FabSwingers.com forum: Keep your swinging life private or don't mind telling people ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Obviously a secret for most but are some open and don't give a shit ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I don't announce it in the office, no.

Aside from that my daughter knows, and I'm pretty open about it in general. No reason not to be? I'm a single woman who enjoys sex. Nothing to be embarrassed about there

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By *azzi2010Man
over a year ago

Leytonstone

My wife knows, and obviously everyone I meet knows but other than that I keep it a secret. I see no benefit in telling friends, and plenty of awkward conversations to be avoided.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I keep it secret. I work with a lot of judgemental and narrow minded people who could make life very difficult for me if they knew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We keep the two lifestyles separate so are swinger's lifestyle is secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely kept secret, it’s more fun also that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a secret x

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By *ang Average guyMan
over a year ago

Farnborough

Secret apart from 2 people outside of fab

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

Given how I dress, it's a secret

, expect to a couple of lady friends,

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We keep our swinging and muggle life separate.

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By *rTongueMan
over a year ago

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Keep it separate from about 90% of people I know. But then I know some people on here, so do talk openly to them about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The whole secret is one of the fun parts of it I think feel naughty and like someone mentioned above alot of narrow minded people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's private. Too many people judge too easily

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Secret

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I have one female friend who knows, and my wife (who doesn't indulge but likes to hear about it) but I can't think of anyone else I know who wouldn't be horrified.

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By *ombull15Man
over a year ago

essex

Defo a secret 2 totally different lives

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No-one needs to know x

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I think my sister might have an inkling

That said she might be on here her self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my family know and my bestie. I don't really care who finds out

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By *eeboCouple
over a year ago

basingstoke

Keep it a secret but have told random people when chatting on nights out etc and they can never hear enough, men and women!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our close friends know about us, but we tend not to bring it up in public, mostly because muggles don't really understand

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Some friends know, others don't. I don't want to offend those that have different values to me, but I've never hidden it if asked.

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By *avidberksMan
over a year ago

Wokingham

A couple on Fab who I met at a vanilla social are open about their fun and games. They are friends on here now. Generally i keep it discreet but have opened up to people in the pub when it seemed appropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs has a couple of friends she will speak with about swinging.

Mr tends not to do.

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Private…

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

Don't hide it because then no one can use it as ammo lol...I'm not ashamed of it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t advertise it but if people found out we wouldn’t mind x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two completely different worlds for us and we keep them as far apart as possible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Two completely different worlds for us and we keep them as far apart as possible. "

Definitely

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Not something we shout about but after 25 years of swinging, over time freinds and family worked it out. No one cares.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely and utterly separate and private

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Most of the people who know me would be shocked to learn about this side of my life

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

I'm a private person, I like my life like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We keep ours private

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My closest friend knows but that's because he told me about this site.

No one else needs to know, especially not my judgemental family or work colleagues

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough

"I think my sister might have an inkling

That said she might be on here her self

My sister is on here

I’ve blocked her, just hoping she never sees me comment in the forum

I have two friends that know what we get upto, but the rest are a bit judgy and I quite like having a secret! Mr’s not told anyone x

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By *heklumpsCouple
over a year ago

South

Keep private

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

My family don't know as they are quite prudish and think sex should only be with someone you love etc etc! My close friends know, some know more than others. All of my colleagues know, I'm not the only swinger at work so they were already aware of swinging and most didn't judge. Because I'm open and honest about it a lot have asked questions so I've cleared up a lot of misconceptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind telling people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think my sister might have an inkling

That said she might be on here her self

My sister is on here

I’ve blocked her, just hoping she never sees me comment in the forum

I have two friends that know what we get upto, but the rest are a bit judgy and I quite like having a secret! Mr’s not told anyone x"

haha

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It's not everyone's business but it's no great secret either. Some people know, some don't. We've not too bothered people knowing.

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By *londenewcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

We love finding people we know from the real world - so we can talk about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to keep it from the people I work with and members of the family! But I have two sets of friends! The ones I have made in the swinging scene we tend to go to clubs together or meet others for fun and the other group of friends I go to the pub with and family bbqs So it works well for me

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By *andy IanMan
over a year ago

cheshire/Preston

Keep it a secret once told a good friend in private that was a big mistake

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Not worth the risk telling anybody so we keep it to ourselves. We like the double life hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be totally fair as a swinger I tend to find it's mainly 95% admin, versus 5% actual 'swinging' most of the time...

I'd frankly bore the tits off most folk if they actually expressed an interest in all the 'naughty' shit I get up to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our close friends know about us, but we tend not to bring it up in public, mostly because muggles don't really understand"

Could you explain why you use the term "muggles".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our close friends know about us, but we tend not to bring it up in public, mostly because muggles don't really understand

Could you explain why you use the term "muggles".....

Because Swingers invented sex. Any non swingers are shit at sex and not part of the Elite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously a secret for most but are some open and don't give a shit ?"

If I was open, I’d still give a shit.

I’m single so it’s hard to say I am a ‘swinger’ but I’m open to friends that an open relationship sits best with me now. Some get my point of view. Others don’t.

But if I was a couple, I’d probably keep it between other swingers. Maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some know but generally I have to be discreet xx

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We both talk to one friend each. Ben’s friend is also in this site with his wife, Tan’s friend isn’t and finds it all fascinating but wouldn’t do it

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By *eversayNeverCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We are pretty open about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most who know me know my tastes, sometimes even source of a few good conversation at work

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Most of my friends know and few family members x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Secret? No.

Private? Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Secret from family. Open about it to some vanilla friends.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Wifey knows, she took a couple of pics of me for my profile but no one else, I wouldn't want people judging her or the state of our marriage. I've no idea whether she's told any of her close friends that I'm on here

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By *angbangcouple6969Man
over a year ago

Walsall

All of our friends know and the wife told her mum just before our wedding.

No reason to keep it secret

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Few know my swinging antics

but in general I keep this shit private

better that way

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By *ashaPCouple
over a year ago

derby

Private thnks

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

It's way more fun no one else knows and having a secret life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private for me. Although a few know.

I was speaking to someone who boasted about telling her children and even said she asks them to leave so she can have men round

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

We want to keep it secret , village life !!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
39 weeks ago

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By *ty31Man
39 weeks ago

NW London

Private. There's nobody I want to tell and I don't see any good coming from telling anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Open with best friends, private with everyone else.

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By *WB85Man
39 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I announced it to my closest friends over a curry.

The opinions were mixed.....but we don't do it for them, we do it for each other.

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