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By *iobhan123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Deal

So, got home from work to read a message from a guy who has "offered" to meet me, objecting to my current status. Don't need the hassle so I blocked him. Less than an hour later, he has messaged me from another profile and I can honestly say it was the most abusive, personal vile attack I have ever had. I have obviously reported and blocked that profile, just left me shaken and hoping that admin will deal with him accordingly, I have kept the message, not that I ever want to read it again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully they are in the minority. Hope you are able to deal with it quickly and efficiently. Hopefully you reported his original profile too. x

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

What a dickhead!

Fortunately these seem to be a rare occurrence.

People like that shouldn't be allowed on here x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Just imagine if you’d met him At least he’s shown his true colours and hopefully gets a ban.

Hopefully this’ll be a one off for you Op.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Horrible individual, but thankfully they are relatively rare. Report, block, and put it out of your mind as best you can is all you can really do. Sending you positivity to make up for it!

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

They are starting to become rife on here those that send abusive messages if you say no to them or something along those lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've dodged a bullet there,I'm so glad that he showed his true colours so early on, insecure men like that can be volatile

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

No one on here needs that they should be banned for life

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By *iobhan123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Deal

Thank you all, I have been on and off here for 10 years, definitely the most disgusting message I have ever had...

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You did right by reporting and blocking.I would send the message on with the report then delete it and not give it another minutes thought. They send this to get a reaction or to upset you so moving on from it is the best thing you can do safe in the knowledge you make the right choice at the start. He's just a knobend and not worth your time.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

There are some horrible people here who need to be taught some manners....maybe with a bit of 2 by 4

You need to rise above and just think that he is a pathetic little twonk ( not sure that's a word but it sounds right) who at best will get a tug from him self tonight and no one else

Chin up forget him and move on

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By *untimesforme2021Woman
over a year ago

lostwithiel

I've had a few bad messages calling me a slut and slightly with being on here and had one saying I was gonna be kid napped and rap* me over and over. Just a good job able to block them.

Hope admindo deal with the individual for ya.x

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By *iobhan123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Deal


"You've dodged a bullet there,I'm so glad that he showed his true colours so early on, insecure men like that can be volatile "

Most definitely.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"So, got home from work to read a message from a guy who has "offered" to meet me, objecting to my current status. Don't need the hassle so I blocked him. Less than an hour later, he has messaged me from another profile and I can honestly say it was the most abusive, personal vile attack I have ever had. I have obviously reported and blocked that profile, just left me shaken and hoping that admin will deal with him accordingly, I have kept the message, not that I ever want to read it again!!"

Definitely did the right thing you did

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

we had a message off the male side of a couple who wanted to meet us on his own (we have a few of them) we said sorry we would only meet as a 4sum. he replied saying he hopes we catch aids! then blocked us, lol.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"we had a message off the male side of a couple who wanted to meet us on his own (we have a few of them) we said sorry we would only meet as a 4sum. he replied saying he hopes we catch aids! then blocked us, lol. "

Wtf

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I had one that turned around and got abusive after I wouldn’t suck his cock because his boyfriend was out

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By *rgasmdonorMan
over a year ago

millstreet


"So, got home from work to read a message from a guy who has "offered" to meet me, objecting to my current status. Don't need the hassle so I blocked him. Less than an hour later, he has messaged me from another profile and I can honestly say it was the most abusive, personal vile attack I have ever had. I have obviously reported and blocked that profile, just left me shaken and hoping that admin will deal with him accordingly, I have kept the message, not that I ever want to read it again!!"

And you look such a nice lady

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

UK

The mad thing is folk can be blocked and banned etc etc and just re open another profile within minutes..

Thats not a guess or assumption either as i know of men and women that have 2 or 3 profiles running permanently to get around bans and blocks.

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"So, got home from work to read a message from a guy who has "offered" to meet me, objecting to my current status. Don't need the hassle so I blocked him. Less than an hour later, he has messaged me from another profile and I can honestly say it was the most abusive, personal vile attack I have ever had. I have obviously reported and blocked that profile, just left me shaken and hoping that admin will deal with him accordingly, I have kept the message, not that I ever want to read it again!!"

Yep, just report to admin. Not acceptable.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

If there any justice in the world he'll get erectile dysfunction with Peyronie's Disease. You report it, so delete the message and move on.

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By *oung GunnerMan
over a year ago

Cleckheaton

I dont see the point in been horrible , it gets you no where, if someone says no to me I thank them for responding then move on , I hope you are ok .

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By *iobhan123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Deal


"I dont see the point in been horrible , it gets you no where, if someone says no to me I thank them for responding then move on , I hope you are ok . "

Thank you, appreciated

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By *iobhan123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Deal


"So, got home from work to read a message from a guy who has "offered" to meet me, objecting to my current status. Don't need the hassle so I blocked him. Less than an hour later, he has messaged me from another profile and I can honestly say it was the most abusive, personal vile attack I have ever had. I have obviously reported and blocked that profile, just left me shaken and hoping that admin will deal with him accordingly, I have kept the message, not that I ever want to read it again!!

And you look such a nice lady "

Thank you

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Some guys take rejection very badly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow I’m so sorry you had that experience! What a total dick but equally a lucky escape for you. Just a suggestion, but if he’s in the habit of opening numerous accounts it may be worthwhile you setting your filters so newbies can’t contact you in the first instance. L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sounds like it would meet the criteria for the criminal offence of harassment, police around here would take that seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i screenshot abusive messages and put them away in a folder along with face pic or profile pics because more often than not they come back with more normally via a new account ..

i view it as a great filter that they can show there true colors

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By *iobhan123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Deal


"That sounds like it would meet the criteria for the criminal offence of harassment, police around here would take that seriously. "

That was my initial reaction when I read it tbh

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By *iobhan123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Deal


"Wow I’m so sorry you had that experience! What a total dick but equally a lucky escape for you. Just a suggestion, but if he’s in the habit of opening numerous accounts it may be worthwhile you setting your filters so newbies can’t contact you in the first instance. L

x"

Grand idea, thank you, never used filters in the 10+ years I have been on and off here, now may be the time to start!!xx

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By *oung GunnerMan
over a year ago

Cleckheaton


"Some guys take rejection very badly "

I know that feeling , I find that I mask my feelings, I find it tough to open up & I dont even know know how to cry , I dont know if its the thought of looking daft, part of my Autism or its just a man thing. I will admit when i see friends with their girlfriends/ wifes I do get jealous.

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By *iss ImperfectWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"So, got home from work to read a message from a guy who has "offered" to meet me, objecting to my current status. Don't need the hassle so I blocked him. Less than an hour later, he has messaged me from another profile and I can honestly say it was the most abusive, personal vile attack I have ever had. I have obviously reported and blocked that profile, just left me shaken and hoping that admin will deal with him accordingly, I have kept the message, not that I ever want to read it again!!"

Sorry to read this. I had something similar… the extremely abusive message ended with the guy telling me to go and play on the motorway. It shook me up quite a bit. Admin were brilliant. Thankfully these people are few and far between but I am definitely more wary now. I hope you are able to continue on your Fab journey

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

To all who receive such messages, just remember that it has nothing at all to do with yourselves, but is 100% a reflection on them. Their ego is fragile and they’re deeply insecure and are lashing out. It’s about them, not you.

That doesn’t stop it being unpleasant to experience in the moment, of course, but just report, block and move on. Not worth any more of your time and energy.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"So, got home from work to read a message from a guy who has "offered" to meet me, objecting to my current status. Don't need the hassle so I blocked him. Less than an hour later, he has messaged me from another profile and I can honestly say it was the most abusive, personal vile attack I have ever had. I have obviously reported and blocked that profile, just left me shaken and hoping that admin will deal with him accordingly, I have kept the message, not that I ever want to read it again!!"

Sending you a hug and a load of positivity.

Don't let one dick head throw you off balance.

Onwards & upwards.

Sx

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By *andN888Couple
over a year ago

Lanlivery

Can anyone tell us how we report abusive messages from another Fab member please?

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By *r Mind CandyMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

It makes me so sad reading posts lile this.

It's disgraceful how some people behave on here, especially men with a fragile ego.

There should be a name and shame thread on here.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Name and shame the freak

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Can anyone tell us how we report abusive messages from another Fab member please?"

On the conversation, just by the block, reply, delete bit there's like a grey colour report link, if you click it you'll be able to report

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

I’m terribly sorry you had to put up with this behaviour. As others have said, you have dodged a bullet there, anyone who pursues a member through an alternate account once they have been blocked clearly doesn’t understand that no means no. Anyone receiving messages like this should absolutely report this behaviour and get these people off this site.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Sadly there are some people around with next to no social skills at all!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Really think you should beable to name and shame on here with proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one on here needs that they should be banned for life"

They should, the next lady might not be so lucky and might actually meet the abusive twat!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Really think you should beable to name and shame on here with proof."

If there's proof, then Admin will be able to move more decisively, rendering the n+s moot....

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By *entDomMan
over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

Nobody,especially single women, should get subjected to such behaviour.

Naming and shaming is difficult because it has to be monitored and checked to ensure it is not malicious

Once again I'm sorry uou we're subjected to this

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Unfortunately this unacceptable behaviour is not just limited to this site. It occurs everywhere on other platforms too.

But being able to block and report the offender is positive, then move on if you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one on here needs that they should be banned for life"

It's impossible. If you ban somebody they simply create a new email address and new profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had one now !!!

Asked me to meet for bb, I told him no, it’s not going to happen. He then demanded I meet him for bb as it’s what was going to happen, I once again declined his tactful offer. Then I got another message calling me every name under the sun !! He wasn’t that good though as he’d missed a name or two lol !!

However, duly blocked and reported. Can’t understand what people think when they send the messages they do !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i screenshot every single one if there's face pics ill screen shot them too many times they rejoin and try again or more creepy they pretent they are someone else to try and meet ....

we learnt our lesson with the stalker someone id met but did not want to meet again did damage to my car and to our house he was a bit thick tho cause he was using his work van and was at hinkley too... well we got the police involved he had to pay for the damage he lost his contracy at hinkley and further more it followed him home to his wife and family he lost that too...

the police were brill .. we had cameras fitted to cover the whole house and now any abuse is screen shot just in case it turns out to be another stalker situation .... ill not hesitate again it will be getting the police involved ...these people must know they cant do this plus they think they are hidden behind a keyboard but in fact your not

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