is the start of breaking through to all kinds of new goodness.

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