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Why do some fabbers make their veris public?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always wonder why people keep them private when the person who's looking needs to look ?

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

Why do you need to know what was said. It’s not like your going to read a bad one. If it’s to know their genuine surely even a stacked up amount of hidden ones would tell You that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need to know what was said. It’s not like your going to read a bad one. If it’s to know their genuine surely even a stacked up amount of hidden ones would tell You that. "

I tend to ask if people are happy to share hidden veris with me, for me they are one of the most important thing when deciding if I want to meet someone or not

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Often there's no choice. The words disappear if the user closes the account.

People can show or not. Other people can use that as a filter or not. Or sometimes as a requirement ("must show recent verification from a meeting with people who look exactly like us" etc)

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Always wonder why people keep them private when the person who's looking needs to look ?"

Why do they need to look

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Always wonder why people keep them private when the person who's looking needs to look ?"

Personal choice as always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always wonder why people keep them private when the person who's looking needs to look ?"

Why do they need to look? Veris are irrelevant. They are better hidden.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"Always wonder why people keep them private when the person who's looking needs to look ?"

Because they don't want to show them? Ultimately it is up to the person/people behind the profile to decide what they want to share with anyone reading their profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Everyone runs their accounts differently for different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?

Thank you "

For what?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?"

I don't believe there is, no.

The verifications would give you an insight into the person leaving them, and that's not who you want to be evaluating.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I choose to make some of my verifications public - when I first joined, I found them useful to corroborate my sense of the person I was talking to (are they safe, reliable, etc).

Others do or don't display for any reason and none at all. And, as noted, when people leave the site their verification text disappears (although not in the summary - so if I'm verified by person A on two accounts, it looks like two people in my summary).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?

I don't believe there is, no.

The verifications would give you an insight into the person leaving them, and that's not who you want to be evaluating."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal choice. Our veris

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you can’t help it. I’ve met and been verified by people that have left the site - the summary still counts but the written verification goes, so it looks like it’s hidden…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?

I don't believe there is, no.

The verifications would give you an insight into the person leaving them, and that's not who you want to be evaluating."

How so?

It seems to me that all Fabsters are brilliant at everything concerning recreational sex as the verification system would have you believe.

I long to see a verification on the lines of

“Nice enough chap but was older more rotund and follically challenged than his pictures suggested. Hygiene was adequate but no more. Had little stamina and he was gone within the hour “

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ours are private for one reason and one reason only .... childish men playing childish games by contacting our meets and being nasty or playing games ...its that simple..

men contacting other men telling them to back off or dont meet us just because we said no thanks ... or speading rumors again all over a no thanks and huys who we have met throwing a jeaalousy wobbler so years ago we decided not woth showing them anymore

but we've also heard the woman and couples do this too but as we only meet guys we can only go by this

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?

I don't believe there is, no.

The verifications would give you an insight into the person leaving them, and that's not who you want to be evaluating.

How so?

It seems to me that all Fabsters are brilliant at everything concerning recreational sex as the verification system would have you believe.

I long to see a verification on the lines of

“Nice enough chap but was older more rotund and follically challenged than his pictures suggested. Hygiene was adequate but no more. Had little stamina and he was gone within the hour “"

Occasionally you can read between the lines, which is quite amusing

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

[Removed by poster at 26/04/22 15:12:10]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?

I don't believe there is, no.

The verifications would give you an insight into the person leaving them, and that's not who you want to be evaluating.

How so?

It seems to me that all Fabsters are brilliant at everything concerning recreational sex as the verification system would have you believe.

I long to see a verification on the lines of

“Nice enough chap but was older more rotund and follically challenged than his pictures suggested. Hygiene was adequate but no more. Had little stamina and he was gone within the hour “

Occasionally you can read between the lines, which is quite amusing"

I am usually quite good at reading in between the lines but on fab everyone should not be passed by!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ours are private for one reason and one reason only .... childish men playing childish games by contacting our meets and being nasty or playing games ...its that simple..

men contacting other men telling them to back off or dont meet us just because we said no thanks ... or speading rumors again all over a no thanks and huys who we have met throwing a jeaalousy wobbler so years ago we decided not woth showing them anymore

but we've also heard the woman and couples do this too but as we only meet guys we can only go by this"

Thank you for answering my actual question that makes sense

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By *orovoyeurMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

It’s the people that write page long veris that I don’t get.

Things like:

I arrived, nice house, they said hi, we sat in lounge, we had wine, the football was on tv… etc

FFS - I only want to know if they’re actually real and friendly or not

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I think veris are a useful gauge of the person they met.

Some folks like to go into graphic descriptions and others remain quiet. Hiding them retains an air of mystery but adds nothing to what is known if the veried person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always wonder why people keep them private when the person who's looking needs to look ?"

It's personal choice.

When you get one you'll be able allowed to make the choice whether to show it or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well nobody leaves a bad one, and if they did no one would show it! I hide mine as a lot are from when I had a couples account. They're not relevant now, and it's all personal opinion anyways so what does it matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I flash mine once in a while.......my veris that is!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Why do people hide verifications? I don't show one's that are too graphic as I don't like them. I display ones that I think are relevant to what's going on. For example I'm currently organising a social, so I'm displaying ones from people who have attended other socials, to show I have plenty of past experience. I will also display a small number of meets were I've played.

If I'm not meeting, I'll hide the majority of my veris and I can obviously choose which, if any to display at any time.

If I have a stalker or a jealous woman contacting men I've met, then I'll keep them all private. I've had this happen twice in the last 10 years.

So showing verifications is very much a personal decision depending on each individuals circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hide some of ours where they are graphic or mention sexual things that we won't do with everyone out are infrequent or were with ages outside out "looking for".

We had to do this after being pestered by people asking for meets based on messages saying that's "the verifications say you like this" and "you met other men my age" - sometimes it was just socially at a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide if they are cringe or too much detail. I don't see the need for it personally.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I display some, I hide others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I display some social ones, that proves I exist.

If someone hides them, I think that’s their business why.

I reckon some don’t want other people to know who is meeting them, stops any possible behind the scene shinanighans. Top tip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause I don't want everyone knowing I'm a snide ride.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think there relevant to tell real from fake I personally wouldn't go near someone who isn't verified could be anyone lol

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

My personal 1-1 meet verifications are hidden as it's no-ones business who I meet/have met x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there relevant to tell real from fake I personally wouldn't go near someone who isn't verified could be anyone lol"

If they are verified then you're happy to meet them.

So then why do you need to read it?

I've met 2 guys who weren't verified and I was their first verification. They are lovely guys and would happily meet them again. Everyone starts somewhere.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Is there an argument to make all documentary evidence of a meeting to be shown on a profile?

That could give prospective members a better insight to the person or persons they are communicating with?

Thank you

For what?"

We we're asked if we meet single men. A quick scan of out veris would tell you the answer.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Some people do make them public OP, as your post says.

What is the issue?

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"My personal 1-1 meet verifications are hidden as it's no-ones business who I meet/have met x"

Exactly this for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there relevant to tell real from fake I personally wouldn't go near someone who isn't verified could be anyone lol"

So how did you meet people in real life back in the day? I'm assuming if you met a woman in a bar you'd not ask her to email all her exes and show you their opinion of her?

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

We've had oddballs contact people in our veris so often don't show them all (on one or both of our accounts)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there relevant to tell real from fake I personally wouldn't go near someone who isn't verified could be anyone lol"

Your not verified lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there relevant to tell real from fake I personally wouldn't go near someone who isn't verified could be anyone lol

Your not verified lol"

The jokes write themselves lol

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

I don't understand why people would leave a 'review' or would want to read them. Never understood it. Makes me feel a bit queezy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people would leave a 'review' or would want to read them. Never understood it. Makes me feel a bit queezy "

Makes you 'feel queezy' to read someone is real because they met for a coffee?

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over


"I don't understand why people would leave a 'review' or would want to read them. Never understood it. Makes me feel a bit queezy

Makes you 'feel queezy' to read someone is real because they met for a coffee? "

The... 'we shagged every which round and I came all over her tits and watched her husband lick it off'... style.

Baffling.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Always wonder why people keep them private when the person who's looking needs to look ?"

Think they Need to do nothing but run there profile as they wish verification mean nothing more than they have meet or be on cam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The veri system is easily defeated so isn’t really any kind of indicator that anyone is anything. A couple near me have 5 profiles and frequently veri all 5 profiles and quite happily admit it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The veri system is easily defeated so isn’t really any kind of indicator that anyone is anything. A couple near me have 5 profiles and frequently veri all 5 profiles and quite happily admit it"

But surely they would have been verified by someone else first to get their first one to then go on and do the rest.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

Some of mine I am unable to have public because they are no longer on the site, some are from when I joined so a little out of date, some I don't have public because I no longer want to meet that person again or in a maybe petty way if they are no longer showing my verification why should I show theirs I only have my most recent verification public at the moment for these reasons

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"The veri system is easily defeated so isn’t really any kind of indicator that anyone is anything. A couple near me have 5 profiles and frequently veri all 5 profiles and quite happily admit it"

Not sure there's a lot of this but you're entitled to your opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need to know what was said. It’s not like your going to read a bad one. If it’s to know their genuine surely even a stacked up amount of hidden ones would tell You that. "

I know what you mean about bad ones not being shown. Not that I've got a bad one of course.

BTW, you're gorgeous. Wish I lived closer to go for a coffee with you x

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Bc the option is there

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Because it's nobody's business is one reason we don't plus it keeps some of the hassle away ie; people messaging us'what was so and so like' which has happened and stops the gossip too, got no time for any of that nonsense.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Half of mine have disappeared because they've left or I've since blocked them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cause I don't want everyone knowing I'm a snide ride."

Are you from Manchester?

Snide ride ............mint!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say disappeared is that as in under the patio?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

A number have disappeared from D/s relationships and people leaving.

The rest are club/ social meets.

I think they give an inkling to who we are.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"A number have disappeared from D/s relationships and people leaving.

The rest are club/ social meets.

I think they give an inkling to who we are."
Northern delight spot on Ireland

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

We display all our verifications, personally we think it builds a picture of who we are and the kind of people we like to meet or have met. The only ones that are not on display is where people have left the site. But saying that we wouldn’t want to display a verification with graphic details of the meet. Saying we’re genuine and they enjoyed our company will do just fine x

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By *asseurMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury England not Wales

It's a personal choice for that member to show or not.

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