FabSwingers.com forum: Getting friends & being verified

By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

frome

What does a guy have to do around here to get verified & friends,

I’m a guy with a slight hidden disability who wants a bit of discreet fun,

Because I don’t get any intimacy at home

I hardly get any replies

I’m not rude & I don’t send dick pictures

Any advice please ??????

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

To put it into context as a woman I've been on here 6 weeks and must have gotten at least 700 messages, 360 of them currently unread. The few people I have messaged and met up with a lot of it has been pure chance that their message just happened to come through at the right time and I liked their profile, their messages and what was said in their verifications.

Your profile doesn't really say a lot about you as a person really, just basically says you're playing away and you can't accommodate, both of which puts a lot of people off. Also you have one picture, just of a tattoo (which I would say was a bad idea as someone you know could identify you by it).

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

Patience. You’ve been on here for three weeks. A lot of single guys don’t get meets or verifications for months.

Pics - More of them showing more of you, and not just your dick.

Bit more info on your profile - More about you, your interests etc. Remember that a big part of swinging is the social side of it. Getting to know people without expectations and seeing where it leads.

Visit clubs and talk to people there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you’ve got to do is put some effort in.

More photos, a better bio, attend socials / clubs and have patience. It’s not an instant thing especially when you are new.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"What does a guy have to do around here to get verified & friends"

Socials and clubs.

(Bry)

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

"What does a guy have to do around here to get verified & friends

Socials and clubs.

(Bry)"

There is your answer in a nutshell

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"What does a guy have to do around here to get verified & friends,

I’m a guy with a slight hidden disability who wants a bit of discreet fun,

Because I don’t get any intimacy at home

I hardly get any replies

I’m not rude & I don’t send dick pictures

Any advice please ??????"

Most ladies won’t meet attatched men on here so maybe clubs are the answer

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By *inna and SaintCouple
over a year ago

Sherbourne

You are one of hundreds. Women and couples get bombarded.... especially solo ladies.

Its not a 1 2 1 M/F/? ratio.

Your profile and pics need to stand out and that doesnt mean 3 million dick pics no matter how big it makes your cock look

We have single males blocked as 99% clearly havent read the profile and just coming across as tossers

It was a total waste of our time.

You might be better off going to clubs and meeting face to face.

Even as as a couple - we get contacts that are clearly not matched to our profile. We also message and get no reply.... no matter how much effort you put in.

Thats the nature of the beast.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"What does a guy have to do around here to get verified & friends,

I’m a guy with a slight hidden disability who wants a bit of discreet fun,

Because I don’t get any intimacy at home

I hardly get any replies

I’m not rude & I don’t send dick pictures

Any advice please ??????"

Ok you have been her a few weeks. There are a long of men that still are not verified and have been on over a year. Fab is saturated with men you have to really stand out from the rest. Us women are not here to service men because they don’t get it at home. As others have said go to a club or an organised social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing is handed on a plate in this scene ... yep its a sex site but its a sex site for swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many of the women and couples on here have no real intention to meet people after receiving messages on here and therefore won't put much effort in. Many are here to keep in touch with people they've met at clubs and socials, keep up with events and the scene.

As already said, clubs and socials are the way to make those connections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are about 10 women here to 1 guy. You need to put a lot of effort in. Not just what you can't offer.

Some people won't play with cheats either.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

frome

Hi for those who I can’t thank privately

Many thanks for the advice much appreciated

Just to let you know I don’t have any dick pictures,

Plus also I’m attached yes, but wife is playing away also,

I really appreciate all the feedback

Paul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why the private message ?? why start a thread then private message everyone that replies ?? dont know what you goal was ?? but it failed no matter what ...yes blocked you just like we do with others who cant keep to the forums ... feels to me your looking for sympathy

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"What does a guy have to do around here to get verified & friends,

I’m a guy with a slight hidden disability who wants a bit of discreet fun,

Because I don’t get any intimacy at home

I hardly get any replies

I’m not rude & I don’t send dick pictures

Any advice please ??????

This, particularly the bit about us ladies NOT being here to service men who don't get it at home.

Anyway, you keep talking about your hidden disability, OP, as if it's your big disadvantage. Why don't you explain a bit more? You never know, people might not even notice it?

But yes, clubs and socials are definitely the way forward, as there your personality can shine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many of the women and couples on here have no real intention to meet people after receiving messages on here and therefore won't put much effort in. Many are here to keep in touch with people they've met at clubs and socials, keep up with events and the scene.

As already said, clubs and socials are the way to make those connections.

Amen to that

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By *andyBlax_XLMan
over a year ago

Mansfield

"What does a guy have to do around here to get verified & friends,

I’m a guy with a slight hidden disability who wants a bit of discreet fun,

Because I don’t get any intimacy at home

I hardly get any replies

I’m not rude & I don’t send dick pictures

Any advice please ??????"

I’m in kinda similar circumstances but I’m sincerely single and a workaholic so I thought this would be an option but a few years later still looking

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

frome

Hi guys thanks for all your replies,

Appreciate the advice,

Just to let those who think I’m after sympathy,

I’m not,

After recovering from bowel cancer,

I think I had enough sympathy from that,

I’m not after anybody’s Sympathy,

A little private advice was my goal,

To a couple of people,

Enough said

Thanks for all those that gave me constructive advice,

I really appreciate the feedback

Happy Fabbing peeps

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

frome

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