FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting couples for the 1st time

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we joined with the intention of mff and possibly mfmf, during our time in fab I got pregnant and that put a stop to meeting, it also put me off other men, since that being put off is kind of still there, it's something I want to try, but can't get passed that slight awkward feeling.

Usually chats start off great then a random cock pic is thrown in which always puts me off.

Is it normal to be put off by a mear cock pic? I have found the gents side of the chat is much more sexually focused than the females, maybe it's this?!

Anyway after my babbling, what was your 1st couple swap experience like?

Mrs

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By *ipseyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

A cock pic for us from a m or couple is a turn off (unless unsolicited).

We normally have a group chat set up on something like Telegram…we’ve not had many experiences of unsolicited cock pics since we started that

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I think it comes down to trust really. Having a cock pic pop up when you're not expecting it can be really jarring and intrusive. Even when chatting with swingers. And it can make you question how the male half would be in a play situatuon.

We've not done a full couple swap (only soft group play) but we've found the guys who are chatting sexually online were less forward in person. And it was more female driven.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

We’re very polite and will always have a non-sexual chat. Where direct questions need to be asked about preferences we will do so, but typically all in a telegram group. We don’t send pics without asking first and expect the same. It can work, it all depends on the dynamic of the other couple and of the group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if things are putting you off then that means its a no go ...stick to you gut feeling you and omly you will know when its right ...

nerves are good keeps you aleart i mrs still get them and been swinging 28 soon to be 29 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to reject anyone who starts talking about what they want to do to Mrs NE or who send cock pics.

Although we’ve only had 1 meet that was 100% through fab there was no sexual chat other than discussing what we all wanted out of the meet.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We chat and chat to people and we enjoy the build up.

We learn much more talking about anything other than sex.

If someone was trying to turn the conversation sexual all the time when the conversation was vanilla then it’s a potential sign we aren’t going to be compatible.

A random cock pic would also have the same effect.

We love building up the chat and at times it can be exciting and filthy but only when you’re all on the same page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cocks are not attractive. I can only imagine even Brad Pitt has one that looks like a plucked chicken.

It's supposed to be a positive sexual fantasy, not "ere's me dick do you want it?"

If it's an awkward feeling, dont ignore it and recognise that it's not right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm pleased it's not just me I was starting to think it's all part and parcel of fab, but it does put me off.

Mrs

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By *ocusMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

My wife and I have discussed this several times. Rather than just finding a couple we can dive straight into bed with we'd rather have a social or two to get to know each other, make sure we're on the same wavelength. We're after something we share with each other along with a couple that feels the same. It's not about another couple being a walking, talking sex toy.

Just chucking cock pics in while we were going through this process would put us off I think. Having a cock/pussy pic on your profile is one thing but bunging one into a convo is a bit different.

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By *ustathingMan
over a year ago

Reading

I think a lot of people on here want to talk via message too much..

All of my meets have been with people I got chatting to on here, spoke throughout the day, then usually met within 24/48 hours...

Conversing on a screen with someone's who's pretty much a stranger is always going to have its downfalls, no matter how nice they are!

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By *ocusMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Yeah, messaging for a while would be the first step to a couple of IRL socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always like to meet for a social after we have been chatting for awhile, and then get a feel xx

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