FabSwingers.com forum: swingers and shaggers..

By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

right.. i hope to post this as an educational thread..

i'm new to swinging.. literally just joined over a month ago.. am also new to a lot of others things.. but i'd like to think that i'm a fast learner..

So, pardon me if my opinion is wrong or if people disagree.. everyone is entitled to their own opinions..

my point is.. i have met quite a few people from this site.. most of the time, i will only agree for a social meet (i.e. coffee, drink, dinner, etc).. for me i'd like to get to know the guy a little bit more than just his cock.. to me thats part of the fun bit.. the flirts and the tease.. it all builds up the sexual tension..

what i find is that lots of men (especially the younger ones), dont like all these extras.. they want to meet, see if they like what they see and shag what they see and leave as soon as possible..

firstly, just because i like to get to know people doesnt mean i want anything more (i.e. i'm not after a bf/husband/father of my future children..).. no, i'm here to have fun..

secondly, just because you like what you see, doesnt mean i like what i see.. attraction has to be mutual..

thirdly, what if the sex itself is bad? at least, if there was the whole social bit at the beginning, it makes up for the lack of skills when it comes to the act itself..

and finally.. god.. some guys really just want to leave as soon as they finish.. what is wrong with a bit of cuddle.. i like seeing the little one go soft after a hard work..

Now is the educational part.. For all you men who keeps on messaging me saying what did they do wrong? how to get my attention? what does a guy need to do to meet me? Well, all you shaggers out there using the swinging scene to satisfy yourself..

Try harder to please others and NOT just yourself..

I'm not a couple, but i'd think that if i was part of a couple, i'd rather look for a single guy who is there to please me and my partner and not just looking to satisfy himself..

And as a single girl on here, there's so many men i can choose from, do you really think i'm that desperate to shag anything that moves? Also, just because you're good looking or have very big thing, IT DOESNT MEAN ANYTHING IF YOU DONT HAVE MANNERS.. Yes, of course looks are important, but like i said.. mutual attraction..

Be honest in what you want.. Be realistic about getting what you want.. Be nice even if the girl treat you terrible.. Make things convenient for the girl as much as possible (i.e. i hate it when a guy says they live way on the other side of the world and expect me (a girl) to travel the dodgy lands to meet him (a man) just for a shag.. really? really?? do you think anyone would be stupid enough to do that? well, i certainly wont..)

anyways.. i'll end this lengthy thread..

be a swinger not a shagger..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And breathe!!!!

Although ill admit that you're almost 100% right!

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By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

still breathing.. can hold my breath adequately enough to.. err.. close my throat..

nice profile mister.. impressive actually..

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

We know what you mean _msmith... there are people who just seem to think that swingers are easy. In fact, although we all enjoy sex... we arent all easy! we would rather go for quality rather than quantity!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We know what you mean _msmith... there are people who just seem to think that swingers are easy. In fact, although we all enjoy sex... we arent all easy! we would rather go for quality rather than quantity!

I like the idea of having both

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Welcome to the Forums Em - yeah can agree with some of what you've said, but occasionally I'm happy with a panda as I do just fancy a shag (but they are unlikely to get invited back) - if I want a whole-nighter, I use different criteria to choose or see if someone I've met before is free

Just for info - Thursday is usually rant day, weren't you given the forum rules and regs on joining?

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By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

I like the idea of having both

unfortunately for me, i had to learn it the hard way.. was a bit naive when i first joined.. was too nice.. to a point i got overwhelmed and almost put off by it..

but, i'm glad i've met some really good ones too.. they kinda set a standard of expectations to any future meets..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest i came on here with all these ideals and images of what i wanted from 'swinging'

I soon dumped my ideas

I now just look for a shag and go because basically thats all your really offered on here

I am quite cold and clinical to the whole scene now, i wasnt when i joined i thopught id make friends, find regular meets etc but it never worked out like that for me

i dont think theres a swinging scene for singles meeting singles it just just a fast fuck service

very few men are willing to meet you for a drink, i usually get told its not a dating site if i suggest such a outrageous thing lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I agree with most of what you have written apart from this:

"Be nice even if the girl treat you terrible.. "

It's lovely when men are polite and don't treat us as a handy hole, but men have feelings too, and shouldn't be made to feel they are just a handy cock that will perform however scathing we are. I wouldn't blame any guy for moving on if I am grumpy.

But I have had messages late at night wanting me to go to a hotel room without even getting to know the guy. What happens when I get there and he doesn't look like his pic? What if he smells? What if he's an axe murderer!?

This might be a site primarily for people to meet and have sex, but its nice to be nice to each other too.

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By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

"Welcome to the Forums Em - yeah can agree with some of what you've said, but occasionally I'm happy with a panda as I do just fancy a shag (but they are unlikely to get invited back) - if I want a whole-nighter, I use different criteria to choose or see if someone I've met before is free

Just for info - Thursday is usually rant day, weren't you given the forum rules and regs on joining?

thanks.. i'm new to forum.. werent given any introduction pack.. haha..

hmm.. i guess there is some truth about pandas.. they are convenient at times..

i guess i still havent had the need for them yet.. usually, when i'm really horny, i'd like something i've tasted before and i know for sure will be satisfying..

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By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

" Be honest in what you want.. Be realistic about getting what you want.. Be nice even if the girl treat you terrible.. Make things convenient for the girl as much as possible (i.e. i hate it when a guy says they live way on the other side of the world and expect me (a girl) to travel the dodgy lands to meet him (a man) just for a shag.. really? really?? do you think anyone would be stupid enough to do that? well, i certainly wont...)

I agree with most of your post except the last paragraph....

To me swinging is about give and take and making sure everyone is happy....not just the woman!

Why should men be treated like the lower class and made to jump through hoops and do exactly what the woman wants....

Why should they have to treat the lady well even when she treats them terrible....

To me it's about meeting half way!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you swing the way you want to swing, others will do the same.

some look for a connection, others just an orifice.

both are right to the individual

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By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

noted _yrdwoman =)

i am nice to people who are nice to me. =) the nicer they are, they nicer i'll be.. that has always been the kind of person i am..

naughtynymphos: well, i guess if they're not willing to socialise, then i guess its up to them. i'm perfectly happy not to meet those people.. i'm not here to date, i'm here to have fun.. i would think swinging for girls would be to have fun without the commitment and exclusivity..

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By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

_endaroos: i dont treat people i meet terribly.. i am very nice..

i've met some really nice people and i feel like i should treat them more special than just a shag, because there are people on here that do try harder than others..

no wrong or right way of doing things..

i just feel that, i dont feel the fun if its just a shag.. unless of course if the sex is awesome.. but i wouldnt know that if its my first time meeting them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys you are looking for are out there. On most occasions with my meets I've ended up cuddling up and staying the night.

Even one car meet I had some time ago we were sat chatting for quite a while after. On another occasion I remember we were so busy chatting we got to 5am before we even started having fun! Didn't get much sleep in the end there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"noted _yrdwoman =)

i am nice to people who are nice to me. =) the nicer they are, they nicer i'll be.. that has always been the kind of person i am..

This is all well and good for you , and as a single girl you can pick and choose , as you correctly pointed out .

However to suggest that single guys should treat girls well however bad they get treated is just preposterous and defies belief ! How incredibly arrogant

It's small wonder single guys get frustrated - and it has to be said that you idea of swinging is certainly not everyone's either !

A good social will make up for the bad sex lol

We are all into different things on here - bit like a box of chocolates - all nice in their own right but we all have our favourites

Your first post was brave , but possibly a little judgemental - and although we don't agree with much you have said we welcome you and hope you continue to contribute on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with most of your post except the last paragraph....

To me swinging is about give and take and making sure everyone is happy....not just the woman!

Why should men be treated like the lower class and made to jump through hoops and do exactly what the woman wants....

Why should they have to treat the lady well even when she treats them terrible....

To me it's about meeting half way!

i agree

if i ever met anyone and i treat them bad id fully expect to be told to fuck off

not that i ever would, im actually quite a nice person really. ask anyone ive paid to agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree

im perfectly capable of meeting someone for a drink withlout falling in love with them

infact if i was looking for a relationship, which im not, on here is the last place i'd look

just some see having a drink and a chat not swinging but something past that

personally i dont see how having a drink and a chat with someone to see if you like them is dating or to much to ask for

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By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

Well.. Good social + bad sex is still better than just bad sex + no social, no?

Hmm.. And I don't treat men terribly.. I am nice to those I choose to be nice too.. Because they have been equally nice to me..l

Hmm.. Forum is harder than I thought it'd be..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well.. Good social + bad sex is still better than just bad sex + no social, no?

Hmm.. And I don't treat men terribly.. I am nice to those I choose to be nice too.. Because they have been equally nice to me..l

Hmm.. Forum is harder than I thought it'd be.. "

Sorry but a good social is a complete waste of time if the sex is bad - end of - the time would have been much better spent having good sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well.. Good social + bad sex is still better than just bad sex + no social, no?

Hmm.. And I don't treat men terribly.. I am nice to those I choose to be nice too.. Because they have been equally nice to me..l

Hmm.. Forum is harder than I thought it'd be.. "

nah just dont take things to personal

all because someone states something on a thread you opened does not always mean its directed at you

it could just be a general statement about people in general

my comment about women treatung men bad wasnt aimed at you, but there are a lot of women who do think they are gold dust and men should do as they say, and i dont agree that men should be nice to such women even tho it was suggested in a post they should be

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Well.. Good social + bad sex is still better than just bad sex + no social, no?

Hmm.. And I don't treat men terribly.. I am nice to those I choose to be nice too.. Because they have been equally nice to me..l

Hmm.. Forum is harder than I thought it'd be..

nah just dont take things to personal

all because someone states something on a thread you opened does not always mean its directed at you

it could just be a general statement about people in general

Agrees.....my comment wasn't aimed at you just in general.

Welcome and enjoy the forums x

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By *msmith OP Woman
over a year ago

bristol

"Well.. Good social + bad sex is still better than just bad sex + no social, no?

Hmm.. And I don't treat men terribly.. I am nice to those I choose to be nice too.. Because they have been equally nice to me..l

Hmm.. Forum is harder than I thought it'd be..

nah just dont take things to personal

all because someone states something on a thread you opened does not always mean its directed at you

it could just be a general statement about people in general

Agrees.....my comment wasn't aimed at you just in general.

Welcome and enjoy the forums x"

thank you! =)

i shall take it with a pinch of salt..

oh.. about good sex and bad sex.. i dont think social bit is a waste of time.. no offence but some guys cant last that long.. the social bit is suppose to help with those situations i'd say..

also, something even better than good social + bad sex is good social + good sex.. now that is a winner.. (and a regular in my book)..

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