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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

So I have a meet sort of planned for later tonight. Kind of agreed time and general location but nothing more than that and then silence. My spidey sense tells me that they are genuine and that it will come through but …….

How planned does a meet generally have to be before you get concerns?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If I don't know an exact time and place I ain't goin'.

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"If I don't know an exact time and place I ain't goin'."

Agreed. Just wondering whether to chase a plan B - normally I wouldn’t but it is a quiet Sunday and need something to do

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

You can normally tell the time wasters. An exchange of phone numbers and a message before hand can often give a bit of confidence.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Iv had planned meets some great ones but some iv travelled to and not happened you have to choose if you go or not if it feels right what you got to loose

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"If I don't know an exact time and place I ain't goin'.

Agreed. Just wondering whether to chase a plan B - normally I wouldn’t but it is a quiet Sunday and need something to do "

What if plan A and plan B both come good?

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"If I don't know an exact time and place I ain't goin'.

Agreed. Just wondering whether to chase a plan B - normally I wouldn’t but it is a quiet Sunday and need something to do

What if plan A and plan B both come good? "

That is my BIG worry. As I said my spidey sense is okish (and usually pretty accurate) but have a slightly nagging doubt.

I think I will give it the benefit of the doubt and see how it plays out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's either arranged or it isn't in my book, no sort offs or anything general. Only you know the communication between each other and silence can cause doubt.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"If I don't know an exact time and place I ain't goin'.

Agreed. Just wondering whether to chase a plan B - normally I wouldn’t but it is a quiet Sunday and need something to do

What if plan A and plan B both come good?

That is my BIG worry. As I said my spidey sense is okish (and usually pretty accurate) but have a slightly nagging doubt.

I think I will give it the benefit of the doubt and see how it plays out."

Good luck! Hope you all have a great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time and place agreed in advance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I don't know an exact time and place I ain't goin'."

What they said.

Op, I hope this turns out for you okay. But this is why a need details.

Full plans. Time and place or this is the man that can’t be moved… *one for the music lovers.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"If I don't know an exact time and place I ain't goin'."

This is it.

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By *la87Man
over a year ago

acton

I've had my time wasted once before. If we don't bang out specifics and trade numbers... It's not happening

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

We get our time wasted on regular basis on here it seems. Even meet planned for while in Glasgow disappeared even though was up for it day before. Shame as was another guy who we wanted to meet and he did too.

Sometimes wish guys just had balls to say couldn't or didn't want to make the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there isn't an exact plan in place, I assume it's not happening. Also if they haven't checked in on the day before/on the day it's off too.

Clear communication is the only thing that makes this place work.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"If there isn't an exact plan in place, I assume it's not happening. Also if they haven't checked in on the day before/on the day it's off too.

Clear communication is the only thing that makes this place work."

Exactly this.

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

It got cancelled

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"So I have a meet sort of planned for later tonight. Kind of agreed time and general location but nothing more than that and then silence. My spidey sense tells me that they are genuine and that it will come through but …….

How planned does a meet generally have to be before you get concerns?"

That's a tricky one as we've been let down twice recently, one as we were driving to their place, the other ten minutes before we were going to set off !?.... Red flags otherwise include phone number not returned for yours, going quiet a few days before the meet, avoiding certain questions or attempts to set a time and place. Many genuine folk leave it till the last minute to confirm address etc, yes the timewasters sometimes do the same thing too. Everyone is different, many are very shy. You never know if it's going to happen till your face to face

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford


"It got cancelled "

When did you find out? Or didn't they show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It got cancelled "

You'll find that a regular thing on here, many like the idea of meeting, enjoy the attention, then cancel last minute.

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

To be fair - as I said at the start it had only been partially planned and I should probably have known better.

My spider sense is usually pretty good but it failed on this one - although the fact I posted about it tells me I knew it wasn’t going to happen

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"It got cancelled

When did you find out? Or didn't they show? "

I checked a few hours before and was told it wasn’t going to happen. I knew anyway - which is kind of why I posted to second guess myself.

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"It got cancelled

You'll find that a regular thing on here, many like the idea of meeting, enjoy the attention, then cancel last minute. "

Actually I find it is relatively rare for me.

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"So I have a meet sort of planned for later tonight. Kind of agreed time and general location but nothing more than that and then silence. My spidey sense tells me that they are genuine and that it will come through but …….

How planned does a meet generally have to be before you get concerns?

That's a tricky one as we've been let down twice recently, one as we were driving to their place, the other ten minutes before we were going to set off !?.... Red flags otherwise include phone number not returned for yours, going quiet a few days before the meet, avoiding certain questions or attempts to set a time and place. Many genuine folk leave it till the last minute to confirm address etc, yes the timewasters sometimes do the same thing too. Everyone is different, many are very shy. You never know if it's going to happen till your face to face "

It is the address thing that always sets concerns off for me - if an address is given you are pretty much guaranteed that it is a genuine meet (as is a phone chat). I get why people are wary but that is usually indicative of someone who isn’t going to meet.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"You can normally tell the time wasters. An exchange of phone numbers and a message before hand can often give a bit of confidence."

We never give out a phone number before a meet.

However, I agree, you can usually tell. A spidey sense is not to be underestimated.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

At least they had the decency to tell you they were cancelling x

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"If there isn't an exact plan in place, I assume it's not happening. Also if they haven't checked in on the day before/on the day it's off too."

Yeah, most no-shows or cancellations we've had are busy every day on Fab, except for the day of the meet.

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"You can normally tell the time wasters. An exchange of phone numbers and a message before hand can often give a bit of confidence.

We never give out a phone number before a meet.

However, I agree, you can usually tell. A spidey sense is not to be underestimated."

A phone chat is usually a positive indicator for me. If the profile has decent (and consistently taken) pix and proper veris then I would not worry about a lack of a chat on the phone. If I have any doubts then a lack of a phone chat is a killer.

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

We are spontaneous , don’t like to plan if possible

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By *iscreet gent2018Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"We are spontaneous , don’t like to plan if possible "

I’ll be there in an hour lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we gave us with long planning yerars ago as it was the most for letdowns the only planning we do is within the week dont seen to get let down anymore ...

if the comunication stops then we would waste no more time in the meet if we plan to meet a guy in a weeks time then we keep him knowing everything is ok and still on ..if he goes quite then we leave a message to say we 'ved moved on ...this is the reason to why we wont give our addy till the last min postcade first then when they are withing the post code and we see the car they are in then house number (if playing at home)

there seem to be a massive increase in men moaning about being messed around of late are you 100% sure its a woman or couple ?? mind you there are loads of couples who do enjoy winding men up with no intention of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are spontaneous , don’t like to plan if possible "

spontaneous is the best way we never get let down that way not only that we dont need to talk for weeks on end to swing we dont want to know there private life we just want to fancy them and have good fun

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By *ellhungvwe OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I am not complaining about being messed around. I was curious as to what signals you get on whether a meet is going to happen.

To be clear we had only (tentatively) arranged it that morning and it was just that the arranging hadn’t quite been finalised. Normally rapid types of meets have a good chance of successfully happening in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I …… Normally rapid types of meets have a good chance of successfully happening in my experience."

If you don’t make the initial meet quickly, I’d say it less likely to happen as time goes in. For loads of reasons.

Sounds exciting, but I’m too old for bullshit, I just need a time and place.

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