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"Unfortunately a large number men on here don’t understand the lifestyle and think that it they can do and say what they like. Unfortunately they give the rest of us a bad name" Why do so many men blame their own failings on what other men do? The only person that can give you a bad name is you. If some men can't communicate properly or act like a dick that just makes the ones who don't stand out even more. | |||
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"Unfortunately a large number men on here don’t understand the lifestyle and think that it they can do and say what they like. Unfortunately they give the rest of us a bad name Why do so many men blame their own failings on what other men do? The only person that can give you a bad name is you. If some men can't communicate properly or act like a dick that just makes the ones who don't stand out even more. " I get that. But equally I get that we can all get tarred with the same brush. It's a difficult one. | |||
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"Unfortunately a large number men on here don’t understand the lifestyle and think that it they can do and say what they like. Unfortunately they give the rest of us a bad name Why do so many men blame their own failings on what other men do? The only person that can give you a bad name is you. If some men can't communicate properly or act like a dick that just makes the ones who don't stand out even more. " If you read the forums regularly there is constant posts that tar men with the same brush. I’ve blocked single men on both my couples and singles profile. I few girls I speak to say they have a few hundred messages in their inbox and are overwhelmed with it all so it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle | |||
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"Lol Now maybe you can imagine what us ladies deal with in our inboxes on a daily basis "This^^ | |||
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"Some men send basic messages and we are polite, some send interesting messages which develops a conversation and, I have to say very few send messages as the OPs example. All men aren't the same just as all women and couples aren't the same." That's a very fair point. It's not the only example I've had though. Maybe I'm to polite and too verbose in my messages and he has it right! | |||
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"So, anyway, do you get some nice c**t? It’s the question on everyone’s lips right now, but people are just to afraid to ask! "Hahaha! I have been lucky enough to be with some delightful women and couples in my time! | |||
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"Lol Now maybe you can imagine what us ladies deal with in our inboxes on a daily basis "It thought I was quite polite | |||
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"Someone I knew a few years back was on a dating site. He recommended I join, and then send ten messages per day saying ‘Fancy a shag?’ His logic was that if just one of them says yes, you’ve had a result. It’s that type of thinking that gives the good guys a bad rep, but it worked for him. " I worked with someone who said something similar. It was if you were in a club and you asked ten women for a fuck and just one said yes you know what you'd have? A sore face! | |||
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"So, yesterday I had a message from a single guy that basically went: 'i bet u get some nice c**t' What ever happened to politeness, grammar, class? How on earth does that person ever expect a response to a message like that? It's no wonder some men don't get much respect around me. Some men are vile with the rubbish that pours outa there mouth .. Hey ya wanna fuck Can I cum down ya froat )
I wanna meet you outside n get caught ..
That's the game ones we hear.. vile
Ya dont hear that from any females .. even though hubby is waiting to hear it ))
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"Please. Sorry what utter BS. Grammar. Class. It's a sex site. You can spin how you want it's a sex site. Now the way the women carry on is absolutely pathetic I'm sorry. To say NO would ease alot of your woes. Your rude, power hungry. As I stated I fuck off tinder more than this a sex site. Delusional women, baby elephants it's sex. I don't know about all men but I'm sure most start polite then get frustrated by these delusional women on this site. Again i can't speak for all men but a simple NO goes along way. Sorry its a sex site. Women control access to sex. I mean you men can simp if you want. But women need to take accountability too. I've spoke to some sane women on here but there's not many. " Baby elephants. 
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" I’ve blocked single men on both my couples and singles profile. I few girls I speak to say they have a few hundred messages in their inbox and are overwhelmed with it all so it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle" Maybe you should mention to these poor overwhelmed women what filters are and how they can cut down dramatically the amount of mail they get. | |||
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"Please. Sorry what utter BS. Grammar. Class. It's a sex site. You can spin how you want it's a sex site. Now the way the women carry on is absolutely pathetic I'm sorry. To say NO would ease alot of your woes. Your rude, power hungry. As I stated I fuck off tinder more than this a sex site. Delusional women, baby elephants it's sex. I don't know about all men but I'm sure most start polite then get frustrated by these delusional women on this site. Again i can't speak for all men but a simple NO goes along way. Sorry its a sex site. Women control access to sex. I mean you men can simp if you want. But women need to take accountability too. I've spoke to some sane women on here but there's not many. " Did thee wake up on wrong side of "T" bed thee knows !!!!!!!! J xx | |||
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(Waits for inbox to get spammed)
But in more seriousness, in a huge group of people, there are some dicks.
(Perhaps I'm the dick. And that's why I don't get messages from dicks).
Ignore. Block. Move on.
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"Here's the thing. Not one woman on this site could tell me I've been abusive or anything. As I'm not desperate. But I seen alot of forums and I get pussy in real life and off tinder. So I question a site where everyone is supposedly sexually liberated people choose to ruin people experience? Again most women are rude, because it's a plethora of desperate men. And yes bby elephants that's me being polite with my wording. Fact is its a sex site. How some of these women treat men is abhorrent. Again i don't agree with abuse or none of that. But for women not to comprehend it's a sex site and most men are gonna be thirsty is ludicrous too think anything over. And most men can handle rejection fine. Its the ignoring that probably sets them off! Anyway my two piece. Go watch my new video and enjoy "How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. | |||
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"Here's the thing. Not one woman on this site could tell me I've been abusive or anything. As I'm not desperate. But I seen alot of forums and I get pussy in real life and off tinder. So I question a site where everyone is supposedly sexually liberated people choose to ruin people experience? Again most women are rude, because it's a plethora of desperate men. And yes bby elephants that's me being polite with my wording. Fact is its a sex site. How some of these women treat men is abhorrent. Again i don't agree with abuse or none of that. But for women not to comprehend it's a sex site and most men are gonna be thirsty is ludicrous too think anything over. And most men can handle rejection fine. Its the ignoring that probably sets them off! Anyway my two piece. Go watch my new video and enjoy "Personally I don’t find not getting a reply as bad treatment. It’s just the way it is on here. Some women leave their message box open because they’re too shy/proud/boring/whatever to message first, then they are unhappy with the messages they get. It’s just the game. Either don’t play or do, no need to whinge. Tinder is better as it forces both parties to act before they can message, and the profiles are way more secure/less fakes. There’s way less rude women/couples than there are rude single guys (usually with zero pics and bio) If you want to make fabs work, do what 99% of men won’t. Go to socials, go to clubs, get out there and meet people. Don’t send a message to an already full inbox and get upset when it goes unopened. That’s the lowest level of effort, which comes with the lowest level of success. As I said, no one’s forcing you to play the game | |||
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"Here's the thing. Not one woman on this site could tell me I've been abusive or anything. As I'm not desperate. But I seen alot of forums and I get pussy in real life and off tinder. So I question a site where everyone is supposedly sexually liberated people choose to ruin people experience? Again most women are rude, because it's a plethora of desperate men. And yes bby elephants that's me being polite with my wording. Fact is its a sex site. How some of these women treat men is abhorrent. Again i don't agree with abuse or none of that. But for women not to comprehend it's a sex site and most men are gonna be thirsty is ludicrous too think anything over. And most men can handle rejection fine. Its the ignoring that probably sets them off! Anyway my two piece. Go watch my new video and enjoy
How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. "
That's hilarious. I probably shouldn't laugh because it can be difficult to understand what it's like for other people with different experiences, but usually it seems men are being clueless, so I enjoyed the reversal. | |||
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"Here's the thing. Not one woman on this site could tell me I've been abusive or anything. As I'm not desperate. But I seen alot of forums and I get pussy in real life and off tinder. So I question a site where everyone is supposedly sexually liberated people choose to ruin people experience? Again most women are rude, because it's a plethora of desperate men. And yes bby elephants that's me being polite with my wording. Fact is its a sex site. How some of these women treat men is abhorrent. Again i don't agree with abuse or none of that. But for women not to comprehend it's a sex site and most men are gonna be thirsty is ludicrous too think anything over. And most men can handle rejection fine. Its the ignoring that probably sets them off! Anyway my two piece. Go watch my new video and enjoy
Personally I don’t find not getting a reply as bad treatment. It’s just the way it is on here. Some women leave their message box open because they’re too shy/proud/boring/whatever to message first, then they are unhappy with the messages they get. It’s just the game. Either don’t play or do, no need to whinge. Tinder is better as it forces both parties to act before they can message, and the profiles are way more secure/less fakes.
There’s way less rude women/couples than there are rude single guys (usually with zero pics and bio)
If you want to make fabs work, do what 99% of men won’t. Go to socials, go to clubs, get out there and meet people. Don’t send a message to an already full inbox and get upset when it goes unopened. That’s the lowest level of effort, which comes with the lowest level of success.
As I said, no one’s forcing you to play the game"Lazy. I'm too lazy to scroll through hundreds of empty profiles looking for nice dick. They come to me. | |||
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" I’ve blocked single men on both my couples and singles profile. I few girls I speak to say they have a few hundred messages in their inbox and are overwhelmed with it all so it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle Maybe you should mention to these poor overwhelmed women what filters are and how they can cut down dramatically the amount of mail they get. "The filters help a little but only on specific things like age and gender. There are few others but I don’t think they make a huge difference if you are looking for men | |||
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" I’ve blocked single men on both my couples and singles profile. I few girls I speak to say they have a few hundred messages in their inbox and are overwhelmed with it all so it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle Maybe you should mention to these poor overwhelmed women what filters are and how they can cut down dramatically the amount of mail they get.
The filters help a little but only on specific things like age and gender. There are few others but I don’t think they make a huge difference if you are looking for men"There are a few more filters, but we still can't control the content of messages. I'm not upset or offended by anything in a message. | |||
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"I'm ok on fab. I'm Just stating my opinion tbh!. I have pussy I have no need to attend parties unfortunately. Plus that doesn't excite. I maybe be filthy but I like it discreet and personal. If I don't get I'm ok. Again I've never abused any woman in here I delete and keep it moving. Plus I do like a challenge. I'm just stating what I hear from a good few forums." Would you message a man saying you bet he gets nice cunt? | |||
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"Unfortunately a large number men on here don’t understand the lifestyle and think that it they can do and say what they like. Unfortunately they give the rest of us a bad name Why do so many men blame their own failings on what other men do? The only person that can give you a bad name is you. If some men can't communicate properly or act like a dick that just makes the ones who don't stand out even more. If you read the forums regularly there is constant posts that tar men with the same brush. I’ve blocked single men on both my couples and singles profile. I few girls I speak to say they have a few hundred messages in their inbox and are overwhelmed with it all so it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle" People get unsolicited messages, some will be trying to sell you a holiday, others themselves. I think if messages are going to trigger anyone into a bout of self analysis and blame, they should back away from the site or the inbox! Reading the posts saying people are overwhelmed by the number of messages, really? It's a message, you have the power to delete it, use it. After all, you don't know them, they don't know you, there is no skin in the game!! | |||
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" I’ve blocked single men on both my couples and singles profile. I few girls I speak to say they have a few hundred messages in their inbox and are overwhelmed with it all so it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle Maybe you should mention to these poor overwhelmed women what filters are and how they can cut down dramatically the amount of mail they get.
The filters help a little but only on specific things like age and gender. There are few others but I don’t think they make a huge difference if you are looking for men
There are a few more filters, but we still can't control the content of messages. I'm not upset or offended by anything in a message. "I think that my problem is my messaging is at the other end of the scale and is too polite and not sexy enough. | |||
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"Here's the thing. Not one woman on this site could tell me I've been abusive or anything. As I'm not desperate. But I seen alot of forums and I get pussy in real life and off tinder. So I question a site where everyone is supposedly sexually liberated people choose to ruin people experience? Again most women are rude, because it's a plethora of desperate men. And yes bby elephants that's me being polite with my wording. Fact is its a sex site. How some of these women treat men is abhorrent. Again i don't agree with abuse or none of that. But for women not to comprehend it's a sex site and most men are gonna be thirsty is ludicrous too think anything over. And most men can handle rejection fine. Its the ignoring that probably sets them off! Anyway my two piece. Go watch my new video and enjoy "Some men can't comprehend it's actually a swinging site not a sex site but you know | |||
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" I’ve blocked single men on both my couples and singles profile. I few girls I speak to say they have a few hundred messages in their inbox and are overwhelmed with it all so it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle Maybe you should mention to these poor overwhelmed women what filters are and how they can cut down dramatically the amount of mail they get.
The filters help a little but only on specific things like age and gender. There are few others but I don’t think they make a huge difference if you are looking for men"There's a lot more filters than age and gender and yes they make a huge difference to the amount of messages you get if you choose to use them and keep them tight . And this is shocking but if women are looking for men they could actually look and make first contact to profiles they like .It's a weird concept I know, but one I find has worked quite well for me on here .
It's a lot easier than sitting back looking at a load of messages from people you have no interest in.
Each to their own but I'd rather be proactive in my approach than give out about those messaging me that don't suit what I am looking for. | |||
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"Here's the thing. Not one woman on this site could tell me I've been abusive or anything. As I'm not desperate. But I seen alot of forums and I get pussy in real life and off tinder. So I question a site where everyone is supposedly sexually liberated people choose to ruin people experience? Again most women are rude, because it's a plethora of desperate men. And yes bby elephants that's me being polite with my wording. Fact is its a sex site. How some of these women treat men is abhorrent. Again i don't agree with abuse or none of that. But for women not to comprehend it's a sex site and most men are gonna be thirsty is ludicrous too think anything over. And most men can handle rejection fine. Its the ignoring that probably sets them off! Anyway my two piece. Go watch my new video and enjoy
Some men can't comprehend it's actually a swinging site not a sex site but you know "And, it seems, blame fat women for men's rudeness? | |||
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated." I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice. | |||
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"So, yesterday I had a message from a single guy that basically went: 'i bet u get some nice c**t' What ever happened to politeness, grammar, class? How on earth does that person ever expect a response to a message like that? It's no wonder some men don't get much respect around me. "You are a man. Strange that you have a 'c**t'  | |||
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice." That's not a great analogy imo. It's literally a shopkeeper's job to deal with people, plus they might eventually get something out of the transaction. Secondly, the customer would have already done some research into what they want, and whether the shop might cater for them, as opposed to blindly bothering every single shopkeeper on the high street. | |||
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice." But what happens if the shop keeper says no he doesn't have that item to 99% of his customers that ask (sometimes not very politely) and then they all argue back trying to convince him he's definitely got one somewhere even though the shop keeper knows he doesn't and then they get nasty and start name calling because they just can't accept the shop keeper said no. You'd not really blame the shop keeper for ignoring after that would you. | |||
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice." great example to bring this to life
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice. But what happens if the shop keeper says no he doesn't have that item to 99% of his customers that ask (sometimes not very politely) and then they all argue back trying to convince him he's definitely got one somewhere even though the shop keeper knows he doesn't and then they get nasty and start name calling because they just can't accept the shop keeper said no. You'd not really blame the shop keeper for ignoring after that would you. " What if the customer was perfectly polite until he'd been ignored 100 times for no apparent reason? There's a reason that societies developed to have such things as politeness, it's so that things don't go downhill. I don't buy the justification that you are ok to treat person A in a certain way because of what person B did. If, for some reason, women outnumbered men on this site 10:1 then I'm sure the same thing would happen only with the situation reversed and guys would end up ignoring women. Someone asked a question why ignoring is worse than rejection... the answer is that people don't like being treated like they're worthless, and not even deserving of a little bit of courtesy. I didn't make the rules, I'm not telling you what to do, that's just how it is. The keyword in your reply was "after". | |||
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"Because its unclarified if interested or not. Its obvious women get plenty messages. So saying a simple NO TO MOST MEN WOULD STOP THE CLINGRER ONs OR THE FRUSTRATED RELPLIES. common sense really. " You ok hun? | |||
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice. But what happens if the shop keeper says no he doesn't have that item to 99% of his customers that ask (sometimes not very politely) and then they all argue back trying to convince him he's definitely got one somewhere even though the shop keeper knows he doesn't and then they get nasty and start name calling because they just can't accept the shop keeper said no. You'd not really blame the shop keeper for ignoring after that would you. What if the customer was perfectly polite until he'd been ignored 100 times for no apparent reason? There's a reason that societies developed to have such things as politeness, it's so that things don't go downhill. I don't buy the justification that you are ok to treat person A in a certain way because of what person B did. If, for some reason, women outnumbered men on this site 10:1 then I'm sure the same thing would happen only with the situation reversed and guys would end up ignoring women. Someone asked a question why ignoring is worse than rejection... the answer is that people don't like being treated like they're worthless, and not even deserving of a little bit of courtesy. I didn't make the rules, I'm not telling you what to do, that's just how it is. The keyword in your reply was "after"." I agree with this. Trying to make conversation with lots of people and them completely ignoring you would make the person feel shit and invisible. I don't know why some people can't understand this. Any response makes the person feel human again. Or at the very least, that they still exist! | |||
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice. But what happens if the shop keeper says no he doesn't have that item to 99% of his customers that ask (sometimes not very politely) and then they all argue back trying to convince him he's definitely got one somewhere even though the shop keeper knows he doesn't and then they get nasty and start name calling because they just can't accept the shop keeper said no. You'd not really blame the shop keeper for ignoring after that would you. What if the customer was perfectly polite until he'd been ignored 100 times for no apparent reason? There's a reason that societies developed to have such things as politeness, it's so that things don't go downhill. I don't buy the justification that you are ok to treat person A in a certain way because of what person B did. If, for some reason, women outnumbered men on this site 10:1 then I'm sure the same thing would happen only with the situation reversed and guys would end up ignoring women. Someone asked a question why ignoring is worse than rejection... the answer is that people don't like being treated like they're worthless, and not even deserving of a little bit of courtesy. I didn't make the rules, I'm not telling you what to do, that's just how it is. The keyword in your reply was "after"." In our experience we're very happy to receive messages from men who have read our profile and made an attempt to engage in some form of conversation. If we get messages like that we will definatley message back even if it's just a polite no. However 90% of the single male messages we get clearly don't read our profile at all, we've had messages trying to convert us to cuckolding, trying to convince the "female to go with them" instead and all sorts. The worst is "free now" , blatantly says in our profile that's not going to work
Anyone who sends us a message like that is either ignored or deleted. If they message again it's a block. Unfortunately that's the only way to deal with it.
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice. But what happens if the shop keeper says no he doesn't have that item to 99% of his customers that ask (sometimes not very politely) and then they all argue back trying to convince him he's definitely got one somewhere even though the shop keeper knows he doesn't and then they get nasty and start name calling because they just can't accept the shop keeper said no. You'd not really blame the shop keeper for ignoring after that would you. What if the customer was perfectly polite until he'd been ignored 100 times for no apparent reason? There's a reason that societies developed to have such things as politeness, it's so that things don't go downhill. I don't buy the justification that you are ok to treat person A in a certain way because of what person B did. If, for some reason, women outnumbered men on this site 10:1 then I'm sure the same thing would happen only with the situation reversed and guys would end up ignoring women. Someone asked a question why ignoring is worse than rejection... the answer is that people don't like being treated like they're worthless, and not even deserving of a little bit of courtesy. I didn't make the rules, I'm not telling you what to do, that's just how it is. The keyword in your reply was "after"." You've totally contradicted yourself lol. What if the customer was perfectly polite until he'd been ignored 100 times for no apparent reason? Then he is becoming not polite and treating person A because of person B who ignored him lol. Are you Amber Herds lawyer in disguise lol | |||
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" In our experience we're very happy to receive messages from men who have read our profile and made an attempt to engage in some form of conversation. If we get messages like that we will definatley message back even if it's just a polite no. However 90% of the single male messages we get clearly don't read our profile at all, we've had messages trying to convert us to cuckolding, trying to convince the "female to go with them" instead and all sorts. The worst is "free now" , blatantly says in our profile that's not going to work
Anyone who sends us a message like that is either ignored or deleted. If they message again it's a block. Unfortunately that's the only way to deal with it.
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"How is ignoring worse than rejection? I’m fascinated. I've been trying to think of a decent answer to this, because it's a bit like explaining human beings to an alien who's never met one. Imagine a person (male or female) goes into a shop and asks the owner if they sell a particular item that they're interested in. Instead of politely telling the customer that unfortunately they don't have that item, they instead decide that the person isn't a customer, and that because they can't be sold anything, are completely worthless, and so the shop owner ignores them. How do you feel as the person walking into that shop? The reason that this basic fact of human nature is overlooked is because of all the (maybe valid) reasons people come up with as to why ignoring people is justified on this site... but the emotional parts of the human brain didn't evolve to work that way. Some people learn how to handle the situation, and great for them, but you're always going to tick a few people off. Either you treat everyone politely or you deal with having a few pissed off customers... that's just how the cookie crumbles. Make peace with your choice. But what happens if the shop keeper says no he doesn't have that item to 99% of his customers that ask (sometimes not very politely) and then they all argue back trying to convince him he's definitely got one somewhere even though the shop keeper knows he doesn't and then they get nasty and start name calling because they just can't accept the shop keeper said no. You'd not really blame the shop keeper for ignoring after that would you. " As the keeper of my little shop on here I can somewhat control how many customers come in at a time. They may be queueing around the corner but I can let a few in at a time so I can give them good customer service | |||
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"You've totally contradicted yourself lol. What if the customer was perfectly polite until he'd been ignored 100 times for no apparent reason? Then he is becoming not polite and treating person A because of person B who ignored him lol. Are you Amber Herds lawyer in disguise lol" I used this as an example of why the previous argument was flawed, so no I'm not contradicting myself. It's an example of how you can create a situation which is bound to go downhill, not a justification or defense of behaviour. | |||
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"A swinging site. I think men comprehend fine. That swinging means sex. I mean whatever makes you feel better. It's a sex site. Nothing more nothing less. Every woman I've fucked of this wanted sex. Swing presumes swapping partners.To have sex, not go to a park and take turns on swings. Anyway I think it's fully confirmed how rude women are. It's only women like you who believe not. And wallah rude messages and dik eds! " So much anger towards women, someone did a right number on you. Don't worry boo you'll get rid of that massive chip on your shoulder in time and not be so bitter and resentful. | |||
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"Hahaha anger. So you can comprehend tone of a message. Please don't ASS U ME. I'm fine again voicing opinion. Angry with women again go look at my video. I love women. Just can't stand dik eds! " what's the deal with the video? Is this a fab or of some podcast you do? | |||
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"A swinging site. I think men comprehend fine. That swinging means sex. I mean whatever makes you feel better. It's a sex site. Nothing more nothing less. Every woman I've fucked of this wanted sex. Swing presumes swapping partners.To have sex, not go to a park and take turns on swings. Anyway I think it's fully confirmed how rude women are. It's only women like you who believe not. And wallah rude messages and dik eds! So much anger towards women, someone did a right number on you. Don't worry boo you'll get rid of that massive chip on your shoulder in time and not be so bitter and resentful. " Popcorn…or vinegar for a chip? I can’t decide | |||
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"Except for one women the rest think that there pathetic behaviour is acceptable. Too top it off could you imagine the response if you ignore them. I've had a few hahahahha are double standards is hilarious! " Why are you still on here if you've already concluded the women aren't for you..? | |||
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"A swinging site. I think men comprehend fine. That swinging means sex. I mean whatever makes you feel better. It's a sex site. Nothing more nothing less. Every woman I've fucked of this wanted sex. Swing presumes swapping partners.To have sex, not go to a park and take turns on swings. Anyway I think it's fully confirmed how rude women are. It's only women like you who believe not. And wallah rude messages and dik eds! So much anger towards women, someone did a right number on you. Don't worry boo you'll get rid of that massive chip on your shoulder in time and not be so bitter and resentful. " Your lack of empathy is stopping you from seeing the point. It could have been put better in my opinion but the basic principle is that when people treat you in the same way you treat them, you don't like it. Laughing at other people because of your own failure to understand is pretty silly. While it is certainly frustrating when people do that, I would say from my experience that it's vocal minority on this site and not what most people are like, thankfully. If you can't be smart, at least be kind. | |||
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"Because I will be until my days are up. And no not all the women darling. Just the ones with mental health. Again I have no problem per se. Just pointing out the obvious. And guys to scared to speak as my inbox is flooded with support for my comments. So because some of you women don't like my comments I should not be on here?? What about the women I fuck (the sane ones). " Bit rude to now prevent them from messaging .... 
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"Because I will be until my days are up. And no not all the women darling. Just the ones with mental health. Again I have no problem per se. Just pointing out the obvious. And guys to scared to speak as my inbox is flooded with support for my comments. So because some of you women don't like my comments I should not be on here?? What about the women I fuck (the sane ones). Bit rude to now prevent them from messaging ....
I'm always intrigued why people hear speaking their mind here. Is it a fear of being challenged. Or a fear of being blacklisted?"Backlisted. There’s private kik groups on the forums that will do their best to ruin a guys time on fabs if they don’t like him. They’ll even go as far as messaging couples/women in his area telling them to avoid him, making up lies etc It’s much easier to stay quiet then possible ruffle sone feathers with a thought or opinion that doesn’t fit the forums main narrative | |||
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"Because I will be until my days are up. And no not all the women darling. Just the ones with mental health. Again I have no problem per se. Just pointing out the obvious. And guys to scared to speak as my inbox is flooded with support for my comments. So because some of you women don't like my comments I should not be on here?? What about the women I fuck (the sane ones). Bit rude to now prevent them from messaging ....
I'm always intrigued why people hear speaking their mind here. Is it a fear of being challenged. Or a fear of being blacklisted?
Backlisted. There’s private kik groups on the forums that will do their best to ruin a guys time on fabs if they don’t like him. They’ll even go as far as messaging couples/women in his area telling them to avoid him, making up lies etc
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"Because I will be until my days are up. And no not all the women darling. Just the ones with mental health. Again I have no problem per se. Just pointing out the obvious. And guys to scared to speak as my inbox is flooded with support for my comments. So because some of you women don't like my comments I should not be on here?? What about the women I fuck (the sane ones). " Your post made it seem as if you had a problem with ALL women on here, which is why I questioned you being here as that seemed counterintuitive to your main goal. Also I'm not sticking up for women being rude or abrasive as I don't condone that but accusing them of having mental health issues is completely tone deaf and insensitive, so much so that I'm starting to understand the rude replies. FYI someone doesn't need to be mentally ill to just be a dick. Also please don't call me darling - personal preference | |||
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"Please. Sorry what utter BS. Grammar. Class. It's a sex site. You can spin how you want it's a sex site. Now the way the women carry on is absolutely pathetic I'm sorry. To say NO would ease alot of your woes. Your rude, power hungry. As I stated I fuck off tinder more than this a sex site. Delusional women, baby elephants it's sex. I don't know about all men but I'm sure most start polite then get frustrated by these delusional women on this site. Again i can't speak for all men but a simple NO goes along way. Sorry its a sex site. Women control access to sex. I mean you men can simp if you want. But women need to take accountability too. I've spoke to some sane women on here but there's not many. " I think you will find it is a swingers site....not a sex site. There is a difference. | |||
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"Empathy. Mate stop the BS. Empathy for what. It's a sex site. I talk like this because alot of men are scared to offend these women. But empathy for what exactly?? Truth! Again it's A SEX SITE. You are simping which is your choice. I'm just giving honest opinion. " Was this in response to me? You know I wasn't replying to you but someone else who'd commented on what you said. Some of your views I agree with but it seems some of it is also misdirected. ...and, it's not a sex site. Some people treat it that way but clearly that's not what everyone is here for. | |||
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"Men are because women read and make delusional judgements. Like the women who thinks I'm angry because I voice a opinion she doesn't like. Infact she was given a analogy and still trued to defend her stupid. This is what men are dealing with ON THIS SITE! " I say angry because you're the only one using caps and throwing insults around to attempt to make a point which makes you look rather silly. | |||
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"Because I will be until my days are up. And no not all the women darling. Just the ones with mental health. Again I have no problem per se. Just pointing out the obvious. And guys to scared to speak as my inbox is flooded with support for my comments. So because some of you women don't like my comments I should not be on here?? What about the women I fuck (the sane ones). Your post made it seem as if you had a problem with ALL women on here, which is why I questioned you being here as that seemed counterintuitive to your main goal. Also I'm not sticking up for women being rude or abrasive as I don't condone that but accusing them of having mental health issues is completely tone deaf and insensitive, so much so that I'm starting to understand the rude replies. FYI someone doesn't need to be mentally ill to just be a dick. Also please don't call me darling - personal preference "This. The insults show his maturity. | |||
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"Because I will be until my days are up. And no not all the women darling. Just the ones with mental health. Again I have no problem per se. Just pointing out the obvious. And guys to scared to speak as my inbox is flooded with support for my comments. So because some of you women don't like my comments I should not be on here?? What about the women I fuck (the sane ones). Your post made it seem as if you had a problem with ALL women on here, which is why I questioned you being here as that seemed counterintuitive to your main goal. Also I'm not sticking up for women being rude or abrasive as I don't condone that but accusing them of having mental health issues is completely tone deaf and insensitive, so much so that I'm starting to understand the rude replies. FYI someone doesn't need to be mentally ill to just be a dick. Also please don't call me darling - personal preference
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"Because I will be until my days are up. And no not all the women darling. Just the ones with mental health. Again I have no problem per se. Just pointing out the obvious. And guys to scared to speak as my inbox is flooded with support for my comments. So because some of you women don't like my comments I should not be on here?? What about the women I fuck (the sane ones). Your post made it seem as if you had a problem with ALL women on here, which is why I questioned you being here as that seemed counterintuitive to your main goal. Also I'm not sticking up for women being rude or abrasive as I don't condone that but accusing them of having mental health issues is completely tone deaf and insensitive, so much so that I'm starting to understand the rude replies. FYI someone doesn't need to be mentally ill to just be a dick. Also please don't call me darling - personal preference
This. The insults show his maturity.
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. " Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. " #fannyblindness...I like that one | |||
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"Because I will be until my days are up. And no not all the women darling. Just the ones with mental health. Again I have no problem per se. Just pointing out the obvious. And guys to scared to speak as my inbox is flooded with support for my comments. So because some of you women don't like my comments I should not be on here?? What about the women I fuck (the sane ones). Your post made it seem as if you had a problem with ALL women on here, which is why I questioned you being here as that seemed counterintuitive to your main goal. Also I'm not sticking up for women being rude or abrasive as I don't condone that but accusing them of having mental health issues is completely tone deaf and insensitive, so much so that I'm starting to understand the rude replies. FYI someone doesn't need to be mentally ill to just be a dick. Also please don't call me darling - personal preference
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. " Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. | |||
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"Hahaha again. BUT yet been saying I prefer a no than Being ignored. Not one women on here could say I've been abusive. Threatening or anything, the nos or the ones who ignored. Again what's red flaggy is you three talking about Insult when I've said nothing. Nothing but truth. I mean I said stupid in a sentence (not the one you've quoted).. So again what Insult? (delusion peaking?) " If you use the reply and quote button then people will know who you are responding too x | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. " Really? I've never heard of these groups, and I was on here for years before. Obviously not part of the club  | |||
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"Ok darling again. Comprehension not your strong point. I wouldn't go near you. So yes or no. It wouldn't happen even in your nightmare. Never darling. So your definitely good where ever you are. And maybe you should run anyway (it's healthy). "Talking about other people's comprehension when you haven't figured out the "reply & quote" button yet, yikes | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. " I don't doubt it just said I haven't heard of them | |||
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"Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. " These are no doubt the same people who accuse people of fascism without recognising the irony that they are the secret police. I wonder if I'm on a list somewhere? | |||
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"Ok darling again. Comprehension not your strong point. I wouldn't go near you. So yes or no. It wouldn't happen even in your nightmare. Never darling. So your definitely good where ever you are. And maybe you should run anyway (it's healthy). "Please tell me you are a comedian if not you should be because you are just too funny x | |||
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"Ok darling again. Comprehension not your strong point. I wouldn't go near you. So yes or no. It wouldn't happen even in your nightmare. Never darling. So your definitely good where ever you are. And maybe you should run anyway (it's healthy).
Talking about other people's comprehension when you haven't figured out the "reply & quote" button yet, yikes "Lol | |||
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"Hahaha again. BUT yet been saying I prefer a no than Being ignored. Not one women on here could say I've been abusive. Threatening or anything, the nos or the ones who ignored. Again what's red flaggy is you three talking about Insult when I've said nothing. Nothing but truth. I mean I said stupid in a sentence (not the one you've quoted).. So again what Insult? (delusion peaking?) " Probably accusing women of having mental heath issues. | |||
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"Hahaha again. BUT yet been saying I prefer a no than Being ignored. Not one women on here could say I've been abusive. Threatening or anything, the nos or the ones who ignored. Again what's red flaggy is you three talking about Insult when I've said nothing. Nothing but truth. I mean I said stupid in a sentence (not the one you've quoted).. So again what Insult? (delusion peaking?) " According to your bio, it would be pointless in a woman saying no to you as you would completely ignore it.....oh the irony x | |||
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"So, yesterday I had a message from a single guy that basically went: 'i bet u get some nice c**t' What ever happened to politeness, grammar, class? How on earth does that person ever expect a response to a message like that? It's no wonder some men don't get much respect around me. "Thought you get some nice CHAT ?? I think that’s pretty tame compared to the breed me Daddy stuff | |||
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"Hahaha again. BUT yet been saying I prefer a no than Being ignored. Not one women on here could say I've been abusive. Threatening or anything, the nos or the ones who ignored. Again what's red flaggy is you three talking about Insult when I've said nothing. Nothing but truth. I mean I said stupid in a sentence (not the one you've quoted).. So again what Insult? (delusion peaking?) According to your bio, it would be pointless in a woman saying no to you as you would completely ignore it.....oh the irony x"Surely you're not suggesting that no means yes!!!  | |||
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"Hahaha again. BUT yet been saying I prefer a no than Being ignored. Not one women on here could say I've been abusive. Threatening or anything, the nos or the ones who ignored. Again what's red flaggy is you three talking about Insult when I've said nothing. Nothing but truth. I mean I said stupid in a sentence (not the one you've quoted).. So again what Insult? (delusion peaking?) According to your bio, it would be pointless in a woman saying no to you as you would completely ignore it.....oh the irony x
Surely you're not suggesting that no means yes!!! "It would seem so...bloody hell I've been doing fab wrong for years | |||
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"Hahaha again. BUT yet been saying I prefer a no than Being ignored. Not one women on here could say I've been abusive. Threatening or anything, the nos or the ones who ignored. Again what's red flaggy is you three talking about Insult when I've said nothing. Nothing but truth. I mean I said stupid in a sentence (not the one you've quoted).. So again what Insult? (delusion peaking?) Probably accusing women of having mental heath issues." Men and women suffer from mental health issues and it shouldn't be held against them. I would never reject anyone on that basis. | |||
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Who've created the education system and shaped the culture we have. Double standards, hypocrital behaviour is seen as acceptable, forming a society that disrespects others.
It seeps into fab of course. We can largely only be responsible for ourselves and our part in influencing our society, including this niche culture. Guys who behave inappropriately deserve to be shunned. Where site standards and rules are broken, being active in reporting, to uphold standards that should be a bare minimum, yet are breached daily.
Trenting people well, having respect and kindness, can soften the hardest of hearts, letting doubt set in, that their behaviour is a misfit, is a healthy approach, so we don't sink to their norms. In the forum, having some decorum, so that we don't normalise a rabble herd mentality, gunning to get the blood of those who aren't fitting in. Hold others by the hand, maybe their cock another time. | |||
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"Hahaha again. BUT yet been saying I prefer a no than Being ignored. Not one women on here could say I've been abusive. Threatening or anything, the nos or the ones who ignored. Again what's red flaggy is you three talking about Insult when I've said nothing. Nothing but truth. I mean I said stupid in a sentence (not the one you've quoted).. So again what Insult? (delusion peaking?) According to your bio, it would be pointless in a woman saying no to you as you would completely ignore it.....oh the irony x
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"Guys seriously think they understand how many messages women get If they took the time to response to them all they’d have a part time job doing so. Hours of writing “no thanks” again and again and again Plus all the return “why tho?” Messages? I get being ignored sucks, but does it suck that bad that you want women to take a part time job, unpaid, for your convenience Get over yourself " | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. Really? I've never heard of these groups, and I was on here for years before. Obviously not part of the club "When I first started using the forums a guy messaged me with screenshots of the chat group, warning me to be careful not to end up in their iron sights as a target Luckily for me I did awfully on here before the forums and I’ll continue to do so after The scary part is the sharing of private info. Fishing guys with messages of faked interest to gather info they can give out to eachother | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. Really? I've never heard of these groups, and I was on here for years before. Obviously not part of the club
When I first started using the forums a guy messaged me with screenshots of the chat group, warning me to be careful not to end up in their iron sights as a target
Luckily for me I did awfully on here before the forums and I’ll continue to do so after
The scary part is the sharing of private info. Fishing guys with messages of faked interest to gather info they can give out to eachother "That is wilddddd | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. Really? I've never heard of these groups, and I was on here for years before. Obviously not part of the club
When I first started using the forums a guy messaged me with screenshots of the chat group, warning me to be careful not to end up in their iron sights as a target
Luckily for me I did awfully on here before the forums and I’ll continue to do so after
The scary part is the sharing of private info. Fishing guys with messages of faked interest to gather info they can give out to eachother "Seen it too. The backstabbing and bad mouthing that goes on is vile and yet these are people who act sweet and innocent....and it's not just the men they are discussing x | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. Really? I've never heard of these groups, and I was on here for years before. Obviously not part of the club
When I first started using the forums a guy messaged me with screenshots of the chat group, warning me to be careful not to end up in their iron sights as a target
Luckily for me I did awfully on here before the forums and I’ll continue to do so after
The scary part is the sharing of private info. Fishing guys with messages of faked interest to gather info they can give out to eachother
That is wilddddd"You don't have to look very far or dig very deep. There are a number of former posters who have left the site because they were outed to their families in social media by these groups simply because they challenged some of the women in the forums and I believe at least one because he had the temerity to turn down a prominent fabber. It's common knowledge that this happens but as with many things on fab there are a lot of smoke and mirrors which is why I usually roll my eyes when some women say they aren't aware of these groups despite starting threads inviting women to join them. | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. Really? I've never heard of these groups, and I was on here for years before. Obviously not part of the club
When I first started using the forums a guy messaged me with screenshots of the chat group, warning me to be careful not to end up in their iron sights as a target
Luckily for me I did awfully on here before the forums and I’ll continue to do so after
The scary part is the sharing of private info. Fishing guys with messages of faked interest to gather info they can give out to eachother
That is wilddddd
You don't have to look very far or dig very deep. There are a number of former posters who have left the site because they were outed to their families in social media by these groups simply because they challenged some of the women in the forums and I believe at least one because he had the temerity to turn down a prominent fabber.
It's common knowledge that this happens but as with many things on fab there are a lot of smoke and mirrors which is why I usually roll my eyes when some women say they aren't aware of these groups despite starting threads inviting women to join them. "Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. Really? I've never heard of these groups, and I was on here for years before. Obviously not part of the club
When I first started using the forums a guy messaged me with screenshots of the chat group, warning me to be careful not to end up in their iron sights as a target
Luckily for me I did awfully on here before the forums and I’ll continue to do so after
The scary part is the sharing of private info. Fishing guys with messages of faked interest to gather info they can give out to eachother
That is wilddddd
You don't have to look very far or dig very deep. There are a number of former posters who have left the site because they were outed to their families in social media by these groups simply because they challenged some of the women in the forums and I believe at least one because he had the temerity to turn down a prominent fabber.
It's common knowledge that this happens but as with many things on fab there are a lot of smoke and mirrors which is why I usually roll my eyes when some women say they aren't aware of these groups despite starting threads inviting women to join them.
Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. "I second this. I've only ever been on off-fab groups centered around diet and exercise and have never been invited to join anything else. Although maybe that's because I have been one of the people discussed on there, Lord knows I've butted a fair few heads in my time | |||
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"Just because some of what has been said above has been expressed aggressively doesn't mean it's not true. I'm happy with my pace on fab. I haven't messaged anyone in 2 years. I get demanding messages from couples every so often but the only abuse I've ever had in 5 years here has been from women I've chosen to ignore. Even if we have nothing in common I will always reply if they get in touch but because we aren't compatible I won't be making any effort to chase after them and the conversation fizzles out very quickly. Very often though there are little games being played and I have no doubt they are instigated by some of those safe haven chatgroups simply because I do speak my mind on here and don't suffer from fanny blindness. I have received messages from women I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at an upcoming social and when I turn up on the night 70% of attendees are single women who are all huddled in groups which would put anyone off making any attempt to approach but when I do and get completely blanked I have to wonder what happened to their previous excitement? They follow that up the next day with messages asking why I wasn't there or why they didn't see me? In a tiny room with 60 people there and my name discussed as I passed and fingers pointed in my direction the only explanation is that my shirt was too loud. Then there are those who are instructed to message by others I have chosen to ignore because of their bipolar approach to the forums. It's too much of a coincidence that every message I received over a 2 week period was from women who had all verified each other or had been verified by a misogynistic and predatory man that I had challenged on the forums. I'm not here for childish games so I ignore and move on until they try a different approach which often involves forum digs or abusive messages. I'm always preaching about information that people are giving out and sharing and it may sound like a broken record but the number of times I've been able to say "told you so" in recent times speaks volumes. There's no excuse for shitty behaviour or messages from anyone and as someone already said above the friendly chatgroups that are used as honeytraps and for shit stirring should have no place here either. I will continue to actively reject and ignore anyone who is being an arsehole regardless of gender. Thanks wrong and like it's not all men it isn't all women. I've never heard of groups like this until this post and think it's disgusting. Some of us do make the effort but the deleting of messages is something I do (I'll reply to a select few that have made an effort) but it's relentless some times it's a must. Those groups have been around as long as I've been on here. They are virtually all presented as groups where women can be safe and keep others informed about dangerous men. I know dozens of women who have been asked to join them and then leave shortly after when they discover that private information including messages, facepics and social media details are being shared and discussed and not just of men but other women who may be vocal in opposing what they are doing. I obviously haven't been in one but they are discussed regularly in the forums often by women who have witnessed the behaviour. Really? I've never heard of these groups, and I was on here for years before. Obviously not part of the club
When I first started using the forums a guy messaged me with screenshots of the chat group, warning me to be careful not to end up in their iron sights as a target
Luckily for me I did awfully on here before the forums and I’ll continue to do so after
The scary part is the sharing of private info. Fishing guys with messages of faked interest to gather info they can give out to eachother
That is wilddddd
You don't have to look very far or dig very deep. There are a number of former posters who have left the site because they were outed to their families in social media by these groups simply because they challenged some of the women in the forums and I believe at least one because he had the temerity to turn down a prominent fabber.
It's common knowledge that this happens but as with many things on fab there are a lot of smoke and mirrors which is why I usually roll my eyes when some women say they aren't aware of these groups despite starting threads inviting women to join them.
Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them.
I second this. I've only ever been on off-fab groups centered around diet and exercise and have never been invited to join anything else. Although maybe that's because I have been one of the people discussed on there, Lord knows I've butted a fair few heads in my time "Snap. | |||
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" Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. The women starting threads to invite others to join them and then encourage the sharing of info and everything else that goes on deserve to be rolled when they flutter their eyelashes and claim they don't know anything about them on the forums. If you haven't been invited or joined one then yes you won't be aware but for those that have, those public nods and winks anger many women who have left the groups. " I’ve seen users that were in the screenshots say they didn’t know about the groups. They exist. The guy that sent me them left the site ages ago for exactly that reason. He said someone near him had been “warned” by multiple women not to meet him. Little did they know they already knew eachother and she passed the message along. It’s gross. The pecking order exists | |||
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" Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. The women starting threads to invite others to join them and then encourage the sharing of info and everything else that goes on deserve to be rolled when they flutter their eyelashes and claim they don't know anything about them on the forums. If you haven't been invited or joined one then yes you won't be aware but for those that have, those public nods and winks anger many women who have left the groups. I’ve seen users that were in the screenshots say they didn’t know about the groups. They exist. The guy that sent me them left the site ages ago for exactly that reason. He said someone near him had been “warned” by multiple women not to meet him. Little did they know they already knew eachother and she passed the message along. It’s gross. The pecking order exists " Well now I feel excluded lol. Although it doesn't surprise me; the fab forum clique is all too real and I've always felt shunned by it. It all feels very playground politics to me. | |||
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" Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. The women starting threads to invite others to join them and then encourage the sharing of info and everything else that goes on deserve to be rolled when they flutter their eyelashes and claim they don't know anything about them on the forums. If you haven't been invited or joined one then yes you won't be aware but for those that have, those public nods and winks anger many women who have left the groups. I’ve seen users that were in the screenshots say they didn’t know about the groups. They exist. The guy that sent me them left the site ages ago for exactly that reason. He said someone near him had been “warned” by multiple women not to meet him. Little did they know they already knew eachother and she passed the message along. It’s gross. The pecking order exists Well now I feel excluded lol. Although it doesn't surprise me; the fab forum clique is all too real and I've always felt shunned by it. It all feels very playground politics to me. " Take being excluded as a compliment. Probably means they dudnt think you were a nasty enough person to take part | |||
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" Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. The women starting threads to invite others to join them and then encourage the sharing of info and everything else that goes on deserve to be rolled when they flutter their eyelashes and claim they don't know anything about them on the forums. If you haven't been invited or joined one then yes you won't be aware but for those that have, those public nods and winks anger many women who have left the groups. I’ve seen users that were in the screenshots say they didn’t know about the groups. They exist. The guy that sent me them left the site ages ago for exactly that reason. He said someone near him had been “warned” by multiple women not to meet him. Little did they know they already knew eachother and she passed the message along. It’s gross. The pecking order exists Well now I feel excluded lol. Although it doesn't surprise me; the fab forum clique is all too real and I've always felt shunned by it. It all feels very playground politics to me. " How blind am I. Not noticed this either | |||
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" Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. The women starting threads to invite others to join them and then encourage the sharing of info and everything else that goes on deserve to be rolled when they flutter their eyelashes and claim they don't know anything about them on the forums. If you haven't been invited or joined one then yes you won't be aware but for those that have, those public nods and winks anger many women who have left the groups. I’ve seen users that were in the screenshots say they didn’t know about the groups. They exist. The guy that sent me them left the site ages ago for exactly that reason. He said someone near him had been “warned” by multiple women not to meet him. Little did they know they already knew eachother and she passed the message along. It’s gross. The pecking order exists Well now I feel excluded lol. Although it doesn't surprise me; the fab forum clique is all too real and I've always felt shunned by it. It all feels very playground politics to me. How blind am I. Not noticed this either "If you watch closely they are very easy to spot x | |||
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" Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. The women starting threads to invite others to join them and then encourage the sharing of info and everything else that goes on deserve to be rolled when they flutter their eyelashes and claim they don't know anything about them on the forums. If you haven't been invited or joined one then yes you won't be aware but for those that have, those public nods and winks anger many women who have left the groups. I’ve seen users that were in the screenshots say they didn’t know about the groups. They exist. The guy that sent me them left the site ages ago for exactly that reason. He said someone near him had been “warned” by multiple women not to meet him. Little did they know they already knew eachother and she passed the message along. It’s gross. The pecking order exists Well now I feel excluded lol. Although it doesn't surprise me; the fab forum clique is all too real and I've always felt shunned by it. It all feels very playground politics to me. How blind am I. Not noticed this either
If you watch closely they are very easy to spot x"I notice groups of people who tend to comment together. And some who get more attention. I've never picked up on a power dynamic, but I am generally blind to these things. I need captain subtext ! | |||
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" Don't roll them too hard. Some of us are genuinely surprised and have never heard of them. The women starting threads to invite others to join them and then encourage the sharing of info and everything else that goes on deserve to be rolled when they flutter their eyelashes and claim they don't know anything about them on the forums. If you haven't been invited or joined one then yes you won't be aware but for those that have, those public nods and winks anger many women who have left the groups. I’ve seen users that were in the screenshots say they didn’t know about the groups. They exist. The guy that sent me them left the site ages ago for exactly that reason. He said someone near him had been “warned” by multiple women not to meet him. Little did they know they already knew eachother and she passed the message along. It’s gross. The pecking order exists Well now I feel excluded lol. Although it doesn't surprise me; the fab forum clique is all too real and I've always felt shunned by it. It all feels very playground politics to me. How blind am I. Not noticed this either
If you watch closely they are very easy to spot xI notice groups of people who tend to comment together. And some who get more attention. I've never picked up on a power dynamic, but I am generally blind to these things. I need captain subtext !"Oh it's incredibly obvious that threads will get more traction based on who posted it. Or otherwise interesting threads will get hijacked by banal chatter and private jokes. | |||
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