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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Posted this in the Lounge but this is probably the more appropriate part of the forum.

Who is into interracial sex? Personally I have a huge love of black and Asian women. Do any women of colour here have a particular preference for white men (give me a shout if you do!) or does anyone have a preference for any particular variation on this?

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
over a year ago

Live Sussex, Work London

I’m attracted to some people not to others. It’s not related to their ethnicity but the person

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We have no preference as long as the person/couple is not a dick or cunt.

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By *rDiscretionXXXMan
over a year ago

Gilfach

I have a problem with the whole idea that 'interracial' is a thing.

We don't have a name for 'redhead with a blonde' porn, or 'Asian with an Egyptian' porn, but 'black with a white' gets its own special category.

I can see that the juxtaposition of dark and light skin can be aesthetically pleasing, I have no problem with that. I can see that one might find a particular skin colour more attractive, there's nothing wrong with having a preference. However I have a problem with the whole idea that black and white people are different, and that mixing them is somehow titilating.

Still, each to his own I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a problem with the whole idea that 'interracial' is a thing.

We don't have a name for 'redhead with a blonde' porn, or 'Asian with an Egyptian' porn, but 'black with a white' gets its own special category.

I can see that the juxtaposition of dark and light skin can be aesthetically pleasing, I have no problem with that. I can see that one might find a particular skin colour more attractive, there's nothing wrong with having a preference. However I have a problem with the whole idea that black and white people are different, and that mixing them is somehow titilating.

Still, each to his own I suppose."

Well everything needs a category as people are looking for certain things that's like saying don't call it a gang bang as its just a bunch of individuals having sex with each other. It's a porn term . What are people suppose to say white couple seeking black male. Each to their own I see no problem with making it a category

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
over a year ago

Live Sussex, Work London

If we get on to porn terms. So many are so offensive around the trans community. It’s an instant block from me when I’m called many of them

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By *ayswa78928Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

My partner and I spoken about 3 sums however probably would NOT have one with a white guy due to a lot of white men I've met say things like "I would love to fuck a black woman" rather than just a woman.

I just prefer darker skins, always have since I was 9. I thought Whitney Houston was the most beautiful exotic woman I had ever seen and nothing much has changed.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Guess its rather annoying as people are seems only as a "Fetish" rather than a person and being used.....

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

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awesome response guys

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

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Interesting post.

We're similar, been together 30 years, I'm (f), white my hubby's black.

We were both enthusiastic participants in this lifestyle until around 10 years ago, we played separately and as a couple, he now only meets old friends we've met through this lifestyle.

Things started to change for him as it became increasingly clear we were a novelty act to many we met together as a couple and especially some people he met on his own.

Race fetishisation has been around for centuries but I believe it's more recently been legitimised by the proliferation and easy access to pornography and clever producers who've latched onto baser human instincts. The language used to describe interracial sex is increasingly dehumanising and animalistic-bbc, blacked, bull etc etc, etc.

Over time it became tiresome when he/we were constantly asked if he was a "BBC", conflating a human being with his genitals, which so many here don't understand why it's problematic, or worse choose to be in denial about it.

The most exceptional black men I've encountered feel the same and wouldn't meet white women/couples who want to fetishise them, these women/couples are missing out on some great experiences.

Totally understand people have an interest in others of a different race, but it can be expressed without the resorting to fetish language which is some cases reveals what people really think about people of colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

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Your posts on this topic are always refreshing

Whenever the topic of race comes up and black people comment about not wanting to be fetshised and reduced to our skin colour we always get a mass of white people telling us that we're making something out of nothing

You and Joan of Arc seem to be a couple of the few white people (when it's the white half commenting obviously) who acknowledge that this is a thing and don't dismiss it as 'playing the race card' x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no issue meeting white men as I don't fetiishise race and find my attraction towards people isn't necessarily based on skin colour

How ever if I'm speaking to a white guy on here and race gets mentioned or I get made to feel that they're only interested in me because I'm black they get blocked.

I personally find it strange when white people love the idea of sex with black or Asian people but wouldn't date one or bring one home to meet their parents.....

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I have no issue meeting white men as I don't fetiishise race and find my attraction towards people isn't necessarily based on skin colour

How ever if I'm speaking to a white guy on here and race gets mentioned or I get made to feel that they're only interested in me because I'm black they get blocked.

I personally find it strange when white people love the idea of sex with black or Asian people but wouldn't date one or bring one home to meet their parents....."
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100%

I have no problem dating white women, but as soon I hear are you a BBC or a bull. I switch off and move on, I have no time that nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no issue meeting white men as I don't fetiishise race and find my attraction towards people isn't necessarily based on skin colour

How ever if I'm speaking to a white guy on here and race gets mentioned or I get made to feel that they're only interested in me because I'm black they get blocked.

I personally find it strange when white people love the idea of sex with black or Asian people but wouldn't date one or bring one home to meet their parents......

100%

I have no problem dating white women, but as soon I hear are you a BBC or a bull. I switch off and move on, I have no time that nonsense. "

The strangest thing for me is when you mention to them that those kind of comments are borderline offensive or damaging they don't get it

But when you say something similar to them you're the bad guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes BBC and stupid labels equal ??. I'm all for preference and all of that but soon as someone calls Tezza BBC we lose interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find the term BBC abit cringey same as BWC etc . There's nothing wrong with the word interracial as people say they are in interracial relationships .. however you do see alot of black guys here saying they are looking for white wife's and white pussy etc and them labelling themselves as BBC so that's why there is so much of it around .. cuckold is also cringey as hell. But if a couple if genuinely looking for a black guy to bring into there sex life I don't see why that's offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with you just browsing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find the term BBC abit cringey same as BWC etc . There's nothing wrong with the word interracial as people say they are in interracial relationships .. however you do see alot of black guys here saying they are looking for white wife's and white pussy etc and them labelling themselves as BBC so that's why there is so much of it around .. cuckold is also cringey as hell. But if a couple if genuinely looking for a black guy to bring into there sex life I don't see why that's offensive "

Funny that you've said that you find the term BBC cringey yet on another interracial topic you refered to white women wanting to have sex with black men as a 'kink'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some really refreshing posts here, so different to the usual "it's just preference".

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I do find the term BBC abit cringey same as BWC etc . There's nothing wrong with the word interracial as people say they are in interracial relationships .. however you do see alot of black guys here saying they are looking for white wife's and white pussy etc and them labelling themselves as BBC so that's why there is so much of it around .. cuckold is also cringey as hell. But if a couple if genuinely looking for a black guy to bring into there sex life I don't see why that's offensive "

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Your last point isn't offensive as far as I'm concerned.

As for black guys describing themselves as BBC, that's a matter for them but they've equally been influenced by porn since it's only in the last 10-15 years such terminology has become widespread and they've realised it's a role they can play into for easy sex with some white people.

Besides which the fact some men refer to themselves this way doesn't make it universally acceptable amongst black men and that mindset sort of endorses the view that black men are a 'thing' rather than a collection of individuals with a range of personalities and opinions.

After all some women refer to themselves as 'sluts', that doesn't mean when talking about women it's OK to refer to them as sluts!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended "

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste. "

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another? "

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Love me some interracial 'hanky panky' but fun fact!

I've never had sexual relations with lady of my own ethnicity

Why? Fuck knows haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love me some interracial 'hanky panky' but fun fact!

I've never had sexual relations with lady of my own ethnicity

Why? Fuck knows haha"

At 33 you've never been a black woman?

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"Love me some interracial 'hanky panky' but fun fact!

I've never had sexual relations with lady of my own ethnicity

Why? Fuck knows haha

At 33 you've never been a black woman? "

Never

Most intimate I've been was holding hands & that was back at high-school prom lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love me some interracial 'hanky panky' but fun fact!

I've never had sexual relations with lady of my own ethnicity

Why? Fuck knows haha"

It could be due to a numbers game, we are in a majority white country, and depending where you are from in UK there may not me too many women of colour to mingle with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another? "

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view."

Many people do and don’t and OP clearly started the post for those into interracial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view.

Many people do and don’t and OP clearly started the post for those into interracial "

There's a difference between being into interracial and being fetishised based on race...

The couple you're replying to are an interracial couple who understand the difference between the two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view.

Many people do and don’t and OP clearly started the post for those into interracial

There's a difference between being into interracial and being fetishised based on race...

The couple you're replying to are an interracial couple who understand the difference between the two "

That’s fine, I just don’t understand why being fetishised is a bad thing if done with good taste

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By *uggiedMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

As soon as the word BBC is mentioned I move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view.

Many people do and don’t and OP clearly started the post for those into interracial

There's a difference between being into interracial and being fetishised based on race...

The couple you're replying to are an interracial couple who understand the difference between the two

That’s fine, I just don’t understand why being fetishised is a bad thing if done with good taste "

It's impossible to fetishise people in 'good taste'

It's essentially reducing black men down to nothing but their genitals

If you're happy with that and it works for you then keep doing your thing bit it's not upto to you tell people that they shouldn't be offended by it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find the term BBC abit cringey same as BWC etc . There's nothing wrong with the word interracial as people say they are in interracial relationships .. however you do see alot of black guys here saying they are looking for white wife's and white pussy etc and them labelling themselves as BBC so that's why there is so much of it around .. cuckold is also cringey as hell. But if a couple if genuinely looking for a black guy to bring into there sex life I don't see why that's offensive

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Your last point isn't offensive as far as I'm concerned.

As for black guys describing themselves as BBC, that's a matter for them but they've equally been influenced by porn since it's only in the last 10-15 years such terminology has become widespread and they've realised it's a role they can play into for easy sex with some white people.

Besides which the fact some men refer to themselves this way doesn't make it universally acceptable amongst black men and that mindset sort of endorses the view that black men are a 'thing' rather than a collection of individuals with a range of personalities and opinions.

After all some women refer to themselves as 'sluts', that doesn't mean when talking about women it's OK to refer to them as sluts!"

Good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love me some interracial 'hanky panky' but fun fact!

I've never had sexual relations with lady of my own ethnicity

Why? Fuck knows haha"

Nothing wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of the day everyone is going to have different opinions about this .. some guys like calling themselves bbc some don't. Some women like being called sluts some don't..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find the term BBC abit cringey same as BWC etc . There's nothing wrong with the word interracial as people say they are in interracial relationships .. however you do see alot of black guys here saying they are looking for white wife's and white pussy etc and them labelling themselves as BBC so that's why there is so much of it around .. cuckold is also cringey as hell. But if a couple if genuinely looking for a black guy to bring into there sex life I don't see why that's offensive

Funny that you've said that you find the term BBC cringey yet on another interracial topic you refered to white women wanting to have sex with black men as a 'kink'"

Yes but I didn't say BBC . What's wrong with that . Alot of women want to try a black guy in their life's and why not? It's like alot of white men want to fuck Asian or Thai women nothing wrong with it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find the term BBC abit cringey same as BWC etc . There's nothing wrong with the word interracial as people say they are in interracial relationships .. however you do see alot of black guys here saying they are looking for white wife's and white pussy etc and them labelling themselves as BBC so that's why there is so much of it around .. cuckold is also cringey as hell. But if a couple if genuinely looking for a black guy to bring into there sex life I don't see why that's offensive

Funny that you've said that you find the term BBC cringey yet on another interracial topic you refered to white women wanting to have sex with black men as a 'kink'

Yes but I didn't say BBC . What's wrong with that . Alot of women want to try a black guy in their life's and why not? It's like alot of white men want to fuck Asian or Thai women nothing wrong with it ."

Maybe you don't know what the term 'kink' means which is why you don't understand why it's strange that you used it in this sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find the term BBC abit cringey same as BWC etc . There's nothing wrong with the word interracial as people say they are in interracial relationships .. however you do see alot of black guys here saying they are looking for white wife's and white pussy etc and them labelling themselves as BBC so that's why there is so much of it around .. cuckold is also cringey as hell. But if a couple if genuinely looking for a black guy to bring into there sex life I don't see why that's offensive

Funny that you've said that you find the term BBC cringey yet on another interracial topic you refered to white women wanting to have sex with black men as a 'kink'

Yes but I didn't say BBC . What's wrong with that . Alot of women want to try a black guy in their life's and why not? It's like alot of white men want to fuck Asian or Thai women nothing wrong with it .

Maybe you don't know what the term 'kink' means which is why you don't understand why it's strange that you used it in this sentence."

Obviously I do lol. It's a fetish but still see no problem with it . Some men are attracted to thai women only. Doesn't mean they have a fetishism for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view.

Many people do and don’t and OP clearly started the post for those into interracial

There's a difference between being into interracial and being fetishised based on race...

The couple you're replying to are an interracial couple who understand the difference between the two

That’s fine, I just don’t understand why being fetishised is a bad thing if done with good taste

It's impossible to fetishise people in 'good taste'

It's essentially reducing black men down to nothing but their genitals

If you're happy with that and it works for you then keep doing your thing bit it's not upto to you tell people that they shouldn't be offended by it or not."

Genitals? I’m talking skin tone nothing to do with genitals babe, I thought that fetishes and kinks were perfectly fine to have as long as their legal of course. I guess it’s down to the classic each to there own. And I’m certainly not telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t be offended by I’m just pointing out it annoys me to see people offended by the love/like/fetishisation of a skin tone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find the term BBC abit cringey same as BWC etc . There's nothing wrong with the word interracial as people say they are in interracial relationships .. however you do see alot of black guys here saying they are looking for white wife's and white pussy etc and them labelling themselves as BBC so that's why there is so much of it around .. cuckold is also cringey as hell. But if a couple if genuinely looking for a black guy to bring into there sex life I don't see why that's offensive

Funny that you've said that you find the term BBC cringey yet on another interracial topic you refered to white women wanting to have sex with black men as a 'kink'

Yes but I didn't say BBC . What's wrong with that . Alot of women want to try a black guy in their life's and why not? It's like alot of white men want to fuck Asian or Thai women nothing wrong with it .

Maybe you don't know what the term 'kink' means which is why you don't understand why it's strange that you used it in this sentence.

Obviously I do lol. It's a fetish but still see no problem with it . Some men are attracted to thai women only. Doesn't mean they have a fetishism for them "

Yeah it does mean that they have a fetish for them lol

It's exactly what that means hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view.

Many people do and don’t and OP clearly started the post for those into interracial

There's a difference between being into interracial and being fetishised based on race...

The couple you're replying to are an interracial couple who understand the difference between the two

That’s fine, I just don’t understand why being fetishised is a bad thing if done with good taste

It's impossible to fetishise people in 'good taste'

It's essentially reducing black men down to nothing but their genitals

If you're happy with that and it works for you then keep doing your thing bit it's not upto to you tell people that they shouldn't be offended by it or not.

Genitals? I’m talking skin tone nothing to do with genitals babe, I thought that fetishes and kinks were perfectly fine to have as long as their legal of course. I guess it’s down to the classic each to there own. And I’m certainly not telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t be offended by I’m just pointing out it annoys me to see people offended by the love/like/fetishisation of a skin tone"

I was refering to the term BBC

The term kink "2a : a mental or physical peculiarity : eccentricity, quirk."

If you're happy to be refered to in this way then do you

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"End of the day everyone is going to have different opinions about this .. some guys like calling themselves bbc some don't. Some women like being called sluts some don't.. "

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You're missing my point it's when these references are adopted into the common vernacular.

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over a year ago


"End of the day everyone is going to have different opinions about this .. some guys like calling themselves bbc some don't. Some women like being called sluts some don't..

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You're missing my point it's when these references are adopted into the common vernacular."

Sadly he's not the only one on this thread who missing the point

Don't worry, I understood what you meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view.

Many people do and don’t and OP clearly started the post for those into interracial

There's a difference between being into interracial and being fetishised based on race...

The couple you're replying to are an interracial couple who understand the difference between the two

That’s fine, I just don’t understand why being fetishised is a bad thing if done with good taste

It's impossible to fetishise people in 'good taste'

It's essentially reducing black men down to nothing but their genitals

If you're happy with that and it works for you then keep doing your thing bit it's not upto to you tell people that they shouldn't be offended by it or not.

Genitals? I’m talking skin tone nothing to do with genitals babe, I thought that fetishes and kinks were perfectly fine to have as long as their legal of course. I guess it’s down to the classic each to there own. And I’m certainly not telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t be offended by I’m just pointing out it annoys me to see people offended by the love/like/fetishisation of a skin tone

I was refering to the term BBC

The term kink "2a : a mental or physical peculiarity : eccentricity, quirk."

If you're happy to be refered to in this way then do you "

Oh ok I mean I hadn’t mentioned BBC whatsoever so was confused but I do get that is a Broad label some may be offended by, for example a black guy with a small penis. I can see why that’s a problem. The kink statement I don’t have a problem with, quirky, eccentric these aren’t bad words. By all means I will do me and I’m sure you will do you everyone is allowed to have their own outlook and preferences as long as it doesn’t harm others

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another? "

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sex partners ethic mix does not bother per say as it is al about physical attraction and a connection when you meet up

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?"

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him "

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?"

I would simply scroll by completely unoffended. I may be disappointed if I was attracted to them but I’d easily move on to the next profile. I’m sure you’d agree There’s loads of white men only profiles funny enough I’ve never seen a forum post about it. You would have a hard time on here being offended by peoples preferences everyone is different

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?

I would simply scroll by completely unoffended. I may be disappointed if I was attracted to them but I’d easily move on to the next profile. I’m sure you’d agree There’s loads of white men only profiles funny enough I’ve never seen a forum post about it. You would have a hard time on here being offended by peoples preferences everyone is different

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How refreshing. I often see plenty of posts on here stating people are racist because of preferences. To actually have someone say they are not bothered by it makes a pleasant change.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?

I would simply scroll by completely unoffended. I may be disappointed if I was attracted to them but I’d easily move on to the next profile. I’m sure you’d agree There’s loads of white men only profiles funny enough I’ve never seen a forum post about it. You would have a hard time on here being offended by peoples preferences everyone is different

How refreshing. I often see plenty of posts on here stating people are racist because of preferences. To actually have someone say they are not bothered by it makes a pleasant change. "

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I don't think anyone on this thread has said it's racist to express a preference, but equally would you accept those preferences can be motivated by racism in some cases?

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?

I would simply scroll by completely unoffended. I may be disappointed if I was attracted to them but I’d easily move on to the next profile. I’m sure you’d agree There’s loads of white men only profiles funny enough I’ve never seen a forum post about it. You would have a hard time on here being offended by peoples preferences everyone is different

How refreshing. I often see plenty of posts on here stating people are racist because of preferences. To actually have someone say they are not bothered by it makes a pleasant change.

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I don't think anyone on this thread has said it's racist to express a preference, but equally would you accept those preferences can be motivated by racism in some cases?"

Firstly I'm talking about fabs and the forums in general. Secondly yes I would say a minority have the preference because of racist stereotypes. But I also feel the same people who call out those with the preference are the same who are happy to be a preference when it suits them.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?

I would simply scroll by completely unoffended. I may be disappointed if I was attracted to them but I’d easily move on to the next profile. I’m sure you’d agree There’s loads of white men only profiles funny enough I’ve never seen a forum post about it. You would have a hard time on here being offended by peoples preferences everyone is different

How refreshing. I often see plenty of posts on here stating people are racist because of preferences. To actually have someone say they are not bothered by it makes a pleasant change.

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I don't think anyone on this thread has said it's racist to express a preference, but equally would you accept those preferences can be motivated by racism in some cases?

Firstly I'm talking about fabs and the forums in general. Secondly yes I would say a minority have the preference because of racist stereotypes. But I also feel the same people who call out those with the preference are the same who are happy to be a preference when it suits them. "

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Interesting points, but mine was really about racism rather than racist stereotypes, it's like were confusing two separate issues.

Not sure what you mean in the last sentence or what evidence you base it on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?"

This isn't the same thing at all

Lots of profile say they prefer Caucasian play mates, if that's why they prefer why would it bother those who aren't Caucasian?

Doesn't bother me in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?

I would simply scroll by completely unoffended. I may be disappointed if I was attracted to them but I’d easily move on to the next profile. I’m sure you’d agree There’s loads of white men only profiles funny enough I’ve never seen a forum post about it. You would have a hard time on here being offended by peoples preferences everyone is different

How refreshing. I often see plenty of posts on here stating people are racist because of preferences. To actually have someone say they are not bothered by it makes a pleasant change. "

This is incorrect

There are defo more white men crying in the forums that certain profiles only want black men than the other way around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to see this normalised. It is absolutely not OK to fetishise and dehumanise people in this way and that is exactly what it is.

Education on this site as well as across society is much needed, going by the comments, memes and media produced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to see this normalised. It is absolutely not OK to fetishise and dehumanise people in this way and that is exactly what it is.

Education on this site as well as across society is much needed, going by the comments, memes and media produced."

It is normalised, most black men and women on here, myself included don't have an issue with meeting white people

The issues arise when people make it weird and start fixating on race and making the black or Asian people they're involved uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Would you also consider it an attribute if you were the one being excluded?

Stating one’s love of something doesn’t always automatically exclude another does it. But to answer your question yes I would consider it an attribute, my friend has big muscles and some girls like him for it. Just because I don’t have big muscles doesn’t take away that attribute from him

So your happy with a couple stating no black men or white men only on their profile?

I would simply scroll by completely unoffended. I may be disappointed if I was attracted to them but I’d easily move on to the next profile. I’m sure you’d agree There’s loads of white men only profiles funny enough I’ve never seen a forum post about it. You would have a hard time on here being offended by peoples preferences everyone is different

How refreshing. I often see plenty of posts on here stating people are racist because of preferences. To actually have someone say they are not bothered by it makes a pleasant change.

This is incorrect

There are defo more white men crying in the forums that certain profiles only want black men than the other way around "

Agreed

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By *arkmanMan
over a year ago

hounslow

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By *arkmanMan
over a year ago

hounslow


"We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

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Interesting post.

We're similar, been together 30 years, I'm (f), white my hubby's black.

We were both enthusiastic participants in this lifestyle until around 10 years ago, we played separately and as a couple, he now only meets old friends we've met through this lifestyle.

Things started to change for him as it became increasingly clear we were a novelty act to many we met together as a couple and especially some people he met on his own.

Race fetishisation has been around for centuries but I believe it's more recently been legitimised by the proliferation and easy access to pornography and clever producers who've latched onto baser human instincts. The language used to describe interracial sex is increasingly dehumanising and animalistic-bbc, blacked, bull etc etc, etc.

Over time it became tiresome when he/we were constantly asked if he was a "BBC", conflating a human being with his genitals, which so many here don't understand why it's problematic, or worse choose to be in denial about it.

The most exceptional black men I've encountered feel the same and wouldn't meet white women/couples who want to fetishise them, these women/couples are missing out on some great experiences.

Totally understand people have an interest in others of a different race, but it can be expressed without the resorting to fetish language which is some cases reveals what people really think about people of colour."

I concur with everything said in both these posts.

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Pop corn anyone ?

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By *ittyndCouple
over a year ago

Oldham/Birmingham

Erm not sure about this post x I prefer people of all colors and race x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of the day who cares . Everyone is here for sex. Regardless of colour jesus

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"End of the day who cares . Everyone is here for sex. Regardless of colour jesus"

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You don't have to care, it's not mandatory!

But leave the people alone who do care!

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

"

Probadly best respone I have seen on here. Well put.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

.................................

Interesting post.

We're similar, been together 30 years, I'm (f), white my hubby's black.

We were both enthusiastic participants in this lifestyle until around 10 years ago, we played separately and as a couple, he now only meets old friends we've met through this lifestyle.

Things started to change for him as it became increasingly clear we were a novelty act to many we met together as a couple and especially some people he met on his own.

Race fetishisation has been around for centuries but I believe it's more recently been legitimised by the proliferation and easy access to pornography and clever producers who've latched onto baser human instincts. The language used to describe interracial sex is increasingly dehumanising and animalistic-bbc, blacked, bull etc etc, etc.

Over time it became tiresome when he/we were constantly asked if he was a "BBC", conflating a human being with his genitals, which so many here don't understand why it's problematic, or worse choose to be in denial about it.

The most exceptional black men I've encountered feel the same and wouldn't meet white women/couples who want to fetishise them, these women/couples are missing out on some great experiences.

Totally understand people have an interest in others of a different race, but it can be expressed without the resorting to fetish language which is some cases reveals what people really think about people of colour."

This!! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

As a healthy-minded black man, sometimes the way non-black people describes us sounds like we are aliens, non-human or whatever and the film “Get Out” comes to mind. There is a reason why that film was made and I believe it was for this very “othering” of black people, which is ridiculous since we have been on this planet longer than anyone else.

You definitely give me hope that there are still clear-headed thinkers out there.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another? "

Hate to break it to you but skin colour is not an attribute.

The Cambridge dictionary describes “attribute” as

“a quality or characteristic that someone or something has such as;

- for e.g. a key/essential attribute: A key attribute of the new service will be flexibility.

- Organizational ability is an essential attribute for a good manager.

- What are the skills and personal attributes needed for success?

a positive/negative attribute”

There is nothing inherent about a person’s skin colour (not race as there only one) that determines if they have a specific quality or characteristic. I thought we had moved on from the same tired tropes employed by Francis Galton et al since the 1800s. Please tell me we have!

Why is it always the white dudes who like to tell others what they should like and feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Hate to break it to you but skin colour is not an attribute.

The Cambridge dictionary describes “attribute” as

“a quality or characteristic that someone or something has such as;

- for e.g. a key/essential attribute: A key attribute of the new service will be flexibility.

- Organizational ability is an essential attribute for a good manager.

- What are the skills and personal attributes needed for success?

a positive/negative attribute”

There is nothing inherent about a person’s skin colour (not race as there only one) that determines if they have a specific quality or characteristic. I thought we had moved on from the same tired tropes employed by Francis Galton et al since the 1800s. Please tell me we have!

Why is it always the white dudes who like to tell others what they should like and feel?"

The person you replied to is black hahaha

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I would love to see this normalised. It is absolutely not OK to fetishise and dehumanise people in this way and that is exactly what it is.

Education on this site as well as across society is much needed, going by the comments, memes and media produced.

It is normalised, most black men and women on here, myself included don't have an issue with meeting white people

The issues arise when people make it weird and start fixating on race and making the black or Asian people they're involved uncomfortable "

You hit the nail on the head with bbc terminology, it is degrading and it does make me feel uncomfortable, uninterested and finally I lose respect for the other person.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"Love interracial, nothing wrong with the term whatsoever, I really find people on here who are offended by this language or the pointing out of one’s skin tone offensive so annoying, there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste, this is a swing/sex based site people indulge in everything available and stop looking for a reason to be offended

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Personally I'm not looking for 'reasons to be offended', dismissive statements like that devalue the conversation and the people contributing to it.

If you don't mind being racially fetishised that's fine, but many people do and trivialising that fact doesn't help anyone other than those with an entrenched view.

Many people do and don’t and OP clearly started the post for those into interracial

There's a difference between being into interracial and being fetishised based on race...

The couple you're replying to are an interracial couple who understand the difference between the two

That’s fine, I just don’t understand why being fetishised is a bad thing if done with good taste

It's impossible to fetishise people in 'good taste'

It's essentially reducing black men down to nothing but their genitals

If you're happy with that and it works for you then keep doing your thing bit it's not upto to you tell people that they shouldn't be offended by it or not.

Genitals? I’m talking skin tone nothing to do with genitals babe, I thought that fetishes and kinks were perfectly fine to have as long as their legal of course. I guess it’s down to the classic each to there own. And I’m certainly not telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t be offended by I’m just pointing out it annoys me to see people offended by the love/like/fetishisation of a skin tone

I was refering to the term BBC

The term kink "2a : a mental or physical peculiarity : eccentricity, quirk."

If you're happy to be refered to in this way then do you

Oh ok I mean I hadn’t mentioned BBC whatsoever so was confused but I do get that is a Broad label some may be offended by, for example a black guy with a small penis. I can see why that’s a problem. The kink statement I don’t have a problem with, quirky, eccentric these aren’t bad words. By all means I will do me and I’m sure you will do you everyone is allowed to have their own outlook and preferences as long as it doesn’t harm others "

But you have been told repeatedly on this forum that black men, such as myself, find it extremely offensive. The fact that some black men delight in calling themselves that (and I contend that they do cos they haven’t taken the time out to look into how these tropes were used to dehumanise our ancestors and us in the past) doesn’t mean it should be automatically conferred onto every single black man out there.

I am sure that you or know that doing harm is not always on a physical level, right?

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Hate to break it to you but skin colour is not an attribute.

The Cambridge dictionary describes “attribute” as

“a quality or characteristic that someone or something has such as;

- for e.g. a key/essential attribute: A key attribute of the new service will be flexibility.

- Organizational ability is an essential attribute for a good manager.

- What are the skills and personal attributes needed for success?

a positive/negative attribute”

There is nothing inherent about a person’s skin colour (not race as there only one) that determines if they have a specific quality or characteristic. I thought we had moved on from the same tired tropes employed by Francis Galton et al since the 1800s. Please tell me we have!

Why is it always the white dudes who like to tell others what they should like and feel?

The person you replied to is black hahaha "

I was replying to the post but my last comment is about the overall thread in general and those telling us that we shouldn’t worry about harmful tropes.

But noted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Hate to break it to you but skin colour is not an attribute.

The Cambridge dictionary describes “attribute” as

“a quality or characteristic that someone or something has such as;

- for e.g. a key/essential attribute: A key attribute of the new service will be flexibility.

- Organizational ability is an essential attribute for a good manager.

- What are the skills and personal attributes needed for success?

a positive/negative attribute”

There is nothing inherent about a person’s skin colour (not race as there only one) that determines if they have a specific quality or characteristic. I thought we had moved on from the same tired tropes employed by Francis Galton et al since the 1800s. Please tell me we have!

Why is it always the white dudes who like to tell others what they should like and feel?

The person you replied to is black hahaha

I was replying to the post but my last comment is about the overall thread in general and those telling us that we shouldn’t worry about harmful tropes.

But noted."

I meant the person who wrote the post you replied to xx

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"there is nothing wrong with championing someone for there attributes, I don’t mind being fetishised as long as this is done with good taste.

Is someone's skin colour a attribute?

I'd thought this was like saying one colour is superior to another?

I’d say it is a attribute, why would this mean one is superior to another?

Hate to break it to you but skin colour is not an attribute.

The Cambridge dictionary describes “attribute” as

“a quality or characteristic that someone or something has such as;

- for e.g. a key/essential attribute: A key attribute of the new service will be flexibility.

- Organizational ability is an essential attribute for a good manager.

- What are the skills and personal attributes needed for success?

a positive/negative attribute”

There is nothing inherent about a person’s skin colour (not race as there only one) that determines if they have a specific quality or characteristic. I thought we had moved on from the same tired tropes employed by Francis Galton et al since the 1800s. Please tell me we have!

Why is it always the white dudes who like to tell others what they should like and feel?

The person you replied to is black hahaha

I was replying to the post but my last comment is about the overall thread in general and those telling us that we shouldn’t worry about harmful tropes.

But noted.

I meant the person who wrote the post you replied to xx"

I understood your initial comment.

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By *ouplecu2015Couple
over a year ago

Reading

We are attracted by black man

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"We are attracted by black man "

I'm attracted by you.

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By *slandCrusoeMan
over a year ago

Cowes

Really interesting conversation to follow.

I've been invited to an "interracial" party in a couple of weeks. As a white guy, I'll be hoping there will be a variety of races/ethnicities - of both genders - attending the event.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Love me some interracial 'hanky panky' but fun fact!

I've never had sexual relations with lady of my own ethnicity

Why? Fuck knows haha"

That’s weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love me some interracial 'hanky panky' but fun fact!

I've never had sexual relations with lady of my own ethnicity

Why? Fuck knows haha

That’s weird "

Nothing weird about it might be his preference

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

It seems its almost illegal to have a preference these days. Why can't we say without fear of being lambasted that we do not in general find people from the Far East or the West Indies physically attractive but we can say we prefer a white car rather than a red car!

Sex is principally about physical attraction so why cant we express a preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems its almost illegal to have a preference these days. Why can't we say without fear of being lambasted that we do not in general find people from the Far East or the West Indies physically attractive but we can say we prefer a white car rather than a red car!

Sex is principally about physical attraction so why cant we express a preference."

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems its almost illegal to have a preference these days. Why can't we say without fear of being lambasted that we do not in general find people from the Far East or the West Indies physically attractive but we can say we prefer a white car rather than a red car!

Sex is principally about physical attraction so why cant we express a preference."

I’m mixed race and have no problem with it. I use it as an easy filter but I think the reasoning is it’s impossible to find an entire race unattractive because not all people of the same race look the same. If you think they do then that is when it becomes racist.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

We both drool lol over the pics posted by some of the Asian and black couples in the UK.

We dont have any race/identity fetishes but coming from a very pale white society we can't help but find dark skinned people exotic and often attractive.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Love me some interracial 'hanky panky' but fun fact!

I've never had sexual relations with lady of my own ethnicity

Why? Fuck knows haha

That’s weird

Nothing weird about it might be his preference "

I think it’s weird he’s never been with someone of his own ethnicity and he doesn’t even know why. You have a problem with that? If so, too bad.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"It seems its almost illegal to have a preference these days. Why can't we say without fear of being lambasted that we do not in general find people from the Far East or the West Indies physically attractive but we can say we prefer a white car rather than a red car!

Sex is principally about physical attraction so why cant we express a preference."

Do you know what the term preference means?

Anyway, no one cares what you have a preference (or in many cases, more accurately, a prerequisite) FOR. We don’t care to hear what you DON’T have a preference for. One seems reasonable and fine, the under makes you seem crude and gauche. E.g. it’s fine to say I like redheads, prefer slim women. It’s less cool to say “no blacks, fats, or Asians”—- get it?

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

Lol oh I’m a flake now because I called out your problematic term. Seems you’re more butt hurt over the fact I did that instead of scrolling along.

It’s 2022. Catch up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lol oh I’m a flake now because I called out your problematic term. Seems you’re more butt hurt over the fact I did that instead of scrolling along.

It’s 2022. Catch up. "

Not at all, your the flake with issues, just look at the green button, its plain to see to jump down anyones throat mentioning race, baiting for a argument.

Your a embarrassment.

Carefull you dont melt. Have a fab evening

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I like the person I don’t care what colour they are.

What is a huge turn off is when I get messages saying, you are so my type you are mixed race or, I’ve never had sex with a mixed race person before but I would love to, I love your chocolate skin!! Come on now is this really acceptable especially to a stranger. I’m sorry I don’t want to have sex with someone who just sees me as part of their fetish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iam colour blind!! Tbh.

But many are not,and have issue,s with others tone of skin.

Far away from personality or otherwise.

Window shopping at its finest.

" This show goes on "

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

Im pretty much colour blind when it comes to sexual partners, same as I am in normal life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was with a woman who told me that men and women were from different planets. Does that make it interplanetary sex?

To be fair, it was great sex, once she got her tentacles around me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do these threads always end up taking a nasty turn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these threads always end up taking a nasty turn "

Because racism is nasty? The suggestion that people might be upsets them and they lash out. Fetishising people because of their race is also nasty...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these threads always end up taking a nasty turn "

Thankfully admin jave removed the nasty parts

The problem is people want to be free to be racist and when they're called out on it instead of learning they throw the word 'snow flake' around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**have

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley


"We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

"

Perfect response I was going to argue the same. Attraction is a much more complex process than just the skin colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these threads always end up taking a nasty turn

Because racism is nasty? The suggestion that people might be upsets them and they lash out. Fetishising people because of their race is also nasty..."

Fetish part to be debating but I understand what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Debated*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Human beings come in a variety of different colours, shapes and sizes. It's what makes us unique. It's what makes us beautiful. There's no harm in seeing the beauty in someone else's differences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the person I don’t care what colour they are.

What is a huge turn off is when I get messages saying, you are so my type you are mixed race or, I’ve never had sex with a mixed race person before but I would love to, I love your chocolate skin!! Come on now is this really acceptable especially to a stranger. I’m sorry I don’t want to have sex with someone who just sees me as part of their fetish "

DITTO.

People are seen and viewed as objects/toys for use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fancy attractive people...if they happen have a different ethnicity to me then it's kind of irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Priti Patel would get it.

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe


"We're an interracial couple of 20+ years and skin colour has nothing to do with why we are together, it's about compatibility, commonality and obviously love but fab's slightly different.

From my (he) perspective I want to see Mrs N from the third person angle, impossible between us so I get this via fab and identity via the black guys she's fucking, it makes zero difference to Mrs N the colour of the guy. So yes,we're into interracial meets but not for the reasons many may think.

.................................

Interesting post.

We're similar, been together 30 years, I'm (f), white my hubby's black.

We were both enthusiastic participants in this lifestyle until around 10 years ago, we played separately and as a couple, he now only meets old friends we've met through this lifestyle.

Things started to change for him as it became increasingly clear we were a novelty act to many we met together as a couple and especially some people he met on his own.

Race fetishisation has been around for centuries but I believe it's more recently been legitimised by the proliferation and easy access to pornography and clever producers who've latched onto baser human instincts. The language used to describe interracial sex is increasingly dehumanising and animalistic-bbc, blacked, bull etc etc, etc.

Over time it became tiresome when he/we were constantly asked if he was a "BBC", conflating a human being with his genitals, which so many here don't understand why it's problematic, or worse choose to be in denial about it.

The most exceptional black men I've encountered feel the same and wouldn't meet white women/couples who want to fetishise them, these women/couples are missing out on some great experiences.

Totally understand people have an interest in others of a different race, but it can be expressed without the resorting to fetish language which is some cases reveals what people really think about people of colour."

Excellent post/explanation. Very informative thanks

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Spare a thought for the black guys with an average/small cock. They may well have to put up with ‘bigger’ expectations because of the fetishists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to go for decent people, not they're skin colour

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By *angerousLiaisonsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

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By *angerousLiaisonsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

I prefer white women as a man of Indian origin though I’ve never once in my life heard any woman profess a preference for Indian men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer white women as a man of Indian origin though I’ve never once in my life heard any woman profess a preference for Indian men! "

Not on fab.

Will ever be a first .if it never ever happens.

Do read the profiles very clearly many do state whom they don't want..

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By *angerousLiaisonsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London


"Not on fab.

Will ever be a first .if it never ever happens.

Do read the profiles very clearly many do state whom they don't want.. "

Their loss.

I’m fit as fuck and have a gorgeous girlfriend because of it.

To each their own I suppose.

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By *heirry84Man
over a year ago

Midlands

I like all flavours of ice cream... Well all that I've tried anyway.

Beauty is beauty no matter the skin colour. I have preferences

but they usually go out the window if they're a nice person and attractive. However, I think most of my meets have been with women who prefer black, mixed race ot tall men. I always think if I don't mind meeting based on my height, I guess it's OK.to meet based on race

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not on fab.

Will ever be a first .if it never ever happens.

Do read the profiles very clearly many do state whom they don't want..

Their loss.

I’m fit as fuck and have a gorgeous girlfriend because of it.

To each their own I suppose."

They never see it as their loss ever!!

You have your piece of happiness keep smiling..

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By *lut and sirCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Would love to do more interacial, its tends to be all black or white ive had in the past would love to really mix it up.

Every nation welcome

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By *angerousLiaisonsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London


"Would love to do more interacial, its tends to be all black or white ive had in the past would love to really mix it up.

Every nation welcome

"

Sensible attitude to have.

People can be beautiful from everywhere - from a darker skinned woman like Halle Berry right through to a pale Goddess like Christina Hendricks and everything in between.

To discount swathes of the population is crazy to us but again, to each their own.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Let's make it a 'United Nations' orgy

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By *ornyblackguyMan
over a year ago

leeds

Hey not saying to attack you. I get what you mean by Halle Berry but as a range of black people I don’t think she’s not really considered that dark there are Plenty beautiful dark skin women. Lupita Nyong’o the Actress or Jamelia the singer from Birmingham. Who like other dark skin black women sometimes get looked over when regards to beauty.

I like what I like and I suppose younger are used to do you to search for Cherokee and pinky ect for those that know. LOL. I find that when it comes down to porn it can be generalised to boring interracial total mainly about BBC. And if somebody just narrows a black person down to that it can be abit shallow. Sometimes people that are doing porn Can be just people being them instead of them down to the skin tone.

Being “black” in the UK if I was to meet someone “white” it be that because that’s just how it is just the fact of the Ratio black white people et cetera. So for me that is it’s not a thing where I’m looking for Interracial. As it goes there is preferences but I suppose there is a line between fetishes and racism. And there are some kinks that play into it. Just my opinion.

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I'm veru much into interracial sex but not from a fetish perspective. I grew up in an almost 'all white' area so obviously found the girls I fancied to be white, never thought anything of it. As an adult and having ventured out extensively I fancy people of all races but white females still really standout for me, I attribute this to my environment.

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