FabSwingers.com forum: Cant get a meet ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello advice needed please .Why cant i get a meet or a social.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

What type of messages are you sending ?are you reading profiles before messaging

I can't say why except you need to sell yourself and stand out ,there's so many men on here all looking for the same.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

You have only been here for 3 weeks on your current profile.

It could take more time to form some sort of bond with people who would be interested in meeting you.

I won’t give advice because it’s not up to me how you use the site, but what I will say is it can be difficult for single men on here.

Good luck in your journey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you Both,i think its probably too difficult being honest,ill give it till the end of the month and knock it on the head..

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

It’s a swinging site. Not insta shag.

Just because people are swingers, it doesn’t mean they will shag just for the sake of it.

Too many men mix up swinging and an easy shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a swinging site. Not insta shag.

Just because people are swingers, it doesn’t mean they will shag just for the sake of it.

Too many men mix up swinging and an easy shag"

That’s very true

Op don’t stress and rush when it happens it will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you Both,i think its probably too difficult being honest,ill give it till the end of the month and knock it on the head.."

That’s hardly any time on here

What were your expectations? Did you really think it would be that quick?

Have you been to any socials?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I cant get a social.Chatting like this im not good at if im being honest.Im in no rush to sleep with anyone though that would be nice

If im out with the lads i do ok,good really.I just wanted to find someone local.I think id like to go to a club just apprehensive thats all .

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By *illbe9999Man
over a year ago

Holmfirth

There are specific rooms in this forum where you can ask for advice on your profile....

Look further down the list

Be prepared...they don't pull any punches

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Best thing I can say is chat a bit in the forums here, study profiles and know what you want exactly.

Not gonna lie I've felt a bit disheartened at times but once in a while the right person comes along and you end up getting on like a house on fire

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By *heonixrising500Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Took me 2 years to get my first meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all.Maybe im too keen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello advice needed please .Why cant i get a meet or a social."

Hi Michael, expand your profile mate, give a bit more background about you. Also add some humour in. You are not a bad looking chap and you’ve maintained a good physique, so no issues there - Bob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask the one thing that gets you a meet

FAF?

If they say no just ask "can ya lie still so I can have one?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hello advice needed please .Why cant i get a meet or a social.

Hi Michael, expand your profile mate, give a bit more background about you. Also add some humour in. You are not a bad looking chap and you’ve maintained a good physique,

so no issues there - Bob"

Ok i will try thanks for advice .

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I was messaged by a guy not verified been on for 3 weeks, asking in his 1st message "fancy coming to mine for fun now" seriously, I asked him how he'd heard of this site, apparently his mate said that the women on here are gagging for it and it's a free site to join....

So the advice I can give you OP is don't think like this guy and put the effort in, read the profile 1st and don't think that just cos you're on here for instant sex that the women are

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

3 weeks is nothing and do you really think you have put the effort in with your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello advice needed please .Why cant i get a meet or a social."

The easiest way to get a social is to go to a local organised social event in your area this may lead to more if someone takes a shine to you OP I think this maybe the best way to solve the questioned you asked.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

OP there's been loads of great advise you've have already.

Posting on the forums is a great way to get to know people. Start joining in some of the other threads & also look out for organised groups socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was messaged by a guy not verified been on for 3 weeks, asking in his 1st message "fancy coming to mine for fun now" seriously, I asked him how he'd heard of this site, apparently his mate said that the women on here are gagging for it and it's a free site to join....

So the advice I can give you OP is don't think like this guy and put the effort in, read the profile 1st and don't think that just cos you're on here for instant sex that the women are

Hay I've been on here a month fancy meeting me for a social and as the bloke down the pub told me all the women on here are gaging for a will pay for the coffee and cake as well as let you have a little suck on my cock in the Bush before we part untill next time .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So the advice I can give you OP is don't think like this guy and put the effort in, read the profile 1st and don't think that just cos you're on here for instant sex that the women are

I always ask if they like a social meet im down for that.Id like to see if we can have a laugh.If i dont fancy you and you me the swinging bit wont happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP there's been loads of great advise you've have already.

Posting on the forums is a great way to get to know people. Start joining in some of the other threads & also look out for organised groups socials.

Thank you .

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

So the advice I can give you OP is don't think like this guy and put the effort in, read the profile 1st and don't think that just cos you're on here for instant sex that the women are

I always ask if they like a social meet im down for that.Id like to see if we can have a laugh.If i dont fancy you and you me the swinging bit wont happen."

Yet you asked for help getting a meet or social!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Updated my profile ,scarey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So the advice I can give you OP is don't think like this guy and put the effort in, read the profile 1st and don't think that just cos you're on here for instant sex that the women are

I always ask if they like a social meet im down for that.Id like to see if we can have a laugh.If i dont fancy you and you me the swinging bit wont happen.

Yet you asked for help getting a meet or social!?

Was that for Me ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far to many single guys, far to many fake profile, far to many that can’t or won’t read profiles, to many rude guys, far to many guys just collecting pictures. It all adds up to a minefield we all have, but love at the same time.

As a copy, we are being hugely selective about who we communicate with and even less we actually want to meet.

Being a single guy is very difficult on FAB, especially if you are expecting regular meets.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I cant get a social.Chatting like this im not good at if im being honest.Im in no rush to sleep with anyone though that would be nice

If im out with the lads i do ok,good really.I just wanted to find someone local.I think id like to go to a club just apprehensive thats all ."

So you're after a woman to turn up, all wet and ready and then bugger off after you've fucked her then.

There may be a few women who would do that but it's rare, normally you'd have to pay for that service.

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By *N69Man
over a year ago

Yeovil

I have been on a while mate, had 3 meets and been couple of clubs / events.

Just be Honest and remember more men on here than women so will take time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I cant get a social.Chatting like this im not good at if im being honest.Im in no rush to sleep with anyone though that would be nice

If im out with the lads i do ok,good really.I just wanted to find someone local.I think id like to go to a club just apprehensive thats all .

So you're after a woman to turn up, all wet and ready and then bugger off after you've fucked her then.

There may be a few women who would do that but it's rare, normally you'd have to pay for that service."

No not at all id rather meet up socially and see what happens .

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By *willfindyouWoman
over a year ago

Not looking to meet new peeps.

Its not dail a ride Kido. good bod tho.

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

Moat major cities do large scale organised socials, I bet Birmingham has one. I know Leeds and Manchester do x

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

Looks like may 21st is the next Birmingham one looking at the forums

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Updated my profile ,scarey "

To quote your updated profile

"I dont have time to give to a lady to make her feel special" yet you want a fab woman to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op ....on fab ...men outnumber women by .... at minumun 100 to 1 alot more in some areas you are at a loss before you even start..

and looking on my homepage the amount of men joining is getting bigger than ever yet new women or couples are noy so

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By *rMs.NeekCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

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By *rMs.NeekCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

"Looks like may 21st is the next Birmingham one looking at the forums "

Called uptheBrum. Absolutely great nights

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By *rMs.NeekCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Politely I'd check how your profile reads. It's certainly not the easiest to read. Quite a few would be put off by that I'm afraid. So many men to choose from on here that there needs to be a point of difference to get noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmmm.....

You haven't been here very long.

First of all this isn't a "everyone will meet everyone" set up. Many are here for sex and many others are here for chat with the commonality that they share a lifestyle.

Drop all your presumptions and assumptions.

If you are not a swinger then this is not the site for you and the swingers will smell you out if you pretend to be.

Put some life into your pictures and profile, read the profiles before you message and knuckle down to it. Even then you are running against the odds due to the number of single men on here and more than a fair number are a pain in the backside.

Rather than trying to meet singularly, go to a local social event or even one further afield to meet and socialise. Even then do not expect to have sex, you will need to get to know the way things work first. If you cannot face the cost of going for a night out and the cost of a hotel then you struggle will be all the more difficult.

Once you get noticed and interact with those who are interested in you that you are interested in you will start to progress but it may take quite some time.

If what you are trying doesn't work 3 times then don't do that and do something else instead as that doesn't work. Most importantly be wary of your internal processing. Many think they change their behaviour yet they stick to what they always do and get nowhere.

Good luck

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I cant get a social.Chatting like this im not good at if im being honest.Im in no rush to sleep with anyone though that would be nice

If im out with the lads i do ok,good really.I just wanted to find someone local.I think id like to go to a club just apprehensive thats all .

So you're after a woman to turn up, all wet and ready and then bugger off after you've fucked her then.

There may be a few women who would do that but it's rare, normally you'd have to pay for that service.

No not at all id rather meet up socially and see what happens ."

But you don't have time for that.

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By *nnasHammerCouple
over a year ago

The Upside Down

Keep a look out on the forums pages for any organised socials that may be local to you. We love the socials and try to attend as many as we can. As a result, we have met so many amazing people. It’s a good way to get yourself known.

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