FabSwingers.com forum: Emotions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Based on something I’ve put in another forum post but it’s about emotions

For me sex needs a connection. Most connections can provoke emotions.

I come from a background that talks a lot of red flags yet can still fall for a “charmer” or a “wordsmith” that tells me what I want to hear rather than their honest intent.

So then I question if I like sex, and aspects of BDSM, and need that connection come emotion is swinging really the right thing for me?

So can you purely have sex, turn the mind off, or on, for the pure act of sex without the need for more?

Sorry it’s been a long ass week so far and my mind is spinning

By *ecretssquirrelCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Everyone is different I think and perhaps it depends where you are in life with your experiences/healing. In my experience I have had phases where sex can be just sex but it's rare. I need connection and the whole "in my head" vibe to make it work for me. Emotions play a huge part for me. If you fancy a private chat you're welcome to send me a private message.

Kay xx

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Based on something I’ve put in another forum post but it’s about emotions

For me sex needs a connection. Most connections can provoke emotions.

I come from a background that talks a lot of red flags yet can still fall for a “charmer” or a “wordsmith” that tells me what I want to hear rather than their honest intent.

So then I question if I like sex, and aspects of BDSM, and need that connection come emotion is swinging really the right thing for me?

So can you purely have sex, turn the mind off, or on, for the pure act of sex without the need for more?

Sorry it’s been a long ass week so far and my mind is spinning "

I am very much in the same boat, I need a connection before I can be sexual with a person, I was raised with the "You should only have sex with the man you marry." I am masochistic but would be very unlikely to show that side with anyone I met through Fab.

By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I can certainly separate the enjoyment of sex from emotion or the need for a connection. I have all the intimacy and connection that I need from my partner. We swing for the things we can't have on our own, such threesomes and moresomes, spit roasts, girl on girl, gang bangs and anonymous fucks.