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By *r Sensual OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Keen to pick your brains on this. From my experience I’ve found that singles on here both use this site and other more traditional dating sites to get what is they need/want and I’m questioned on my past relationship history prior to becoming a part of this lifestyle.

I’m keen to know from you singles, if you were to meet someone in the vanilla world would you totally give up this up?

Do you see swinging as just a stop gap until “the one” comes along?

Or would you be open to the idea of incorporating in swinging into a relationship you were to go into over time?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I would stop all of this if it felt right with the person Though I been single for so long now I think I am undatable lol

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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

I would defiantly stop..unless he was swinging but then we would swing together

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"I would defiantly stop..unless he was swinging but then we would swing together "

Yrsh I think for me I would be so excited and focussed on them as a new partner I wouldn’t see any reason to swing Well unless it was something that popped up later on after buzz settled down

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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago

nottinghamshire


"I would defiantly stop..unless he was swinging but then we would swing together

Yrsh I think for me I would be so excited and focussed on them as a new partner I wouldn’t see any reason to swing Well unless it was something that popped up later on after buzz settled down "

Exactly this couldn't put it better myself

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

That's such an interesting question, one I'm perplexed about on the regular. From what I've seen the majority of singles (men? not spoken to enough women to generalise), esp. the ones looking for straight one-on-ones see this as a sowing their wild oats thing and feel they can't or actively don't want to incorporate such activities in their more "commited" relationships. Or just cheat a bit if they end up missing it too much.

From a quick read of your profile I see you're further into swinging than plain hookups. Whether you can "return" to monogamy is a burning question It's always tricky to know whether to disclose such experiences in vanilla dating. Personally I always knew I was bad for monogamy so the caveats came early, and after a point only ever had open relationships. I understand it can be harder for men to present this kind of desire/interest early on without being dismissed as players.

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By *r Sensual OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"That's such an interesting question, one I'm perplexed about on the regular. From what I've seen the majority of singles (men? not spoken to enough women to generalise), esp. the ones looking for straight one-on-ones see this as a sowing their wild oats thing and feel they can't or actively don't want to incorporate such activities in their more "commited" relationships. Or just cheat a bit if they end up missing it too much.

From a quick read of your profile I see you're further into swinging than plain hookups. Whether you can "return" to monogamy is a burning question It's always tricky to know whether to disclose such experiences in vanilla dating. Personally I always knew I was bad for monogamy so the caveats came early, and after a point only ever had open relationships. I understand it can be harder for men to present this kind of desire/interest early on without being dismissed as players."

From personal experience, a lot of single women aren’t open to the idea of a non-monogamous relationship. I’ve heard phrases such as “I wouldn’t like the thought of my man with another woman”’, “am I not enough for you” and the such. Swinging has altered my views and idea of the “perfect” relationship. If I’m honest now I’ve been doing this for as long as I have, the idea of going back to being monogamous isn’t one that’s appealing at all. If I were to be in a relationship, I’d ideally like my partner to be open to the idea of incorporating this into what we have. Until that person who is willing to do so comes along, I will happily remain single and continue enjoying myself

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"That's such an interesting question, one I'm perplexed about on the regular. From what I've seen the majority of singles (men? not spoken to enough women to generalise), esp. the ones looking for straight one-on-ones see this as a sowing their wild oats thing and feel they can't or actively don't want to incorporate such activities in their more "commited" relationships. Or just cheat a bit if they end up missing it too much.

From a quick read of your profile I see you're further into swinging than plain hookups. Whether you can "return" to monogamy is a burning question It's always tricky to know whether to disclose such experiences in vanilla dating. Personally I always knew I was bad for monogamy so the caveats came early, and after a point only ever had open relationships. I understand it can be harder for men to present this kind of desire/interest early on without being dismissed as players.

From personal experience, a lot of single women aren’t open to the idea of a non-monogamous relationship. I’ve heard phrases such as “I wouldn’t like the thought of my man with another woman”’, “am I not enough for you” and the such. Swinging has altered my views and idea of the “perfect” relationship. If I’m honest now I’ve been doing this for as long as I have, the idea of going back to being monogamous isn’t one that’s appealing at all. If I were to be in a relationship, I’d ideally like my partner to be open to the idea of incorporating this into what we have. Until that person who is willing to do so comes along, I will happily remain single and continue enjoying myself "

This is partly my concern with either dating a male or female for me. Am I enough as a trans woman. Will they feel they are missing something by being with a person like me.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

I would not be able to go back to a monogamous relationship. Not for me. My next relationship will have to be with someone who is into this lifestyle.

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By *r Sensual OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I would not be able to go back to a monogamous relationship. Not for me. My next relationship will have to be with someone who is into this lifestyle. "

These are my exact same thoughts.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I don’t see myself as a swinger as such, but I’m single and on here so I’ll answer for me.

I don’t see fab as a stop gap as I’m not looking for ‘the one’. I left once for someone I met on here, as he couldn’t handle the thought of me with someone else. Whether I would do that again? I wouldn’t rule it out, it would depend on a lot of things.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

When we met on a different platform we very quickly had an honest conversation about our kinks & preferences.

We hid both our accounts, enjoying our time together as a new couple. Then after speaking with friends that were still here we decided to set up a couples profile & test the water, still loving our journey.

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By *r Sensual OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don’t see myself as a swinger as such, but I’m single and on here so I’ll answer for me.

I don’t see fab as a stop gap as I’m not looking for ‘the one’. I left once for someone I met on here, as he couldn’t handle the thought of me with someone else. Whether I would do that again? I wouldn’t rule it out, it would depend on a lot of things. "

Ahh I see, how did you feel about the thought of him with someone else and if you were to do so again, what kind of things would it depend on?

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

I would be open to combining the two, but then again that would depend on what the other person wants as well. Honesty is the best policy I think if you're thinking of a longer term relationship.

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By *r Sensual OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"When we met on a different platform we very quickly had an honest conversation about our kinks & preferences.

We hid both our accounts, enjoying our time together as a new couple. Then after speaking with friends that were still here we decided to set up a couples profile & test the water, still loving our journey. "

Thanks for your insight! Gives me hope that two singles from here can form a healthy and loving relationship that incorporates this lifestyle into it. The approach you both took is one I would take also if I was to meet someone through swinging

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By *ingle w3t femaleWoman
over a year ago

yorkshire

Been swinging on and off for years, had one partner who swung with me but that's it. There seems to be more genuine guys on here than date site, recently joined , but I think I'd have to date a swinger , a bi one at that! Couldn't settle with someone vanilla, they just don't get the whole swinging thing!

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"I don’t see myself as a swinger as such, but I’m single and on here so I’ll answer for me.

I don’t see fab as a stop gap as I’m not looking for ‘the one’. I left once for someone I met on here, as he couldn’t handle the thought of me with someone else. Whether I would do that again? I wouldn’t rule it out, it would depend on a lot of things.

Ahh I see, how did you feel about the thought of him with someone else and if you were to do so again, what kind of things would it depend on? "

I was open to the thought of him with someone else, with openness between us but it just wasn’t for him.

For me to leave for a relationship it would have to be totally fulfilling- romantically, emotionally and of course sexually. I spent a long time in a marriage with an awful sex life. No way would I go back to that.

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By *r Sensual OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don’t see myself as a swinger as such, but I’m single and on here so I’ll answer for me.

I don’t see fab as a stop gap as I’m not looking for ‘the one’. I left once for someone I met on here, as he couldn’t handle the thought of me with someone else. Whether I would do that again? I wouldn’t rule it out, it would depend on a lot of things.

Ahh I see, how did you feel about the thought of him with someone else and if you were to do so again, what kind of things would it depend on?

I was open to the thought of him with someone else, with openness between us but it just wasn’t for him.

For me to leave for a relationship it would have to be totally fulfilling- romantically, emotionally and of course sexually. I spent a long time in a marriage with an awful sex life. No way would I go back to that. "

Fair enough, guess it’s both some men and women who aren’t keen on their partner being with someone else sexually from the sounds of it. Maybe I’m lucky to have time on my side so no rush for me to find that ideal swinging relationship. An awful sex life in a monogamous relationship is probably my biggest fear and if that were to happen I’d feel trapped. Being the free spirit that I am, that would not be healthy for me at all.

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

Swinging is a part of me, part of who I am. I have been doing it for more than 20yrs now so anyone I meet, I tell them what I'm into and if they dont like it then they know where the door is...as you can imagine, majority love it but you do get the odd one who won't accept it. I am currently in a relationship with someone I met on here and known for many years now and only recently we got together properly..he is into everything I'm into and loves it so fingers crossed it stays that way. The way I look at it is..why cheat when you both have a free pass..be open and honest and true to each other..we are, no need for deceit in this lifestyle xx

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By *r Sensual OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Swinging is a part of me, part of who I am. I have been doing it for more than 20yrs now so anyone I meet, I tell them what I'm into and if they dont like it then they know where the door is...as you can imagine, majority love it but you do get the odd one who won't accept it. I am currently in a relationship with someone I met on here and known for many years now and only recently we got together properly..he is into everything I'm into and loves it so fingers crossed it stays that way. The way I look at it is..why cheat when you both have a free pass..be open and honest and true to each other..we are, no need for deceit in this lifestyle xx"

Amen to ALL of this!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am single and wouldnt rule it out though I'd want to spend time as a new couple first.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've found myself fundamentally unsuited to monogamy. I wouldn't want a monogamous relationship, though whether that leads me to a swinging relationship or just rules relationships out for me has yet to be seen (though I tend to believe it's the latter).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would not be able to go back to a monogamous relationship. Not for me. My next relationship will have to be with someone who is into this lifestyle.

These are my exact same thoughts. "

I'd third those thoughts. I'm very happy being single, but if I came across someone also interested in similar to myself on here I'd be open to a potential relationship if it went that way.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I’d absolutely give it up and would much prefer to meet someone in the “vanilla” world than on here to date.

Definitely a stop gap for me. I’ve made some of the best friends I’d stay in contact with and love the clubs but I’d never have a swinger relationship

I’m 100% clear about that with men I date (I’ve dated off here and regular sites). Also clear about my sexual history with men not on here as I appreciate some wouldn’t like it xx

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I don’t do well in monogamous relationships and I don’t think I’d want to live with someone in a relationship again.

I’ve never cheated when I’ve been in monogamous relationships though I was definitely tempted at times, I was in a relationship not dead!

But I have been cheated on and it was the deception and insult to my intelligence that hurt the most plus the risk to my sexual health without my awareness or consent.

If I were ever to enter another relationship I possibly could be monogamous again, but I am most definitely open to a non monogamous situation with good boundaries and trust there.

I’ve never been a naturally jealous person but I won’t be taken for a mug either.

Has to work for all involved really.

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By *moothLeanBodMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

FWIW, I've come off trad dating sites. However, I am still on Feeld. This is because my ultimate goal (in response to the OP) is that I'd love to be involved with a woman, on a long term basis, who wants the same things as me: occasional fun with others, shared ideally, but possibly individually.

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