FabSwingers.com forum: Is it wrong to be picky?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't overthink it. Nothing in life is 'perfect'. You'll have way more fun just rolling with it if you 'click' with someone...

I've had some 'meh' experiences, also some absolutely tremendous! But essentially it's all just been a 'fuck' (even if I've come away with a friendship). Just have fun with it.

Bottom line - it could be absolutely shite! But who hasn't had a crap shag before? And well you don't know if you don't try

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By *uit and bootsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

Put as much info as possible about what you’re looking for on your profile text.

It may put some people off, but it could point that one or two special people in your direction, if they happen to fit the bill.

Nothing wrong with being picky, we all have our preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

There's nothing wrong with being too picky xx im sure that you will be able to find someone who is compatible with you x keep searching and someone will eventually be the one you are looking for x

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

Every woman and couple on here are extremely picky, so there's no reason you shouldn't be too

There are dozens of single guys for every couple and woman on here, so you may as well take advantage of it.

Choose the top 10% of guys, while the rest of us ugly guys do what we can :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

Take your time be as picky as you want because the first time can make or brake your enjoyment going forward .meet the people your interested in pursuing this experience with face to face for a friendly coffee or drink .trust your gut on these meets if for some reason your gut instinct says something is off with them .move on with your search above all be true to yourself in what you want the experience to be .

Maybe you'd like to start with soft play first I.E kissing and groping with the persons your interested in and if that goes well you can proceed from there .

I don't know you only you know you inner comfort level with how fast you like to go from 0 to full sex with someone . Maybe you need a fair be of socialising first before you feel unfotmrtable enough to move forward maybe you don't.

Be true to your own comfort level not the level of those your interested in sex with .

Sex is often a compromise and those who don't want to go at your pace can move on this is your fantasy just as much as it maybe there's So they should be willing to proceed at your pace to forfill the fantasy as your the newbie you should be afford that comfort without even having to ask for it .

Thats my thoughts on your question hope it helps and like I said above all be true to yourself in what you want .

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

Nothing wrong with being picky. Dont just take one for the team for the sake of it. Find someone you feel totally relaxed with, can have a laugh with. Things flow so much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep nothing wrong with being picky as i want to make sure everyone enjoys themselves when we have our first meet, thats more than a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s no such thing as perfect. One thing I’ve learned on here is that if it feels right, do it, if it doesn’t then don’t. But don’t compromise your standards or what you’re willing to do. x

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By *om Bert2020Man
over a year ago

Jersey / Swansea

You can be as picky as you want but it does not mean you will end up with a good meeting, and that you will come away sexual with satisfaction.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm extremely picky and your level of pickiness is based on what you are actually looking for.

If I was content with a quick shag I could easily have had a lot more than the 7 play meets I've had in 5 years but that's not what I'm here for.

Ask yourself if compromising on what you really want will work long term?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re extremely picky, not in the wanting a Tom Hardy lookalike sense but more if one slight thing isn’t right we won’t meet.

At the end of the day this is your fantasy and you shouldn’t have to compromise on what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aim for no less than the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

Do you have a couple profile with him?

Is he looking for the same as you or will he fuck whoever you pick?

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By *vetteBondTV/TS
over a year ago

English Riviera

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

Patience! There's an inordinate amount of guys out there and it'll take time to sift through. Picky that may be but we can afford to be.

It took me a good while to fulfil my fist fantasy date but he was well worth the wait.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

There is nothing wrong with being picky - we all have the things we want and don’t want. Keep those standards.

I would slightly caution against holding the fantasy bar too high. As someone else commented, at the end of the day it is sex, and if your expectations of what it is going to be like are out of kilter then you may well be disappointed.

Just have fun, don’t over think it and go with the flow.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

It's completely up to you. For me, my first meet was a 'get it out of the way' kind of thing.

I wanted to have had the experience and then take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being picky at all

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

People shouldn’t compromise. It is your fantasy and you should be patient and get the thing that you want. No experience is a better option than a bad experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not!

I'm very picky!

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By *eliciouslyFilthyGentMan
over a year ago

York

If it wasn’t for being picky, I’d have been verified a couple of times by now!

Never lower your standards OP!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Is not getting exactly what you want better than getting something moderately near?

Only you can answer that, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far better to be picky op, no one ever wants regrets about meets

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

Yes, it’s absolutely wrong to be picky. You should go with the first guy that sent you his cock pic with toiled on a background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

I'm super picky. I just can't have random sex with just anyone though so I have to suck it up until I find what I'm looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be as picky as you like and lower your expectations.

You will probably really enjoy yourself when you find the right people or person.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

No there are lots of losers stay true to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can overthinking and never find any one, as the only way to find out is to take the plunge. The first time is unlikely to meet up with the fantasy but the second one is much more likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

Mybe the same reasons your not married or haven't a boyfriend perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome

Mybe the same reasons your not married or haven't a boyfriend perhaps "

Maybe she doesn't want to be married or have a boyfriend.

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Nothing wrong in being picky

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

Your pickiness should be inverse proportion to the standards you're looking for and whether you're looking for a guy or a couple but, at the end of the day, don't meet up with people that only one of you fancies. That way lies grief...

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Or you could be living in fantasy land. If getting messages take a good percentage and look at the level of person you actually attract then decide if that’s for you.

Imo this will give you the level you are at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you could be living in fantasy land. If getting messages take a good percentage and look at the level of person you actually attract then decide if that’s for you.

Imo this will give you the level you are at. "

total bullshit .... 90% of the men who message me id not go near in a million years and your saying because they contact us thats our level hahahah ahahaha no chance if that was the case then by your logic no one would have any preference or taste just because of who they attract ...you clearly have no idea what a womans or couples inbox looks like ....

being picky is not just about looks its about how people act too ...i know what i like and i know when i see it that will never change but thats the first steps most who pass this section well and truely fuck it up over the next few messages ....everyone should be picky male or female

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

No such thing as too picky. We all have a taste and standards. You shouldn't drop them for anybody.

I wish you luck in your search OP.

Jo.Xx

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By *ower Couple - NorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Watton

Never be worried about being picky. They are your fantasies and your playmates are what make or break the fantasy.

All good things come to those who wait

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"Or you could be living in fantasy land. If getting messages take a good percentage and look at the level of person you actually attract then decide if that’s for you.

Imo this will give you the level you are at.

Lol looks like a touched a nerve. Best I leave it there.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I'm not picky but i need to have in common, chemestry, connection and atraction

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Why settle for less?

Keep being fussy and selective is my thoughts..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't find many that I vibe with. Maybe England isn't for me lol

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

Be as choosy as you wish, it’s your call.

I’ve chatted to people & liked their pics but I still worry if the chemistry is there.

A few meets have lacked chemistry but fun can still take place & while many understandably like a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely no such thing as too picky. I totally regret some of my first meets because I wasn’t picky enough

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

It's also about finding the right chemistry too. Of course someone could look great but doesn't quite mean that they are compatible with someone.. chemistry plays a huge role as well

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By *eliciouslyFilthyGentMan
over a year ago

York

"Definitely no such thing as too picky. I totally regret some of my first meets because I wasn’t picky enough

I’m only 4 weeks on the site, but I could’ve been verified at least a couple of times if I’d not been picky about who I met.Nothing wrong with the people that wanted to meet, they just weren’t for me.

As a guy especially, I think there’s a certain pressure on getting verified ASAP, as so many profiles want a verified guy, for obvious reasons.

I’ve even seen profiles state that if you haven’t been verified within a certain time frame, then don’t contact them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for my first swinging experience with my FWB but struggling to find the man/couple as I’m feeling too picky - I just want the first to be as my fantasy plays out!

Any advice welcome "

Go by socials, it’s quite hard to convey chemistry via messages, it’s much easier to gauge what people are like via socials and thus decide whether they are compatible with you, even if they aren’t sexually they may be a lot of fun to have as a friend?

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