FabSwingers.com forum: Winks

By *ev and Trev OP Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

So what does a wink mean to you?

To show an interest or just as an appreciation of a profile you like (or any other reason).

For us it shows an interest in a person/couple that we would be keen to meet. There for I'd never send a wink if a person is the other side of the country. In this case I'd probably fab their pics.

However, we get a lot of winks from people over 200 miles away. So I'm guessing the reason for the wink is different?

Just to add, I know a lot of people really don't like winks and that's fine too, but those that use the feature, what's your reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what does a wink mean to you?

To show an interest or just as an appreciation of a profile you like (or any other reason).

For us it shows an interest in a person/couple that we would be keen to meet. There for I'd never send a wink if a person is the other side of the country. In this case I'd probably fab their pics.

However, we get a lot of winks from people over 200 miles away. So I'm guessing the reason for the wink is different?

Just to add, I know a lot of people really don't like winks and that's fine too, but those that use the feature, what's your reason?"

The wink thing really confuses me. I get a wink, I will message them if I see something im interested in, but get blanked?

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

To show interested in more or just like there profile chat get to know someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing it's the same as the old 'Book of Faces, Poke'.

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By *igSlinkyCouple
over a year ago

pontardulais

We use the wink when we like the profile or are interested in a chat or possibly a meet if we like each other on the chat

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

I just think it’s lazy and don’t take any notice of winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore them. Lazy way of showing interest without putting any effort into writing a message.

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By *elight 99Woman
over a year ago

richmond

It’s lazy

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Does that include if the person or couple lives far away?

I take a wink to be a general "like" of your profile

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By *an1345Man
over a year ago

cov

I wink a profile for two reasons.

1) I think of it to show my interest towards them as many couples prefer to initiate a conversation only if and when they are looking for single males such as myself. So it’s my way of putting my profile out to them.

2) I think their profile bio/description was really well written and would love to start a chat.

I don’t mean to be lazy but many a times the messages get ignored

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I'll wink if I think there's a mutual interest and genuine reason to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wink every woman online in a 300 mile radius, in the hope that one will be flattered and reply.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I just wink at people to say hello

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By *ev and Trev OP Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

I don’t mean to be lazy but many a times the messages get ignored

Now this I understand. I think it's a great way to show an interest and letting someone know you're there should that interest be mutual.

I suppose it just shows that we all have a different interpretation of what the wink is for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, just a way of saying hi, I like your profile but don't want to be pushy and would love to chat more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink people to show our interest in them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what does a wink mean to you?

To show an interest or just as an appreciation of a profile you like (or any other reason).

For us it shows an interest in a person/couple that we would be keen to meet. There for I'd never send a wink if a person is the other side of the country. In this case I'd probably fab their pics.

However, we get a lot of winks from people over 200 miles away. So I'm guessing the reason for the wink is different?

Just to add, I know a lot of people really don't like winks and that's fine too, but those that use the feature, what's your reason?"

I will generally wink first to say hi I'm interested. if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goes straight in the bin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some read into them a massive amount. Overanalysing their meaning. Others, they’re just a harmless and quick way of saying ‘hey, I like what I see’.

Most people bitch and whine about getting those kinds of opening messages, so a wink does it without the words, easy to ignore if it’s not your bag.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

To me it comes across as lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some read into them a massive amount. Overanalysing their meaning. Others, they’re just a harmless and quick way of saying ‘hey, I like what I see’.

Most people bitch and whine about getting those kinds of opening messages, so a wink does it without the words, easy to ignore if it’s not your bag. "

Absolutely this. It’s a wink for goodness sake not an indecent proposal (although we’ve had winks that have happily ended with one!)

Viv

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Considering a wink by its own nature is a playful and fun gesture, some people seem to take it far too seriously :D

I take a wink as a general compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will usually say hello to someone if they wink me and take my eye, I take it as a shy way of making contact. If they don't reply then if is all good.

Fabs I just assume someone was having a perv, I will usually then look at their profile and perv back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to wink to show we're interested (well I do, Mrs) if we get a wink back then I'll message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We tend to wink to show we're interested (well I do, Mrs) if we get a wink back then I'll message.

This just seems the easiest way for all to me

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Nothing, I rarely ever respond to a wink.

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By *lderButStillFunMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I don't often use the wink but do if I'm interested in the profile and would be happy to chat. Normally if I get a wink I'll message thanking them and try to start a conversation but never hear any more

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By *orkswatcherMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

For me I fab pictures if I like but know they don't match what they are looking for.

I wink if I like a profile sometimes I just find it hard to know what to write. I know a lot don't like winks but it should be a very useful tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We use the wink when we like the profile or are interested in a chat or possibly a meet if we like each other on the chat "

This is basically how we see it too.

We use it to show that we like your profile and to test the waters.

If we get a wink back then we'll chat x

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I'll wink if I think there's a mutual interest and genuine reason to...

This

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We see a wink as a nod of interest, a suggestion that they like our profile enough to say hi and want to see if we’re interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We use the wink when we like the profile or are interested in a chat or possibly a meet if we like each other on the chat

This is basically how we see it too.

We use it to show that we like your profile and to test the waters.

If we get a wink back then we'll chat x"

Exactly how we use winks x

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By *lackFun69Man
over a year ago

East Anglia

I message back if I get a wink and like their profile, It means to me that they've liked my profile and may like to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink if we like a couple/person. Tend to message if we get a wink back, if its reciprocated.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We get winked,we reply and hear nothing from the person.

What the hell you winking at us for? Lol

Crazy people on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just deleted all of them with out looking, the same goes for friend invites. X

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By *heswingerMan
over a year ago

the steel city sheffield

"So what does a wink mean to you?

To show an interest or just as an appreciation of a profile you like (or any other reason).

For us it shows an interest in a person/couple that we would be keen to meet. There for I'd never send a wink if a person is the other side of the country. In this case I'd probably fab their pics.

However, we get a lot of winks from people over 200 miles away. So I'm guessing the reason for the wink is different?

Just to add, I know a lot of people really don't like winks and that's fine too, but those that use the feature, what's your reason?"
my reasons are exactly what you’ve said, I’m interested one way or another and it’s a polite little tip of the hat to show so

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

I wink as a show of interest u less the profile clearly states they ignore or block winks. If I get one I take it as the same as I have that stated in my profile. I then follow up with a message.

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By *eekend_walkMan
over a year ago

Cirencester

I usually wink if I'm slightly outside their preferences. That way they can decide if I'm their type or not. On the couples page we wink to show interest but follow up with a message.

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By *jekimMan
over a year ago

Wigan

An easy polite way into a conversation

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I just think it’s lazy and don’t take any notice of winks

Only a woman could say that on here. I wonder if after 50 or 60 well crafted messages to have each one either deleted or ignored ,she would be saying a wink is lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never understood winks on here, I’ve had a few and presumed it was for me to message them and when I have I get no response, wouldn’t mind but I’m usually only asking for a chat it’s not like I’m pushing for anything in that first message

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

I like a wink as it's an expression of interest and can lead to conversation if you like what you see and read on s profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a wink to say I like them/their profile and hopefully they might wink or message back.

If I receive a wink, I think( or guess) they are doing the same as I.

Messages are more direct, Winks are when I’m not too sure because maybe their profile is far to short and misses everything out that I would need to know if we would get on in text, never mind face to face. It’s more a ‘maybe we might get on’. When a message is, I’m certain we would get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only wink if i fond their profile appealing, without being to forward with an initial message. If they reply with a wink, to me its a sign to start the conversation.

Far simpler than starting a conversation that could be deleted or read and ignored.

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