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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia

So considering this is a site which mainly revolves around having sex, I can't find anyone who seems to be able to cater for spontaneous meets for sex.

Is this frowned upon here?

If anyone is interested however, please make contact! (Only females may apply) x

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Go to a club - it happens all the time, at least in my experience. It's why I like clubs - anonymous and spontaneous sex with guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would say more swingers play this way than the planing way ... the forum may disagree but the forums add up to very little of fab and the main swinging communities .. anonymous and spontaneous sex plays a massive part

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe


"Go to a club - it happens all the time, at least in my experience. It's why I like clubs - anonymous and spontaneous sex with guys."

Totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me as a lone fem not a chance. No way would I invite someone to my home office that I hadn't had a fair bit of chat with first. Definitely wouldn't be happy rocking up to a hotel to meet them either... In a club? CCTV, staff, other folk around so the safety aspect is there.

Had a few, 'I can pick you up, drive you somewhere dark and secluded' offers.... Sounds like the opening line to a murder to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure where my 'home office' came into it... They'd have even less chance there, as I don't have one of those

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I don’t meet people like that unless it’s at a club. If your travelling with work no chance

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

That is basically the nature of this site, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have the resources of time and like to be spontaneous but I'd guess given the age demographic of most they'll have commitments in the vanilla world. Probably the reason why so many no shows and failed meets as really this plays second fiddle in all but the most dedicated

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia

Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion."

Oh dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion.

Oh dear "

That's any chance of someone from the forum even looking at the profile now #mentalimageformed

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia

Just talking facts and trying to make sense of people on this site

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally I don't see how that works in the online world? The most important catalyst to spontaneous sex with a stranger is rapid establishment of shared chemistry. Something very hard to establishment online accurately to also work in the real world. Hard to get an accurate feel for each other without eye contact, voice, body language, touch, smell, etc. Not many people (especially) women want to jump into a pressured environment of expected sex with a stranger simply off the back of a brief online encounter.

I would also say that's what's great about clubs or even old school out in the real vanilla world. Meeting people in the real world quickly gives both parties a good feel for each other and its potential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So considering this is a site which mainly revolves around having sex, I can't find anyone who seems to be able to cater for spontaneous meets for sex.

Is this frowned upon here?

If anyone is interested however, please make contact! (Only females may apply) x"

Clubs and dogging spots offer this OP

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By *angerousLiaisonsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

I’m not sure if this counts as spontaneous but I met a girl in a hotel room having met on a dating app.

We discussed fantasies and had sex without saying a word to one another in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not sure if this counts as spontaneous but I met a girl in a hotel room having met on a dating app.

We discussed fantasies and had sex without saying a word to one another in person."

I've done this I topped her in a room in less than 10 minutes of meeting her in the hotel bar .we then when on to see each other in the same hotel on the same date first Friday of every month for 27 months .

I never knew if the name she gave me was her real name , whether she was married , had kids ,not even if she had a job at the time , still don't no to this day. all I knew was what made her tick sexually .

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

As suggested by others clubs might work best for you

Many women won't meet men spontaneously who are just in the area for the day/night .

I'd want to know someone a bit first and wouldn't go meet someone same day at their truck/hotel .

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By *ak4uMan
over a year ago

chelmsford

Traditionally swinging was all about spontaneity I thought. What we appear to have on fab now is more of a dating game.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion."

Another one???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Traditionally swinging was all about spontaneity I thought. What we appear to have on fab now is more of a dating game."

I would have to agree with you swinging is meant to be about having sex not dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest going to a bar/ regular club. You'll have better luck hooking up for a one off. I wouldn't bother with fab or any other online if I just wanted that. I don't get why you would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Traditionally swinging was all about spontaneity I thought. What we appear to have on fab now is more of a dating game.

I would have to agree with you swinging is meant to be about having sex not dating. "

Yes but not just having sex with anyone? Are swingers not meant to care?

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By *angerousLiaisonsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London


"I would suggest going to a bar/ regular club. You'll have better luck hooking up for a one off. I wouldn't bother with fab or any other online if I just wanted that. I don't get why you would. "

It’s not hard to meet women for spontaneous casual encounters in bars and nightclubs but it’s far more difficult than vice versa.

Women will always have it easier seeking casual sex hence they don’t value it anything like men do.

It’s actually easier for a man, in my opinion, to use dating apps like Tinder and Feeld to find casual sex.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion."

That might be your opinion but rules of the site say no a reply is a no thanks.

Do you reply to all the junk mail through your door, or every advertising e-mail you get? No? Then why should we reply to every message in our inbox?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's all about a connection and trust. I have had meets from messages here, to call, to social and then we went back to theirs. Another many flirting texts and then straight round for action as soon as the door was opened.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion.

That might be your opinion but rules of the site say no a reply is a no thanks.

Do you reply to all the junk mail through your door, or every advertising e-mail you get? No? Then why should we reply to every message in our inbox? "

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By *unnyman84Man
over a year ago

maidstone


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion.

That might be your opinion but rules of the site say no a reply is a no thanks.

Do you reply to all the junk mail through your door, or every advertising e-mail you get? No? Then why should we reply to every message in our inbox?

"

Well said

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia

Can hardly compare a polite personal message in response to what's being requested on someone's profile to junk mail you get through the post.

I get some of your points but I only message after reading a profile, and specifically look for ones who I think are of the same mind set, like who say they are looking for discreet NSA fun.

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By *assiieneilxMan
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion.

That might be your opinion but rules of the site say no a reply is a no thanks.

Do you reply to all the junk mail through your door, or every advertising e-mail you get? No? Then why should we reply to every message in our inbox? "

The point is, it’s not all junk mail.

If someone takes the time to compose a well considered msg then it deserves to be read, or at least glimpsed at, and a reply, even if no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So considering this is a site which mainly revolves around having sex, I can't find anyone who seems to be able to cater for spontaneous meets for sex.

Is this frowned upon here?

If anyone is interested however, please make contact! (Only females may apply) x"

Op have you looked at the looking to meet part of the site there are often couples staying in a hotel overnight looking to meet up , such meeting are more or less spontaneous events .by that I mean if your invite to meet them there after a few messages, you meet in the hotel bar for a drink if all goes well its up to the room to carry on the fun in a more intimate way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a bit like entitlement to me

Nobody 'deserves' a response, nobody is required to supply a response. To bring it back round to spontaneity... That requires going off purely physical attraction, and one profile looks pretty much the same as any other after a while. Clubs are a good alternative as people are more likely to be open to a play there. However, you're not open to that idea which is fair enough OP. But not much point in bemoaning there are no options for you when you said you're not interested in that one being suggested.

Its like saying - I can't be arsed to put in any effort, or legwork beyond sending out a few messages on. And then complaining this isn't yielding any results

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

We love spontaneous meets , all we did before covid stopped us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the odd spontaneous meet, then usually meet again...once you get to know someone it gets better. Bjt spontaneous is mainly how you get to meet most people in my experience.

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"Sounds a bit like entitlement to me

Nobody 'deserves' a response, nobody is required to supply a response. To bring it back round to spontaneity... That requires going off purely physical attraction, and one profile looks pretty much the same as any other after a while. Clubs are a good alternative as people are more likely to be open to a play there. However, you're not open to that idea which is fair enough OP. But not much point in bemoaning there are no options for you when you said you're not interested in that one being suggested.

Its like saying - I can't be arsed to put in any effort, or legwork beyond sending out a few messages on. And then complaining this isn't yielding any results "

Sorry but I don't agree. Not everyone on here is into the club scene.

I do agree some messages are not well worded by some but I personally I feel it's rude to read a polite well worded message but not to respond, even with a no thankyou.

Maybe it's just me but common politeness costs nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds a bit like entitlement to me

Nobody 'deserves' a response, nobody is required to supply a response. To bring it back round to spontaneity... That requires going off purely physical attraction, and one profile looks pretty much the same as any other after a while. Clubs are a good alternative as people are more likely to be open to a play there. However, you're not open to that idea which is fair enough OP. But not much point in bemoaning there are no options for you when you said you're not interested in that one being suggested.

Its like saying - I can't be arsed to put in any effort, or legwork beyond sending out a few messages on. And then complaining this isn't yielding any results

Sorry but I don't agree. Not everyone on here is into the club scene.

I do agree some messages are not well worded by some but I personally I feel it's rude to read a polite well worded message but not to respond, even with a no thankyou.

Maybe it's just me but common politeness costs nothing."

Well no, this is very true. And if there are only a few messages in your inbox then of course it's easy to respond to each and every one. When you're talking about a couple of hundred it turns in to a chore to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe see it from other people's point of view, rather than your own all the time OP.

The messages were not requested, therefore you should not expect or demand a response. Some of us get lots of very similar messages from people we are not interested in. Maybe there should be an automated thanks but no thanks button.

Lots of females (not all) will want to communicate with potential suitors before anything. We chat, social meet, and then play, so we know what we are getting and vice versa, never will we have a spontaneous meet, because we do not know or trust that person. As many have said, clubs are the place for this.

I assume from your comments, that you are married and that's why you only want spontaneous.

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"Maybe see it from other people's point of view, rather than your own all the time OP.

The messages were not requested, therefore you should not expect or demand a response. Some of us get lots of very similar messages from people we are not interested in. Maybe there should be an automated thanks but no thanks button.

Lots of females (not all) will want to communicate with potential suitors before anything. We chat, social meet, and then play, so we know what we are getting and vice versa, never will we have a spontaneous meet, because we do not know or trust that person. As many have said, clubs are the place for this.

I assume from your comments, that you are married and that's why you only want spontaneous."

No need for you to assume anything, FYI no I am not married.

If you've read my comments you'd be aware I do see other points of view.

You'd probably have to see the profiles and messages I write to understand and not just make assumptions.

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By *ombull15Man
over a year ago

essex

Can’t beat spontaneous meets love the idea of fucking a stranger within min of meeting them I had some great meets where door open walk in no talking straight in or digging bent over waiting

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"Can’t beat spontaneous meets love the idea of fucking a stranger within min of meeting them I had some great meets where door open walk in no talking straight in or digging bent over waiting "

Sounds perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t beat spontaneous meets love the idea of fucking a stranger within min of meeting them I had some great meets where door open walk in no talking straight in or digging bent over waiting "

What is it about it? It’s literally so dehumanising …

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"Can’t beat spontaneous meets love the idea of fucking a stranger within min of meeting them I had some great meets where door open walk in no talking straight in or digging bent over waiting

What is it about it? It’s literally so dehumanising … "

It's a type of kink I suppose,no more dehumanising than some of the kinky fetishes I read some people have got up to!

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

In my experience spontaneous meets tend to happen later at night. Either someone has been let down and they are looking or they suddenly just get the urge. It happens reasonably often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds a bit like entitlement to me

Nobody 'deserves' a response, nobody is required to supply a response. To bring it back round to spontaneity... That requires going off purely physical attraction, and one profile looks pretty much the same as any other after a while. Clubs are a good alternative as people are more likely to be open to a play there. However, you're not open to that idea which is fair enough OP. But not much point in bemoaning there are no options for you when you said you're not interested in that one being suggested.

Its like saying - I can't be arsed to put in any effort, or legwork beyond sending out a few messages on. And then complaining this isn't yielding any results

Sorry but I don't agree. Not everyone on here is into the club scene.

I do agree some messages are not well worded by some but I personally I feel it's rude to read a polite well worded message but not to respond, even with a no thankyou.

Maybe it's just me but common politeness costs nothing."

I wish I could show you the abuse I’ve had from saying “no thankyou” and the time it’s taken to go through every message and type a response.

I don’t do it any more, I’ve learnt my lesson the hard way,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the OP and everyman feeling a bit down over sites like this should also remember that they can in reality pick from at any time from a catalogues of absolutely stunning young 20 something super nymphs to have some fun with if he or any man so chooses to go down that route .

As men we can in reality get and have anything we want through endeavor and hard work life really is that simple . Every profile on here that is not a straight guys profile is on the whole looking for a man.

so guys remember it may not seem like but the truth is you are very very much in demand on sites like this and even more so in the real big wide world .

Take some comfort in that truth and just have some fun if you possible can. if not take a brake go through the catalogue have some fun and come back refreshed .

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By *damk4511Man
over a year ago

hatfield

For sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So considering this is a site which mainly revolves around having sex, I can't find anyone who seems to be able to cater for spontaneous meets for sex.

Is this frowned upon here?

If anyone is interested however, please make contact! (Only females may apply) x"

It might be where you live, I get spontaneous requests all the time lol, sometimes I can do it, sometimes not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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It might be where you live, I get spontaneous requests all the time lol, sometimes I can do it, sometimes not "

That's because you are a beefcake xx

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

It sounds extremely presumptuous to assume you'll get a spontaneous nsa shag (or even a reply) just because you've sent out a few unsolicited messages. Firstly, it's hardly spontaneous if messages are going back and forth. At least in a club I can go straight up to a guy and ask him if he wants to fuck me. Secondly, it's a bit impertinent to assume that because you fancy an instant shag with the woman you message that she might want that with you, particularly when she might get hundreds of better offers every day. And as we keep pointing out Fab rules are that no reply is not impolite. It simply means no thank you. Perhaps you should suggest the rules are changed to match your expectations.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Sounds a bit like entitlement to me

Nobody 'deserves' a response, nobody is required to supply a response. To bring it back round to spontaneity... That requires going off purely physical attraction, and one profile looks pretty much the same as any other after a while. Clubs are a good alternative as people are more likely to be open to a play there. However, you're not open to that idea which is fair enough OP. But not much point in bemoaning there are no options for you when you said you're not interested in that one being suggested.

Its like saying - I can't be arsed to put in any effort, or legwork beyond sending out a few messages on. And then complaining this isn't yielding any results

Sorry but I don't agree. Not everyone on here is into the club scene.

I do agree some messages are not well worded by some but I personally I feel it's rude to read a polite well worded message but not to respond, even with a no thankyou.

Maybe it's just me but common politeness costs nothing."

I will point out to you again OP site rules state it is not rude to not reply.

Are you aware that as soon as someone replies to you it breaks the site filters. If you reply to someone and then decide to filter, for example, single males from messaging, all single males you have previously said no thanks to are not filtered out and can still message.

This is just one reason I don't reply if I'm not interested when my filters are open.

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"It sounds extremely presumptuous to assume you'll get a spontaneous nsa shag (or even a reply) just because you've sent out a few unsolicited messages. Firstly, it's hardly spontaneous if messages are going back and forth. At least in a club I can go straight up to a guy and ask him if he wants to fuck me. Secondly, it's a bit impertinent to assume that because you fancy an instant shag with the woman you message that she might want that with you, particularly when she might get hundreds of better offers every day. And as we keep pointing out Fab rules are that no reply is not impolite. It simply means no thank you. Perhaps you should suggest the rules are changed to match your expectations."

No, you have me wrong. Nevermind anyway

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion."

Boom and there lies the problem, just another self entitled I want attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with you. When I post a status to meet almost every reply suggests something contrary to what it is FIONA wants

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion.

Boom and there lies the problem, just another self entitled I want attitude "

I think your reading things out of context.

Pretty sure I haven't created any problems here just started a topic in a chat forum.

Calm down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets "

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol"

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply. "

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that."

In that case, I’m looking forward to seeing you reply to each and every response on this thread

I also urge you to read the site t’s and c’s.

And reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door.

And reply to every email you ever receive.

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By *oooner1Couple
over a year ago

milton keynes

If it’s a marketing call, I’ll just hang up.

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that.

In that case, I’m looking forward to seeing you reply to each and every response on this thread

I also urge you to read the site t’s and c’s.

And reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door.

And reply to every email you ever receive.

"

No thankyou, happy Fabbing?

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"If it’s a marketing call, I’ll just hang up. "

Was referring to a personal call from a wrong number.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion.

Boom and there lies the problem, just another self entitled I want attitude

I think your reading things out of context.

Pretty sure I haven't created any problems here just started a topic in a chat forum.

Calm down"

Some lady's and couples get 100s of messages a day how do you expect them to ancer them all!, then even when you do say no thanks you still get another message back, so more unwanted messages,

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


"So considering this is a site which mainly revolves around having sex, I can't find anyone who seems to be able to cater for spontaneous meets for sex.

Is this frowned upon here?

If anyone is interested however, please make contact! (Only females may apply) x"

Spontaneous sex is when you see someone in the bar, work conference or a club and feel a spark leading to great sex round the corner..

Sending messages to random people with your genitals offering immediate coitus isn’t spontaneous, it’s just gross

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"Won't be doing the club scene, spontaneous and discreet is what I'm up for.

Perhaps it's just a unrealistic fantasy I'm having lol

Also I read lots of comments on women's profiles saying how rude some guys are, well call me old fashioned but not having the common decency of replying to a message after reading and just ignoring it and going as far as to block guys is just as rude in my opinion.

Boom and there lies the problem, just another self entitled I want attitude

I think your reading things out of context.

Pretty sure I haven't created any problems here just started a topic in a chat forum.

Calm down

Some lady's and couples get 100s of messages a day how do you expect them to ancer them all!, then even when you do say no thanks you still get another message back, so more unwanted messages, "

I haven't said that's what I expect.

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"So considering this is a site which mainly revolves around having sex, I can't find anyone who seems to be able to cater for spontaneous meets for sex.

Is this frowned upon here?

If anyone is interested however, please make contact! (Only females may apply) x

Spontaneous sex is when you see someone in the bar, work conference or a club and feel a spark leading to great sex round the corner..

Sending messages to random people with your genitals offering immediate coitus isn’t spontaneous, it’s just gross "

I hope your not implying I've done this?

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By *agusMan
over a year ago

Near by

Bit harsh on the OP, looks like the answer is yes it's frowned upon by some people, however if there is any sexy women out there who do want some spontaneous fun without gross pics then please DM me

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

I wouldn’t be interested in men travelling for work sorry and you can accommodate and want discreet sounds like your attached. Plus rules say you don’t have to reply to messages

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Sounds a bit like entitlement to me

Nobody 'deserves' a response, nobody is required to supply a response. To bring it back round to spontaneity... That requires going off purely physical attraction, and one profile looks pretty much the same as any other after a while. Clubs are a good alternative as people are more likely to be open to a play there. However, you're not open to that idea which is fair enough OP. But not much point in bemoaning there are no options for you when you said you're not interested in that one being suggested.

Its like saying - I can't be arsed to put in any effort, or legwork beyond sending out a few messages on. And then complaining this isn't yielding any results

Sorry but I don't agree. Not everyone on here is into the club scene.

I do agree some messages are not well worded by some but I personally I feel it's rude to read a polite well worded message but not to respond, even with a no thankyou.

Maybe it's just me but common politeness costs nothing."

Have you seen how many messages women get on here?

It's a lot... I have plenty of time, but I don't have the energy to respond to every single one... And sometimes even if you politely decline, you're met with abuse or they continue to try and chat.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I just wouldn't feel safe to do a spontaneous meet, as a single woman.

Only time I'd be spontaneous is with someone I'd already met and had a connection with.

My pet hate is being asked to meet now, today, tonight... Come to my hotel... I'm not a free sex worker!

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By *tewiethompsonMan
over a year ago

Colchester

To me spontaneous is picking a nice looking filly up in pub/bar and heading to your hotel for some quality playtime. Heck you don't even need to remember each others names !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that.

In that case, I’m looking forward to seeing you reply to each and every response on this thread

I also urge you to read the site t’s and c’s.

And reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door.

And reply to every email you ever receive.

No thankyou, happy Fabbing?"

Aww so you haven’t got the time or inclination to reply to every post on your thread but you expect women to reply to 100’s of messages every day or they are rude?

Or maybe it’s just you that you think they should reply to?

Nice one fella, enjoy

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that.

In that case, I’m looking forward to seeing you reply to each and every response on this thread

I also urge you to read the site t’s and c’s.

And reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door.

And reply to every email you ever receive.

No thankyou, happy Fabbing?

Aww so you haven’t got the time or inclination to reply to every post on your thread but you expect women to reply to 100’s of messages every day or they are rude?

Or maybe it’s just you that you think they should reply to?

Nice one fella, enjoy "

I disagree with every opinion of yours and have grown to dislike your attitude within my thread.

I have previously replied to you with a no thankyou happy fabbing but you just don't stop.

I think you need to take heed of your own advice.

Bye now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that.

In that case, I’m looking forward to seeing you reply to each and every response on this thread

I also urge you to read the site t’s and c’s.

And reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door.

And reply to every email you ever receive.

No thankyou, happy Fabbing?

Aww so you haven’t got the time or inclination to reply to every post on your thread but you expect women to reply to 100’s of messages every day or they are rude?

Or maybe it’s just you that you think they should reply to?

Nice one fella, enjoy

I disagree with every opinion of yours and have grown to dislike your attitude within my thread.

I have previously replied to you with a no thankyou happy fabbing but you just don't stop.

I think you need to take heed of your own advice.

Bye now x

"

Sorry honey, that’s not how the forums work. I don’t need to stop commenting on anything because you tell me to.

I don’t agree with you, nor do others but you seem to have singled me out. That’s cool, water off a ducks back to me

My advice is sound and in line with the t’s and c’s of the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that.

In that case, I’m looking forward to seeing you reply to each and every response on this thread

I also urge you to read the site t’s and c’s.

And reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door.

And reply to every email you ever receive.

No thankyou, happy Fabbing?

Aww so you haven’t got the time or inclination to reply to every post on your thread but you expect women to reply to 100’s of messages every day or they are rude?

Or maybe it’s just you that you think they should reply to?

Nice one fella, enjoy

I disagree with every opinion of yours and have grown to dislike your attitude within my thread.

I have previously replied to you with a no thankyou happy fabbing but you just don't stop.

I think you need to take heed of your own advice.

Bye now x

"

Oh the irony

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

Seems to be a weak attempt at getting laid....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that.

In that case, I’m looking forward to seeing you reply to each and every response on this thread

I also urge you to read the site t’s and c’s.

And reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door.

And reply to every email you ever receive.

No thankyou, happy Fabbing?

Aww so you haven’t got the time or inclination to reply to every post on your thread but you expect women to reply to 100’s of messages every day or they are rude?

Or maybe it’s just you that you think they should reply to?

Nice one fella, enjoy

I disagree with every opinion of yours and have grown to dislike your attitude within my thread.

I have previously replied to you with a no thankyou happy fabbing but you just don't stop.

I think you need to take heed of your own advice.

Bye now x

Oh the irony "

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By *addy_83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brisbane, Australia


"I have had some amazing spontaneous and impulsive meet that have lead into regular meets

Thankyou for sharing this,some people are making out I'm a complete wrongun for suggesting it! I don't mean any malice by it it's just fun sex to me lol

Nobody is making out you're a 'wrongun' for suggesting spontaneous sex. Many of us thoroughly enjoy it. What we're objecting to is you feeling you have a right to a reply to the messages you send, and calling people rude for not replying. Fab doesn't allow criticism of profiles unless requested, and I doubt very much that you would ever message me, but if you did I wouldn't be inclined to reply.

Well sorry but I personally believe if you are taking the time to open and read a polite message but choose to ignore or delete instead of a courteous reply, even if it's a no thankyou, then that comes across rude.

(For example if I get a phone call from someone who has called the wrong number I will politely say "I'm sorry I think you have the wrong number, bye"

I don't just say nothing and hang up)!

Perhaps I'm just well mannered, sorry about that.

In that case, I’m looking forward to seeing you reply to each and every response on this thread

I also urge you to read the site t’s and c’s.

And reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door.

And reply to every email you ever receive.

No thankyou, happy Fabbing?

Aww so you haven’t got the time or inclination to reply to every post on your thread but you expect women to reply to 100’s of messages every day or they are rude?

Or maybe it’s just you that you think they should reply to?

Nice one fella, enjoy

I disagree with every opinion of yours and have grown to dislike your attitude within my thread.

I have previously replied to you with a no thankyou happy fabbing but you just don't stop.

I think you need to take heed of your own advice.

Bye now x

Oh the irony

"

You're quite childish, and not sure you understand what I have said.

I don't mind replying to anyone but you are just irrelevant and that's not what I'm here for.

The irony seems to be I've had more replies via this forum from people I haven't messaged than I have from direct messages to people.

Oh the irony!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of ours have been spontaneous when either on holiday or out drinking. Even when our plumber came to our house with his wife we ended up playing together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Traditionally swinging was all about spontaneity I thought. What we appear to have on fab now is more of a dating game.

I would have to agree with you swinging is meant to be about having sex not dating.

Yes but not just having sex with anyone? Are swingers not meant to care?"

I would care a lot if my partner was on a date with someone as that would mean he would be finding a new partner. If he just meet someone for sex then that's fine as it's just sex.

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