FabSwingers.com forum: Safe word

By *andK69 OP Couple
over a year ago

berkshire

Hi, me and my husband have been talking safe words, due to an experience we had and both thought we were enjoying the moment but in fact we both wanted to leave.

Any suggestions??? X

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow

Supercalafragalistexpaladoushus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i onlyhave to look at hubs for him to know and same with him to me ... we just know .... never be afraid just to say no as the person/people you are playing with wont want to carry on either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Presuming by making it a safe word rather than stop, you want it to be unnoticed. Maybe use a pet name styled "babe" or "darling" which you would never normally use. Would seem very natural then, but you would know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i onlyhave to look at hubs for him to know and same with him to me ... we just know .... never be afraid just to say no as the person/people you are playing with wont want to carry on either"

Completely agree with this

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By *andK69 OP Couple
over a year ago

berkshire

Unfortunately at the time we were not looking at each other lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't have to be a word, you can make eye contact or do a gesture. But ultimately it doesn't have to be subtle, if your uncomfortable or not feeling any situation just get up and leave.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Meatloaf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Butterfly

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

Cracker

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hi, me and my husband have been talking safe words, due to an experience we had and both thought we were enjoying the moment but in fact we both wanted to leave.

Any suggestions??? X"
harder

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I find "stop" is usually straight to the point.

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By *andK69 OP Couple
over a year ago

berkshire

"I find "stop" is usually straight to the point."

In the end it was basically stop I think our taxi is here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi, me and my husband have been talking safe words, due to an experience we had and both thought we were enjoying the moment but in fact we both wanted to leave.

Any suggestions??? X"

We agreed some time ago that if we felt things weren't right we'd ask for a private chat. If there was an immediate problem we'd say "stop" or something similar. Personally I think safe words leave too much room for mistakes or mishearing while "stop" said loudly is unambiguous.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

An ex once jokingly suggested she’d shout ‘Do me, big boy’ if she wanted me to stop.

We decided on just ‘Stop’

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have always used the word "cabbages" for anyone at the meet to stop all activity on a dime.

As no one in their right mind yells that in flagrante delicto it seemed an appropriate word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The traffic light system is easy.

Red - immediate drop

Yellow/amber - pause it go slow

Green is rarely used

It is necessary to have a safe word, because you might be facing away from your partner (during impact play), I’m which case they can’t see your face.

There are times I don’t want my no/stop to be listened to, so those words wouldn’t work.

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By *andK69 OP Couple
over a year ago

berkshire

"The traffic light system is easy.

Red - immediate drop

Yellow/amber - pause it go slow

Green is rarely used

It is necessary to have a safe word, because you might be facing away from your partner (during impact play), I’m which case they can’t see your face.

There are times I don’t want my no/stop to be listened to, so those words wouldn’t work. "

I like this thank you x.

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By *irmhandmancMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Pineapple juice

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"Hi, me and my husband have been talking safe words, due to an experience we had and both thought we were enjoying the moment but in fact we both wanted to leave.

Any suggestions??? X"

"Oooooooo!"

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By *andK69 OP Couple
over a year ago

berkshire

"Pineapple juice"

Hubby actually said pineapple lol x

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

Do that again and I will twat you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pissflaps

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales

"The traffic light system is easy.

Red - immediate drop

Yellow/amber - pause it go slow

Green is rarely used

It is necessary to have a safe word, because you might be facing away from your partner (during impact play), I’m which case they can’t see your face.

There are times I don’t want my no/stop to be listened to, so those words wouldn’t work. "

I was going to say very similar, we have had the same safe word forever, there are times in our play together we wouldn’t be able to see each other’s faces, hoods or the like and no or stop is no good because it’s all part of the play.

I like the traffic light system idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your mums watching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend used to say "Margaret Thatcher" as her safe word. Apparently it used to kill the mood instantly

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Hi, me and my husband have been talking safe words, due to an experience we had and both thought we were enjoying the moment but in fact we both wanted to leave.

Any suggestions??? X"

Myself and hubby just have to say the word "stop" the people/person have no choice but to respect that because if they don't and they have a go or Try and get you to stay will only result in a report on fab and a bad name. Choose any word you like and make the people/person aware that you have this safe word an if it is used then play must stop. It's you bodys and you have that right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The traffic light system is easy.

Red - immediate drop

Yellow/amber - pause it go slow

Green is rarely used

It is necessary to have a safe word, because you might be facing away from your partner (during impact play), I’m which case they can’t see your face.

There are times I don’t want my no/stop to be listened to, so those words wouldn’t work. "
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Good answer

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"My friend used to say "Margaret Thatcher" as her safe word. Apparently it used to kill the mood instantly"

Good choice.

I suggested 'Meatloaf' earlier because its a common one with kinksters.

Why? It signifies this.

"I would do anything for love, but I won't do that......."

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