FabSwingers.com forum: How uphill will this climb be?

By *ikestowatchher OP Man
over a year ago

Southgate

So my wife is uncomfortable in social settings with people she doesn't know which makes it difficult for her to get to know them. I think Satan would ski to work before she'd attend a club on my assurances that it's laid back with no expectation from anywhere, maybe if this came from an experienced third party but this put's us back at square one..

On to the other part of the dilemma..

People on here will, perhaps rightly, be cautious of profiles like mine (even if I had more/some photos they would be of me, not her) because of time-wasters and couple profiles that are just guys, which is why I made a male profile, no misrepresentation here. Am I in for a future of no-shows or allegations of faker-y and dead-ends like all the single guys bemoan?

And what makes this frustrating for me is that I've watched her have sex and otherwise be intimate on several occasions with a male friend of hers and on two other occasions a male friend of mine so I know that there is hope..

I should probably put some of this in my bio..

Any other help greatly appreciated!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What are you wanting help with?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

You need to focus on her, not us. You know her best, explore ways to allow her to proceed at her own pace.

..because presumably you've already concluded that rushing her is bad....

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By *ikestowatchher OP Man
over a year ago

Southgate

I guess I'd like to know how to progress with finding some FWB for her more than me.. although also for me because, you know, _ikestowatchher

and has anyone else been in this sort of catch 22 and how'd it pan out.. I hope I am not the first..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I guess I'd like to know how to progress with finding some FWB for her more than me.. although also for me because, you know, _ikestowatchher

and has anyone else been in this sort of catch 22 and how'd it pan out.. I hope I am not the first.."

How keen is she on having a fwb?

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By *ikestowatchher OP Man
over a year ago

Southgate

That's the crux of it I need help with the 'ways to allow her to proceed at her own pace' bit..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"That's the crux of it I need help with the 'ways to allow her to proceed at her own pace' bit..

How do you mean?

What does she say when you chat about it?

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By *ikestowatchher OP Man
over a year ago

Southgate

Well, the last time it happened it took no encouragement from me.. It's hard to know because sex isn't something that she'll ever talk about.. at least not sober..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Well, the last time it happened it took no encouragement from me.. It's hard to know because sex isn't something that she'll ever talk about.. at least not sober.."

Ok I understand.

All I can suggest is that you help her to start communicating but you'll probably have to start small and work up.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Good luck OP, it's too late for dentistry.

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By *ikestowatchher OP Man
over a year ago

Southgate

"Well, the last time it happened it took no encouragement from me.. It's hard to know because sex isn't something that she'll ever talk about.. at least not sober..

Ok I understand.

All I can suggest is that you help her to start communicating but you'll probably have to start small and work up. "

Thanks I'll have another go I guess!

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