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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!

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By *eardeddadbod91Man
over a year ago

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I think a lot of people join this site because they believe it’s a sex site note a swinging site (maybe they don’t know the difference)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair to some single guys…the good ones engage with both partners. You quickly get a feel for the ones who dont get the whole swnging thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of people join this site because they believe it’s a sex site note a swinging site (maybe they don’t know the difference) "

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

SORRY SHOULD HAVE READ AS BELOW:

Why are so many single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair to some single guys…the good ones engage with both partners. You quickly get a feel for the ones who dont get the whole swnging thing x"

If they spoke to the guy, sometimes only one talks on here.

But it’s a 3 way thing, everyone need to get in don’t they? It makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you left out the word ‘some’ or perhaps if I’m being charitable ‘most’. Personally I know how lucky I am to be invited into couples bedrooms, fwiw I enjoy meeting and chatting to new folks new male and female. While naturally the primary reason for being here is the obvious making connections and bonds with others is pretty darned good too. Some great guys here and people I feel just as privileged to know as some of the ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of people join this site because they believe it’s a sex site note a swinging site (maybe they don’t know the difference)

Exactly this. "

Very true words!!

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By *remiumbondMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

It’s nice to be nice and I talk to both in the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are finding, that since or rewrite, guys have been a lot better. We are quite clear we are a couple and our preference. We are getting messages to us both. Even if we don't reply, it's appreciated.

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By *ouseofhoneyCouple
over a year ago

North West

95% of messages we get are directed to the wife as if she is single, 100% of those messages get ignored!

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By *r and Mrs 81Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"I think a lot of people join this site because they believe it’s a sex site note a swinging site (maybe they don’t know the difference) "

I say this all the time alot of people need educating!!

The same questions over and over do you meet alone ?? Or I'll fuck you better than your husband !! Really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!"

Some of us are respectful

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

I'm always respectful to all.

It costs nothing to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there...

When I writing, always talking to both nice and respectfull but 99% messages are ignored.

It's just because I'm not experienced or my preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunatley there are some bad apples on here..but some really nice ones to..

Hope your both ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"95% of messages we get are directed to the wife as if she is single, 100% of those messages get ignored!"

The profile picture is female. I would assume the female is the one on the forum. *just my opinion.

It’s hard to tell who I’m a couple is talking. It’s only because you said ‘the wife’ above I can tell your the husband.

It’s difficult through text always.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"95% of messages we get are directed to the wife as if she is single, 100% of those messages get ignored!"

I always assume I’m speaking to the male unless told otherwise it’s only polite and respectful

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By *ouseofhoneyCouple
over a year ago

North West


"95% of messages we get are directed to the wife as if she is single, 100% of those messages get ignored!

The profile picture is female. I would assume the female is the one on the forum. *just my opinion.

It’s hard to tell who I’m a couple is talking. It’s only because you said ‘the wife’ above I can tell your the husband.

It’s difficult through text always. "

It's a couples profile and if you read it then you would understand as it clearly says if you send messages just trying to get into the female then you will be ignored... so this sort of proves my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of people join this site because they believe it’s a sex site note a swinging site (maybe they don’t know the difference) "

Can you explain the difference to a pond bottom feeder a single chap one of thousands. I would be interested to hear your opinion or anyone’s for that matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunatley there are some bad apples on here..but some really nice ones to..

Hope your both ok x"

I would like to be a large autumnal cockess pippin.

Or maybe a golden delicious but sadly I think I am labelled a crab apple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"SORRY SHOULD HAVE READ AS BELOW:

Why are so many single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty"

I didn’t click at first as to your meaning. You are of course referring to Lucy Left and Rachel Right those beauties are always on hand to provide pleasure and assistance!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We've experienced this more than once, in person and on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m happy to chat to the guy too. It’s the right thing to do

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By *eltonmanMan
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

Have always been polite and chat to both in the couple, no point in not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"95% of messages we get are directed to the wife as if she is single, 100% of those messages get ignored!"

It might help if you show their is a man associated with your profile, as it's easy to say you are a couple and make a profile to that affect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our experience they haven't at all, unless we've asked them to be lol x

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

Personally if I’m meeting a couple im meeting both of them equally so neither should feel left out or ignored in any way. Sadly there are a lot of guys just after a quick shag with the wife.

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

As I'm bi i want to engage with the guy equally the same as the woman. If i was to play straight i would still speak to the male and interact its just politeness. Unfortunately there are guys that ruin it for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I meet a couple it is the couple I'm meeting not just the lady

I find it very important that I get on with the guy

In the past I've sometimes struggled connecting with the man in the couple and those relationships inevitably don't last,however ones where I really get on with the chap flourish and lasting friendships still continue to this day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"95% of messages we get are directed to the wife as if she is single, 100% of those messages get ignored!

It might help if you show their is a man associated with your profile, as it's easy to say you are a couple and make a profile to that affect. "

Totally agree with you

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By *uscle88Man
over a year ago

Potters Bar

To me it’s essential to address both individuals and I always do in my messages, you need to ensure both parties are comfortable with you and if it’s a case of the intention to have sex with the wife a level of appreciation and respect needs to be shown and set with mr as that’s his duchess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always message speaking to both people if it's a couple. I don't see why you should ignore the other partner as it's about all people enjoying each other. Not neglecting the person you may feel you aren't as interested in.

Seems to me as though it's a bit of selfishness going on with this scenario. Imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys are great and get the whole lifestyle, others unfortunately don't have a clue and we just completely ignore.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

I guess we have been lucky with the guys we have met. Some of whom stay in touch with us both in a platonic way

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When replying we always sign off with M or J to determine who’s is replying, or MJ if we are both here.

Normally if it’s me, M, if the single guy is just at it, they rarely continue the conversation. However if they are genuinely interested in us both the chat goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We blocked single guys when we joined and would block single women too if it was possible. Can't partner swap without a partner. Most couples profiles are probably managed by the male half and we've not had any rudeness from anyone ourselves so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't agree more. I have a couples profile with my wife of over 20 years. When single guys message our couples profile, 80% say things like " nice arse babe" "you free now to fuck" Those get blocked straight away as if you can't address BOTH of us you aren't fucking my wife it's that's simple. About 10% address us both and then IF they get a reply they try to slowly shove me out of the picture...never gonna happen!!.. The final 10% are absolutely spot on men that are a credit to site and know how to go on with couples.

The long and the short of it is , there's a lot of separating the Wheat from the Chaff, yes ots hard but every once in a while you do get a pleasant surprise.

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By *ambiandThumperCouple
over a year ago

up near the top


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!"

We have found quite a few of the men on here have probably got lost in cuckold porn and the whole abusing of the male of the couple. Like others the amount of messages from single men with the “ I’ll give you what your husband can’t “ and “bet my cock is bigger and better than his” type of messages is vast and annoying. That’s what the block button is for.

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

Well if I had the chance to meet a couple I'd be very respectful to the guy as without his permission, I wouldn't be there! Plus I'm always civil and polite, unless the other person deserves otherwise!

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By *lossyLegsGlassesCouple
over a year ago

stafford

We find that most guys who initially contact msg as if I'm (Glossy) providing a service.....and treat hubby like an extra, doesn't matter if he's there or not....not really attractive for us I'm afraid xxx

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By *irtyold manMan
over a year ago

barnsley

I alwayse say its a 3 way thing. Everyone in the triangle needs to get somthing out of it.

Past experiances have been the hubby instructing me what to do to his wife ,the hubby taking pics,the hubby joining in,the hubby been made to watch as a cuck.

Aslong as the wife the hubby and the guest all get somthing out of it then it can carry on and get better. But if two are pleased and one not pleased then it will fail

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Hmmmm…. These kind of threads just seem like another opportunity to have a pop at the entire single male population due to maybe one or two bad experiences had.

Rest assured a lot of us are very capable of engaging with both halves of a couple although this does need to go both ways. E.g. when communicating, it would be nice to know which half one is speaking to.

Can’t really blame some guys for doing what you’ve moaned about when most MF couple profiles are just loads of pics of the female half and the male half behind them doing most of if not all the comms….

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By *he Gentleman.Man
over a year ago

Sitlington


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!"
I always address both people in a couple when contacting them. It's the only way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!"

Agreed!!! The man should have respect and really assume its the male part of the couple they are chatting to. That's why you have to be careful picking the right one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!"

The men in couples need to realise that without their sex bait wife they also would just be wanking sadly.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!

The men in couples need to realise that without their sex bait wife they also would just be wanking sadly. "

At last! Someone said it

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!

The men in couples need to realise that without their sex bait wife they also would just be wanking sadly. "

You know like that!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened us the other day.

Guy insulted Irish, then backtracked rapidly when told if he thought he was still going to get into Scots wee tight pussy he had another thing coming.

Several apologises later but he's blown his chance, or should we say load!

Respect to both parties goes a long way.

We defriended him but decided not to block him (yet) so he can see what he's missing ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!

The men in couples need to realise that without their sex bait wife they also would just be wanking sadly.

At last! Someone said it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!

The men in couples need to realise that without their sex bait wife they also would just be wanking sadly.

At last! Someone said it

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That is probably why most couples profiles , only have pictures of the sex bait wife. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair to some single guys…the good ones engage with both partners. You quickly get a feel for the ones who dont get the whole swnging thing x"

Exactly.

It can be a positive though, as you automatically know that these people are not really the ones to engage with.

Why message couples but only engage with the female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find this whole thread a bit strange. My first message is usually about something I liked in their profile... then I see who writes back.

On occasion I've sent something flirty not knowing who I'm talking to, it's fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!

The men in couples need to realise that without their sex bait wife they also would just be wanking sadly.

At last! Someone said it

That is probably why most couples profiles , only have pictures of the sex bait wife. X"

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By *ikerdude2017Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I would not be shit to the other guy. MMF is clue in the title all there to have fun.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Another single guy kicking thread. FFS !

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By *stoppMan
over a year ago

Durham

In about 99% my instances of organising a meet I find I’am invariably speaking with the male, be that for social or pleasure or a photographer meet. I quickly realised respect both people within the couple or you get no where fast and no second meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find that most guys who initially contact msg as if I'm (Glossy) providing a service.....and treat hubby like an extra, doesn't matter if he's there or not....not really attractive for us I'm afraid xxx"

It might help if there was some pictures of hubby on your profile. As with out it looks like a single female profile pretending to be a couple.

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow

Love to play with both parties!

Xx

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Always a privilege to be invited to play with a couple and I enjoy getting to know both male and female and having a chat with both, find it makes the bedroom activities much more fun.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why are single guys so shit to the guy in a couple?? You realise without their permission this wouldnt happen and you would only have Mr Righty/Lefty!!"

I almost only ever meet couples where the guy is at least bi friendly so never have an issue with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

got to say its very rare and if they do slip thro then the meet will stop and they will be told to leave ... the power is in your hands not theirs if you allow them to be rude then they will carry on being rude

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