FabSwingers.com forum: BDSM

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Post inspired by a comment in one of my other posts today.

Would you have sex with a person and/or date a person if you knew they were into bdsm and you weren't (even if they say it's ok they can also do vanilla)?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would, his kink wouldn't put me off.

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By *damk4511Man
over a year ago

hatfield

Ur correct love it

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think if you do date someone who has sexual intrests that you don't share should be at least able to accept them and open to them being free to explore these things with others if they wish. A relationship should not be a cage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes"

Good to know

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I like BDSM, I could easily and have had sex with those who don't like it. But i wouldn't in all likelihood date them. To me it would makes us incompatible in the bedroom long term.

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By *eterinpantiesukMan
over a year ago

southam

"I like BDSM, I could easily and have had sex with those who don't like it. But i wouldn't in all likelihood date them. To me it would makes us incompatible in the bedroom long term. "

you have magnificent breasts does he ever bind and beat them

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Its something we discovered as a couple so i guess we got lucky

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I might have sex with them but I wouldn't date them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess this is why never tried vanilla dating as would not know how to bring it up with a vanilla person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Post inspired by a comment in one of my other posts today.

Would you have sex with a person and/or date a person if you knew they were into bdsm and you weren't (even if they say it's ok they can also do vanilla)?"

I would worry that down the line he would feel frustrated that his kinky needs were not being met. I don’t know that we’d be compatible long term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Post inspired by a comment in one of my other posts today.

Would you have sex with a person and/or date a person if you knew they were into bdsm and you weren't (even if they say it's ok they can also do vanilla)?

I would worry that down the line he would feel frustrated that his kinky needs were not being met. I don’t know that we’d be compatible long term."

OPPS yeah that might be an issue

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"I like BDSM, I could easily and have had sex with those who don't like it. But i wouldn't in all likelihood date them. To me it would makes us incompatible in the bedroom long term.

you have magnificent breasts does he ever bind and beat them"

You are assuming she is sub rather than Domme

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it’s the person not the acts they enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bdsm is too broad a brush to answer that.

There’s so many different levels let alone over 70 different types of Dominant and submissive to give a answer.

Opposite ends of the scale. No.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Having sex? They would have to be something special.

Dating? No. The incompatibility in interests would be too big a gulf and would likely lead to playing away/cheating.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I do think people get confused and a bit twisted about BDSM; media stereotypes don't help.

Is BDSM a part of me, and not just role play? Yes.

Does BDSM inform my every action? No.

I was brought up listening to Teddy Pendergrass, Isaacs Hayes and Milly Jackson and other great soul singers.

I listened to Jodeci, Keith Sweat, Jeff Redd, Keith Washington, Joe, and many others in my younger days. Just because people are kinky does not mean they are not "Old Skool Soul Lovin" as well.

I am off to play some Maxwell "'till the cops come knockin'".

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Post inspired by a comment in one of my other posts today.

Would you have sex with a person and/or date a person if you knew they were into bdsm and you weren't (even if they say it's ok they can also do vanilla)?"

My husband is vanilla and asexual and I married him let alone dated him so I'd like to think I'm proof it works...

We (well I) am poly which he knew, so there isn't the need to worry about does he meet all my needs, we always knew he wouldn't.

One of my last partners was also vanilla. He actually reminded me how amazing vanilla sex and relationships can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Post inspired by a comment in one of my other posts today.

Would you have sex with a person and/or date a person if you knew they were into bdsm and you weren't (even if they say it's ok they can also do vanilla)?"

Why would I want to do vanilla even worse settle for vanilla .if your dominate why would you be interested or even turned on by a normal run of the mill fuck , I no I'm not .

So the answers no I would not settle for a vanilla nor would I date someone who couldn't give me what I want , just like I would have no interest in someone who wants a vanilla fuck.

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