FabSwingers.com forum: First meet advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for advice for our first meet, we’re really nervous and not sure what to expect, thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest you all discuss just how far and what you want to do beforehand, laying out any boundaries you have, what you like what you don't like and any fantacies you fancy making real. Works for me.

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

We usually have a coffee and chat first at ours before heading to bedroom. Find it breaks the ice a little and not as formal as a social. It still leaves enough wriggle room if want to say no but if say yes then easy for the fun to start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We usually have a coffee and chat first at ours before heading to bedroom. Find it breaks the ice a little and not as formal as a social. It still leaves enough wriggle room if want to say no but if say yes then easy for the fun to start. "

Thanks for the reply, we’ve been let down last minute twice now x

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

"Looking for advice for our first meet, we’re really nervous and not sure what to expect, thanks x"

just go for it, beware or timewasters but people who actually meet are generally friendly & not pushy, enjoy yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would suggest you all discuss just how far and what you want to do beforehand, laying out any boundaries you have, what you like what you don't like and any fantacies you fancy making real. Works for me."

Thank you, good advice x

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Try build up a bit of a rapport with the person or people you are meeting beforehand.

Discuss what may possibly happen if you all click and very clear what you don't want to happen.

Have a drink to settle your nerves if you drink but only one or two.

Try relax as much as you can and treat it like a normal social and see where it goes.

Good luck with it, I hope it goes well. Whoever they are, they are very lucky!

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Just meet for a drink (don’t get d*unk) and be relaxed, chances are the other party are nervous too.

Also if you are meeting as a couple make sure you have a way of walking away from it if either of you no longer feel comfortable. Both of you need to be happy & both need to consent before taking anything further with anyone.

You’ll find what works for you. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just meet for a drink (don’t get d*unk) and be relaxed, chances are the other party are nervous too.

You’ll find what works for you. Good luck!"

Thanks very much x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try build up a bit of a rapport with the person or people you are meeting beforehand.

Discuss what may possibly happen if you all click and very clear what you don't want to happen.

Have a drink to settle your nerves if you drink but only one or two.

Thanks

Try relax as much as you can and treat it like a normal social and see where it goes.

Good luck with it, I hope it goes well. Whoever they are, they are very lucky!

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

It's your meet so only you can decide what to expect. Let the other person/people know what you want and don't want. If they are of a similar mindset then great go ahead with it. If they are not agreeable then move on to someone else.

Remember everyone is here for the same thing but how we go about it differs from person to person. Have fun and don't feel pressure to do something either of you doesn't want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think meeting someone for a drink in a bar or go for a coffee is a great way to break the ice and introduce yourselves. Get a feel for if you want to have sex with them or not…

Otherwise a scenario for example, you invite them around or book a hotel and they are nothing like their photos or just have completely different personality…

Talk about what you are after for the first meet though if it is just a social make sure they no it’s nothing more than that…

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set out limits - between yourselves and with the people you're meeting - and stick to them. Sticking to them (even if you feel you want to do more in the moment) builds trust and respect between everyone, and you're better off frustrated and wanting more than regretful and having wanted less. If anyone tries to "push" limits (even between a couple), that's a red flag - pay attention to it, trust and respect is what allows us all to have fun.

If your limits are at the intersection of what everyone is comfortable with for that meet, and you stick to them, you can't lose

and as for what to expect? Every meet is unique, and gloriously so

Enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all, we’ve been let down twice unfortunately.

Couples get in touch if interested xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for advice for our first meet, we’re really nervous and not sure what to expect, thanks x"

Lots of communication about what you do/don't want. An attraction. The ability to walkaway if you aren't feeling it and then let the fireworks off!

Previously meet verified just for accuracy purposes

Warrington eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust your feelings. Do what you enjoy and if something feels off then recognise it as valid.

It's your journey and there's no rush.

I can see the timewasters missed out.

Ever come down south??

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By *reyerWolfMan
over a year ago

Ferndown

Talk about your likes and dislikes, especially the hard NOs.

Some folks like to meet at a public place and then move on from there. Others arrange chats to other platforms.

Respect everyone's boundaries, and especially don't forget to enjoy the company. The bedroom part is a don't!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Chat to the other person or persons before ye arrange a meet. See if ye get on .Arrange to meet somewhere public first for a chat with no expectations and see if ye all get on before ye decide to take it straight to the bedroom.

Discuss what ye want from a meet and what they want as well.If ye are meeting singles ( I haven't looked at your profile) make sure you are all happy with the arrangements and what will happen and don't forget it should be about all of you enjoying the experience and not just about what ye want from a meet. All of you have to be on the same page.

Most of all enjoy the experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chat to the other person or persons before ye arrange a meet. See if ye get on .Arrange to meet somewhere public first for a chat with no expectations and see if ye all get on before ye decide to take it straight to the bedroom.

Most of all enjoy the experience. "

Thank you x

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I'd recommend visiting a club for your first encounter. You can go with no expectations or obligations to do anything. Being stood up isn't an issue as you can still experience the club and have a nosey at the action. You can choose to just have a drink and a chat or go do your own thing, in public or private. Or you may catch someone's eye and involve them

Otherwise, I'd make your first meet just a social over drinks. Just chatting with others about swinging and what experiences they've had / want to have can open your eyes to things you've not considered.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Thanks for the reply, we’ve been let down last minute twice now x"

Are they mad who would ever not want to meet you. You seem so nice on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would expect you to meet for a social firstly then discuss any do and dont’s build a rapport and chemistry to get the juices flowing it’s good to fell nervous hopefully the excitement will build too

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

"Thanks all, we’ve been let down twice unfortunately.

Couples get in touch if interested xx"

Afraid that's something have to get used but there are plenty of genuine people on her, just trying to find them xx

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Firstly if you've had no shows previously, I'd suggest either a quick phone call / cam chat beforehand.

Have you thought about visiting a swingers club nearby where you can watch the goings on without any pressure. Also you must both talk through what you are comfortable with and be 100% honest. I hope you have fun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly if you've had no shows previously, I'd suggest either a quick phone call / cam chat beforehand.

Thank you, we’re looking at going one of the Blackpool ones over summer, ideally we’d like a social first x

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