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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you get nice and rude people in all walks of life, why would you think people on here would be any different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even with my profile clearly stating only meeting socially at present when I checked before writing this I had 23 unread messages.

When I am meeting this is a lot more. I do try to reply to all messages but sometimes the delete all button is great.

Cali

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Yep saying woman are stupid and contemptuous is very respectful.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ohhhhh.

lots of hate coming your way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never reply to men i have no interest in and i make no bones about it

i used to, but i got sick of getting nasty messages back from guys who cant take a polite no thanks and feeling the need to respond to my no thanks by telling me im fat and ugly anyway and they can do better than me down the pub etc

why should you put up with that?

men moan about women not replying to messages but its men who made me not want to, it was the nasty come backs from men that made me think sod it im not sending out no thanks messages anymore, so whos the real rudes one?

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By *ushandkittyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Never had this problem but can see that single guys could well be subjected to it.

Slightly off topic but rather confused about the number of women in a 'large minority'??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't a girl just get simple adoration and worshipped to within an inch of her pedestal any more? tuttttt!

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Never had this problem but can see that single guys could well be subjected to it.

Slightly off topic but rather confused about the number of women in a 'large minority'?????? "

Maybe it was a typo and he meant 'majority'??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had this problem but can see that single guys could well be subjected to it.

Slightly off topic but rather confused about the number of women in a 'large minority'??????

Maybe it was a typo and he meant 'majority'?? "

or maybe hes just trying to sound clever by using words he does not know the meaning of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on the very rare occasion that i see that magical little sign at the top of the page that says "1 unread" , i get all excited and tingly , i imagine that the ladies must get the exact opposite feeling , given the amount of dudes on here hassling them with 1 liners constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is is today??? It's not Rant Thursday, but I ain't coming out of the shelter !!

Better go to make way for the next 'incoming'.....

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

i would just take any no replies to your messages to mean they are not interested and move onwards and upwards, lifes far to short to worry about not getting a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, a lot of the straight single blokes are on here, because they cannot find a partner in the non-scene community. Their abusive messaging does tell you why they find difficulty both in and out of the scene. Nobody likes a dickhead, and they just don't seem to understand that. The neanderthal methods they employ never cease to amaze me. Do they really think that the cyber equivalent of clubbing a woman over the head and dragging her off by her hair will be a turn on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had many no thanks replies, i dont get nasty, it wont make anybody change there mind, i just reply by saying...thanks for having the decency to reply, but most of us genuine guys get tarred with the same brush as the nasty abusive ones !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you expect with such a 'charming' profile picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the lack of manners is pretty poor in general on here, man woman or couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"on the very rare occasion that i see that magical little sign at the top of the page that says "1 unread" , i get all excited and tingly , i imagine that the ladies must get the exact opposite feeling , given the amount of dudes on here hassling them with 1 liners constantly"

I'm still new enough to continue to get that tingly feeling...it's not until I see the actual messages from 99% of guys that my heart sinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theyve probably been treated like shit by blokes themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't a girl just get simple adoration and worshipped to within an inch of her pedestal any more? tuttttt! "

No not if your profile is hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive had many no thanks replies, i dont get nasty, it wont make anybody change there mind, i just reply by saying...thanks for having the decency to reply, but most of us genuine guys get tarred with the same brush as the nasty abusive ones !!! "

i dont tar everyone with the same bush, i know there are many decent, nice guys on here, ive met quite a few

But i refuse to keep getting nasty messages from guys i say no thanks to, and yes i know not all of them would and by doing that i am ignoring some guys who wouldnt respond in such a way, but i dont know what type of guy someone is by one messages so i made the choice to not reply to anyone i had no interest in to make sure i got the rudes one

we cant always get things right i can onl,y do what works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had this problem but can see that single guys could well be subjected to it.

Slightly off topic but rather confused about the number of women in a 'large minority'?????? "

Its an oxymoron.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tell me about it !!!!

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By *weetdebWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"i never reply to men i have no interest in and i make no bones about it

i used to, but i got sick of getting nasty messages back from guys who cant take a polite no thanks and feeling the need to respond to my no thanks by telling me im fat and ugly anyway and they can do better than me down the pub etc

why should you put up with that?

men moan about women not replying to messages but its men who made me not want to, it was the nasty come backs from men that made me think sod it im not sending out no thanks messages anymore, so whos the real rudes one?"
Ditto ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had this problem but can see that single guys could well be subjected to it.

Slightly off topic but rather confused about the number of women in a 'large minority'??????

Its an oxymoron. "

Nahhh that's Gordon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's not an oxymoron because a large minority is not the same as a majority, just a number that deserves closer scrutiny. Thank you for taking the trouble to comment.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Never had this problem but can see that single guys could well be subjected to it.

Slightly off topic but rather confused about the number of women in a 'large minority'?????? "

The two words work perfectly well together .... e.g hispanics are the largest minority in America.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had this problem but can see that single guys could well be subjected to it.

Slightly off topic but rather confused about the number of women in a 'large minority'??????

Its an oxymoron.

Nahhh that's Gordon."

No, the OP is 'Barry'!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I personally dont reply to messages...

My profile is clear enough.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can never understand why people think its bad manners not to reply? If I didn't ask for your mail in first place why should I reply?

Why is it better to get a No thanks message than nothing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not an oxymoron because a large minority is not the same as a majority, just a number that deserves closer scrutiny. Thank you for taking the trouble to comment. "

Think what you meant was a 'significant minority'...

Anyway, why do you expect a reply from all your messages? Do you go to the trouble to contact the pizza place, curry house, chinese, etc etc who put leaflets through your door every week to say 'No thanks'???? Course you don't.

Your messages are a form of advertising, and the same as any advertising - if it doesn't get the attention of the intended 'audience', don't expect action in response.

Basic marketing...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hello barryco ......

I understand perfectly what you are saying. However you lose my vote by making your complaint gender specific.

Clearly you think that women lack manners as it is women who you communicate with on here.

Take it from me it's some 'people.' Some sections of society. Some age groups, some cultures, some moods..... it's NOT exclusively female.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My charming profile pic is not to everyones liking but someone told me this was a sex site and it comes to the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can never understand why people think its bad manners not to reply? If I didn't ask for your mail in first place why should I reply?

Why is it better to get a No thanks message than nothing? "

because a lot of men think if you dont reply your still thinking about it and at least if they get a reply, 3 weeks later they arnt still sat there wondering if you have made your mind up yet or not yet

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"It's not an oxymoron because a large minority is not the same as a majority, just a number that deserves closer scrutiny. Thank you for taking the trouble to comment.

Think what you meant was a 'significant minority'...

Anyway, why do you expect a reply from all your messages? Do you go to the trouble to contact the pizza place, curry house, chinese, etc etc who put leaflets through your door every week to say 'No thanks'???? Course you don't.

Your messages are a form of advertising, and the same as any advertising - if it doesn't get the attention of the intended 'audience', don't expect action in response.

Basic marketing...

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My charming profile pic is not to everyones liking but someone told me this was a sex site and it comes to the point. "

It's a SWINGING site. There is a difference.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I agree with pinky porky perky ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some people have commented that men are just as ignorant. Absolutely true but I can only comment on my experiences.

At least it's got both sides thinking about it.

Have fun everyone, although I am now likely to be blocked by every lady that reads this, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not an oxymoron because a large minority is not the same as a majority, just a number that deserves closer scrutiny. Thank you for taking the trouble to comment. "

Oxymoron:-

An oxymoron (plural oxymora or oxymorons) (from Greek ???µ????, "sharp dull") is a figure of speech that combines contradictory terms. Oxymora appear in a variety of contexts, including inadvertent errors such as ground pilot and literary oxymorons crafted to reveal a paradox.

--

So, technically a 'large minority' can be seen as an oxymoron as it effectively combines two seemingly contradictory terms, namely 'large' and 'minority' - two terms that are superficially contradictory which are juxtaposed in such a way that there is no contradiction.

Have a nice day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced? "

OP, you have no photos, a 2 line profile and an avatar that I, personally, find very unappealing. Why would a woman bother to reply when you've clearly made no effort yourself?

I wonder, having made so little effort, if you bother to read profiles and send decent messages.

You wouldn't spend your time messaging someone who didn't interest you. Neither did they.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again, thank you for all your comments which I will consider as well as the grammar lesson.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people have commented that men are just as ignorant. Absolutely true but I can only comment on my experiences.

At least it's got both sides thinking about it.

Have fun everyone, although I am now likely to be blocked by every lady that reads this, lol. "

Strangely enough, no. There are women on Fabs who will be looking for someone EXACTLY like you. But that is the whole point everyone has been trying (in their own inimitable styles) to put to you - BUT.... you have to put the work in to find them - they will NOT come to you, nor will they answer each and every one of your messages. That's the way it is.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a swinging site not a sex site mate also not replying to a message is not ignorant as others have explained so dont see why you have a bee in your bonnet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can never understand why people think its bad manners not to reply? If I didn't ask for your mail in first place why should I reply?

Why is it better to get a No thanks message than nothing? "

Allegedly you are asking for messages of any type from all and sundry simply by being here. And you're supposed to be flattered and grateful for the attention.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I get cranky when I have the horn .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get cranky when I have the horn ..... "

Is that the horn off your 1927 Bullnosed Morris, Granny...????? (cheeky little sod, ain't I.... )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get cranky when I have the horn ..... "

I get busy when I have the horn. It's having the unrequited horn that makes me grouchy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I get cranky when I have the horn .....

Is that the horn off your 1927 Bullnosed Morris, Granny...????? (cheeky little sod, ain't I.... )

"

Cheeky bleeder ! My man will wave his red flag at you as we pass !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people have commented that men are just as ignorant. Absolutely true but I can only comment on my experiences.

At least it's got both sides thinking about it.

Have fun everyone, although I am now likely to be blocked by every lady that reads this, lol. "

Yes because it's not like we see threads like this every other day to make us "think about it". Congratulations on posting new and thought-provoking material.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Some people have commented that men are just as ignorant. Absolutely true but I can only comment on my experiences.

At least it's got both sides thinking about it.

Have fun everyone, although I am now likely to be blocked by every lady that reads this, lol.

Yes because it's not like we see threads like this every other day to make us "think about it". Congratulations on posting new and thought-provoking material."

Anyone seen the sarky barometer......? I need to measure something

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I'm totally with OP on this! But more in general life.

I was having lunch the other day and my niece started eating beans from the table with her mouth!

Manners of a fucking alley cat!

Yes she is only 2 blah blah blah but my point still stands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people have commented that men are just as ignorant. Absolutely true but I can only comment on my experiences.

At least it's got both sides thinking about it.

Have fun everyone, although I am now likely to be blocked by every lady that reads this, lol.

Yes because it's not like we see threads like this every other day to make us "think about it". Congratulations on posting new and thought-provoking material.

Anyone seen the sarky barometer......? I need to measure something "

I'm an area of high pressure. It's 'cos I have a cold front.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I have on my (detailed) profile I won't reply to anyone outwith what I'm looking for. Filters can keep out a majority of those I'm not interested in meeting, sadly not all.

There is no reason why married, bi, short, Doms etc should expect a reply as they're not what I'm looking for, yet I've seen some of them start threads like this stating how polite they were blah blah. Polite they might have been, but I check the profile first and delete if they're not what I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get cranky when I have the horn .....

I get busy when I have the horn. It's having the unrequited horn that makes me grouchy. "

You can come round to Kent and bring your horn to get requited anytime... and bring your cold front too...

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Ahh so for the avoidance of doubt you need to block as well then. Tht's only fair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the invite but you have blocked all men, lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I once met a very rude woman. When I said "wanna fuck?" she said "piss off" and then her boyfriend said "or I'll fucking knock you out". Why couldn't they have been polite and said "no thank you, but thank you for asking"? Eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get cranky when I have the horn .....

I get busy when I have the horn. It's having the unrequited horn that makes me grouchy.

You can come round to Kent and bring your horn to get requited anytime... and bring your cold front too...

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have had a lot of positive feedback, and some abuse over this topic and in a way it illustrates what I was saying.

It has been emotional, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced? "

I had a similar experience with a male last night, he sent a message, I sent back a polite thanks but no thanks, happy swinging message, in which I recieved nothing but abuse from the guy. From now on not going to waste my time saying no thanks politely to be called every name under the sun.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There's been a few times I've had messages deleted without reply. Doesn't bother me - I'm obviously not what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once met a very rude woman. When I said "wanna fuck?" she said "piss off" and then her boyfriend said "or I'll fucking knock you out". Why couldn't they have been polite and said "no thank you, but thank you for asking"? Eh? "

PMSL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well most of the half decent guys won't touch the rude and abusive women with a barge pole. Just leave them to wonder why the only guys they get are the guys that are as big an asshole as they are.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced? "

I had manners once.... but after a few monster cocks they seem to have been shagged out of me. I have tried looking everywhere for them... under the bed... down the side of the sofa... in the layby on the B6743.... nope can't find them anywhere.

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton


"Well most of the half decent guys won't touch the rude and abusive women with a barge pole. Just leave them to wonder why the only guys they get are the guys that are as big an asshole as they are. "

I agree with this. However, I've spoken to some nasty men on here and unfortunately for ages that made me just treat all messages the same and didn't think twice about not replying or deleting without reading. I've changed now because my faith in the male community has been restored. My point is that there is probably a 'treat others how you've been treated' response in play. It sounds like these women have either had a rough time, or else they're just up themselves. Whatever the case, it is rough with the smooth on here so don't take it personally if you don't get a reply. It could be for any reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well most of the half decent guys won't touch the rude and abusive women with a barge pole. Just leave them to wonder why the only guys they get are the guys that are as big an asshole as they are.

I agree with this. However, I've spoken to some nasty men on here and unfortunately for ages that made me just treat all messages the same and didn't think twice about not replying or deleting without reading. I've changed now because my faith in the male community has been restored. My point is that there is probably a 'treat others how you've been treated' response in play. It sounds like these women have either had a rough time, or else they're just up themselves. Whatever the case, it is rough with the smooth on here so don't take it personally if you don't get a reply. It could be for any reason. "

I doubt it is a minority who are up themselves. Ugly as sin women and cpls can rule this site and meet ten men per day of they wished because most men will fuck anything with a pulse. If men were more discerning then the rude dogs would be bolloxed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well most of the half decent guys won't touch the rude and abusive women with a barge pole. Just leave them to wonder why the only guys they get are the guys that are as big an asshole as they are.

I agree with this. However, I've spoken to some nasty men on here and unfortunately for ages that made me just treat all messages the same and didn't think twice about not replying or deleting without reading. I've changed now because my faith in the male community has been restored. My point is that there is probably a 'treat others how you've been treated' response in play. It sounds like these women have either had a rough time, or else they're just up themselves. Whatever the case, it is rough with the smooth on here so don't take it personally if you don't get a reply. It could be for any reason. "

Yeah exactly. When i've come across any borderline abuse i've just acted politely. One that did it then said i'd 'passed the test' when I responded politely with a 'sorry to bother you' after receiving a load of abuse. Needless to say her attitude actually made me NOT want to meet her anyway. It put me off her.

But i've also seen inboxes from the female side of things so I know all about the guys that keep barraging them with "fancy a shag?" "why not?" "why?" "But whats wrong with me i am your type?" etc.

I know about women having guys abuse their weight etc just because they've had a 'no thanks'. Some of it has looked really childish and I totally get what women go through.

Only problem is looking back at that, they'll end up with the decent guys not wanting to bother and solely the completely retarded knuckle-draggers messaging them.

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton


"Well most of the half decent guys won't touch the rude and abusive women with a barge pole. Just leave them to wonder why the only guys they get are the guys that are as big an asshole as they are.

I agree with this. However, I've spoken to some nasty men on here and unfortunately for ages that made me just treat all messages the same and didn't think twice about not replying or deleting without reading. I've changed now because my faith in the male community has been restored. My point is that there is probably a 'treat others how you've been treated' response in play. It sounds like these women have either had a rough time, or else they're just up themselves. Whatever the case, it is rough with the smooth on here so don't take it personally if you don't get a reply. It could be for any reason.

I doubt it is a minority who are up themselves. Ugly as sin women and cpls can rule this site and meet ten men per day of they wished because most men will fuck anything with a pulse. If men were more discerning then the rude dogs would be bolloxed"

I agree with this too. But it could be because they are up themselves or they they've had a rough time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't a girl just get simple adoration and worshipped to within an inch of her pedestal any more? tuttttt!

No not if your profile is hidden "

Now you're not really trying are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well most of the half decent guys won't touch the rude and abusive women with a barge pole. Just leave them to wonder why the only guys they get are the guys that are as big an asshole as they are.

I agree with this. However, I've spoken to some nasty men on here and unfortunately for ages that made me just treat all messages the same and didn't think twice about not replying or deleting without reading. I've changed now because my faith in the male community has been restored. My point is that there is probably a 'treat others how you've been treated' response in play. It sounds like these women have either had a rough time, or else they're just up themselves. Whatever the case, it is rough with the smooth on here so don't take it personally if you don't get a reply. It could be for any reason.

I doubt it is a minority who are up themselves. Ugly as sin women and cpls can rule this site and meet ten men per day of they wished because most men will fuck anything with a pulse. If men were more discerning then the rude dogs would be bolloxed"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Okay I finally admit it!

You forced me into it so don't blame me!

I DON'T come here for the sex. I come for the manners......

Manners me up someone...... in every orifice !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm well i do try to reply to messages that are not asking "meet right now" or "hey baby , fancy a fuck" I spend alot of my time here in the forums so my inbox does tend to build up. Even more so since my Halloween avatar was put up... some kinky zombie fuckers in here i tell you!!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

@OP, these kind of posts are only supposed to be made in the private area that only us single males can access.

Didn't anyone explain the rules to you when you joined?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest, a lot of the straight single blokes are on here, because they cannot find a partner in the non-scene community. Their abusive messaging does tell you why they find difficulty both in and out of the scene. Nobody likes a dickhead, and they just don't seem to understand that. The neanderthal methods they employ never cease to amaze me. Do they really think that the cyber equivalent of clubbing a woman over the head and dragging her off by her hair will be a turn on?"

Brilliant! And so true!!

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"What is is today??? It's not Rant Thursday, but I ain't coming out of the shelter !!

Better go to make way for the next 'incoming'.....

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced? "
got to agree ! Think a great deal of women take advantage because men are out number'd on sites like this so they treat men unfairly when it comes to respect and manners !

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced? "

I clearly state on my profile what I'm looking for and I do try to read every message..but when a guy sends a message that says wanna fuck now..i don;t bother...he hasn;t shown me the respect to read my profile and actually take on board what I've said so sod him....When you do respond back and say you're not what I'm looking for, some guys (note some) see this as a foot in the door....Easier sometimes not to get into that....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that even though I have told people a long time ago that I was not interested, they still insist on periodically messaging me and then wonder why I no longer respond to them. To which they then send me a message slagging me off for bad manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of it this way would you reply to every spam email you get or all the junk mail that comes through the door or do you reply to the ones that take your eye or that 100th chinese takaway menu that comes through. Think about it x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I look at it this way..... if someone hasn't read my profile or choose to ignore what my profile said.... then why shouldn't I do the same to their message?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Think of it this way would you reply to every spam email you get or all the junk mail that comes through the door or do you reply to the ones that take your eye or that 100th chinese takaway menu that comes through. Think about it x"

I see this scenario mentioned frequently but I don't think that analogy works.

Spam email and flyers through the door are unsolicited, whereas having a profile on here shows that you are seeking contact from others. Fair enough if someone has hidden their profile then I don't see a problem with ignoring messages, but if you're advertising yourself - which most of us do - then you are purposefully seeking contact from other members.

I think a better analogy would be if you have expressly shown an interest in something, e.g. you completed a survey about life insurance and agreed to being contacted by a salesperson at a later time. How many people would just hang up if they then got a phone call about life insurance later that evening? Or is it more likely you'd be polite and explain you're not interested in their offer for whatever reason.

I'd also question how many of us have the balls to blatantly ignore someone "in real life" who has gone to the effort of contacting you personally, i.e. not just some impersonal mailshot shoved through your letterbox. If the local Jehovah's Witness knocks at your door do any of us remain steadfastly seated in front of the telly pretending they're not there? Or, even worse, when you've opened the door to then realise who's there do any of us simply slam the door in their face without so much as a How's Your Father? Or do we instead come up with some polite excuse as to why we don't want their magazine or to discuss the role of religion in today's society?

I'd wager it's not that many.

Yet, for some reason, when we're sat at our computers and with the safety net that the anonymity of using the internet affords us, we're suddenly capable of ignoring people who have dared to show an interest in (to borrow a legal term) our "invitation to treat".

If the Jehovah's Witness is worthy of some recognition and common courtesy then surely the same rule should apply to the sender of the message you received last.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

ps - that last post isn't specific to women... it transcends all genders and relationship statuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced? "

So are you saying that if they don't reply you point out to them that's its rude ? .Its not contempt not to reply to a message .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of it this way would you reply to every spam email you get or all the junk mail that comes through the door or do you reply to the ones that take your eye or that 100th chinese takaway menu that comes through. Think about it x

I see this scenario mentioned frequently but I don't think that analogy works.

Spam email and flyers through the door are unsolicited, whereas having a profile on here shows that you are seeking contact from others. Fair enough if someone has hidden their profile then I don't see a problem with ignoring messages, but if you're advertising yourself - which most of us do - then you are purposefully seeking contact from other members.

I think a better analogy would be if you have expressly shown an interest in something, e.g. you completed a survey about life insurance and agreed to being contacted by a salesperson at a later time. How many people would just hang up if they then got a phone call about life insurance later that evening? Or is it more likely you'd be polite and explain you're not interested in their offer for whatever reason.

I'd also question how many of us have the balls to blatantly ignore someone "in real life" who has gone to the effort of contacting you personally, i.e. not just some impersonal mailshot shoved through your letterbox. If the local Jehovah's Witness knocks at your door do any of us remain steadfastly seated in front of the telly pretending they're not there? Or, even worse, when you've opened the door to then realise who's there do any of us simply slam the door in their face without so much as a How's Your Father? Or do we instead come up with some polite excuse as to why we don't want their magazine or to discuss the role of religion in today's society?

I'd wager it's not that many.

Yet, for some reason, when we're sat at our computers and with the safety net that the anonymity of using the internet affords us, we're suddenly capable of ignoring people who have dared to show an interest in (to borrow a legal term) our "invitation to treat".

If the Jehovah's Witness is worthy of some recognition and common courtesy then surely the same rule should apply to the sender of the message you received last."

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced?

So are you saying that if they don't reply you point out to them that's its rude ? .Its not contempt not to reply to a message . "

I have a particular dislike of cock avatars and cock pics sent to me ..I think THAT is rude and unnecessary!

you would have needed to send an exceptional message to make me reply .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a self portrait not a pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get used to it to be honest but what is bugging me at the moment is the amount of couple profiles stating male half only meeting at the moment, I suspect this is single males masquerading as couples maybe admin should look into this, finding it perplexing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced?

So are you saying that if they don't reply you point out to them that's its rude ? .Its not contempt not to reply to a message .

I have a particular dislike of cock avatars and cock pics sent to me ..I think THAT is rude and unnecessary!

you would have needed to send an exceptional message to make me reply . "

I have never had and never will have a cock picture on my profile, 90% of cock pics look the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even with my profile clearly stating only meeting socially at present when I checked before writing this I had 23 unread messages.

When I am meeting this is a lot more. I do try to reply to all messages but sometimes the delete all button is great.

Cali"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need manners, I have a vagina

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By *rlicker123Man
over a year ago

gillingham kent

ill never ask twice if its no,or no answer you'll never here from me again.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Think of it this way would you reply to every spam email you get or all the junk mail that comes through the door or do you reply to the ones that take your eye or that 100th chinese takaway menu that comes through. Think about it x

I see this scenario mentioned frequently but I don't think that analogy works.

Spam email and flyers through the door are unsolicited, whereas having a profile on here shows that you are seeking contact from others. Fair enough if someone has hidden their profile then I don't see a problem with ignoring messages, but if you're advertising yourself - which most of us do - then you are purposefully seeking contact from other members.

I think a better analogy would be if you have expressly shown an interest in something, e.g. you completed a survey about life insurance and agreed to being contacted by a salesperson at a later time. How many people would just hang up if they then got a phone call about life insurance later that evening? Or is it more likely you'd be polite and explain you're not interested in their offer for whatever reason.

I'd also question how many of us have the balls to blatantly ignore someone "in real life" who has gone to the effort of contacting you personally, i.e. not just some impersonal mailshot shoved through your letterbox. If the local Jehovah's Witness knocks at your door do any of us remain steadfastly seated in front of the telly pretending they're not there? Or, even worse, when you've opened the door to then realise who's there do any of us simply slam the door in their face without so much as a How's Your Father? Or do we instead come up with some polite excuse as to why we don't want their magazine or to discuss the role of religion in today's society?

I'd wager it's not that many.

Yet, for some reason, when we're sat at our computers and with the safety net that the anonymity of using the internet affords us, we're suddenly capable of ignoring people who have dared to show an interest in (to borrow a legal term) our "invitation to treat".

If the Jehovah's Witness is worthy of some recognition and common courtesy then surely the same rule should apply to the sender of the message you received last."

I have an interest in broadband and the television. I have expressed that interest by buying televisions. a license and paying for my internet connection.

Mr Branson, or Richie as I like to call him, sends me letters every month. Some generic letters to 'the householder' and some addressed to me personally....... Richie never gets a bag on when I don't reply.

Many phones have caller ID, some phone service providers even let you block callers who hide their ID......... people ignore the phone ringing everyday.

But the point you seem to be missing, clearly stated in the FAQ's section of the site.... the site itself states it is NOT rude to not reply.

Now you can either accept that as an adult or you can whinge on about not getting something you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of it this way would you reply to every spam email you get or all the junk mail that comes through the door or do you reply to the ones that take your eye or that 100th chinese takaway menu that comes through. Think about it x

I see this scenario mentioned frequently but I don't think that analogy works.

Spam email and flyers through the door are unsolicited, whereas having a profile on here shows that you are seeking contact from others. Fair enough if someone has hidden their profile then I don't see a problem with ignoring messages, but if you're advertising yourself - which most of us do - then you are purposefully seeking contact from other members.

I think a better analogy would be if you have expressly shown an interest in something, e.g. you completed a survey about life insurance and agreed to being contacted by a salesperson at a later time. How many people would just hang up if they then got a phone call about life insurance later that evening? Or is it more likely you'd be polite and explain you're not interested in their offer for whatever reason.

I'd also question how many of us have the balls to blatantly ignore someone "in real life" who has gone to the effort of contacting you personally, i.e. not just some impersonal mailshot shoved through your letterbox. If the local Jehovah's Witness knocks at your door do any of us remain steadfastly seated in front of the telly pretending they're not there? Or, even worse, when you've opened the door to then realise who's there do any of us simply slam the door in their face without so much as a How's Your Father? Or do we instead come up with some polite excuse as to why we don't want their magazine or to discuss the role of religion in today's society?

I'd wager it's not that many.

Yet, for some reason, when we're sat at our computers and with the safety net that the anonymity of using the internet affords us, we're suddenly capable of ignoring people who have dared to show an interest in (to borrow a legal term) our "invitation to treat".

If the Jehovah's Witness is worthy of some recognition and common courtesy then surely the same rule should apply to the sender of the message you received last.

I have an interest in broadband and the television. I have expressed that interest by buying televisions. a license and paying for my internet connection.

Mr Branson, or Richie as I like to call him, sends me letters every month. Some generic letters to 'the householder' and some addressed to me personally....... Richie never gets a bag on when I don't reply.

Many phones have caller ID, some phone service providers even let you block callers who hide their ID......... people ignore the phone ringing everyday.

But the point you seem to be missing, clearly stated in the FAQ's section of the site.... the site itself states it is NOT rude to not reply.

Now you can either accept that as an adult or you can whinge on about not getting something you want."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be pretty hacked off if I was getting multiple Jehovah's Witnesses knocking on my door every day. That would go double if many of them thrust their mag immediately into my face with the words "wanna mag?"

If that were the case, I think most people would fairly soon start being rude.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"

I have an interest in broadband and the television. I have expressed that interest by buying televisions. a license and paying for my internet connection.

Mr Branson, or Richie as I like to call him, sends me letters every month. Some generic letters to 'the householder' and some addressed to me personally....... Richie never gets a bag on when I don't reply.

Many phones have caller ID, some phone service providers even let you block callers who hide their ID......... people ignore the phone ringing everyday.

But the point you seem to be missing, clearly stated in the FAQ's section of the site.... the site itself states it is NOT rude to not reply.

Now you can either accept that as an adult or you can whinge on about not getting something you want."

I get the point, thanks. Just because I disagree with it doesn't mean I don't get it.

The point I was making (I won't assume you didn't get it... maybe you did and chose to ignore it ) was that a mailshot - and I include ones where the company has managed to include a customer's name in this category - is largely unsolicited.

There is also very little human interaction involved in sending out a million mailshots to a million different customers. I hate to break it to you like this but you'renot the only person to receive letters from Dickie Branson... in fact they're not really from him at all. Some marketing person designed and wrote it then printed gazillions of the things. They get their pay cheque regardless of whether you have read it or you shred it.

As for not whinging and "accepting that like an adult" (I didn't see my response as childlike but ho-hum) I have the same feeling when I see females and couples whinging about receiving one-line messages or copy-and-paste messages... perhaps they're somehow linked - blokes get pissed off when original and personalized messages are deleted and ignored so resort to writing shorter and shorter messages, which leads to women and couples whinging about the unoriginal and one-line messages... and so it continues ad infinitum.

Just a thought

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"I'd be pretty hacked off if I was getting multiple Jehovah's Witnesses knocking on my door every day. That would go double if many of them thrust their mag immediately into my face with the words "wanna mag?"

If that were the case, I think most people would fairly soon start being rude."

Would you still feel the same way if you had gone out of your way to inform those Jehovah's Witnesses that you wanted them to contact you? And bearing in mind that each new one you encounter is unaware of the previous encounters you had.

ps - apologies to any Jehovah's Witnesses reading this thread... you were just the first thing that sprang to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i never reply to men i have no interest in and i make no bones about it

i used to, but i got sick of getting nasty messages back from guys who cant take a polite no thanks and feeling the need to respond to my no thanks by telling me im fat and ugly anyway and they can do better than me down the pub etc

why should you put up with that?

men moan about women not replying to messages but its men who made me not want to, it was the nasty come backs from men that made me think sod it im not sending out no thanks messages anymore, so whos the real rudes one?"

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced?

So are you saying that if they don't reply you point out to them that's its rude ? .Its not contempt not to reply to a message .

I have a particular dislike of cock avatars and cock pics sent to me ..I think THAT is rude and unnecessary!

you would have needed to send an exceptional message to make me reply .

I have never had and never will have a cock picture on my profile, 90% of cock pics look the same"

I prefer a cock pic to a pic of a man running along with a gun in his hand....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My philosophy is that women get loads of messages from guys on here. Yeah a polite no thanks not interested etc would be nice in an ideal world but if there getting loads of male, fancy a shag, wanna fuck etc etc why should they reply. Guys mail me pretty much the same as I'm looking for guys, women and couple. If anyone mails mails with one liners I just delete them. I don't get that much mail but it pisses me off with a few one liners a day. I ignore them and delete so can see why women won't reply either.

I have on my profile if a women or couple wants to get in touch feel free but I won't make the first move. Maybe that's lazy but that's my way.

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By *ingmasterMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"

I have an interest in broadband and the television. I have expressed that interest by buying televisions. a license and paying for my internet connection.

Mr Branson, or Richie as I like to call him, sends me letters every month. Some generic letters to 'the householder' and some addressed to me personally....... Richie never gets a bag on when I don't reply.

Many phones have caller ID, some phone service providers even let you block callers who hide their ID......... people ignore the phone ringing everyday.

But the point you seem to be missing, clearly stated in the FAQ's section of the site.... the site itself states it is NOT rude to not reply.

Now you can either accept that as an adult or you can whinge on about not getting something you want.

I get the point, thanks. Just because I disagree with it doesn't mean I don't get it.

The point I was making (I won't assume you didn't get it... maybe you did and chose to ignore it ) was that a mailshot - and I include ones where the company has managed to include a customer's name in this category - is largely unsolicited.

There is also very little human interaction involved in sending out a million mailshots to a million different customers. I hate to break it to you like this but you'renot the only person to receive letters from Dickie Branson... in fact they're not really from him at all. Some marketing person designed and wrote it then printed gazillions of the things. They get their pay cheque regardless of whether you have read it or you shred it.

As for not whinging and "accepting that like an adult" (I didn't see my response as childlike but ho-hum) I have the same feeling when I see females and couples whinging about receiving one-line messages or copy-and-paste messages... perhaps they're somehow linked - blokes get pissed off when original and personalized messages are deleted and ignored so resort to writing shorter and shorter messages, which leads to women and couples whinging about the unoriginal and one-line messages... and so it continues ad infinitum.

Just a thought "

Bingo . in a nutshell . its cause and effect . to continue the religious analogy , what ye sew ye shall reap .

amen

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

....

As for not whinging and "accepting that like an adult" (I didn't see my response as childlike but ho-hum) I have the same feeling when I see females and couples whinging about receiving one-line messages or copy-and-paste messages... perhaps they're somehow linked - blokes get pissed off when original and personalized messages are deleted and ignored so resort to writing shorter and shorter messages, which leads to women and couples whinging about the unoriginal and one-line messages... and so it continues ad infinitum.

Just a thought "

You may be right... and what does it say about them?

I didn't get what I want so fuck it the next people I write to can pay the price!

Seriously, how adult is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be pretty hacked off if I was getting multiple Jehovah's Witnesses knocking on my door every day. That would go double if many of them thrust their mag immediately into my face with the words "wanna mag?"

If that were the case, I think most people would fairly soon start being rude.

Would you still feel the same way if you had gone out of your way to inform those Jehovah's Witnesses that you wanted them to contact you? And bearing in mind that each new one you encounter is unaware of the previous encounters you had.

ps - apologies to any Jehovah's Witnesses reading this thread... you were just the first thing that sprang to mind "

Yes, I'm fairly sure I'd find it very tedious, very soon.

I'd be even more annoyed if multiple representatives of other groups, not Jehovah's Witnesses, started visiting continually on the off-chance I may have changed my mind about Jehovah's Witnesses, or that they could maybe pretend they are Jehovah's Witnesses, or that I might not notice they aren't, or that they might be able to persuade me to abandon my preferences in favour of what they are offering.

As for the ones who haven't even bothered to note I've expressed an interest specifically in Jehovah's Witnesses...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok here is another suggestion if you get say 30 messages all saying the same fancy a fuck or passing through messages would you answer everyone. Or a message that makes you stop and think or a cheeky one that makes you giggle. There are a lot of people on here and not every single member will float your boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a note in regard to the Richard Branson analogy. Of course he's not gonna get upset about not getting a reply. He doesn't send the messages himself! He doesn't waste his TIME sending them.

I'm pretty sure NO single guy on here has a company of people working for him sending messages to women + couples on his behalf.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Ok here is another suggestion if you get say 30 messages all saying the same fancy a fuck or passing through messages would you answer everyone. Or a message that makes you stop and think or a cheeky one that makes you giggle. There are a lot of people on here and not every single member will float your boat."

I'd love to get 30 messages a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners costs nothing and I agree many women here do think they have the monopoly on swinging! A simple, thanks but no thanks has never caused me any problems!

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Manners costs nothing and I agree many women here do think they have the monopoly on swinging! A simple, thanks but no thanks has never caused me any problems! "

I've just politely said thanks but no thanks and been told I'm a time waster for it lol

Sj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners costs nothing and I agree many women here do think they have the monopoly on swinging! A simple, thanks but no thanks has never caused me any problems! "
same here , i always reply, but being an old git , i dont get many messages. as for rudeness, 1 of my " friends " wont reply unless its a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners costs nothing and I agree many women here do think they have the monopoly on swinging! A simple, thanks but no thanks has never caused me any problems!

I've just politely said thanks but no thanks and been told I'm a time waster for it lol

Sj"

Dont worry at least you have had the manners to reply, if thats their response, you definitely know it wasnt meant to be and you made the right choice to dump it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not to bothered as i have had meets and veris to prove it. just playing her at her game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't a girl just get simple adoration and worshipped to within an inch of her pedestal any more? tuttttt! "

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on this site for about 18 months and in that time I have met and exchanged messages with some very nice people.

However, there is a very large minority of women who are utterly ignorant and treat men in a contemptuous way.

Laughably, when you read their profiles, many will insist on only meeting respectful and considerate men.

I always reply to messages whether I am interested or not. However it is such a rare event for a woman to bother if they are not interested and they will simply delete my message. They claim to not have the time as they are inundated.

However, when I point this out to them, they miraculously find the time to send me an abusive message and then block me.

Am I being naive in expecting mutual respect? Is swinging only for the hard faced? "

Its the women that are not exactly models that think that they are in their attitude that get to me lol Supper model, yeah right!

Just ignore the arogant people and sift to the ones that are worth while

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Just a note in regard to the Richard Branson analogy. Of course he's not gonna get upset about not getting a reply. He doesn't send the messages himself! He doesn't waste his TIME sending them.

I'm pretty sure NO single guy on here has a company of people working for him sending messages to women + couples on his behalf."

BlondeDaz does - bastard's had me enslaved for years when he takes over...thank fuck he can only do it on a Thursday when I've taken valium

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm a supermodel by any stretch of the imagination.

However I am a lot less desperate than most of the men on here.

I don't see why I shouldn't have high standards. If men I am attracted to want to meet me, why would I say no? If I'm not getting meets with men I am attracted to, I can lower my standards or go without.

My choice would be to go without.

I have high standards. I don't look like a supermodel but I have plenty of other positive attributes. Even if I didn't, I can have whatever standards I like. Whether or not I can get what I want is the question. I make no apology at all for having high standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i never reply to men i have no interest in and i make no bones about it

i used to, but i got sick of getting nasty messages back from guys who cant take a polite no thanks and feeling the need to respond to my no thanks by telling me im fat and ugly anyway and they can do better than me down the pub etc

why should you put up with that?

men moan about women not replying to messages but its men who made me not want to, it was the nasty come backs from men that made me think sod it im not sending out no thanks messages anymore, so whos the real rudes one?"

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By *umsuckMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

I have no problem with not getting a reply to a message. I'm not what they are looking for,fair enough. I did however get a rather rude message from a couple I'd made no attempt to contact because I'd fabbed one of their pics and their profile said no bi-guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love these threads!

Does make me wonder how long some people spend repeatedly hitting the 'sent message' button just to check if a message has been read and/or deleted - rather than constructively use their time browsing profiles, sending other messages or enjoying the forums!

If someone's going to reply - they will - a watched kettle never boils any quicker and if you keep flipping the switch - it'll eventually explode - possibly in your face!

Random analogy I know - but I've been at the cheese tonight!

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